Which is why I think it’s more important for individuals to take a choice based on what downsides they prefer because each option has them.
With your story, the guy will feel emotional pain but can simply get another 40 year old woman and live his life lol.
Maybe I’m just less emotional than most guys to not see that being a big deal
I'm probably being slow but I'd interpret this as camp 1 under the banner "don't get legally married" and you raising kids with her is also you escalating the relationship from her perspective...
In terms of realistic way to do this?
Honestly I think this forum (including myself) aren't experienced enough to comment on anything besides hypotheticals
Would love (tested) solutions though which is why I'm so engaged in this.
Only guys here who've been married to my knowledge is
@Chase and
@Skills
For sure man, agreed it's not easy. I think a (potential) solution is having a "poker face" that you're willing to burn everything to the ground if push comes to shove. Truthfully though... What's the worst that can happen? She stops you from seeing your kids?
If you've screened properly chances of that are very low and if you charge it to the game and just try reach out when they're adults.. Is what it is
But again... I've learnt I'm less emotional than most so this thinking won't be viable for a lot of guys *shrugs*