The Postgrad Life



Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Wed Jan 16, 2019 1:24 am

LR here: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=19882

I'm really happy and had a great connection with the girl. Didn't do any approaches, don't care. Tomorrow it's back on the approach machine and going to try and meet new girls.

Need to figure out why my dick didn't perform well tonight though. That's something I'll need to investigate. I haven't masturbated in two weeks, but I had been masturbating a lot before the new year. I think porn and that has me out of whack. I'm not going to jack off for a long time as a goal, so my body will just need to adjust.
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Fri Jan 18, 2019 3:59 pm

Did 1 real approach and 2 bad approaches two days ago. And did 5 yesterday. I can still improve on being decisive and going not giving up so quickly.

Firstly, I need to make approaching my default, I’m still pushing myself to do it which means I second guess myself at times when I could be talking to a girl.

I also need to not immediately bounce if a girl gives an excuse for not being with me. Was talking to a French girl yesterday and she said that she had plans, but she was still talking to me, so I shouldn’t have left. The lesson is that I have to keep pushing myself to go for it.

Two girls hooked yesterday which is not as high as I want, but still not too shabby. Meeting girl from Tuesday in a few days so hoping to get something casual set up with her.
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Sat Jan 19, 2019 1:32 am

3 approaches today and one insta-date. So for the first three approaches, I think my vibe was way off. I don't think any of the girls even stopped for me, which was definitely an ouch. I have to be more assertive and dominant when street stopping. The other thing was the first second girl I talked to, I had an instinct that I should do a policeman stop, but I doubted myself and did a run around stop instead. It didn't go well. Next time, I need to pay more attention to my instinct. I think my approach would have gone over much better with a different opening.

The insta-date was a solid spur of the moment, decisive approach. It was also a good use of peripherals. I'm working on becoming a man of action, and the results are already piling up. 2 dates in 1 week, so I have a solid feeling for the future. Set up a date with M (girl from LR) for Monday, and will hopefully see A (insta date girl) on Wednesday. Either way, I have to keep approaching. It's going to be harder since it's starting to get really cold, but I have a good feeling regardless.

FR: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=19896
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Fri Jan 25, 2019 5:11 pm

So it’s been an uneventful week in terms of new girls. Approached 2 girls last Saturday, 5 on Wednesday, and 2 yesterday. The positives are that I was more decisive when I saw a girl I liked, and I approached one of the most beautiful girls I’ve seen yesterday. On the negative side, I’m not approaching as much, which I need to improve. I’m aiming for a goal of 5 a day so I have to do better.
Things to improve: I’m moving too fast through the conversation. I need to slow it down and get to know the girl better before asking her out or going for an insta date. This is a calibration issue, so it’s something I’ll pay attention to as such.

Met one girl for date 2 and had some public mutual masturbation, while the second girl flaked on date 2.

I’m trying to set a FB frame and so hopefully that works. I need to lower my texting and be more disciplined. The good thing is that I’m coming off as highly sexual.
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Sun Feb 03, 2019 6:44 pm

Been pretty bad at approaching recently. But trying to fix it. Yesterday approached 6 people, and got 1 number. Today went out for a bit and approached 1 girl. Girl who gave me her number is responding semi-warmly, so will hopefully set something up.
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Tue Feb 12, 2019 3:02 pm

Don’t really have too many updates. I’ve approached about 7 girls in the last week, which is low and I’m not happy about it. The good news is that I am approaching the girls I really like. However most are happy to meet me but with some bad luck they all seemed to not be single. I need to lower my standards to girls who are attractive but not necessary 10s. Doing this should get me more dates and more experience.

It’s going well with the other girl, and it’s a new experience to be having sex on a regular basis.
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Tue Feb 26, 2019 7:57 pm

So last week I felt really burned out, and I decided to take a week off of approaching to get my desire and interest in meeting girls back. This last weekend I went out both days and had a good time. I approached one girl who I think was waiting on her boyfriend, and then had one girl approach me. She was unattractive but the validation felt good. The next day I went out again and opened a cute girl near a taco truck in the bar. We talked and I think she liked me. I got compliance from her in that I told her to come sit next to me while we ate, which she did. I was talking more, which was not good, but I think it was going well. I told her we should exchange numbers and grab drinks later, and we traded numbers. I went to grab napkins to wipe my hands and during that time her friend came up to her. I came back and sat next to her. Her friend said she was leaving, and I think I should have persisted in having her stay by saying I was enjoying spending time with her.
Either way I texted her and she replied. I texted an ice breaker, then a follow up, to which she responded to, then I sent a scheduler text, which she didn’t respond to. I sent another message two days later asking how her week was going, to which she said that she just got out of a 4 year relationship and isn’t going to be looking to date for a while. I’ll provably try once more by saying that I’m not the type to put a lot of pressure and that we don’t need to have any labels on the date. I think I missed my chance on Saturday, but it felt good getting back out there.

Tried walking around yesterday and today but my approach anxiety is back, even though I feel like my vibe is back to a good place. So I just need to get back into the groove and then should see some results start back up.

Jersey girl is still going, but I think it may be fizzling out, since we haven’t seen each other for a while. But she messaged yday saying she wished she was cuddling with me, so I think it’s still good. So far I’m keeping it pretty good as FBs with texting and seeing each other so hopefully that continues happily.
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Thu Feb 28, 2019 9:47 pm

So approach anxiety and getting stuck in my own head has been responsible for killing my vibe lately. It's something I'm going to need to fix in order to see any improvement. In order to do so, I'm going to have to go back to the basics.

1. Have sex (I'm meeting a girl) and don't cum. Should make me super horny and work to motivate me.
2. Fundamentals
2.1 Focus on smiling all the time
2.2 Always dress well
2.3 Get a haircut
2.4 Restart regularly working out and doing sprints every 2-3 days
2.5 Eat healthy and lose the gut (aim for 1800-2000 calories a day, and start tracking again)
2.6 Cut down non-work/non-date screen time to under an hour a day
3. Routine
3.1 5 girls a day. From tomorrow, I'm not going to allow myself home until midnight, or until I approach 5 girls
3.1.2 Approach the first girl who catches your eye (after exiting residential complex). Expect to be rejected and no matter what, do the approach. If you wuss out, go back and follow and do the approach.
3.2 Going out: Go out on Friday and Saturday night (try going stag on one of those days)
3.3 While out and about: be more social, talk to everyone and anyone, work on deep diving and flirting
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Sat Mar 02, 2019 1:41 pm

Went out yesterday and had one really good conversation. The girl was definitely interested but the main issue was that I should have led. Me and my wing had miscommunication and as a result we let the girls get away. I had suggested we move to a new bar and she was down, but because there were two of them, I should have been high energy and suggested going somewhere different. Next time I’ll remember that. Did well on following the routine, don’t think I’ll have time today to day game, but will probably go to an alumni event so hopefully there will be some cute girls there.
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Fri Mar 08, 2019 9:06 pm

So I’m having a hard time going straight to 5 girls a day, so I’m going to build up. The last three days I did one approach a day, they were all awful and I didn’t even introduce myself. Today I aimed for 2, the first one was the same as the previous, but the second girl was a cute blonde girl and she hooked. Turns out she’s in tech and is my age so that’s nice. She seemed quite receptive and I would’ve tried for an insta date but I have plans tonight. Grabbed her number and talked a few more minutes. I think she’ll respond and I benefit from the new to the city effect too. She’s been here 6 months and is from Texas, but went to school in Oklahoma. Her pupils were quite dilated, so I have a feeling she was attracted.

Working out is going well, I feel better for doing it. It’s quite cold so my style is still not the best, but it should get better as I work out more and the weather allows me to wear tighter clothes. Food has been good and I’ve been counting calories, but my family is visiting this week so I anticipate a lot of eating.
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Sat Mar 16, 2019 4:15 pm

Been doing a few approaches and they’re hooking better. I’m attributing that to my improved vibe, which a visit from my family has helped boost. Did an indirect-direct approach at the grocery store yesterday and it went pretty decently, I think I should have been warmer, and the conversation was a little boring. But the girl gave me her number so that’s still a win. Working on improving the number of approaches still.
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Tue Apr 09, 2019 7:56 am

Did two approaches yesterday. First one was bad, second was better but she was on her way to a date. Not sure the best way to handle that. But first girl was bad because it was a warmup and I was rusty, bad vibe, and was not smiling.
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Re: The Postgrad Life

Postby y___ » Sun Apr 14, 2019 9:24 am

Did three approaches yesterday and had good vibe for all of them. First one I was too in my head so it got awkward and she left. Second was this Swedish student from upstate nyc but got her number so we’ll see if I can see her if she visits the city. Last was a girl on the subway. She had a boyfriend but I think my approach was still good and talked to her for a couple of stops.
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