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That said, I've arrived at a point where my tactics have become morally questionable, and my perception of right and wrong has become sort of blurred.
I used to use manipulation to make good friendships, and keep them. Everything I learned, I applied to my friends. This mighy sound silly, but some of them couldn't last a week without seeing me, or their mood would only visibly improve when I was around, telling me over and over how I was their best friend in the world.
I could change their mood from downright depressed to bursting with joy in 10 minutes. I used it to manage the emotions of the people around me.
That's when I started overdoing it. I study people's patterns, reactions, what they like and don't, essentially, what makes them tick. Then I use that to my advantage.
If them being happy is a requirement to staying beneficial to me, I'll change their mood. Or vice versa, I'll make them feel like utter crap, and they'll blame themselves.
When they aren't thinking about doing something that is useful to me, I use phrasing, tonality and other things to make them do it. And they are none the wiser.
Chase once mentioned "the manipulator" In one of his articles about arguments, and what he wrote on there really was the case for me. I'll use whatever means necessary to change someone's mind, if it benefits me.
At this point, it's become somewhat subconscious. I don't know whether I should quit immediately and recondition myself, or just dial it down a little, since seduction also relies on manipulation. I've just started feeling bad about it, even though it gets me my results.
So in conclusion, what started as a means to make friends has led to me manipulating everyone in my vicinity.
If you got something you'd like to share, please do. I just wanted to write this down somewhere.
Cheers,
RAFox
That said, I've arrived at a point where my tactics have become morally questionable, and my perception of right and wrong has become sort of blurred.
I used to use manipulation to make good friendships, and keep them. Everything I learned, I applied to my friends. This mighy sound silly, but some of them couldn't last a week without seeing me, or their mood would only visibly improve when I was around, telling me over and over how I was their best friend in the world.
I could change their mood from downright depressed to bursting with joy in 10 minutes. I used it to manage the emotions of the people around me.
That's when I started overdoing it. I study people's patterns, reactions, what they like and don't, essentially, what makes them tick. Then I use that to my advantage.
If them being happy is a requirement to staying beneficial to me, I'll change their mood. Or vice versa, I'll make them feel like utter crap, and they'll blame themselves.
When they aren't thinking about doing something that is useful to me, I use phrasing, tonality and other things to make them do it. And they are none the wiser.
Chase once mentioned "the manipulator" In one of his articles about arguments, and what he wrote on there really was the case for me. I'll use whatever means necessary to change someone's mind, if it benefits me.
At this point, it's become somewhat subconscious. I don't know whether I should quit immediately and recondition myself, or just dial it down a little, since seduction also relies on manipulation. I've just started feeling bad about it, even though it gets me my results.
So in conclusion, what started as a means to make friends has led to me manipulating everyone in my vicinity.
If you got something you'd like to share, please do. I just wanted to write this down somewhere.
Cheers,
RAFox