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Hey guys, would love some advice/perspective on the current situation I find myself in. Trying to get my first lay since getting back in the game, and my analytical, overthinking brain is getting the best of me.
For a bit of background, got a really solid phone number at the club a week or so ago. Really warm response to my initial text, we figured out schedule logistics to go on a date (her idea), all good. Date went well, kept things flirty, got to know her as best as I could (found a bit hard to deep dive as she’s 10 years younger than me and has no clue what she wants to do in life, I’m very established). Lots of playful touching, great eye contact. She had work early, so I seeded the plan for a future meetup, I should have just asked if I could come inside (lol) but I’ve always had a hard time pulling the trigger on that.
She had to go out of town for a bit, but texts me last night saying she’s back early. I had mentioned running an errand today and she asks if she could come with. I figured why not, would be more fun with some pretty company and I don’t want this one to stale out (she’s very attractive and I’m sure she gets hit on a lot).
Unfortunately spent most of our “hangout” today driving - it’s hard to kino escalate while dodging idiot drivers, but I made a point of grabbing her hand to check out her new nails, and standing VERY close to her in the store (she did not move away). We both had plans after but sat in the car for a bit and kept talking after I pulled up in her lot. I REALLY had to take a piss, felt it was a great innocent excuse to see her apartment, so I asked if I would get towed if I went upstairs to use her bathroom. She said “probably”, but I said “I’m willing to risk it”. She seemed kind of nervous about me coming up, but led the way.
Got in and relieved myself, came back out of the bathroom. She pointed and said - “that’s my room, but I’m not gonna show it to you cause it’s super messy”. It looked totally trashed she showed me the rest of her apartment, I made some light teasing about her decor. She introduces me to her cat, who was loving on me, and apparently hates people, so that’s a win. They say animals are the best judge of character
At this point my dumb ass just stood there trying to think of my next move, and she was like “I’ll walk you down if you’d like”. We head down to the door, she gives me a super long hug and says “let’s hang out again soon, I’ll text you and we can figure out a day”. As I’m driving off I catch her in the window looking down at my car with a big ass smile on her face.
SO… it still seems pretty clear to me that she’s interested… BUT… I’m smart enough to know that if I don’t at least heavy make out with her the next time we hang out, she’s going to think I’m either a pu**y or not interested, and I really don’t need any more friends. The old mystery method school of thought was that it takes 4-10 hours to “seduce” a girl, beyond that is friend zone. I’m sitting somewhere around 5 hours. Also, I plan on meeting many new girls in the near future and I’m too busy to play the long game with just one. Or maybe I’m overthinking this and she just needs a little extra comfort-building before I stick it in? I read all these same-day LRs and assume I must be fucking up on some level…
She seems interested, her body language is very open, she is receptive to my light touch, and she seems to be the one pursuing me (at least logistically). BUT I’ve tried to bring up topics like relationships and sex, and they just… don’t quite seem to hook with her. Is it possible she’s just really shy cause she’s young? She drinks and has tattoos, so she can’t be a total prude…
I know I simply need to lead, ramp up the physicality once we’re back at her place and just go for it. Might be easier now that I’ve been there for a brief moment and maybe she will feel more comfortable. Idk.
Any solid tips from you experienced guys? Either way I’m going for it, and will either get rejected or write a lay report LOL. I’m just SO rusty and still get nervous making moves on pretty girls. UGH!
My plan is to tell her we should get a drink at the new happy hour bar literal minutes from her place, then go back to watch a movie we’ve talked about watching together. I’m probably just overthinking shit cause it’s been so long, and I should just go for it and see what happens.
If I can perfect the process of approach - get number with date idea seeded - date out for drinks - watch movie - fuck, I’ll be golden for the rest of eternity.
Thanks in advance for any advice.
JT
For a bit of background, got a really solid phone number at the club a week or so ago. Really warm response to my initial text, we figured out schedule logistics to go on a date (her idea), all good. Date went well, kept things flirty, got to know her as best as I could (found a bit hard to deep dive as she’s 10 years younger than me and has no clue what she wants to do in life, I’m very established). Lots of playful touching, great eye contact. She had work early, so I seeded the plan for a future meetup, I should have just asked if I could come inside (lol) but I’ve always had a hard time pulling the trigger on that.
She had to go out of town for a bit, but texts me last night saying she’s back early. I had mentioned running an errand today and she asks if she could come with. I figured why not, would be more fun with some pretty company and I don’t want this one to stale out (she’s very attractive and I’m sure she gets hit on a lot).
Unfortunately spent most of our “hangout” today driving - it’s hard to kino escalate while dodging idiot drivers, but I made a point of grabbing her hand to check out her new nails, and standing VERY close to her in the store (she did not move away). We both had plans after but sat in the car for a bit and kept talking after I pulled up in her lot. I REALLY had to take a piss, felt it was a great innocent excuse to see her apartment, so I asked if I would get towed if I went upstairs to use her bathroom. She said “probably”, but I said “I’m willing to risk it”. She seemed kind of nervous about me coming up, but led the way.
Got in and relieved myself, came back out of the bathroom. She pointed and said - “that’s my room, but I’m not gonna show it to you cause it’s super messy”. It looked totally trashed she showed me the rest of her apartment, I made some light teasing about her decor. She introduces me to her cat, who was loving on me, and apparently hates people, so that’s a win. They say animals are the best judge of character
At this point my dumb ass just stood there trying to think of my next move, and she was like “I’ll walk you down if you’d like”. We head down to the door, she gives me a super long hug and says “let’s hang out again soon, I’ll text you and we can figure out a day”. As I’m driving off I catch her in the window looking down at my car with a big ass smile on her face.
SO… it still seems pretty clear to me that she’s interested… BUT… I’m smart enough to know that if I don’t at least heavy make out with her the next time we hang out, she’s going to think I’m either a pu**y or not interested, and I really don’t need any more friends. The old mystery method school of thought was that it takes 4-10 hours to “seduce” a girl, beyond that is friend zone. I’m sitting somewhere around 5 hours. Also, I plan on meeting many new girls in the near future and I’m too busy to play the long game with just one. Or maybe I’m overthinking this and she just needs a little extra comfort-building before I stick it in? I read all these same-day LRs and assume I must be fucking up on some level…
She seems interested, her body language is very open, she is receptive to my light touch, and she seems to be the one pursuing me (at least logistically). BUT I’ve tried to bring up topics like relationships and sex, and they just… don’t quite seem to hook with her. Is it possible she’s just really shy cause she’s young? She drinks and has tattoos, so she can’t be a total prude…
I know I simply need to lead, ramp up the physicality once we’re back at her place and just go for it. Might be easier now that I’ve been there for a brief moment and maybe she will feel more comfortable. Idk.
Any solid tips from you experienced guys? Either way I’m going for it, and will either get rejected or write a lay report LOL. I’m just SO rusty and still get nervous making moves on pretty girls. UGH!
My plan is to tell her we should get a drink at the new happy hour bar literal minutes from her place, then go back to watch a movie we’ve talked about watching together. I’m probably just overthinking shit cause it’s been so long, and I should just go for it and see what happens.
If I can perfect the process of approach - get number with date idea seeded - date out for drinks - watch movie - fuck, I’ll be golden for the rest of eternity.
Thanks in advance for any advice.
JT