So im starting this journal to track my weekly progress and to also get any advice if im fucking up on a particular thing.
Monday: Daygame
I decided to start the week with 5 indirect approaches, ended up doing 6. Just asking for directions and trying to make small talk with the girl.
1) Blonde milf: At first she didnt respond to my question so I had to ask it again.
2) Girl smoking, big tits, milf: Made some funny comments and she laughed
3) Big cheeked blue eyed girl with an overbite: I noticed a lot of compliance which shocked me given how fucking hot she was. Convo was very quick and short
4) Cool kinda fat pretty girl: I asked for a particular street, she got out her phone and eventually i suggested we continue walking in the direction she was headed (she was working out at the square). She asked me for my age, and at the end of the talk, which lasted about 15 mins she asked me for my ig. It was the best interaction of the day tbh. After this I grabbed her waist and kissed her goodbye
5) Short, blonde, rich girl: Very short talk, just made one funny comment
6) Bus stop, shorts, good legs but kinda fugly on the front.
Here's what I learned from all the interactions:
I) If a girl doesnt answer to my first call I can ask her the question or stop her again.
II) Indirect can work just as well as direct
III) After asking for directions I can throw out a funny comment or an observation made at her
IV) Moving her from one location to another is good
V) Lower the girls from the pedestal (I got this from 3)
VI) Social momentum can help me a lot (last 2 girls were easy af to open for me)
VII) Winning mentality: The only obligation is to make a of approaches regardless of how they turn out and then I can go home. Anything else is extra
Tuesday: Daygame
From this day on I decided to only write down the most meaningful interactions. Together with maybe 2 or 3 things to improve.
3) She was about to send a voice message but she stopped and listened to me
4) Very tall girl, ok body, 6/10 face, wearing headphones. I asked her twice but she didnt stop.
5) She had headphones, she stopped and also listened carefully.
What I've learned:
I) I have to improve my sleeping schedule because otherwise my energy is off
II) I have to go out earlier (I got out after work at around 18, but I can use 1 hour from 15 or 16 to cold approach.
III) Girls with headphones can stop but if they dont after 2 tries just talk to another girl.
Wednesday: Online game
An university from my country, a couple of miles west decided to do a kinda tinder matchup for valentines day. Of which I took full advantage of.
I was genuinely surprised with how smooth my interactions went. Here are some examples:
1) Model, aspiring actress, 20 yr olds, from Virgo:
Me: Are Aries and Virgo compatible?
Me: I skipped horoscope 101
Me: hahah
Her: Hey
Her: Mmm I dont know hah
Her: We'd have to google it
Me: But online people always lie
Me: I know of a more experimentar way to know the answer hahha
Her: How would that work?
Her: Hahaha
Me: We go drink some beers or some tea, whatever you prefer, and if we have a good time there's our answer
Me: Would you like to?
Her: Mmmm alright yes haha
After this we ended up talking for a while and I brought up meeting again but she just responded with some dumb emojis. Something I've noticed I did poorly was to double or triple text a lot and before asking her out again I asked her a question and she didnt respond. So it was like a double strike or smth like that.
I find it a bit confusing because I remember reading that you should try and make the girl invest more than you over text but I tried it with some other girl (she was investing very little so I invested even less) and she didnt answer. I guess the solution is to stop double or triple texting and sending a long text is alright as long as im getting the response i want.
2) 20, emo, studying nursing
I opened up to her about some emo shit I can relate to and she responded positively:
Me: What hurt you more the ear piercing or this shitty life?
Her: Haha, this shitty life
Then we talked for a bit and I both sexualized and asked her out:
Me: What do you like the most about nursing?
Her: Helping others
Me: You can help others and i can help you with your shyness
Me: So by proxy Im helping everybody ?)
Her: aww
Her: hahha
Me: What scares you the most, having people sing you a happy birthday or public talking?
Her: 2nd one
Me: Alright, very good. Let me write it down so I can give you your treatment to cure shyness
Me: And between tripping over on the street or kissing in public?
Her: kissing
Me: Mmm interesting
Me: Let me take some notes
Me: I know what your treatment should be, but I need to see you in person for this
Her: hehehe
Her:
So we talked for some more, she eventually asked me for a photo and I sent it to her but told me "Im too old for her", which was an obvious test since im only 25 (unless shes like 14 and lied to me). You can see by her messages that all the pressure was on me and she wasn't giving me a lot to work with. I still enjoy how I manage to come up with that "gambit", if you can call it that, which is both playful, meaningful to her (nurses give out treatments and shes pretty shy), a bit sexual (kissing), and also a way to kinda invite her out. The talk eventually died off because I ran out of things to say but I plan on texting her some other day.
Im still unsure whether shes a good or a bad lead since she posted her whatsapp n° on her story but also asked me via dm to text her over there. She left me on read after asking her what is she up to but then sent me a "heyy" next day. It seems like something thats above my level to deal with and not something that will really help me move forward so ill be focusing on other girls and maybe ocassionally hit her up.
3) 27, short, dyed redhead that looks like shes 18.
Me: Why do I get the feeling that you're very short, redhead? Haha
Her: Heyyy
Her: hows it going?
Her: I am
Me: You have many qualities I like so when are we meeting up?
Her: I cant this week cz I have covid
Her: Next one works for you?
Me: Sure, next week sounds better
I had I think 2 or 3 more girls where I was very upfront about wanting to see them and the conversation flowed. Sadly I didnt get to see any of them yet, in a small part because of timing but also because theyre very young and like to play with men. Ill ping a couple of them next week and see if anything comes out of it but I dont really expect a lot since I enjoy day and nightgaming more. And I learn the most from them
Thursday
On thursday I went to this language exchange bar I usually attend and tbh I was kinda tired so my vibe wasnt as good but I got an instagram from a butterface girl with a nice body and great tits. The pull wasnt as good cause i think she could tell i was just doing it because i had to and not so much because i was into her. She would still make a good fuck on a bad day (like Alek says haha) so maybe if some other girl cancells on me or i feel like i didnt get any igs next week ill hit her up.
Friday
Did nothing, had a friend over my place for a sleepover. Also wanted to rest
Saturday
We went with our friend to a square nearby, I opened to 5 girls indirectly, just asking directions but the biggest thing of those approaches was that I did them very very fast. Monday I took like 1 hour to make all 6 approaches because of AA, but on saturday it was no more than 20 mins. which is great
I striked up a conversation with a girl at a bus station, because the venue I was at was very empty. She was mid but kinda hot, I didnt get her ig but I dont regret it too much.
When I got to the new venue a former seduction teacher of mine told me how a student of his just got into a insta date and asked me if i wanted to join a call and listen in on him. I agreed and got very motivated to do some direct approaches which is something I struggle with.
1) kinda blonde girl, a bit taller than me. Pretty from the front but kinda ugly from the back, which is weird and havent seen it before. The place of encounter was like a small football field that was covered with many different small shops of ppl selling stuff like solid shampoo and all that hippie stuff
Me: Hey I just saw you walking over there and I wanted to say something but had my mouth full of food (genuinely did). I think youre pretty and would like to get to know you. What's your name?
Her: Rufina, and yours?
Me: matheth
Her: I actually have a boyfriend and hes about to come
Me: Oh really? Is he a peaceful guy or should I start running?
Her: Nono, hes a good guy, he studies engineering
Me: Oh really? Im into that stuff too, maybe we could do a battle with calculators haha
Me: Alright it was nice meeting you!
Her: Bye
That same day when I got home I read "boyfriend destroyers" from girlschase bc i didnt know wtf to do at the moment. Very interesting post but I think more experience in the field will help me deal with this situation better (Its like the 2nd or 3rd time its ever happened to me)
2) kinda pretty, I decided to talk to her because I didnt find her extremely pretty and she was clearly on her own
Me: Hey I was just buying some falafel over there and saw you and think youre pretty so I wanted to get to know you
Her: Hahah (nervous laughter)
Me: Whats your name?
Her: Ana
Me: Im matheth nice to meet you (extended my hand)
we talked for a while and ended up in a insta date but I kinda regretted it because she really wasnt my type, was older than me and also very politically left leaning. I am proud for being so direct with her and cutting the bullshit out. At one point she asked me about my age (clearly fearing that I say an age thats too young for her) so I tell her im 25 and she gasps and laughs nervously. I immediatedly told her "Ohh, whats the problem? Never dated someone younger than you?" I feel very proud to this moment for having been so fcking bold hahah. I also noticed she wasnt responding positively to my kino which is great because i didnt have it happen before. I think she was kinda autorejecting and also overwhelmed by it all. Maybe if she had been hotter i would have put more effort into building rapport and comfort with her. Which is something I did but just not quite to the level that Im used to.
Sunday:
I was about to meet up with a girl I got from the valentines tinder match up on wednesday but around 30 mins latter she told she was 30mins+ away so after some back and forth and trying to convince her to come near my place we ended up cancelling the date. One of the doubts I have about all this ordeal is how do you punish a girl that does something you dont like to show her you have respect for yourself? Via text she was pretty compliant and would sometimes initiate things herself but I know girls tend to lie and hide things so I dont know what her true motives are.
Conclusion:
Im very happy for the progress i made this week since its been the most action packed week ive ever had in my life tbh. I plan on continuing to have this schedule for a couple of months until i can get significantly better.
Monday: Daygame
I decided to start the week with 5 indirect approaches, ended up doing 6. Just asking for directions and trying to make small talk with the girl.
1) Blonde milf: At first she didnt respond to my question so I had to ask it again.
2) Girl smoking, big tits, milf: Made some funny comments and she laughed
3) Big cheeked blue eyed girl with an overbite: I noticed a lot of compliance which shocked me given how fucking hot she was. Convo was very quick and short
4) Cool kinda fat pretty girl: I asked for a particular street, she got out her phone and eventually i suggested we continue walking in the direction she was headed (she was working out at the square). She asked me for my age, and at the end of the talk, which lasted about 15 mins she asked me for my ig. It was the best interaction of the day tbh. After this I grabbed her waist and kissed her goodbye
5) Short, blonde, rich girl: Very short talk, just made one funny comment
6) Bus stop, shorts, good legs but kinda fugly on the front.
Here's what I learned from all the interactions:
I) If a girl doesnt answer to my first call I can ask her the question or stop her again.
II) Indirect can work just as well as direct
III) After asking for directions I can throw out a funny comment or an observation made at her
IV) Moving her from one location to another is good
V) Lower the girls from the pedestal (I got this from 3)
VI) Social momentum can help me a lot (last 2 girls were easy af to open for me)
VII) Winning mentality: The only obligation is to make a of approaches regardless of how they turn out and then I can go home. Anything else is extra
Tuesday: Daygame
From this day on I decided to only write down the most meaningful interactions. Together with maybe 2 or 3 things to improve.
3) She was about to send a voice message but she stopped and listened to me
4) Very tall girl, ok body, 6/10 face, wearing headphones. I asked her twice but she didnt stop.
5) She had headphones, she stopped and also listened carefully.
What I've learned:
I) I have to improve my sleeping schedule because otherwise my energy is off
II) I have to go out earlier (I got out after work at around 18, but I can use 1 hour from 15 or 16 to cold approach.
III) Girls with headphones can stop but if they dont after 2 tries just talk to another girl.
Wednesday: Online game
An university from my country, a couple of miles west decided to do a kinda tinder matchup for valentines day. Of which I took full advantage of.
I was genuinely surprised with how smooth my interactions went. Here are some examples:
1) Model, aspiring actress, 20 yr olds, from Virgo:
Me: Are Aries and Virgo compatible?
Me: I skipped horoscope 101
Me: hahah
Her: Hey
Her: Mmm I dont know hah
Her: We'd have to google it
Me: But online people always lie
Me: I know of a more experimentar way to know the answer hahha
Her: How would that work?
Her: Hahaha
Me: We go drink some beers or some tea, whatever you prefer, and if we have a good time there's our answer
Me: Would you like to?
Her: Mmmm alright yes haha
After this we ended up talking for a while and I brought up meeting again but she just responded with some dumb emojis. Something I've noticed I did poorly was to double or triple text a lot and before asking her out again I asked her a question and she didnt respond. So it was like a double strike or smth like that.
I find it a bit confusing because I remember reading that you should try and make the girl invest more than you over text but I tried it with some other girl (she was investing very little so I invested even less) and she didnt answer. I guess the solution is to stop double or triple texting and sending a long text is alright as long as im getting the response i want.
2) 20, emo, studying nursing
I opened up to her about some emo shit I can relate to and she responded positively:
Me: What hurt you more the ear piercing or this shitty life?
Her: Haha, this shitty life
Then we talked for a bit and I both sexualized and asked her out:
Me: What do you like the most about nursing?
Her: Helping others
Me: You can help others and i can help you with your shyness
Me: So by proxy Im helping everybody ?)
Her: aww
Her: hahha
Me: What scares you the most, having people sing you a happy birthday or public talking?
Her: 2nd one
Me: Alright, very good. Let me write it down so I can give you your treatment to cure shyness
Me: And between tripping over on the street or kissing in public?
Her: kissing
Me: Mmm interesting
Me: Let me take some notes
Me: I know what your treatment should be, but I need to see you in person for this
Her: hehehe
Her:
So we talked for some more, she eventually asked me for a photo and I sent it to her but told me "Im too old for her", which was an obvious test since im only 25 (unless shes like 14 and lied to me). You can see by her messages that all the pressure was on me and she wasn't giving me a lot to work with. I still enjoy how I manage to come up with that "gambit", if you can call it that, which is both playful, meaningful to her (nurses give out treatments and shes pretty shy), a bit sexual (kissing), and also a way to kinda invite her out. The talk eventually died off because I ran out of things to say but I plan on texting her some other day.
Im still unsure whether shes a good or a bad lead since she posted her whatsapp n° on her story but also asked me via dm to text her over there. She left me on read after asking her what is she up to but then sent me a "heyy" next day. It seems like something thats above my level to deal with and not something that will really help me move forward so ill be focusing on other girls and maybe ocassionally hit her up.
3) 27, short, dyed redhead that looks like shes 18.
Me: Why do I get the feeling that you're very short, redhead? Haha
Her: Heyyy
Her: hows it going?
Her: I am
Me: You have many qualities I like so when are we meeting up?
Her: I cant this week cz I have covid
Her: Next one works for you?
Me: Sure, next week sounds better
I had I think 2 or 3 more girls where I was very upfront about wanting to see them and the conversation flowed. Sadly I didnt get to see any of them yet, in a small part because of timing but also because theyre very young and like to play with men. Ill ping a couple of them next week and see if anything comes out of it but I dont really expect a lot since I enjoy day and nightgaming more. And I learn the most from them
Thursday
On thursday I went to this language exchange bar I usually attend and tbh I was kinda tired so my vibe wasnt as good but I got an instagram from a butterface girl with a nice body and great tits. The pull wasnt as good cause i think she could tell i was just doing it because i had to and not so much because i was into her. She would still make a good fuck on a bad day (like Alek says haha) so maybe if some other girl cancells on me or i feel like i didnt get any igs next week ill hit her up.
Friday
Did nothing, had a friend over my place for a sleepover. Also wanted to rest
Saturday
We went with our friend to a square nearby, I opened to 5 girls indirectly, just asking directions but the biggest thing of those approaches was that I did them very very fast. Monday I took like 1 hour to make all 6 approaches because of AA, but on saturday it was no more than 20 mins. which is great
I striked up a conversation with a girl at a bus station, because the venue I was at was very empty. She was mid but kinda hot, I didnt get her ig but I dont regret it too much.
When I got to the new venue a former seduction teacher of mine told me how a student of his just got into a insta date and asked me if i wanted to join a call and listen in on him. I agreed and got very motivated to do some direct approaches which is something I struggle with.
1) kinda blonde girl, a bit taller than me. Pretty from the front but kinda ugly from the back, which is weird and havent seen it before. The place of encounter was like a small football field that was covered with many different small shops of ppl selling stuff like solid shampoo and all that hippie stuff
Me: Hey I just saw you walking over there and I wanted to say something but had my mouth full of food (genuinely did). I think youre pretty and would like to get to know you. What's your name?
Her: Rufina, and yours?
Me: matheth
Her: I actually have a boyfriend and hes about to come
Me: Oh really? Is he a peaceful guy or should I start running?
Her: Nono, hes a good guy, he studies engineering
Me: Oh really? Im into that stuff too, maybe we could do a battle with calculators haha
Me: Alright it was nice meeting you!
Her: Bye
That same day when I got home I read "boyfriend destroyers" from girlschase bc i didnt know wtf to do at the moment. Very interesting post but I think more experience in the field will help me deal with this situation better (Its like the 2nd or 3rd time its ever happened to me)
2) kinda pretty, I decided to talk to her because I didnt find her extremely pretty and she was clearly on her own
Me: Hey I was just buying some falafel over there and saw you and think youre pretty so I wanted to get to know you
Her: Hahah (nervous laughter)
Me: Whats your name?
Her: Ana
Me: Im matheth nice to meet you (extended my hand)
we talked for a while and ended up in a insta date but I kinda regretted it because she really wasnt my type, was older than me and also very politically left leaning. I am proud for being so direct with her and cutting the bullshit out. At one point she asked me about my age (clearly fearing that I say an age thats too young for her) so I tell her im 25 and she gasps and laughs nervously. I immediatedly told her "Ohh, whats the problem? Never dated someone younger than you?" I feel very proud to this moment for having been so fcking bold hahah. I also noticed she wasnt responding positively to my kino which is great because i didnt have it happen before. I think she was kinda autorejecting and also overwhelmed by it all. Maybe if she had been hotter i would have put more effort into building rapport and comfort with her. Which is something I did but just not quite to the level that Im used to.
Sunday:
I was about to meet up with a girl I got from the valentines tinder match up on wednesday but around 30 mins latter she told she was 30mins+ away so after some back and forth and trying to convince her to come near my place we ended up cancelling the date. One of the doubts I have about all this ordeal is how do you punish a girl that does something you dont like to show her you have respect for yourself? Via text she was pretty compliant and would sometimes initiate things herself but I know girls tend to lie and hide things so I dont know what her true motives are.
Conclusion:
Im very happy for the progress i made this week since its been the most action packed week ive ever had in my life tbh. I plan on continuing to have this schedule for a couple of months until i can get significantly better.
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