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Hey, I’m sure this has been asked loads of times already but I wasn’t able to find it anywhere. For context, I am able to meet girls online who I am attracted to & the dates generally go pretty well. I also dance & am able to flirt with girls I meet there although I struggle turning the attraction into dates etc. I feel like my biggest issue by far at the moment is my inner game (related to feelings of being unattractive). I am just starting out with cold approach.
I have read some articles on here that recommend direct approach over indirect, however I find that in day game situations I can get some very hostile responses to direct approach. Interestingly it seems that in a short period of time I can say almost exactly the same things to girls & get a friendly response each time when I go in indirect. I appreciate that a lot of what I am missing out on may be calibration; the short period of interaction gives me time to read the girl, with more experience I may be able to do this much faster and change how I convey attraction based on context. However I also feel like that short period of indirect gives her a chance to warm up and shift away from thinking about WhatsApp or whatever else happens to be on her mind.
I want to get the absolute most I can from my practice and so am looking for advice. Personally I feel like if I persist with direct approach I will be predominantly learning how to deal with aggressive responses, however I’m concerned that if I rely too much on indirect I will be learning to hide my attraction.
I have read some articles on here that recommend direct approach over indirect, however I find that in day game situations I can get some very hostile responses to direct approach. Interestingly it seems that in a short period of time I can say almost exactly the same things to girls & get a friendly response each time when I go in indirect. I appreciate that a lot of what I am missing out on may be calibration; the short period of interaction gives me time to read the girl, with more experience I may be able to do this much faster and change how I convey attraction based on context. However I also feel like that short period of indirect gives her a chance to warm up and shift away from thinking about WhatsApp or whatever else happens to be on her mind.
I want to get the absolute most I can from my practice and so am looking for advice. Personally I feel like if I persist with direct approach I will be predominantly learning how to deal with aggressive responses, however I’m concerned that if I rely too much on indirect I will be learning to hide my attraction.