Cafe Chronicles

Cafe Chronicles

Postby readjusting » Sat Apr 13, 2019 3:38 am

After discovering many types of venues, I realized that cafes suit me best, because of these advantages:
- Relatively high quality of girls
- It has the type of girls I want (intellectual, conservative, no tattoo/piercings/dyed)
- Numerous venues. I knew about 30 cafes in my cities, if I screw up in one there will be others
- I can work on something else

It has 2 weaknesses:
- Low influx of girls
- Small places, so impact of rejection is greater

Thus, by specializing in cafes I can build a process, that I can get girls over and over and over.

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Re: Cafe Chronicles

Postby readjusting » Sun Apr 14, 2019 6:03 am

Saturday, 11:30 pm, tea shop.

A girl came next to my table.
I waved my hands at her. She made a weird facial expression (duck face?)
Anyways, I waited 30 seconds, then opening. I held out my drink, saying "cheers," she cheered her drink with mine.

First 30 seconds was small talk (what's your name, where're you from). Then I complimented her shirts. She said she got her shirt at a men's shop. Then for 3 minutes I talked about random things, like my rings. She started asking me questions (hook point).

I focused on the fundamentals:
- Voice: In my room, my voice was deep and sweet. Unfortunately, 3 minutes in the conversation and my voice regressed
- Body language: I forgot where my hands were, and where my feet were. Leaning in or leaning out?
- Facial expression: I wasn't aware
- Eye contact: Probably good? I look between her eyes

Anyways, I asked for a date and got the number. This is the power of focus.
I used to meet girls at a lot of places, but most of the interactions were shallow, and occasionally I got lucky. Thus by focusing on getting good at just one type of venue:
- If I fail, it's because of my fundamentals, not the venue.
- "I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times"
- Game become simpler, so I can focus on the fundamentals

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Re: Cafe Chronicles

Postby readjusting » Sat May 11, 2019 5:50 pm

Mixed group, 2 girls 1 guy.
When I walked in the coffee shop, the blonde girl looked at me.
I didn’t approach right away.

Building social proof:
I went in line, chatting with a old lady behind me.
Then chatting with the staff, we vibed with each other a bit.

“Nice guy” vs “Player”:
Whether to dress like an obvious player, or something low key?
I think the former. The reason is this: If I was dressing low key, when I chatting with people I would have a “nice guy” reputation. Approaching girls would make me incongruent.
On the other hand, if I dressed like a player, but I’m pro-social and chatting with people, then I’ll have a “good player” reputation. When I approached as long as I did it confidently even if I got shot down that reputation remained.

The approach:
Then while waiting for my drink, I approached the group.
I waved my hands at the girl.
Delivering the direct opener.
(Note: If it’s close, then indirect, far it must be direct).
Introduction, exchanging name.

First 30 seconds:
Small talk.
There must be a teasing/chick crack in there.
Teasing, she didn’t understand. Her friend helped me a bit (because she saw 2 instances of social proof before).
Me: You lived here your whole life, probably
Her: Yeah
Me: You must know all the secret places
Her: I don’t hear it
(Maybe my voice was too small. Need to be louder).
Her friend: He said “secret places”
Me (rewarding the friend): See, your friend have good ears
Then I interacted with her friend a bit.
Back to her, I did some small talk, and asked if I can sit down (transition to locking in phase).
Her: We’re doing homework
Me: That’s fine
Her friend: Sorry, have a good day

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