We've all been there: You meet a girl, try to pull, close, kiss and escalate and it falls flat. And the more you learn from your successes and failures, the better you get at gauging her interest in you. Sometimes, she is just a flirty girl, while other times (and this happens when she is a lot more experienced than I am), she loves the attention and provision a high value guy give her.
Recently, Ive been meeting up two these kind of women, and gotten the LJBF (Lets just be friends-speech). It often begins with:
You instantly know whats about to come.
So instead of not saying anything or being sad about it, just brace yourself, look her in the eyes and say the same.
I just did this to a woman thats just been flirty and has been stringing me along. Because I could sense and feel that her "interest" was not genuine, I was expecting her to say something like that. But you can still get time to brace yourself as she starts to deliver this.
This woman basically did not see it coming, got confused for a second and started to explain herself saying that girls tend to be arrogant, believing they could get "any guy". I just smiled and said "yeah, I can understand that happening".
The trick here is to be so prepared for this as she deliver her speech that you really act the part: Don't look down, or show any submissive body language. Just look her in the eyes and say it just like when you talk to a friend.
A few weeks ago, another girl tried to do the same, but as she did so, a friend of mine called my name so I did not give her the time to finish her speech, I said something like, "Im sorry, just give me a minute, Ill get back to you", walked towards him and started dancing with other girls. She was also confused about the whole thing.
But maybe I've been rejected so many times that it doesn't faze me anymore. I am really glad because I can just move on and forget that girl.
Next time, instead of reframing after the "speech", I could just interrupt her and give it myself.
I believe that this really fucks with her mind. For a long time she believed you really liked her and she will doubt everything about the interaction.
"Wait, what did he just say. Did I read his signs all wrong? Why is this guy, who's beneath me, saying this? Maybe I am not as hot as I think I am?"
A woman takes rejection a lot harder than a man. Ive seen it and been there were insecure women really get nasty. So she WILL think about it.
And what Ive seen and experienced to work with women is rejecting her verbally "youre not my type. We could never get along", WHILE showing interest with my body language". This seem intoxicating and they dont know if they have you. Which makes things easier when you escalate.
I also remember my best friend using this with a former girlfriend many years ago. She changed the way she looked at him after he did this and CHASED HARD until they got together. He just reframed things making him the prize. Not her.
Maybe this is a dick thing to do, but it feels kind of good. @Chase , have you written or experienced anything similar?
I know you wrote something about "flaking on a girl you know sees you as a friend" in order to make the same impact. I would really like to know if this is just me or a tactic that other guys have used with success.
Recently, Ive been meeting up two these kind of women, and gotten the LJBF (Lets just be friends-speech). It often begins with:
"You're a cool guy and I love hanging out with you but...".
You instantly know whats about to come.
So instead of not saying anything or being sad about it, just brace yourself, look her in the eyes and say the same.
"Yeah, I felt it and even tho I find you sexy and loved touching you and all, I didn't feel any spark. I am glad and relieved you said that because I was going to say the same."
I just did this to a woman thats just been flirty and has been stringing me along. Because I could sense and feel that her "interest" was not genuine, I was expecting her to say something like that. But you can still get time to brace yourself as she starts to deliver this.
This woman basically did not see it coming, got confused for a second and started to explain herself saying that girls tend to be arrogant, believing they could get "any guy". I just smiled and said "yeah, I can understand that happening".
The trick here is to be so prepared for this as she deliver her speech that you really act the part: Don't look down, or show any submissive body language. Just look her in the eyes and say it just like when you talk to a friend.
A few weeks ago, another girl tried to do the same, but as she did so, a friend of mine called my name so I did not give her the time to finish her speech, I said something like, "Im sorry, just give me a minute, Ill get back to you", walked towards him and started dancing with other girls. She was also confused about the whole thing.
But maybe I've been rejected so many times that it doesn't faze me anymore. I am really glad because I can just move on and forget that girl.
Next time, instead of reframing after the "speech", I could just interrupt her and give it myself.
Her: "You're a cool guy and all but..."
Me: "Can I tell you something really important?. I hope you didn't get any wrong ideas from me. Youre cute and all, but just not my type. If I sent you the wrong impression, I am sorry. I am just a flirty guy. I hope you dont take this the wrong way.
I believe that this really fucks with her mind. For a long time she believed you really liked her and she will doubt everything about the interaction.
"Wait, what did he just say. Did I read his signs all wrong? Why is this guy, who's beneath me, saying this? Maybe I am not as hot as I think I am?"
A woman takes rejection a lot harder than a man. Ive seen it and been there were insecure women really get nasty. So she WILL think about it.
And what Ive seen and experienced to work with women is rejecting her verbally "youre not my type. We could never get along", WHILE showing interest with my body language". This seem intoxicating and they dont know if they have you. Which makes things easier when you escalate.
I also remember my best friend using this with a former girlfriend many years ago. She changed the way she looked at him after he did this and CHASED HARD until they got together. He just reframed things making him the prize. Not her.
Maybe this is a dick thing to do, but it feels kind of good. @Chase , have you written or experienced anything similar?
I know you wrote something about "flaking on a girl you know sees you as a friend" in order to make the same impact. I would really like to know if this is just me or a tactic that other guys have used with success.