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Hello,
That's my first Post so i may have written it a bot long.
I got some issues with a girl which are disturbing my concentration and feelings recently that's why i decided to ask you guys for some hint and advice .
Something like 3 months ago i started to talk with a girl via Facebook (we have some mutual friend) , her hometown is the same city which i'm currently living in (in Poland) but she has a job in other side of boarder in Germany which is like 6 hours driving .
Any way after 20 days of writing on messenger, texting and talking via phone she came to her hometown but i was kind of busy and honestly i neglected (i was waiting for her to ask me first)to visit her from the first day and she got pissed off and then i visited her in last days of her presence and i went to her flat.
I simply made tea and talked with her about funny stuffs and general things and unfortunately i couldn't escalate things (at the time i didn't know about (https://www.girlschase.com) , she even mentioned it is immoral and impossible to kiss and have sex at the first date and bla bla bla , so long story short i just kissed her on chick and came back home.it was last days of her presence so when i asked her for date she told she has to visit family and slowly organize things to leave and she also blamed me why didn't i ask for a date from the very beginning that she just arrived and we could have several dates!
So after she came back to Germany we kept our contacts and every thing was OK about texting and phone calls but after a while she got busy and had some issue with her job and was nervous but perhaps i made a mistake and texted/called her in that situation and then she cut off all contacts and turned off her phone and there was radiosonde for something like 4 days!
After that 4 days she check my text messages (I know i made a mistake that i texted and showed her to be worried) and she said everything is OK and then when i called her she just brought up the topic that : she is so active! and has many things to do but me i put so much time for talking and ect so that's why we do not match......!
Then of course i tried to convince her that we have to get familiar to know if we , then i brought up topic about her ex (which i knew him and actually he played and left her because he has wife and children which she didn't know about) and i told you made mistakes before and do not repeat those again and do not make decision without thinking so she accepted to visit again when she comes to Poland.
By the way later she planned for a travel to Norway and i asked to join her (Now I know it was mistake) but she rejected and told she wanna be alone and we barely know each other to travel together and so on , so i got pissed off and didn't talk to her for some days and she texted me and asked if i am angry that she wanna travel alone and i answered no i was simply busy!
So finally in recent days she acts kind of aloof and when i ignored her (for max 3 days) i feel it gets worse .
I will really appreciate if you help me on this issue because after all efforts and times i feel a pity to lose the chance and it those thoughts are all the time in my head and kind of disturbing my functionality at work or studying , i know you may offer let her go option but i will be grateful if you give me some strategy and guidance to fix things up , and after all i have to say sorry for such a long text but i couldn't make it shorter and cut details.
Best regards
David
That's my first Post so i may have written it a bot long.
I got some issues with a girl which are disturbing my concentration and feelings recently that's why i decided to ask you guys for some hint and advice .
Something like 3 months ago i started to talk with a girl via Facebook (we have some mutual friend) , her hometown is the same city which i'm currently living in (in Poland) but she has a job in other side of boarder in Germany which is like 6 hours driving .
Any way after 20 days of writing on messenger, texting and talking via phone she came to her hometown but i was kind of busy and honestly i neglected (i was waiting for her to ask me first)to visit her from the first day and she got pissed off and then i visited her in last days of her presence and i went to her flat.
I simply made tea and talked with her about funny stuffs and general things and unfortunately i couldn't escalate things (at the time i didn't know about (https://www.girlschase.com) , she even mentioned it is immoral and impossible to kiss and have sex at the first date and bla bla bla , so long story short i just kissed her on chick and came back home.it was last days of her presence so when i asked her for date she told she has to visit family and slowly organize things to leave and she also blamed me why didn't i ask for a date from the very beginning that she just arrived and we could have several dates!
So after she came back to Germany we kept our contacts and every thing was OK about texting and phone calls but after a while she got busy and had some issue with her job and was nervous but perhaps i made a mistake and texted/called her in that situation and then she cut off all contacts and turned off her phone and there was radiosonde for something like 4 days!
After that 4 days she check my text messages (I know i made a mistake that i texted and showed her to be worried) and she said everything is OK and then when i called her she just brought up the topic that : she is so active! and has many things to do but me i put so much time for talking and ect so that's why we do not match......!
Then of course i tried to convince her that we have to get familiar to know if we , then i brought up topic about her ex (which i knew him and actually he played and left her because he has wife and children which she didn't know about) and i told you made mistakes before and do not repeat those again and do not make decision without thinking so she accepted to visit again when she comes to Poland.
By the way later she planned for a travel to Norway and i asked to join her (Now I know it was mistake) but she rejected and told she wanna be alone and we barely know each other to travel together and so on , so i got pissed off and didn't talk to her for some days and she texted me and asked if i am angry that she wanna travel alone and i answered no i was simply busy!
So finally in recent days she acts kind of aloof and when i ignored her (for max 3 days) i feel it gets worse .
I will really appreciate if you help me on this issue because after all efforts and times i feel a pity to lose the chance and it those thoughts are all the time in my head and kind of disturbing my functionality at work or studying , i know you may offer let her go option but i will be grateful if you give me some strategy and guidance to fix things up , and after all i have to say sorry for such a long text but i couldn't make it shorter and cut details.
Best regards
David