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Hello forum,
New to this, but I have gotten myself in a sticky situation for which I take full responsibility. Thought some input would give me better insight.
First let me tell you a bit about myself. My emotional & sex life has always been problematic; it has always been put on hold for demanding studies, family problems, and other personal stuff. Compared to my friends I was always behind on this kind of stuff. I'm in my late 20s and have only managed to sleep with 4 women and just had a 2 year relationship. Out of those, 2 ended in her cheating: the first but I was completely aloof; and the 2year one where I was too focused on other matters to see what was happening. I have learned a lot from those but now I feel i'm at a point where all I want is sleep around.
The problem is that at the beginning of this year I became involved with this girl (let's call her Abroad). It clicked immediately, spent a fabulous weekend together. Unfortunately, Abroad lives, well, abroad though we should see each other shortly. As she went back I started dating this other local girl (let's call her Local); really not the type I'm used to and that's what got my interest. Thing is, Abroad and I kept on talking during that same period of time and I found myself trying to manage two expectations. In any case, it ended up in me letting Local go and telling Abroad I want to try to make things work until she comes back so we could talk about it seriously in person. (I hadn't read the long-distance post on Girlschase at that point...)
And now, I feel like I have done a mistake. The thing is Abroad seems to have had a difficult past that has pushed her to go though her sexual exploration phase much earlier than I. From our conversations, where she would just hint at exes, I just feel she has been around (yet I really don't know how to classify her according to the Past of Women post: curious-cynical-self-assured...). In itself, this bothered me at first: she just seemed so volatile but I've come to realise that --- due to me always putting my emotions and sex in 2nd place--- I feel I might be going through this phase right now, wanting to explore (it's just happening much later than her).
In ccl, I'm faced with this choice
1) Not care about her count, keep going, but surely regretting not exploring this phase.
2) Stop it and go on exploring but lose a potentially great girl.
I know this might sound whiney, but it's something I've been trying to figure out on my own, since teenage-hood, I've never really had a male model in these things as my relation with family males have been somewhat problematic and just focused on my academic achievement.
Would someone please give me their take on this? I'd be very grateful.
Have a nice evening.
New to this, but I have gotten myself in a sticky situation for which I take full responsibility. Thought some input would give me better insight.
First let me tell you a bit about myself. My emotional & sex life has always been problematic; it has always been put on hold for demanding studies, family problems, and other personal stuff. Compared to my friends I was always behind on this kind of stuff. I'm in my late 20s and have only managed to sleep with 4 women and just had a 2 year relationship. Out of those, 2 ended in her cheating: the first but I was completely aloof; and the 2year one where I was too focused on other matters to see what was happening. I have learned a lot from those but now I feel i'm at a point where all I want is sleep around.
The problem is that at the beginning of this year I became involved with this girl (let's call her Abroad). It clicked immediately, spent a fabulous weekend together. Unfortunately, Abroad lives, well, abroad though we should see each other shortly. As she went back I started dating this other local girl (let's call her Local); really not the type I'm used to and that's what got my interest. Thing is, Abroad and I kept on talking during that same period of time and I found myself trying to manage two expectations. In any case, it ended up in me letting Local go and telling Abroad I want to try to make things work until she comes back so we could talk about it seriously in person. (I hadn't read the long-distance post on Girlschase at that point...)
And now, I feel like I have done a mistake. The thing is Abroad seems to have had a difficult past that has pushed her to go though her sexual exploration phase much earlier than I. From our conversations, where she would just hint at exes, I just feel she has been around (yet I really don't know how to classify her according to the Past of Women post: curious-cynical-self-assured...). In itself, this bothered me at first: she just seemed so volatile but I've come to realise that --- due to me always putting my emotions and sex in 2nd place--- I feel I might be going through this phase right now, wanting to explore (it's just happening much later than her).
In ccl, I'm faced with this choice
1) Not care about her count, keep going, but surely regretting not exploring this phase.
2) Stop it and go on exploring but lose a potentially great girl.
I know this might sound whiney, but it's something I've been trying to figure out on my own, since teenage-hood, I've never really had a male model in these things as my relation with family males have been somewhat problematic and just focused on my academic achievement.
Would someone please give me their take on this? I'd be very grateful.
Have a nice evening.