Man,
This is now getting confused.
Let's first address this:
How ever i don't know why stupidly i told this Polish girls about that trip , at the time i wanted to make her jealous to make her to get closer to me or something but anyway i did it in bad way.
Yes it was stupid. I have seen girls get a knee jerk jealousy reaction as the sole mention of the word "ex-girlfriend". I have learned not to raise the subject altogether, or otherwise only in the most possibly vague terms, with as little details as possible. No need to create unnecessary problems. You want to make her jealous on purpose? Good luck dealing with the consequences.
Now, we can only help you based on the information you provide. Here are a few questions for you:
1) Is there any hint she has intention to meet, or is actually meeting, her ex-BF? That is a possible cause of "no chemistry" rationalization.
2) Also, I think you mentioned she would be coming permanently to Poland. Did it happen? How often do you see her? Do you fuck her each time you see her? A girl respects a man who fucks her regularly.
But dcman also raised a very good point. Needy behavior is a
major turnoff for women. In the opposite, non-needy behavior is a very attractive trait for them. This is the cause for many things:
* Girls love assholes and bad boys - these guys don't give a shit about her, and exhibit *zero* neediness
* Girls despise the guys chasing then - it's a manifestation of neediness
* Guys who have "abundance mentality" do much better with girls - they know they can access to tons of girls and therefore exhibit zero neediness
* A guy who is ready to lose her "if it comes to that", or "devil may care attitude", will do much better with her - as opposed to be dead scared of losing her, which carries all sort of needy behaviors
So... my next question to you:
3) How needy did you behave around her? You need to introspect your behavior and see where you expressed neediness. See for yourself where you can improve. How could have you done better?
Next, a girl wants a man fully in control. This means he is cool and collected, he remains calm and doesn't "lose it". He doesn't vent his insecurities. He doesn't get angry. He doesn't try to lecture her all the time about what she should or shouldn't be doing. He isn't on her back 24/7 for fear of losing her. He is not looking to give her drama. And of course, he leads. This is also a big turn on / turn off case for women.
4) How insecure did you behave around her? Again introspect your past behavior and see where you expressed insecurities. See for yourself where you can improve. How could have you done better?
I suspect you fared badly with and 3) and 4).
These are major turn offs! But the positive thing is that she is still sticking around you! Remember, what matters are her acts rather than what she says. And she seems to care. That's why my feeling is that she really liked you in the first place. But somehow you are on the way to fuck it up, and all this is her warning message.
1- How to react after what she said about chemistry and such things and what to say ?
When you meet her face to face, you absolutely need to avoid to let yourself trapped into justifying yourself. You need to avoid this from turning into a big fight. You should try to avoid letting her lead the conversation. One possible technique:
Her: So you went to Sweden to meet this girl?
You: You bet (smile and wink). Now, would you mind scratching my back please?
Or similar. You didn't deny (that would put you in a defensive position), and you took back the lead of the conversation in a ballsy manner. But that's only one possible way. Anything that allows you to avoid going in defensive mode and retake the lead. Remember, defensive = guilty.
In general, there is no magic recipe about "what to say". The only things we have are general guiding principles. We have spelled these principles out for you in this thread many times over. I suggest you read this thread again, and digest all the comments myself and other guys have told you. Think for yourself what are the underlying principles. Absorb them. After that you will naturally know what to say.
Do my introspection questions as seriously as you can. At the end of the day this is self help! You can help yourself better than I can.
Seppuku