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Hi guys
(Please suggest keeping in my mind I'm serious about this girl and looking for a long term relationship)
So I like this girl who is a junior in my college. I am a guy with not much experience dating but I pursued her hard without coming off as needy and desperate. She was initially really interested in talking and the first one to iniate conversation and my friends sensed that she likes me because of her flirting attitude towards me. Now the problem is that she has a close guy friend who has known her before me and after realizing that I'm a serious threat he upped his game and pursuing her even harder. Both are very close and I'm the guy coming in and being a threat to this guy. Now even if the girl spends more time with her "friend" she keeps me in loop and tries to get back my attention if I push myself away. Now this is confusing me as I can't understand if she is interested in me or playing me or playing both of us or wants me to even go harder after her. Till now I have put in the minimum amount of effort compared to the other guy and still managed to take her out a couple of times even if she hangs out with the other guy all the time.
All these games maybe result of me not being direct enough in my approach or she still might be confused. Its also understandable that she can't ignore her close male friend whom she has known before me. But all these games is sucking the time out of me and I sometimes feel the need to move on to some other girl I like who is showing interest. But I don't want to come off as though I gave up on her even if she is was still interested hence I feel like expressing my interest to her that I want to be with her which will put her at a crossroads in selecting between me and the other guy. Which can go either way. Would be helpful if someone can suggests.
(Please suggest keeping in my mind I'm serious about this girl and looking for a long term relationship)
So I like this girl who is a junior in my college. I am a guy with not much experience dating but I pursued her hard without coming off as needy and desperate. She was initially really interested in talking and the first one to iniate conversation and my friends sensed that she likes me because of her flirting attitude towards me. Now the problem is that she has a close guy friend who has known her before me and after realizing that I'm a serious threat he upped his game and pursuing her even harder. Both are very close and I'm the guy coming in and being a threat to this guy. Now even if the girl spends more time with her "friend" she keeps me in loop and tries to get back my attention if I push myself away. Now this is confusing me as I can't understand if she is interested in me or playing me or playing both of us or wants me to even go harder after her. Till now I have put in the minimum amount of effort compared to the other guy and still managed to take her out a couple of times even if she hangs out with the other guy all the time.
All these games maybe result of me not being direct enough in my approach or she still might be confused. Its also understandable that she can't ignore her close male friend whom she has known before me. But all these games is sucking the time out of me and I sometimes feel the need to move on to some other girl I like who is showing interest. But I don't want to come off as though I gave up on her even if she is was still interested hence I feel like expressing my interest to her that I want to be with her which will put her at a crossroads in selecting between me and the other guy. Which can go either way. Would be helpful if someone can suggests.