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So while some might see this as a success I feel like my sticking point right now seems to be after the lay - getting another date organised with a highly in demand girl - In person I seem to be on form but organising anything over the phone I seem to be tripping up for some of their old tricks. I can fill in the texting convo details if anyone likes.
Met this girl vaguely through extended friend circle (which I find is how I meet all my top quality girls) about 4 months ago got her number - with a very light touch attempted to organise a meetup - she was always busy and so I basically forgot about her. Roll around the new year, I see her at the local bar again on not last Friday but the one before and suggest we meet up soon, she seems positive and suggests the next week - I say why not tomorrow! She says ok doesnt seem overly committed so I take it with a pinch of salt again. Next day comes and I text her where and when again a very soft approach seems to be working here - she says she cant be bothered to go that far (its not actually far!) so I just dont reply for a few hours and then just as I am caving to say I dont mind coming to her she caves and says she trusts me that its worth the travel and will come. So very short notice it actually goes ahead - notice how she kept the meeting in "maybe happening" territory until almost an hour before it actually happend.... Interesting no? Test?
So we go out have quite a few drinks - I escalate kino very gradually till i'm teasing and "almost kissing" its fun although she finds some of the deep diving questions "so tell me what you really want from life" a little OTT serious and contrived I think. I suggest we go back to my place for a smoke. Very little resistance, Back to my place I release the tension and we escalate to sex very smoothly and quickly, very little LMR, I find not taking underwear off works wonders - just leave it all on and it hardly gets in the way - as long as you still warm up. The sex is good, she cums, I make her squirt for her first time ever - but I can tell its a little detached - the kisses are a little distant - doesn't feel quite that intimate. Afterwards she is quite quick to want to leave, I convince her to watch a film but sheg is adamant that she doesnt want to sleep over because she doesn't like sharing a bed. We watch the wokf of wallstreet and its a long film and I can tell she is getting tired and seems restless to go - I suggest she stays again but there is resistance. At first she wants to walk back on her own but I tell her I will take her to the bus stop (its about 1am).
On the walk over I ask her about previous relationships and she confides in me with some resistance that she's kinda seeing her most recent ex again and actually feels really guilty and bad about what we just did. I say I hope the best and I wouldnt want to get in the way, she thanks me for walking her afterall and says "you're actually nice - I didnt think you would be" a good way to end the evening, we kiss but its a little cold again (no tongues).
I text her the next mornng to tell her I had a good time, she says "it really was thanks..." Then the next day sunday she texts me again asking for the name of a song she heard at my place but I'm busy and cant find the song so dont reply till thursday. I realise now that I should have made this more of a priority and got back to her sooner to keep the momentum going - big mistake there. So now we are onto this week, I call her on the weekend and suggest we meet on tuesday she says she is too busy revising for exams (which are next monday) but says "I'll let you know".............NOW I'm sure many guys have heard this one before!
What is there to do in the face of such blatant game playing! I just laughed at the time told her that it was lame but basically said she was a dork and ok. She doesnt get back to me..... I call her on the tuesday We have some playful baner she says sorry for not getting back and that she thought that I'd forgotten and that I wanted to not disappoint me! SERIOUSLY! LOL Well I told her that she said she would get back to me adn she didnt - not cool. So I suggest she needs a break from studying at some point, needs food etc - THIS I NOW REALISE WAS A MISTAKE - never try giving logically good reasons for something - in a debate this works but here it sounds almost desperate!
This is exactly how she takes it I think as she says "its just two weeks, I think we can wait two weeks!" So she suggests after her exam on monday, I try to nail her down on a day though and she keeps saying "Maybe" she says she doesnt want to say yes after last time I was "so angry I didnt get back to you" apparently (I wasnt angry - just said it wasnt cool!). So I say its nice to plan a day she says she cant right now - I realise this is becoming another debate so I just try to end the convo as nicely as possible (cant remember specifics - something about being spontaneous and not needing to plan ahead).
So now we have a maybe maybe tuesday planned.... I realise now I should have continued with the very soft approach of no "convincing" more just putting it out there.
I plan to not contact her till the weekend and hopefully see her in the library before next week and sort something out in person since in person we seem to work quite well and last time we bumped into each other there was something there. I just hope the phone convo didnt delete it all.
What should be my plan now assuming I see her soon and she says "maybe" again - been thinking of not trying to plan anything specific just talk about fun stuff to do and the idea of doing it next week...
Met this girl vaguely through extended friend circle (which I find is how I meet all my top quality girls) about 4 months ago got her number - with a very light touch attempted to organise a meetup - she was always busy and so I basically forgot about her. Roll around the new year, I see her at the local bar again on not last Friday but the one before and suggest we meet up soon, she seems positive and suggests the next week - I say why not tomorrow! She says ok doesnt seem overly committed so I take it with a pinch of salt again. Next day comes and I text her where and when again a very soft approach seems to be working here - she says she cant be bothered to go that far (its not actually far!) so I just dont reply for a few hours and then just as I am caving to say I dont mind coming to her she caves and says she trusts me that its worth the travel and will come. So very short notice it actually goes ahead - notice how she kept the meeting in "maybe happening" territory until almost an hour before it actually happend.... Interesting no? Test?
So we go out have quite a few drinks - I escalate kino very gradually till i'm teasing and "almost kissing" its fun although she finds some of the deep diving questions "so tell me what you really want from life" a little OTT serious and contrived I think. I suggest we go back to my place for a smoke. Very little resistance, Back to my place I release the tension and we escalate to sex very smoothly and quickly, very little LMR, I find not taking underwear off works wonders - just leave it all on and it hardly gets in the way - as long as you still warm up. The sex is good, she cums, I make her squirt for her first time ever - but I can tell its a little detached - the kisses are a little distant - doesn't feel quite that intimate. Afterwards she is quite quick to want to leave, I convince her to watch a film but sheg is adamant that she doesnt want to sleep over because she doesn't like sharing a bed. We watch the wokf of wallstreet and its a long film and I can tell she is getting tired and seems restless to go - I suggest she stays again but there is resistance. At first she wants to walk back on her own but I tell her I will take her to the bus stop (its about 1am).
On the walk over I ask her about previous relationships and she confides in me with some resistance that she's kinda seeing her most recent ex again and actually feels really guilty and bad about what we just did. I say I hope the best and I wouldnt want to get in the way, she thanks me for walking her afterall and says "you're actually nice - I didnt think you would be" a good way to end the evening, we kiss but its a little cold again (no tongues).
I text her the next mornng to tell her I had a good time, she says "it really was thanks..." Then the next day sunday she texts me again asking for the name of a song she heard at my place but I'm busy and cant find the song so dont reply till thursday. I realise now that I should have made this more of a priority and got back to her sooner to keep the momentum going - big mistake there. So now we are onto this week, I call her on the weekend and suggest we meet on tuesday she says she is too busy revising for exams (which are next monday) but says "I'll let you know".............NOW I'm sure many guys have heard this one before!
What is there to do in the face of such blatant game playing! I just laughed at the time told her that it was lame but basically said she was a dork and ok. She doesnt get back to me..... I call her on the tuesday We have some playful baner she says sorry for not getting back and that she thought that I'd forgotten and that I wanted to not disappoint me! SERIOUSLY! LOL Well I told her that she said she would get back to me adn she didnt - not cool. So I suggest she needs a break from studying at some point, needs food etc - THIS I NOW REALISE WAS A MISTAKE - never try giving logically good reasons for something - in a debate this works but here it sounds almost desperate!
This is exactly how she takes it I think as she says "its just two weeks, I think we can wait two weeks!" So she suggests after her exam on monday, I try to nail her down on a day though and she keeps saying "Maybe" she says she doesnt want to say yes after last time I was "so angry I didnt get back to you" apparently (I wasnt angry - just said it wasnt cool!). So I say its nice to plan a day she says she cant right now - I realise this is becoming another debate so I just try to end the convo as nicely as possible (cant remember specifics - something about being spontaneous and not needing to plan ahead).
So now we have a maybe maybe tuesday planned.... I realise now I should have continued with the very soft approach of no "convincing" more just putting it out there.
I plan to not contact her till the weekend and hopefully see her in the library before next week and sort something out in person since in person we seem to work quite well and last time we bumped into each other there was something there. I just hope the phone convo didnt delete it all.
What should be my plan now assuming I see her soon and she says "maybe" again - been thinking of not trying to plan anything specific just talk about fun stuff to do and the idea of doing it next week...