Iv been with LTR 3 years and were supposed to get merried when we suddelny drop on me this shit that she does not what is going with her life, is unseceu about his options a does not want tocscfew up so she pleased me not to propose. She then spoke about high requirement of he father on boht her and his boyfriends, and about more fililosofival questions how I am so sure we are peferct match (me explaining there is nothing like perfect match). Well this discusses somehow cooled our relationship. Although we still had sex 2x time before this Monday when I revealed she si sexting with another guy, actually some top manager I have introduces her to him (which was going about 2 weeks but quite intensively) . The texts were explixits but It seems they did not fuck yet. However, most likely was planning to do. We did not want to break up but she required space, mention her chaos in head and of course swearing she didnt plan to fuck him.
I confronted her with this shit and of course it went into drama. However, no remorse form her part at all. Several first days were absolutely freezing from her, then we agreed not discuss that shit at the moment.
Now we left for 3 weeks to US on planned vacation. I want to play it cool and get to know what the hell is going on, whether I get you back and most importantly whether I should even try to get her back.
LTR is very feminine gal, loves passionate/rough/bondaxe sex and beogn submissive, loves her family and in general is very social and energetic.
Now she is acting sometimes very nice and supportive, (eg we were drinking vine and watching old vids from our previous holiday and had much fun) and sometime affully bitchi. Bitch testing all the timi. She now deliberately mention hers lover in different matter without any remourse. For my question why is she mentchoning, she answered if It even bothers me and if I plan to make a drama.
She also randomly menasions some of my faux pas, petite fails etc (somehow passively mocking me).
Of course, there are no apologies for what happened, no "love you" words, no remorse. However, she wants to cuddle, initiatively touches me and brings some bonding topics (our previous holidays, future plans, taking about kids). Also wants me to cuddle her etc where I am hesitant and require to come first.
I am holding my shit, trying to have uppperhand, be dominant and do not fall into any arguments with her.
What is she thininkg? What is she trying to achieve? Might it be a lecture! (when we started dating I v been definiely more perceived as an alpha, social type. Of course, with passing time and you pursuing your mission, this somehow diminished.
Of course I still love that gal but not for cost of being manipulated or even cheated.
How to treat such situation generally to get her back in her feminine position?
Does she playing / manipulating me? Or is this some kind of test?
How to answer her BS questions like when shes purposefully speaks about THE guy and than is surprised that I am asking why she needs to speak about him in front of me and is perplexed it bothers me.
Any ideas would be much appreciated!!
Thx
I confronted her with this shit and of course it went into drama. However, no remorse form her part at all. Several first days were absolutely freezing from her, then we agreed not discuss that shit at the moment.
Now we left for 3 weeks to US on planned vacation. I want to play it cool and get to know what the hell is going on, whether I get you back and most importantly whether I should even try to get her back.
LTR is very feminine gal, loves passionate/rough/bondaxe sex and beogn submissive, loves her family and in general is very social and energetic.
Now she is acting sometimes very nice and supportive, (eg we were drinking vine and watching old vids from our previous holiday and had much fun) and sometime affully bitchi. Bitch testing all the timi. She now deliberately mention hers lover in different matter without any remourse. For my question why is she mentchoning, she answered if It even bothers me and if I plan to make a drama.
She also randomly menasions some of my faux pas, petite fails etc (somehow passively mocking me).
Of course, there are no apologies for what happened, no "love you" words, no remorse. However, she wants to cuddle, initiatively touches me and brings some bonding topics (our previous holidays, future plans, taking about kids). Also wants me to cuddle her etc where I am hesitant and require to come first.
I am holding my shit, trying to have uppperhand, be dominant and do not fall into any arguments with her.
What is she thininkg? What is she trying to achieve? Might it be a lecture! (when we started dating I v been definiely more perceived as an alpha, social type. Of course, with passing time and you pursuing your mission, this somehow diminished.
Of course I still love that gal but not for cost of being manipulated or even cheated.
How to treat such situation generally to get her back in her feminine position?
Does she playing / manipulating me? Or is this some kind of test?
How to answer her BS questions like when shes purposefully speaks about THE guy and than is surprised that I am asking why she needs to speak about him in front of me and is perplexed it bothers me.
Any ideas would be much appreciated!!
Thx