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Yes, i'm completely aware that we can't change the past, duh i know that!, thank you for stating the obvious, thats what i say to people when they tell me stuff like that, i also get very annoyed and irritated, enraged, whenever people say that, even though its the cold harsh truth. But i will admit, i didn't really date much in my 20s, i didn't really have a breakthough or milestone in my dating life until near the end of my 20s.
I didn't really have a girlfriend until i was near 30, 29, which only lasted a few months, but first long-term relationship that lasted for more than a year, was not until 33.
While i'm glad i did have these experiences, glad it finally eventually happend to me, i still feel filled with constant bitterness and anger, resentment, and even depression, sadness at times that i was a late bloomer, that it didn't happen for me around the time it is normally expected to happen for people, such as either your teenage years or the beginning of your 20s. So because of that, i envy and resent, get bitter and resentful towards people who got to experience dating and relationships before i did.
But more importantly, its a reminder on how i've always hated and resented the dynamics of the game, seduction, courtship, between the 2 sexes.
Because for all-time, this is what the game looks like or how it is, and whenever people say "thats the way it is", it just fills me with more anger and rage, resentment, frustration, hate the way reality has to be. Here it is, guys, men, have to talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, have certain behaviors, we have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, things, so many stuff, just to have a chance with women.
i've felt this way for years now, the way a man talks and behaves, acts, in a conversation or interaction with a woman, is what either makes or breaks attraction, not the other way around. Another way to put it, its only men that need to know or learn how to talk to women, not the other way around.
here it is right here.
i've felt this way for years now, the way a man talks and behaves, acts, in a conversation or interaction with a woman, is what either makes or breaks attraction, not the other way around. Another way to put it, its only men that need to know or learn how to talk to women, not the other way around.
True or False?
A woman doesn't need to know or learn how to talk to, interact with men, its only men that need to know or learn how to talk to, interact with women.
Or another way to put it, the way the man talks, acts, behaves, in interactions or conversations is what ultimately matters, thats what determines if the woman is gonna be attracted, interested or not, not the other way around.
However, i did hear this from another dating coach, and here it was:
"A conversation or interaction will go much more smoothly if a woman is also emotionally tuned in and has a high EQ(don't know what that stands for though). However, the burden tends normally fall on men."
I'm not afraid to admit that over the years, i have really hated being born male, being born the male gender.
that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. I know its best to don't worry about what others don't have to do, i don't disagree with that, focus on you and what you need to do, that is the better mindset to have, but i get annoyed and irritated, enraged, that there are even dating coaches for women, because i don't see how women need to learn on how to attract men or let alone get men, since for all time, they have always been the passive recipients, i don't see how that requires any learning or any skill-development.
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again. I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life.
Probably because guys and men have to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot.
Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing. Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training. Yes, i know, i'm aware, even Chase wrote an article titled "Don't compare yourself to Women", i don't disagree with that, however some parts of the article did make me angry, but in the end, its best to worry about ourselves, i just don't see how women need to learn how to date as well when the man is the doing doing everything, the one making everything happen. It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general.
I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male.
"Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together"
Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad, that its not appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further.
Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do.
Yeah, despite having some success with girls, i still feel like a forever permanent incel for all-time.
I'm sure there are other men in the world who feel like i do, who were late bloomers, and they feel forever permanently damaged mentally and emotionally because of their late start, but many just won't bother to disclose or admit it.
I didn't really have a girlfriend until i was near 30, 29, which only lasted a few months, but first long-term relationship that lasted for more than a year, was not until 33.
While i'm glad i did have these experiences, glad it finally eventually happend to me, i still feel filled with constant bitterness and anger, resentment, and even depression, sadness at times that i was a late bloomer, that it didn't happen for me around the time it is normally expected to happen for people, such as either your teenage years or the beginning of your 20s. So because of that, i envy and resent, get bitter and resentful towards people who got to experience dating and relationships before i did.
But more importantly, its a reminder on how i've always hated and resented the dynamics of the game, seduction, courtship, between the 2 sexes.
Because for all-time, this is what the game looks like or how it is, and whenever people say "thats the way it is", it just fills me with more anger and rage, resentment, frustration, hate the way reality has to be. Here it is, guys, men, have to talk a certain way, behave a certain way, act a certain way, have certain behaviors, we have to know or learn all of these skills, behaviors, things, so many stuff, just to have a chance with women.
i've felt this way for years now, the way a man talks and behaves, acts, in a conversation or interaction with a woman, is what either makes or breaks attraction, not the other way around. Another way to put it, its only men that need to know or learn how to talk to women, not the other way around.
here it is right here.
i've felt this way for years now, the way a man talks and behaves, acts, in a conversation or interaction with a woman, is what either makes or breaks attraction, not the other way around. Another way to put it, its only men that need to know or learn how to talk to women, not the other way around.
True or False?
A woman doesn't need to know or learn how to talk to, interact with men, its only men that need to know or learn how to talk to, interact with women.
Or another way to put it, the way the man talks, acts, behaves, in interactions or conversations is what ultimately matters, thats what determines if the woman is gonna be attracted, interested or not, not the other way around.
However, i did hear this from another dating coach, and here it was:
"A conversation or interaction will go much more smoothly if a woman is also emotionally tuned in and has a high EQ(don't know what that stands for though). However, the burden tends normally fall on men."
I'm not afraid to admit that over the years, i have really hated being born male, being born the male gender.
that men have to do everything in dating and relationships and seduction.
Yes I know tons of people say what's the point of being angry and depressed over what didn't happen in the past or not?
Well I'm entitled and I have a right to my mindset, I believe it's always been part of human nature or just the human psyche to always be sad and depressed or angry and resentful over good things that they wish happened to them in the past but didn't.
I know I'm not afraid to admit I have had these thoughts, and I'm sure other guys have thought this way, we feel that if we had been born a woman, we would not have been single that long.
Probably because women just have to exist and they are guaranteed attention and options from Men, that requires no skill or no social dynamics, no game or no seduction. I know its best to don't worry about what others don't have to do, i don't disagree with that, focus on you and what you need to do, that is the better mindset to have, but i get annoyed and irritated, enraged, that there are even dating coaches for women, because i don't see how women need to learn on how to attract men or let alone get men, since for all time, they have always been the passive recipients, i don't see how that requires any learning or any skill-development.
One person I remember I heard said that women need game as well which I thought was the stupidest thing I ever heard.
So ya I still feel like an incel for all time despite managing to get a girlfriend eventually, and I still get irritated and annoyed whenever people and society say that men have it better than women do in the human mating game.
I get annoyed when people say go see a therapist because it's not like a therapist can reset my life or have me start my life all over again. I spoke in a few other guys who feel the same way in regards to being forever angry and upset, sad, over never having had a girlfriend until later than normal, until late in life.
Probably because guys and men have to learn and know all of these skills, all of these social behaviors, talk and behave a certain way, act a certain way, walk a certain way or have a certain lifestyle, have a certain body, certain income, and more than that which I either don't know or forgot.
Women are pretty much basically all set for just being born and just existing. Because being pretty and beautiful is not a skill and it doesn't require any learning, it's not a behavior that takes training. Yes, i know, i'm aware, even Chase wrote an article titled "Don't compare yourself to Women", i don't disagree with that, however some parts of the article did make me angry, but in the end, its best to worry about ourselves, i just don't see how women need to learn how to date as well when the man is the doing doing everything, the one making everything happen. It just really feels me with anger and rage whenever people and Society have the mindset or still think men have it better than women do in dating or just human mating in general.
I'll never forget what one guy said and this only added fuel to fire in regards to my anger and rage about the cards on dealt with for being born male.
"Boo fucking hoo. We also don't have to go through child birth and we're strong as fuck. Testosterone gives us ambition + mental and physical strength that MANY (not all) women are lacking. Being a man has many benefits and with great power comes great responsibility. Stop crying about it and get your fucking shit together"
Let's just say that pissed me off even further, got me so mad, that its not appropriate for me to say what was going through my mind when i read that comment that pissed me off even further.
Yes I know there's no such thing as fairness but I'm not afraid to admit that over the years in my life I've hated being born a guy or I just feel that it is unfair being born a man. Yes I'm aware there's no such thing as fairness, I just get very angry and enraged whenever people and Society still think men have it better than women do.
Yeah, despite having some success with girls, i still feel like a forever permanent incel for all-time.
I'm sure there are other men in the world who feel like i do, who were late bloomers, and they feel forever permanently damaged mentally and emotionally because of their late start, but many just won't bother to disclose or admit it.