Tuesday 29 march 2016
I had a good date with Matilde yesterday. It was easy to create emotional comfort, and she told me things about herself she never tell anyone. A couple of times I even was turned on (I guess not masturbating/having sex the same day as the date is useful here). We were talking a lot, but every time I tried to make a move, like touching hands or resting my arm on her legs, she either did not respond or she moved away (in a smooth kind of way, that is).
I tried a couple of times, but couldn't get through, so I gave up, friendzoned her, and turned the conversation into a work meeting, since she also is an artist and is on her way to become known here in Oslo. At least I managed to make her a good friend and ally. I was fortunate enough to stumble across Chases article about female friends last night, and as opposed to before where I used to think “either sex or nothing” my mind is shifting into “if she has some other value to offer we can hang out”.
I guess carreer opportunities, like musical ones (since she is a singer), or from my work as a journalist here in Norway should be some of the reasons to become friends with a girl. I've been missing out on many good opportunities. Let's start to take some.
After my date I went out with my girlfriend to a party in town. I met Aurora (an old friend I've been flirting with the last year) there, she was very excited to see me. She even called me previously that evening and was happy to see me. I couldn't do anything of course, since I don't flirt a lot when my girl is there (we have an open relationship, but when we are together, we don't engage with other people and besides, this evening was ours only).
My girl went to talk with a male friend and I started dancing with Aurora. I was so horny I almost exploded. I did not get close to her, instead, we held our distance and gave each other a show here and there. When we locked eyes, the sexual tension was extremely strong. Later she had to go, it was a little awkward for her when she said goodbye to my girl (they met before and she knows about my openness). I wanted to see if she really was interested in something more than a friendship, so after I left the place, I sent her a message. She was stoked and wanted me at her place first coming friday to have some drinks. She recently got single too. And has never treated me that way before.
I danced a lot and had fun. I suddenly saw a cute, thick girl staring at me on the dancefloor. We had a lot of fun, laughed and had an instant connection. I started talking to her. She seemed interested and just before I tried to move her somewhere else her guy friend appeared out of nowhere and pulled her out. I just shrugged my shoulder, wished her a good night and continued dancing. I guess this is common in nighttime venues. And a reminder that I need to do more nightgame as well.
Today I might daygame a bit. Its fun, its exciting, and when my sosial muscles are warm enough, I almost always get good reactions and some results (like numbers and an occasional date.) Let's see what happens then
I had a good date with Matilde yesterday. It was easy to create emotional comfort, and she told me things about herself she never tell anyone. A couple of times I even was turned on (I guess not masturbating/having sex the same day as the date is useful here). We were talking a lot, but every time I tried to make a move, like touching hands or resting my arm on her legs, she either did not respond or she moved away (in a smooth kind of way, that is).
I tried a couple of times, but couldn't get through, so I gave up, friendzoned her, and turned the conversation into a work meeting, since she also is an artist and is on her way to become known here in Oslo. At least I managed to make her a good friend and ally. I was fortunate enough to stumble across Chases article about female friends last night, and as opposed to before where I used to think “either sex or nothing” my mind is shifting into “if she has some other value to offer we can hang out”.
I guess carreer opportunities, like musical ones (since she is a singer), or from my work as a journalist here in Norway should be some of the reasons to become friends with a girl. I've been missing out on many good opportunities. Let's start to take some.
After my date I went out with my girlfriend to a party in town. I met Aurora (an old friend I've been flirting with the last year) there, she was very excited to see me. She even called me previously that evening and was happy to see me. I couldn't do anything of course, since I don't flirt a lot when my girl is there (we have an open relationship, but when we are together, we don't engage with other people and besides, this evening was ours only).
My girl went to talk with a male friend and I started dancing with Aurora. I was so horny I almost exploded. I did not get close to her, instead, we held our distance and gave each other a show here and there. When we locked eyes, the sexual tension was extremely strong. Later she had to go, it was a little awkward for her when she said goodbye to my girl (they met before and she knows about my openness). I wanted to see if she really was interested in something more than a friendship, so after I left the place, I sent her a message. She was stoked and wanted me at her place first coming friday to have some drinks. She recently got single too. And has never treated me that way before.
I danced a lot and had fun. I suddenly saw a cute, thick girl staring at me on the dancefloor. We had a lot of fun, laughed and had an instant connection. I started talking to her. She seemed interested and just before I tried to move her somewhere else her guy friend appeared out of nowhere and pulled her out. I just shrugged my shoulder, wished her a good night and continued dancing. I guess this is common in nighttime venues. And a reminder that I need to do more nightgame as well.
Today I might daygame a bit. Its fun, its exciting, and when my sosial muscles are warm enough, I almost always get good reactions and some results (like numbers and an occasional date.) Let's see what happens then