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I believe that Chase discussed this in his natural vs. PUA post a while back. How the natural gets to have all of these experiences with women at an early age like high school and college years, leaving with a high lay count along the way.
What gets me about all of this is not really the sex or anything, it is the cool factor, validation, social hierarchy, and all of that stuff associated with sex during that young age. I get laid now and have been with quite a few women ever since entering the game. I admit, it feels great and it is an amazing experience but I am slowly starting to realize that it is not enough. Deep down inside, I am angered over the fact that I was never on top of any of the social hierarchies in my school days and that the magic during those days that happened to some guys my age did not happen to me.
Even though I get laid now as a post grad, it isn't enough. I feel like I have the sex and that is it but that just leaves me in limbo.
When guys in high school and college dated or hooked up with girls, there was the drama and the validation from others in their crowd. As a guy who is out of college and the school setting, I want that drama and validation. I want the world to know that I have fucked a hot girl and I want the cool factor of dating and hooking up to happen for me. Kinda like how when a natural in high school or college was in a relationship, it was the talk of campus and there was the gossip going around.
I won't lie, I've fantasized about leading girls into a relationship and cheating on them just for the fun of it.
The more I look into it, I don't sleep around with a lot of women in order to fulfill some sexual urge, I do it for validation and an ego boost. I looked into it and it all stems back to me not being on top of any social hierarchies in my school years or getting those wild experiences that media and blogs tend to hype up. I was never validated by hot girls and cool kids in my school days which has me chasing validation now.
It's like I want more out of the game than just the sex and romance. Just hooking up with a girl, having sex, or anything of that nature is not enough. I have to have the kind of validation that came with being on top of a social hierarchy during the school days.
The obvious question from me is, how do I fix this? What can I do now?
Therapy has not worked for shit and no amount of reading about "getting over it" has worked either....
What gets me about all of this is not really the sex or anything, it is the cool factor, validation, social hierarchy, and all of that stuff associated with sex during that young age. I get laid now and have been with quite a few women ever since entering the game. I admit, it feels great and it is an amazing experience but I am slowly starting to realize that it is not enough. Deep down inside, I am angered over the fact that I was never on top of any of the social hierarchies in my school days and that the magic during those days that happened to some guys my age did not happen to me.
Even though I get laid now as a post grad, it isn't enough. I feel like I have the sex and that is it but that just leaves me in limbo.
When guys in high school and college dated or hooked up with girls, there was the drama and the validation from others in their crowd. As a guy who is out of college and the school setting, I want that drama and validation. I want the world to know that I have fucked a hot girl and I want the cool factor of dating and hooking up to happen for me. Kinda like how when a natural in high school or college was in a relationship, it was the talk of campus and there was the gossip going around.
I won't lie, I've fantasized about leading girls into a relationship and cheating on them just for the fun of it.
The more I look into it, I don't sleep around with a lot of women in order to fulfill some sexual urge, I do it for validation and an ego boost. I looked into it and it all stems back to me not being on top of any social hierarchies in my school years or getting those wild experiences that media and blogs tend to hype up. I was never validated by hot girls and cool kids in my school days which has me chasing validation now.
It's like I want more out of the game than just the sex and romance. Just hooking up with a girl, having sex, or anything of that nature is not enough. I have to have the kind of validation that came with being on top of a social hierarchy during the school days.
The obvious question from me is, how do I fix this? What can I do now?
Therapy has not worked for shit and no amount of reading about "getting over it" has worked either....