FR  17.7.2019 Cynthia

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F: Excuse me, um........I just saw you from over there (point)

HB: yeah

F: and......I think you look really cute

HB: thank you...hahaha

F: where you from, you look like your from China

HB: yeah yeah yeah

F: knee jei dow, gor yui ma?

HB: yes

F: I speak a little

HB: where are you from?

F: where do you think, I'm from?

F: (pause) India or Africa?

HB: You, I think your from Japan

F: you don't think I'm from India?

HB: no haha

F: ok, your, right

F: I was born here but my parents from HK

HB: ah, ok. I have lots of friends from HK

F: really, wow. Why you have so

HB: because I have lived in Shenzhen

F: alright, sure sure. You look very professional. You look like

HB: yeah I just had a meeting

F: are you working in Art, something creative

HB: I'm working in the media industry

F: media industry, like youtube and facebook

HB: yeah facebook

F: Instagram, are you on Instagram? Do you do go like this, click (pretending to take a selfie of myself) and upload on Instagram

HB: yeah all the time haha

F: really, I was joking, your for real, okay

F: did you finish work or something?

HB: yes, I just finished work

F: why are you so pretty

NOTE: good soi

NOTE 2: this created more attraction, the second time time you gave her a statement of intent. I think she is registering what you are doing, whereas before she is still processing. She sees me as a high value man.

HB: no hahaha

NOTE: I moved into her personal space and she didn't back away

HB: don't compliment me (blushing)

F: My name is F by the way, whats your name?

HB: my name is Cynthia

NOTE: I mispronounce her name. I didn't do this on purpose but I should do it to all girls. I remember someone does this but I can't remember why.

F: Cynthia is an American name.

F: it should be Coco or I don't know

both giggle

F: There's a lot of Chinese girls called Coco nowadays

HB: called Cherry, Candy

NOTE: from now on type cast all girls as Cherry, Candy or Coco

F: why is your name Cynthia?

HB: because it means you know

NOTE: It means the Greek Goddess of Moon.

F; oh, do you know what, I feel like a cup of coffee right now

HB: yeah

F; and I want you to join me for about 10 minutes ...........and then........ I have to get going soon

HB: you want to buy me a coffee?

F: yes. i think there is a coffee shop down there. I think there is a pret down there

HB: you work in here

F: yeah yeah yeah

F: I was actually born down here

HB: so you parents are from

F: there not from Africa, i was kidding

HB: but you look like Asian

F: yeah but they are not from Africa

HB: I know haha

F: yeah Hong Kong, remember we are neighbours?

both giggle

HB: sorry

NOTE: this is a good sign. My gut tells me, she is into me and she has forgotten what she said.

+ I move in to kino her arm. She didn't back away which is a good sign. It's like I step in and out. On and off
F: I'm not that good looking am I

F: just kidding, there's a coffee shop down there, lets

+ I start moving my feet in that direction and she follows. This is before she can think. GOOD!!

F: what do you like, cappuccino or latte?

HB: actually i like black coffee

F: you like black coffee, so you like amerciano of filtered coffee

HB: but latte is ok

F: ok, there's a costa down there

HB: I can't drink coffee right now, I can only drink tea

F: okay, lets go to Costa and we have a tea in Costa

+ I put my hand behind her back a couple of times. I should move in closer to the girl when walking side by side. This is very important, This is possible because she let me invade her personal space, which mean I can get close to her side by side. use your gut

F; lets cross the road
+ I put my hand behind her back GOOD!!!

F; so how was your work today?

HB: it's not bad

F; but it doesn't sound good either

HB: no it's good but work is work

F; so how long you been studying for?

HB: studying for?
NOTE: be careful not to make these mistakes. It' important

HB: actually i travel here for a meeting, you know. i will be back in Saturday

F: oh so you came here for travel, is it?

HB: for a meeting

F; so it's a world wide company and asked you to come down here

HB: yeah

F: and you took up the opportunity

Hb: exactly

F: and meet some good looking men

NOTE: good. It's playful and you encouraging her. it's like it's okay, you won't be judged.

HB: haha

F: so did you see any guys you like so far?

HB: no I don't get that opportunity

NOTE: subtext means, she is opened to that opportunity in the right circumstances. It also means she would love to

F: you don't get that opportunity

HB: blah blah city

F: it's a good city

HB: I love here

F: you love the men here, yeah

HB giggles

F: I'm just kidding
NOTE: just releasing the tension which is good. Tension is good but too much can pump up her buying temperature too high.

both giggle

F: why you love here more than China

HB: it's not more than China

F: I tell you what, marry me.......... and you can stay here forever (GRIN)

HB: haha

F: haha I'm just kidding

HB says something

F: no no just kidding

HB: have you married or

F: no no no I'm still single at the moment

HB; sometime British girl

F: so how about you, how many husbands do you have then?

HB: Why you don't ask me how many child I have

F: I think you have 60 or 70 children right now

HB giggles

HB: it's kind of like a soccer team

F: is it, you look like the only one in the family, are you the only one in the family?

HB: yeah

F: why, why your mum and dad not have

HB: they want to have blah blah

F: is it because of the one child policy?

HB: yeah one child policy at that moment, so

F: so are you allowed to have more babies?

HB: yeah

F: brilliant because I love babies, you can have as many as you like, yeah

HB haha

F: can you have 10 or 20?

HB: no no no

both giggle

NOTE: you should have teased her here " you can be my baby, making machine" "We could make one every 9 months, for the next 20 years

F: how long have you travelled in the Uk for, have you been here before?

HB: no this is my first time

F: ah, you're missing out, the men here are very different to the guys in China

NOTE: this is good, your framing yourself different to the other guys in China. This is important for quicker sex. You can tell them a story of being brought up here, and how things happened very quickly for you, and how normal it is. You can tell a story of a British Chinese girl, you fucked really quickly and ended up being with her for a very long time. The best and longest relationships that you ever had, where the most passionate relationships you ever had.

HB: yeah yeah yeah ( she agrees)

HB: yeah they are very humble

HB: they are very different to Americans, Americans are opened

F: you look around 27,28 right?

NOTE: good, take a guess at all girls age

HB: 26

F: 26

HB: the day before yesterday, was my birthday

F: I should have meet you on that day instead

HB: haha yeah and I can get a present

F: and then you can get a really big smile
NOTE: wow, I delivered this with such confidence and it hit really well. I feel like I'm turning her buying temperature up and down, up and down. Slowly but surely. This is 8 minutes in, well done.

+ HB is really loving the interaction and giggles. It's like, she found the perfect man. The problem is, she still lives in China and will be leaving soon. The other problem is she may sleep on it and realise I'm just a stranger and she doesn't want to take a chance.

F: do you like the food in Uk or?

+ I like the way, I'm fractionating the sexual intent and changing topics to build comfort. It's sexual, comfort, sexual, comfort

F: you don't like the food, in Uk

HB: it's not that bad blah blah. there's a lot of countries food in UK

F: I love the food in China though, I have to be honest, it feels more healthier

F: do you like fish and chips in Uk?

HB: I didn't taste them

F: why, why your missing out. Nah just kidding. To be honest it's not that nice, I don't think it's that nice but some people really like it

HB: it's like street food

F: yeah

F: can you cook?

NOTE: brilliant, you're qualifying her lol. When you know, you are doing well, that's the time to qualify. 9 minutes in and you qualifying. Good

HB: I can haha

F: what can you cook

HB: some Chinese food

F: You get one point for that, anytime you do anything I like, you get one point for it.

NOTE NEXT TIME: You get one point for that, If you do something i like, you get one point. If you do something i don't like, you get minus one point for that

F; down here, there is a Costa down there

NOTE FOR NEXT TIME: say Costa Coffee. Girl might not know what Costa is

HB: you work down here

F: basically my dad has properties, i help him manage the properties and do some developments.

HB: ok

+ she stops all of a sudden

F: yeah Costa

HB: I need to stay here and buy something, so I can't stay long

F: how long, 10 minutes or 15 minutes

HB: I don't know

F: lets go for a drink for 10 or 15 minutes or something

HB: I worry my friend would call me

+ I think it's because I took her in an alley way. It's actually a nice big alley way and 95 percent of girls just go through it with no problems. There are restaurants down there but it might of shock her.

+ The same thing happened with this girl and another girl. I think i need to take the long way round, rather than the short way.

F: or some other time?

HB: I think we can, some other time.

F: ah I'm so sad (pretend to be sad)

HB: haha

F: it's all your fought (pretending to be sad)

HB: haha

F: I thought you the one, we got this. Nah I'm just kidding

+ she was confused to, what Costa is. Next time ask all girls if they been to Costa coffee before. Say it's similar to Starbucks but more popular. Especially if she is new to the Uk

+ I explain it to her

+ I take her number

F: is your name Hello Kitty

HB giggles

F: Cynthia

HB: sorry, you name is

F: My name is Jason Momoa

HB: haha

NOTE: I did a lot of self amusement because she was shocked by the alley way, just to pump her state up. She needed it and it was fun for me as well. I needed to game myself

F: my name is F by the way

F: when are you free? do you know

HB: I don't actually

F: you don't know, too busy, too many boyfriends

HB: no haha(in a playful way)

F: too many lovers

HB: no no haha

F: too many children

HB: haha

F: yeah, you seem interesting so, I like your eyes, you look like a cat

HB: haha ok so

F: are you sure, you can't go for a quick cup of coffee

HB: yeah, my friend was calling me, so next time.

NOTE TO SELF: tell all girls, they look like a cat

NOTE: you did well. I like the way your self amusement has become, more sexual and has a bf/gf frame. It's funny but it still sets a tone of how you want to relationship to play out. I'm impressed. I hope i'm able to do this again in the future. the good thing also, I was able to fractionate between sexual stuff and comfort.
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Do you record these interactions? And if so, what device do you use?

JacobPalmer said:

Do you record these interactions? And if so, what device do you use?

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I have been using this for a long time and no one bothered to ask me. you're the first one

1. If you have an old smart phone laying around, you can use that one. My one is a Samsung galaxy fame. You can look around and try and find one, it's small and fits in jeans pocket easily. This phone goes in my left jean pocket. turn off the wifi and data, you don't need it. It's cheaper and better than the proper recording devices because it's easier to use. battery is also rechargeable. My one i can remove the battery

2. buy a lapel mic. You can find it on amazon com. there are lots. read the reviews.

3. buy the white medical tape. the one you can rip easily. Nurse's use it to wrap around bandages to keep it stable. use a small amount and tape it on the chest area. Taping in near the chest area is the key to good recordings. It's near your voice and the girls voice. Place it slightly above and between your nipples. Place it too far up and the girl might see the lapel mic. I put my sunglasses on my shirt once and a girl saw it. When you take the tape off, do it slowly, you don't want any stretch marks

4. (not necessary) You might need to buy a dark colour t shirt in the summer time. If it's a white one, you might see through it. Not all white t shirts you can see through. keep that in mind also
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NOTES: BEFORE I FORGET

+ Try and kiss a girl, on the forehead on the second date or if it's going well before the night finishes. Do the normal kino escalations before the kiss on the forehead. This sets a lover or boyfriend/girlfriend frame for the next date. She has two option's:

1. never to see you again, which is great, you don't have to waste your time.
2. meet on the third date and it's on.

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SOMETHING i WANT YOU TO TRY TO SAY

+ if you see a doorman or a barista

F: This is my pregnant wife. (Turn to her) Nah, I'm just kidding, I'm just kidding

+ try and say nah, "I'm just kidding" before she rejects the frame if possible.

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Day 2

F: Hey, you look nice

HB: you don't have a bag

F: a bag, not today

+ I was carrying a rucksack on day 1

HB: you returned home

+ we start walking and I lead

F: yeah, I didn't know you were coming out today, so

+ sent a text to her and she didn't reply until the last minute.

HB: yeah, i was at the British Museum and walking around

F: yeah walking around and shopping.

NOTE: I was close up to her side by side. GOOD!!! I also put my hand behind her back crossing the road. Excellent!!!

NOTE: I think she flinched a bit but it doesn't matter. I have to practice escalation until I feel comfortable touching girls. This whole month will just be about escalation.

NOTE: I will also practice pushing my lover or bf/gf frame onto girls.

HB: yeah, I brought some tea

F: for me yeah, oh thank you

NOTE: good mis interpretation/ self amusement/ high value frame

both giggle

HB: unfortunately not, sorry

F: oh, you're so evil. Hey, you want to go for a coffee or would you like to go for a drink?

F: up to you, you don't mind do you?

F: we can go for a coffee You look very nice actually

NOTE: good soi

F: you like David Bowie or?

+wearing a David Bowie jumper

HB: who is David Bowie

F: David Bowie, I pointed at her jumper haha

HB: this is my friends jumper

F: Oh, friends jumper

HB: yeah

F: ok ok

HB: I feel cold so

F: haha so you don't know who David Bowie is then?

HB: tell me about him

F: ok, he is a famous singer, he past away and he made some good songs

F: I think he was over 70

HB: is he a popular singer

F: kind of Rock star, kind of thing

F: I though wow, you're a David Bowie fan or something

HB: haha

+ still walking, close to her side by side. She also seems to be staying close to me

F: then, I realise your not

HB: haha

HB: are you

F: no, not David Bowie

F: if i like old music, it would be Frank Sinatra

HB: American or British?

F: British, again I think he past away as well

HB: do you like the lastest stars

F: er, I don't listen to much music but if i had to choose one, it would be Cold play

HB: cold play?

F: you don't like it, do you. Minus one point for that

HB: haha

F: how was work today? did you miss me then? just kidding haha. Nah, how was work?

NOTE: good frame. Well done. Energy has increased as well

NOTE: I like the way, you quickly change topics when you said "did you miss me today" and quickly asked a more serious question

HB: blah blah working at home

F: and you were on Tinder, matching the guys on there

HB: yeah yeah yeah

+ I think she didn't hear me properly

HB: was on the laptop

F: you were on twitter and Instagram

HB: yeah

HB: I waited until my room mates sleeping

F: and you started working is it?

HB: yeah haha

F: why you

HB: because blah blah

F: yeah, sure

F: yeah ,what would you like to do, would you like to go for a drink or?

HB: both is okay

F: ok

F: you going to be my new wife now, number 476

NOTE: good self amusement frame

HB: haha

F: would that be okay, we are going to have 70 or 80 babies, would that be okay with you

HB: no

F: nah, just kidding, just kidding

HB: have you been to China or HK

F: I been to China and Hong kong

F: I actually went to Shenzhen, where you live, around that area because, there is cheaper, if you cross from Hong Kong

F: I used to buy a DVD player, my mum will get a cheap DVD player from China and then I have to bargain with them

HB: this is China town, right?

F: yeah Chinatown

HB: I never been there

F: yeah, I forgot your a tourist, let me show you around

F: would you like to take a picture of PIkachu together. I can help you take a picture of Pikachu and you can put it on Instagram. Say you had a really good time

HB grin

F: no ok haha

F: shall we go down here, lets go for a drink, yeah

NOTE: I love your tonality. It's getting much stronger and deeper.

+ Irish bar doorman checks her ID

NOTE NEXT TIME SAY: This is my pregnant wife

HB: always check my ID

F: your too pretty, draw some wrinkles on your face and then

NOTE: an other cheeky soi

HB

+ music is playing, so I use that as an excuse to touch her and get closer. My right arm is around her shoulder. I whisper in her ear

F: what would you like to drink
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+ music is playing, so I use that as an excuse to touch her and get closer. My right arm is around her shoulder. I whisper in her ear. My body is leaning towards her side by side.

+ Remember always get your body near a girls body, side by side if you can. This gives you an excuse to escalate. For some reason, it makes more sense

F: what would you like to drink

HB: what you getting

F: I probably get a Guinness

hb no answer

+ I get a Carling and a Guinness. I get a half so it works out much cheaper lol

HB tries and get money out

F: the next one you pay, it's fine.

HB: thank you

F: are you old enough, to drink alcohol

+ She is 26, just teasing

HB: haha they allow me in

F: you got fake ID then? where did you get the fake ID?

HB; haha

F: I take the drinks and lead

+ this is good, I'm trying to find a position to escalate

NOTE: I found an area, where we stand. This is good for escalation, I found. I feel it's better than sitting for escalation. It helped that the chair and tables where all taken.

F: did you not go home or did you just come here

HB: laptop in hotel

F: how come you have a bag, is it good (pointing at the beer)

HB: yes, thank you

F: you need to drink more alcohol, to be more prettier because it gives you more collagen

HB: hahaha

NOTE: she laughs, I move in and touch her arm and release. I release before she rejects me. ( I believe it last around 2 seconds) ( 2 seconds is all you need)

NOTE: I get closer to her every time, she giggles. GOOD!!!

NOTE: experiment with stepping back and stepping forward. This is to create ON and Off

NOTE: when a girl giggles or is in a good mood, that's the best time to escalate and release. 2 steps forward and 1 step back

HB: it makes your cheek red

F: then you don't have to wear make up haha

F: is this your first time at this bar or?

HB: yeah, this place is good

F: it's different to China right?

F: this is a very traditional British pub

HB: so this place has history

F: yeah, I love your American, British, Chinese accent

NOTE: next time you can say " you ear rings, make you look really sexy" and touch her ear

F: what got you interested in social media, Youtube, Facebook

HB: because my Major is blah blah

F: so, how come you don't have a BF? (pause) you're very pretty

NOTE: good question and good SOI

NOTE: I also touched her arm at the same time.

HB: this is my 4 day in Uk, how can I get BF so fast

F: okay that is true haha yeah yeah

F: the company you work in, is it big or small?

HB: it's not big, It's a new startup

F: wow, it's a new startup. Is it about the new technology of the future?

F: most start ups are all about technology. so

HB: (confused) technology?

NOTE: don't talk about the technology of the future in a bar. The music is too loud. Don't assume all startup are about tech because it can confuse the girl.

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HB: (confused) technology?

NOTE: don't talk about the technology of the future in a bar. The music is too loud. Don't assume all startup are about tech because it can confuse the girl.

F: sorry, I'm getting you to think too much, your brain is exploding

F: do you have any tattoos, it looks like you have some tattoos

HB: Do you?

F: I have a Hello Kitty on my bum

HB: haha is that true

F: why you don't believe me?

HB: i want to see now

F: I'm to shy, I can't show you

F: how come you got these nails, stuck to your hands

+ I touch her hands as an excuse GOOD!!! She had fake nails done. She did pull away

HB: yes, some store, they do it

F: I can do it for you

+ I role play while holding her finger tips closing my eyes

F: I can paint it for you like this, get a brush

HB: haha and pulls hand away

F: I can be like Picasso, do you know Picasso?

F: my art work will be so good, when I close my eyes, I do your nails, it be worth a lot of money

HB: so you are Picasso

F: I'm just kidding, do you like museums?

HB: yes

F: where have you been?

HB: Yes, I been, I love museums

F: if you been, I take you, if you haven't been, I can't take you

HB: just British museum

F: did you go to the one in South Ken?

F: they have a dinosaur museum, natural history museum

HB: That's the one, I want to go to tomorrow

F: are you free tomorrow or something?

HB: yeah

F: maybe we can do something, i don't know

HB: but don't you have to work?

F: because my work is quite flexible, basically I use to work in property management. I use to work for a company called Ellis and Co. I now help my dad. Do development and rental.

NOTE: you can shorten this up because she didn't ask you what you do for a living. She assumed you had to work.I believe you told her anyway. A better response is: "nah, i don't have to work, it's quite flexible".

HB: blah

F: your ear rings look like a solar system

NOTE: you could have said, you ear rings make you look very sexy instead. Missed a chance to soi her

F: it looks like a planet

HB: planet

F: planet Mobo

F: have you seen the Avengers? Have you seen a super hero movie?

F: Iron Man, Thor, Captain America?

HB: you mean Avenger, okay

F: you were asking me something, I can't remember now

HB: can't remember

F: you said I was good looking or something

both giggle

F: am i a little bit different to the men, you know in China

HB: yeah because they don't say you are pretty, the first time

F: so you ex boyfriend, doesn't tell you, wow you look so pretty

HB: yes my ex will tell me but not the one I met, first time

HB: we talk for months before

NOTE: maybe it's true or she is throwing a frame at me. She is trying to slow me down.

HB: the boys in China are not open

F: can I see you hand, go like this

NOTE: good palm reading

F: I want to see how many ex boyfriends you have

HB: no (closes hand)

HB: let me see yours first

F: yeah why not

F: this side

HB: why this side

F: the left one is the boy

HB: I have secret in my hand

NOTE: a little tease

F: yes, i want to know what it is?

HB: nervious

F: ahh so you have a secret

+ she allows me to palm read

F: so this is the love line, this tells me how many bfs you have

HB: just one hahaha

F: I can't see really (in a dark bar)

HB: 1.2.3.4

F: wow you had a lot of ex boyfriends

HB: no (strong no)

F: bfs or husbands

+looks mad at me and slowly smiles

F: maybe in the future

HB: 4
+ she gave the number away lol I carry on the cold read

F: actually to be honest you have 2 main ones, that's you life line

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HB: four

+ she gave the number away lol I carry on the cold read

F: actually to be honest you have 2 main ones, that's you life line

F: lets me see, it's not very deep

F: I think maybe in the future, it will deepen as you life, will change over time

F: go like this, you will have one child

HB: no two

F: where? oh yeah, two, how did you know?

HB: can i see yours?

F: yeah

HB: you will have, how many children?

+ She asked me how to read the hand

HB: you have what, 6 marriage?

F: yeah, 6 ex. Not marriage, are you trying to be funny now

HB: haha

F: you naughty girls

+ good frame

HB: you going to have 6 or already?

F: I already had 6. I started when I was 14. I dated a girl at 14

F: I think I was this height

HB: haha

F: girls just seem to like me, for some reason

NOTE: good DHV. If a girl ask me how many girls I dated. Just say 6 and you started at 14. Girls just seem to like you

HB: so they are British girl or?

F: yes, the girl i dated was British

NOTE: good DHV

HB: all are British

F: no, most of them were Chinese but one of them was a British Chinese

HB: where did you meet them?

F: maybe from work or friends, something like that

NOTE: don't say maybe. From work and friends sounds a lot stronger

F: I think one of them, was from a party, yeah

HB: blah blha

F: I pretend to be her ( I had 10, just about 10, that's it )

+ I grab her hand

F; why you have long nails like this because it's very hard to type

HB: I don't play piano

F: okay, do you have any on your toes

+ you can make an excuse to touch a girls hand by saying, you look like you have piano hands. Do you play the piano?

HB: no never

F: I'm think if you did, it would be Hello Kitty or something

F: do you wear glasses, you don't do you?

HB: no

F: you naturally have big eyes, like a cat

HB: haha do you like British girls

F: it's all about personality right?

F: I don't mind as long as the personality is good

HB: what kind of personality is good

+ She is throwing a whole bunch of test at me. I just tell her how I really think

F: I don't know, as long as we get along, we understand it each other, then I believe it would work. As long as we are both happy

NOTE: this is good .

F: I think it's always a girl that chooses, it's always the girl that makes the choice

HB: ok

F: it's not my decision, it's up to the girl

NOTE: don't say this. Don't say it's the girls choice. Your giving your power away. If you think like that, she can put you in the provider box. You want to enter into the lover box first. make it seem you have an abundance of girls and you turned them away because you were in a relationship. The story of you being 14 and girls just seem to like you, is a good story

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F: I think it's always a girl that chooses, it's always the girl that makes the choice

HB: ok

F: it's not my decision, it's up to the girl

F: do you miss your mum and dad?

NOTE: instead of saying, do you miss your mum and dad. Just say you look like a daddies girl.

HB: they miss me a lot, they fight me every day

F: don't leave, I love you. Stay here with mum and dad

HB: haha

F: why is your hand so small

NOTE: I try for the compliance test but she won't open her fingers. She quickly moves her hands away

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NOTE: Next time baby step everything:

+ why you hands so small

+ show me you hands for a sec (move your hand to demo)

+ go like this ( spread my own fingers for her to copy)

+ place you hand on top of her hand and move you finger through hers, and see if she moves hers into yours.

+ if she does then, kiss her cheek or forehead. You can go for the mouth if she is a tourist that isn't staying for long. Remember if you go for the mouth, remember to say "this is crazy"

NOTE: best thing to say is "OMG this is just so crazy"

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F: tiny hands

F: baby hands

HB: I miss them

F: you miss them, yeah

F: but you like your freedom more

HB: yeah, I don't spend with my parents since I was in school

F: why did you decide to come to Uk, do you like Uk or?

HB: just for business

F: wah ming by

HB: Can you speak Cantonese?

F: Eeee den den. I can speak Cantonese fluently

F: My Mandarin, I can speak a little bit

HB: when will you travel to China? How many times?

F: I went to China, a year and a half ago

F: I went to Shanghai and went to Canton

F: in Shanghai, there is too much pollution. I like Shanghai more but then I went to Canton and it was also good as well.

HB: will you go to there in the near future

NOTE: she wants me to go there and visit her

F: yeah, maybe, yeah

F: where about do you live, in Shenzhen?

F: can you cross to Hong Kong?

HB: yeah I have HK id card

F: why you so lucky

HB: because I study there

F: I don't have a Chinese ID, I wish i had a Chinese id

HB: you can get a house in China, you can get one

WHAT YOU CAN SAY FOR NEXT TIME: If I buy a house, would you come and stay with me? (bf/gf frame)

+ my gut feeling tells me, she has put me in the provider box. maybe something I said or something I have communicated has done that. I need to go over some pickup materials. I have to communicate the lover frame. She also, is not so receptive to my kino but I can tell, she likes me. She is still smiling and enjoying the interaction. I guess most girls will try and put the guy in the provider box

F: do you think, it's a good investment

HB: yes in Shenzhen or Shanghi

F: It;s quite expensive

HB: most people become rich because they own many houses

F: so are you rich, you look like er

+ nice frame

F: you look like a rich woman, rich entrepreneur. Just kidding

F: I like your pink bag

HB: it's cute

F: yeah, like Hello kitty, like a student

HB

F: so do you normally dress up like a student

HB: blah blah

F: Did you do any site seeing, like River Thames, Greenwich, Primrose Hill. Have you been to these places?

HB: no

F: why not

HB: i don't have time. I don't, the place you mention. Is it busy

F: yeah, with Primrose Hill, you can see the whole of London. From Primrose Hill, you can see london Eye. you can see the Shad, BT Tower, St pauls Cathedral. You can see the whole of London

HB: I been to Westminster

F: yeah, that's good as well

F: Big Ben

HB: I want to go to Cambridge someday

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HB: I want to go to Cambridge someday

F: Cambridge is like Hyde park but bigger

HB: I went Hyde Park, last night

F: really

F: how long are you staying in UK for?

HB: I will leave this Saturday

F: this Saturday, why? Stay here. Tell your boss you met a good looking handsome guy and get to know him

HB: haha maybe next time, I will come back

F: ok, so you day off. Is it tomorrow?

F: what is your plan for tomorrow?

HB: I want to go to the Natural History Museum

+ she googles to show me as i looked confused

NOTE: I move in closer to her on purpose, where my shoulder is touching her shoulder side by side. I'm kind of one third hugging her This is GOOD!!! WELL DONE!! Always move your body as close as you can to a girl. This is perfect because your trying to look at her phone and in this situation, it makes perfect sense

F: This is the South ken one, are you going there tomorrow or?

HB: yeah tomorrow

F: you look like a dinosaur

HB: is that a good thing or not

F: that's good. A lot of people will be scared of you and they will run away. It's not a bad thing

HB: blah. Do you have a place for recommendation?

F: if you want. I can take you to Primrose hill

F: I can take you to see the whole of London

HB: how to spell?
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NOTE FOR NEXT TIME

+ You can write on her hand

F: give me your hand, open it (and start writing Primrose Hill)

or you can:

+ write on her back

F: don't move, come here ( grab both her shoulders and position her correctly) ( write on her back)

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NOTE FOR NEXT TIME

If you mention tattoos. You can write on her arm

F: You can get a tattoo here (GRAB HER ARM) (start writing) Fearless forever. You're parents will love it
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F: yes, you can see the whole view of London. It's very beautiful

HB: blah

F: it's very high up. It's basically like a mountain. It's very high

NOTE: I think it's better to take her to Camden Town, somewhere cool than romantic. Camden Town is more lover frame. Primrose hill is more romantic. It doesn't matter, they are both good places. Bf/gf or lover frame is still good in Primrose Hill

HB: my hotel is here

NOTE: this is good, she trust you.

F: can you see the pictures

+ on her smartphone looking at pictures of Primrose Hill and the views

HB: so your work is very flexible

F: tomorrow is my day off, so yeah. Nothing much to do, so I can show you around

NOTE: never say you have nothing much to do. it's low value and you could end up in the provider box.

HB: yeah if i have time

F: what time are you, where do you want to go tomorrow then?

HB: I have a meeting tomorrow morning so, maybe 12 o clock

F: so maybe 12 o clock we can go primrose Hill. Where would you like to go?

F: or do you want to go to the Natural History Museum

HB: yeah, museum

F: yeah we can go to the museum, sounds good

HB: and

F: knee jung der chung ming. why some more knee jung der chung ming

Hb giggles

F: can you speak Cantonese, say something

HB: ley sern or gone dick meir

F: waah, ding guy lay done duck ho ho

HB: haha

F: that's crazy, that is so fluent

HB: haha

NOTE: Use the word crazy as much as you can

F: that means your Cantonese is better than mine. because I don't know how to write Chinese. I can only speak Cantonese

HB: your parents speak Cantonese

F: yeah yeah yeah. Basically my grandma, when i was younger spoke to me in Cantonese. Eventually we learnt to speak Cantonese

Hb; you parents speak to you in English

F: no, my parents speak to me in Cantonese

F: I'm surprised, are you from Canton? where are you from?

HB: I born in North China

F: not Africa

HB: haha. I came to Canton when i was 10 years old. (Canton is slang for Guangzhou)

F: i like Canton. I like the food. it's good

F: lay sick em sick juw yeah seck. Yui gor or hui Jung kwok, ley jui mear bay or seck?

F: I'm just kidding

F: can you make chicken? rice? fish?

HB; what kind of chicken? fried

F: Like healthy boiled chicken

F: like ginger and spring onion or something

HB; yeah, I think I could cook that

NOTE: I feel she likes me but she knows how not to jump into my hoops. She is delaying the escalation. maybe that or she doesn't like to cook. I feel she is experience in delaying the lay with all the other previous boyfriends. I think I'm not coming across as sexual to her, as I want myself to be. I feel my game will hone in over time.

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HB; yeah, I think I could cook that

F: wow, i can't believe it, your smart, intelligent and you can cook

HB: can you cook?

+ throwing the same frame me lol. I think she wants a fair equal relationship

F: I can cook but not that well. Spaghetti. I can do Chinese as well

F: i can to steam fish with soya sauce. The chicken would have to be ginger and spring onion. I can do garlic stir fry vegetables. I can do pasta

HB: yeah, i can do paste too

F: how come you can do pasta

HB: it's the first meal i cooked

F: in university

NOTE: I feel like, I'm cutting her off a bit. I need to start reading men are from mars again to build deep comfort. Maybe give it an other 2 weeks of sarging, once I get kino down

HB: My first try was pasta. i learn from TV

F: wow, maybe you can go on TV and teach people to cook

HB hahaha

F: your good at social media, you can set up a you-tube channel. teaching people how to cook

HB: no no no there are many you tuber than do that already and teach people to do make up

F: can you teach me how to make up

HB: yeah haha if you want

F: I like the way you were thinking. You were like (eyes rolling)

Both giggle

F: do you know Korean men, they put make up on

NOTE: don't talk about Korean men and make up. it won't help you get laid

F: so what do you do for fun, apart from chatting up good looking guys

HB: haha actually I don't chat up men

F: I know but I like your reaction, it's very funny

F: I like the way you are so serious

hb giggles

HB: maybe yeah, chatting up men haha

F: so what do you say, when you are chatting up these guys

HB: haha everything

F: pretend I'm one of the guys you are chatting up. What would you say to me

HB: um, yeah

NOTE: you should tickle her for being so naughty. Tickling is a good technique to start kinoing more

F: um, yeah. is that what you say

HB: blah blah

F: your very good at chatting me up. Good job. Two points for that

NOTE: very good role reversal.

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NOTE: you can always say:

F: do you always chat up guys like this

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HB: rich people don't get a dog

F: I think it depends, if you are working all the time. it's quite hard

F; do you have dogs?

HB: my parents have a dog

F: my grandpa has a dog. It's a big one

HB: it's not like America, most families owns a dog

F: have you been to America then, why you know so much about America?

HB: blah blah

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+ I like travelling as well.

+ I went to Madrid

+ I went to Prague

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HB: did you meet some girls?

F: no

HB: liar

F: you so naughty

NOTE: next time ask "are you a naughty girl"

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HB: for business

F: just for fun because when you are in the UK. it's very cheap to go to Europe

F: it only cost me £120 for 4 days

F: I prefer maybe Vietnam, Thailand or China. Because the food is right for me

F; because it's so cheap, i had to go

F: you should stay here, so we can travel together

HB: haha

F: we can go to Prague, Spain. It would be fun

NOTE: the together frame is very good. You're also painting a picture in her mind, of what's it like to be with you

F: Ask your boss to transfer you here

HB: yeah, I want to

NOTE: this is a big ioi. I missed it lol.

NOTE: your game is weak at the moment. You should ask her if she could be your gf. If yes, you can hold her hand, cuddle her and later kiss her. She is leaving soon and this can improve your inner game. The iois for the girl is there but she is resisting. You kind of missed you chance

F: and we can put a Hello kitty tattoo here

HB: no

F; or we can put my name on your arm

F: I love Fearless forever

NOTE: good excuse to kino

HB haha

+ I look around me.

F: it's quite interesting with all this decor and stuff

HB: yeah

F: this is a historic pub. it's over 300 years old. On the outside, they have to make sure, you don't change it

F; part of it they can change and parts of it they can't change

F: I call you Bowie forever

HB: Bowie?

F: David Bowie. That's you new name

HB: ok

F: where have you travelled to already then?

HB: Germany, most South Asia countries

F: you have to take me, to all the South Asia countries

HB: yeah

F: I love the food there

F: I don't know why, the food is so right for me

NOTE: I'm chatting about the same topics again. I'm not sure why I do that. I feel my inner game hasn't caught up with my outer game. it's like there is so much good pickup products out there, that helps you with your game. I'm getting much much better results but still feel like a fraud. I'm just waiting for the click moment happen, where I become the choose one. The core confidence, unstifling and being centred hasn't happened yet. Without that, i might not get laid. Girls can see that in the eye pupils. I do have to work more on my kino more, that's also my weakness

F: i feel British food it a bit unhealthy. Better if you cook for me

HB: you should come to China

F: Do you have a kitchen in your accommodation?

NOTE: good question, you are seeding the future of her cooking for you. Well done!!!

F: you don't cook ( saw in her reaction) (Maybe I should have paused and got her to make something up, at least she would jump through a hoop)

F: I can imagine you, steamed rice, steamed fish.

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YOU CAN ASK: Are you good at giving massages? You can give me one, you can work my shoulders

NOTE: you can make an excuse and give her a quick massage. It' can strengthen your inner game over time.

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HB: my room mates cook and I eat

F: Your like, you do it, I don't want to do anything. my nails are very pretty

HB: haha

F: I don't want to get my nails dirty, so

HB: haha sometimes I cook

F: but how, your nails, its going to get damaged

HB: I will protect them

F: how with gloves

HB: this place is very nice

HB: I feel sleepy

F: don't worry, you can sleep here for half an hour and I wake you up

HB: haha

+ I go toilet

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NOTE: I feel like i'm not moving the interaction forward.

NEXT TIME: If she says, she lives in an area.
F: that's crazy, my friend also lives in that area

+ when the hb wants to leave, you can drop her home

F: I going to that area as well, I'm going to visit my friend.

+ at the station

F: let me drop you off first

+ near her house

F: I need to use the bathroom

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F: too many bf's

HB: I feel so sleepy

F: really, do you want a coffee or

HB: haha no, I want to sleep. maybe I see you tomorrow or some other time

F: maybe I see you tomorrow or Leicester Square?

HB: yes, I will contact you tomorrow and let you know. I can't promise, i finish at 12

F: yeah yeah yeah maybe 2 o'clock or 3 o'clock. Something like that

HB: if things go to plan

F: Just text me and see what happens. If your busy, I understand

HB: yes, thank you

HB: I also have to buy my friends something

F: so you need to buy some presents and take it with you

HB: i have a mission


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NOTE: if a girls state is pumped high. You can say:

F: ahhh you so cute, come here (and go for a hug)

NOTE ALSO: try and hug girls even if they are not into you. Try and get used to touching them

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F: you need to eat more, your too skinny ( touch her arm )
GOOD!!!

NOTE: you need to pinch all girls arm and saying your really skinny, like a trig.

HB: I do and have a lot of weight

F: wow, you cover it really well

HB; haha

F: you want to finish this or?

HB: no

+ I finish her beer

F: your a light weight, you can't drink a lot

HB: blah blah

F: i need to gain weight, I need to drink more alcohol

HB: because you eat less

F: I don't know, I also been thin through out my whole life. I feel I look better, with a bit of weight

F: i need someone, who works in media, around 26, cook for me, help me put more weight on

HB

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F: what kind of music do you like? do you like movies by the way?

HB: I like fiction, like aliens or ET

F: Are you an alien, men in Black

HB: yeah

F: I can take your head off and I will see a little rabbit or something

F: do you like Super Hero movies, like Iron man, Captain America, Spiderman

HB: yeah

F: really, you my kind of girl, I can marry you

NOTE: you could do the marriage routine here

F: I love Super Hero movies

HB: yeah, it's so cool

+ she couldn't hear me

NOTE: When a girl can not hear you. It's the best time to write on her palm. Best excuse ever

HB: shall we go

F: ok, lets go

+ head out of the pub

F; which station, you want to go?

F: or you want to walk home, to lazy, you don't want to walk

HB: haha

F: I don't know why, i like teasing you

HB: you don't always like this, the way you talk to me is the way you talk to others

F: ah, no. i don't talk to my guy friends like this. Haha

F: No no no, a lot of people like my personality but I don't chat to ...........ANY GIRL............. like this.

HB: sure

+ i'm walking close to her side by side

F: which way are you going to, I drop you off at the subway

HB: Yeah, I know how to

+ implying I don't have to take her home. She doesn't want me to try and sleep with her

F: why are you so smart?

+ traffic light turns green

F: careful

+ I grab her wrist and lead her past the traffic light. I released her wrist, after we cross the road

NOTE: Well done

+ into the underground (subway)

F: what I love about the underground in America, is you can access the internet all the time. Only when you come out of the underground, can you access the internet

HB: I don't have my olster card so now I have to buy a card

F: it's okay, you can jump it. You can jump it so you don't have to pay

HB; haha I forgot my

F: haha how come you forgot you oyster card haha

+ she asked for my help at the oyster card machine

F: which one? you want to pay by cash or card?

+ we jump on the underground. I take her to st johns Wood. I didn't come out of the barrier because it's cheaper for me not to. i can tell she wasn't going to sleep with me. I would also like the reference experience for tomorrow as well, if i could get it

F: wow, your really tall.
+ I put my hand on her head (GOOD!!!)

F: are you the tallest in the company

HB: of course not

F: yes your friend is, like the panda

HB: haha you can't say this haha

F: haha just kidding, your right I shouldn't say that, don't tell her, it's my secret between me and you

F: ok, this one ( point)

+ great leading

F: I do like the way you dress, your shoes match your jumper ( they are both white colour), even if the jumper is not yours

F: haha you still have style


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NOTE: you might want to practice an opinion opener, somewhere in the interaction. Next time you can use one if a girl acted badly on a direct opener. Go direct first and if she backs away. Chuck and opinion opener at her. The girl has heard you already but pretended not to, so you can chuck one at her asap. 5 minutes in if she is laughing at your self amusement frame, give her an soi.

In an interaction, remember to use the opinion opener. if she is not attracted, it's an even better time to practice. You don't need to say it word for word. Just be interest in the general topic. It's better, if you can modify it and make it simple and short


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F: your very tall, I wonder what you look like, when you wear high heals

NOTE: this is good, your giving her an ioi

HB: my mum is tall

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F: your very tall, I wonder what you look like, when you wear high heals

NOTE: this is good, your giving her an ioi

HB: my mum is tall

+ I noticed her arm a bit scratched up

F: oh, what happened here?

HB: my cat scratched me :/

+ again i used it as an excuse to kino

NOTE: I think my next stage of development is not to speak. I believe the answers would be in the Men from mars book. It's like, i'm talking and talking and not comfortable with NOT SPEAKING. High value guys are comfortable with not speaking. I remember boyfriend/ girlfriends do not speak all the time. They are comfortable with each others company even in silence. I can not seem to do that.

Sticking points will be:

1. kino
2. Men are from Mars
3. Letting the girls know, i like them and I'm not hiding my sexual desire (there is a dvd daygame course for this, I need to go over it again)

+ to be fair, I did get to the point, i didn't want to talk any more. I think I was a bit tired lol.

F: do you like roller coasters?

NOTE: funfair is a very good topic, to talk about. You emotions are up and down. You have to be adventurous to like it.

HB: yeah

F: one day, I will tie a rope around your leg and we go to london Bridge

HB: haha

F: haha then you can bungee jump

HB: haha

F: is that okay? I'm just kidding

+ I believe I tried to give her a hug but she rejected it

NOTE: this is still good because you tried and she respected you for that. Even if a girl never see you again and you tried to kino, the girl will ALWAYS RESPECT you for it. It's like you did your job as a man

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+ I wasn't sure if there was going to be a day 3, so I decided to have lunch in my area and might write some field reports. She said she would meet me at 12 but it was already 2 o clock, I wasn't really bothered to be honest. FRs is where the real learning curve is. If girls DON'T WANT TO meet up with me or text me back. I don't really care. I can start working on my FRs or just go out sarging.

I only send one text, if a girl doesn't reply back, I won't even bother. My text is always about meeting for coffee. If she ask me a question, I reply with very short answers and push for the coffee. Or i might say when are you back from holiday? I will text you back in 2 weeks time. Enjoy your holiday and follow up in 2 weeks. I won't waste energy on replying to girls.

Even though she said she would meet me but I wasn't sure because she is LEAVING Uk soon. A lot girls some times won't meet up with you because of this. I was already prepared.

+ I thought it was over but she text back at 2 o clock. I told her it will take me two hours to get there as I was eating. She was okay with it. it was annoying how i wasn't sure if she wanted to meet me or not. This happened on day 2 also which is very annoying.

+ we meet near Knight bridge and she was standing outside Zara. I scare her lol. Which was good

+ HB back was towards me

F: Hey

HB: AHHH!!!

F: I'm just kidding lol

HB: chatting on the phone

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NOTE: IMPORTANT

DO NOT HAVE LUNCH OR DINNER WITH GIRLS. ALWAYS EAT ALONE!!!!


+ As I got older, i make a lot more money than when I was young. It doesn't impact me to spend a bit more than usual. When you make a bit more money, you develop bad habits of treating people to dinner or lunch. I spend money on mum and this is fine obviously lol . The money you spend on girls you never see again is a problem. You don't know them and it doesn't matter if they are a good person, it makes you wallet lighter and it also puts you in the provider role. If you can, go 60/40 then that is better. I don't mind putting up 60 percent.

+ The best thing is just NOT TO GO for dinner or lunch, just eat alone. If you are friends, then that is fine. you pay for yours and she pays for her's. If she insist on dinner, just don't do it. Even if it means NO reference experience. Even if she could have fucked you because anything can happen. There are girls out there that will try and get free dinners. You need to avoid this. If a girl doesn't want coffee with you and only want dinner. It means the girl is not that interested or have the mindset men should pay for everything. DO NOT EVEN TAKE THIS CHANCE, even if it's not the case.



+ I made a mistake of taking THIS GIRL to Pizza Express even though I know I would never see her again. Yes the date went well but she is going back to China. I don't intend to visit her. In my mind I was going to go for 60/40. I had this all mapped out when I was in Pizza express. I even suggest to go for food, so it wasn't her faught. She even suggested McDonald, it truely wasn't her faught. I wanted to eat something better.

+ What is worst is that, she said "i could go home and she wants to go shopping". I should have took her up on the offer and then sneak into a restaurant. If she found out, then she found out. No big deal.

When the bill came, I just automatic said yes "it's okay, don't worry about it" I DON'T KNOW WHAT CAME OVER ME. I had it all planed as well lol

IMPORTANT, PLEASE NOTE: I believe it's in the book INFLUENCE, where i want to show her that I'm consistent with what I am projecting. I want to be congruent. That was my downfall. i believe that was why I brought her dinner. I don't see myself as a bad person.

+ the best rule is the no dinner or lunch rule

+ it wasn't a lot of money but still extra money for gaming. Save your money and treat you parents if you have to


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THE ONLY TIME TO BREAK THIS RULE

+ when you gut feeling says, she will fuck you. Holding hands, kissing her check, hugging her. When you know there is a deep connection. She is living in Uk long term and see's you again on the third date (Obviously the shorter the date, the better)

If the above happens and she disappears, this fine. In life you have to take a lost. THIS LOST is worth taking.

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