Hi guys,
Have been a long time reader here. Great, in depth articles.
For the first time i'm actually on the forum. So here's my story.
I have been dating with my current girlfriend for almost a year now. We have had an amazing first year. Went on a 3 week vacation to Mexico this summer.
Though, from the beginning, she has talked about her ex. She's 22, and before me, she dated an older man (36). She was obsessed with this man. He was quite succesful, funny, and also her mentor (though he was horrible in the sack).
I have a different role in her life. We are more or on the same level (sex is better, though). I am 25 and just starting my career after college. She's intelligent, and very driven and ambitious (and good looking).
Now, from the start she has mentioned her ex. Actually stating that she was obessed with him, and that she thought she was gonna have babies with him. Ofcourse, he broke up with her. I'm guessing one of the things she liked about this, was that she had absolutely no control over him.
She is very open about her feelings, and she's just overall a very, very emotional woman.
Now she still sees this guy from time to time. On a festival she wanted to see him. I was clear about the fact that i did not approve of this, seeing the relationship they had, the way she viewed him, and how it ended.
Now, i know she is very happy with me. I also know she just needs a lot of freedom. I have had more situations in which she just needed her freedom, but they were shitty situations for me. And of course, this situation is high-risk for me. We ended up arguing and fighting on the festival about this. She thought i was jealous; i said that was bullshit. I just thought she should not put herself in such a situation.
Now, she still talks about him sometimes. I'm just wondering what i could do about it. Usually i'm just nonchalant; act like i don't care. But that's hard to keep up if you are not ok with it. Sometimes i think she's also poking a bit, just testing to see if i'm jealous.
She knows very well that i don't like it when she sees him. And she's also very honest (sometimes too honest). There's a big event here in a couple of weeks, and she said she wanted to go to a certain party where he would probably be, she told me (there are like 200 parties here, but that is supposed to be the best, she says).
It's just a high-risk situation for me. I am also tempted to become closer with other girls, just for my security.
What do you guys think? Sometimes this just tires me. She just needs a lot of freedom and attention. Sometimes tend to think she needs it to feel 'alive'.
If that is true, it's maybe not the girl for me.
What do you guys think?
Have been a long time reader here. Great, in depth articles.
For the first time i'm actually on the forum. So here's my story.
I have been dating with my current girlfriend for almost a year now. We have had an amazing first year. Went on a 3 week vacation to Mexico this summer.
Though, from the beginning, she has talked about her ex. She's 22, and before me, she dated an older man (36). She was obsessed with this man. He was quite succesful, funny, and also her mentor (though he was horrible in the sack).
I have a different role in her life. We are more or on the same level (sex is better, though). I am 25 and just starting my career after college. She's intelligent, and very driven and ambitious (and good looking).
Now, from the start she has mentioned her ex. Actually stating that she was obessed with him, and that she thought she was gonna have babies with him. Ofcourse, he broke up with her. I'm guessing one of the things she liked about this, was that she had absolutely no control over him.
She is very open about her feelings, and she's just overall a very, very emotional woman.
Now she still sees this guy from time to time. On a festival she wanted to see him. I was clear about the fact that i did not approve of this, seeing the relationship they had, the way she viewed him, and how it ended.
Now, i know she is very happy with me. I also know she just needs a lot of freedom. I have had more situations in which she just needed her freedom, but they were shitty situations for me. And of course, this situation is high-risk for me. We ended up arguing and fighting on the festival about this. She thought i was jealous; i said that was bullshit. I just thought she should not put herself in such a situation.
Now, she still talks about him sometimes. I'm just wondering what i could do about it. Usually i'm just nonchalant; act like i don't care. But that's hard to keep up if you are not ok with it. Sometimes i think she's also poking a bit, just testing to see if i'm jealous.
She knows very well that i don't like it when she sees him. And she's also very honest (sometimes too honest). There's a big event here in a couple of weeks, and she said she wanted to go to a certain party where he would probably be, she told me (there are like 200 parties here, but that is supposed to be the best, she says).
It's just a high-risk situation for me. I am also tempted to become closer with other girls, just for my security.
What do you guys think? Sometimes this just tires me. She just needs a lot of freedom and attention. Sometimes tend to think she needs it to feel 'alive'.
If that is true, it's maybe not the girl for me.
What do you guys think?