Hi GC friends. I have been off the boards for close to 2 years now. I had all my old posts taken down because my LTR found GC on an old iPad and figured out that I was posting on here - some drama ensued, and I had Chase delete my posts for reputation safety if things went sour. Eh if she finds this now - its whatever. Hopefully she's not stalking me. Our relationship ended a few months ago and I spent some time mourning, I have hooked up with a few girls since then and went on a quite a few dates since then.
For background: I am 30, white guy, living in a small south eastern city. Its meh, and in the next year my goal is to move to a city with more than a million people. Don't necessarily have a preference just where... just where the mating market is bigger and friendlier to guys in there 30s than my southern town. I've done pick up a long time and my game is fairly solid, but I am still no where as good and consistent as I was before I got in my LTR. Also, I should note, i picked up my LTR using methods from GC and she was close to dream girl level for me. The main retracting factors were some value differences that made us incompatible. However, I am moving forward in life now with all confidence that I can have it all, and if not, I can at least have a hella good time meeting women and taking lovers while I am looking for the next thing along the way.
My long term goal is to find another LTR in the next 3-5 years and to have high quality, high integrity, beautiful women consistently in my life before that point and possibly have children with LTR in my late 30s. I haven't made up my mind about the child thing. but ya know, thats a long way out.
I think my goal is somewhat unattainable in my current city. While I can get those things here, the sheer lower number of women a smaller city provides, and the types of women who are attracted to smaller southern cities are not necessarily my cup of tea. However, my city is plenty good enough to sharpen my skills while I am here for the next year or so more.
My short term goal is to continue having fun picking up girls and also get a few fuck buddies as right now I really have none. Not a big deal, but i don't have the time to sink into going out that I did in years past as I am very busy with my career at the moment. So it would be really nice to have a very casual girlfriend.
LR: NYE in Atl
I wanted to quickly write this up to document. I went out NYE to a party in Atlanta that was hella fun. Got very drunk and pulled a cute Asain girl. She came back to my buddies couch with me --- I almost lost her because she wanted to go home. So she had a friend pick her up. I was able to convince her to invite me over, got an Uber to her place and sealed the deal. I would go into more detail, but I was faded that night and things happened fast and it was a few weeks ago now.
Some highlights.
- She invested and got us a couple bottles of champagne from VIP and popped it with me.
- missed the countdown and we did our own after a song ended and a lot of people looked/laughed and we made out.
- She texted me after she left saying she lost an earring - so I stole my buddies girls earring as an excuse to go to her place and seal the deal.
- before she left the first time, she gave me a quick blowie on the stairs of my buddies apartment, which was fun.
Things to work on:
- the sex was bad. Aka I was bad lol. I came too early and then was half limp the rest of the night. Plus I was shitty drunk.
Date Reports
So i want to quickly mention that I have been going on dates every week and getting very close to securing a fuck buddy. However, I am ending up with failed escalation scenarios because of LMR and a bit of lost calibration on my end.
Turning dates into what I want is a sticking point of mine and I am adopting a 2 date system because of my terrible abilities to seal the deal on the first date have lead to me to lose 2 girls I really liked. 1 i failed escalation on the first date, but she gave me a #metoo lecture on the date which scared the fucking shit out of me. but I still thought shed be down. I was very careful with her not to push it. But ya know, failed escalations are 90% of the time deal breakers for most girls.
The other girl was date #2, in which I just did an informational date on first date and cooked dinner on second. We fooled around but she didn't give me the green light. I am personally against using high pressure LMR tactics. However, there are a fews things I should have done but I didn't. I didn't get her playing with my cock, which I think she would have been into it at that point and there were a couple of "fits of passion" as we were making out that we started to move toward sex, but her logical brain took over before we made the move all the way.
Something that I was thinking about was that I have had some failed escalations that have led to more things later in line with me and the girl. The thing that my failed escalations have in common was that we did some form of sex to completion. AKA the escalation led to her giving me a hand job, and or blow job and the girls didn't ghost me.
I am also curious to experiment with moving escalations out to 4th and 5th dates even, as I have some buddies who do this naturally and do fairly well on tinder/bumble with the slow game. I know thats against the rules of chase, but hey, rules are meant to be experimented with and broken. And there are so many variables in dating, it is hard to pin point one always working method.
FR: out on the town
So last night I went out with a buddy and my game was the best it has been since I have been practicing pick up again. I was number closing and opening every girl with smooth quiet confidence and powerful fundamentals. It was an "on" night that I really needed. However, it was also a dead night on the town. Very few people were out, and I wasn't able to pull. I did -- make out with a married woman who was very cute who is supposedly getting a divorce soon -- got the number of a few other chicks -- and got the number of a very beautiful lawyer with these amazing dimples. I need to be asking for more investment from girls sooner -- aka moving them and screening them for pull home closes. But over all my fundamentals are getting back to mid/late 2015 levels before I quit pickup for my monogamous gf. Only a matter of time before I start closing more from night game. Also as spring roles around things will get MUCH better with my cities night life scene as the bitter cold keeps the cuties cuddled up indoors on the weekends many times.
I am excited to see what happens as I completely start over in pick up. This is the first time since I was 25 that I am in a position with a totally fresh slate. I have nothing going on with women right now other than my pickup skills that I have worked on for many years. But no FBs or even friends that are girls at the moment. I know I am not as good in some ways as I once was, but in other ways I have grown tremendously, I think my skills will be back to 100% in the coming months and the new base level of life confidence that I have continues to rise, my career is getting better, and life is still on the up and up for me despite some hiccups here and there.
Anyway, its great to be back guys and seeing the old and new names around here! Can't wait to start contributing to the community again.
Radeng
For background: I am 30, white guy, living in a small south eastern city. Its meh, and in the next year my goal is to move to a city with more than a million people. Don't necessarily have a preference just where... just where the mating market is bigger and friendlier to guys in there 30s than my southern town. I've done pick up a long time and my game is fairly solid, but I am still no where as good and consistent as I was before I got in my LTR. Also, I should note, i picked up my LTR using methods from GC and she was close to dream girl level for me. The main retracting factors were some value differences that made us incompatible. However, I am moving forward in life now with all confidence that I can have it all, and if not, I can at least have a hella good time meeting women and taking lovers while I am looking for the next thing along the way.
My long term goal is to find another LTR in the next 3-5 years and to have high quality, high integrity, beautiful women consistently in my life before that point and possibly have children with LTR in my late 30s. I haven't made up my mind about the child thing. but ya know, thats a long way out.
I think my goal is somewhat unattainable in my current city. While I can get those things here, the sheer lower number of women a smaller city provides, and the types of women who are attracted to smaller southern cities are not necessarily my cup of tea. However, my city is plenty good enough to sharpen my skills while I am here for the next year or so more.
My short term goal is to continue having fun picking up girls and also get a few fuck buddies as right now I really have none. Not a big deal, but i don't have the time to sink into going out that I did in years past as I am very busy with my career at the moment. So it would be really nice to have a very casual girlfriend.
LR: NYE in Atl
I wanted to quickly write this up to document. I went out NYE to a party in Atlanta that was hella fun. Got very drunk and pulled a cute Asain girl. She came back to my buddies couch with me --- I almost lost her because she wanted to go home. So she had a friend pick her up. I was able to convince her to invite me over, got an Uber to her place and sealed the deal. I would go into more detail, but I was faded that night and things happened fast and it was a few weeks ago now.
Some highlights.
- She invested and got us a couple bottles of champagne from VIP and popped it with me.
- missed the countdown and we did our own after a song ended and a lot of people looked/laughed and we made out.
- She texted me after she left saying she lost an earring - so I stole my buddies girls earring as an excuse to go to her place and seal the deal.
- before she left the first time, she gave me a quick blowie on the stairs of my buddies apartment, which was fun.
Things to work on:
- the sex was bad. Aka I was bad lol. I came too early and then was half limp the rest of the night. Plus I was shitty drunk.
Date Reports
So i want to quickly mention that I have been going on dates every week and getting very close to securing a fuck buddy. However, I am ending up with failed escalation scenarios because of LMR and a bit of lost calibration on my end.
Turning dates into what I want is a sticking point of mine and I am adopting a 2 date system because of my terrible abilities to seal the deal on the first date have lead to me to lose 2 girls I really liked. 1 i failed escalation on the first date, but she gave me a #metoo lecture on the date which scared the fucking shit out of me. but I still thought shed be down. I was very careful with her not to push it. But ya know, failed escalations are 90% of the time deal breakers for most girls.
The other girl was date #2, in which I just did an informational date on first date and cooked dinner on second. We fooled around but she didn't give me the green light. I am personally against using high pressure LMR tactics. However, there are a fews things I should have done but I didn't. I didn't get her playing with my cock, which I think she would have been into it at that point and there were a couple of "fits of passion" as we were making out that we started to move toward sex, but her logical brain took over before we made the move all the way.
Something that I was thinking about was that I have had some failed escalations that have led to more things later in line with me and the girl. The thing that my failed escalations have in common was that we did some form of sex to completion. AKA the escalation led to her giving me a hand job, and or blow job and the girls didn't ghost me.
I am also curious to experiment with moving escalations out to 4th and 5th dates even, as I have some buddies who do this naturally and do fairly well on tinder/bumble with the slow game. I know thats against the rules of chase, but hey, rules are meant to be experimented with and broken. And there are so many variables in dating, it is hard to pin point one always working method.
FR: out on the town
So last night I went out with a buddy and my game was the best it has been since I have been practicing pick up again. I was number closing and opening every girl with smooth quiet confidence and powerful fundamentals. It was an "on" night that I really needed. However, it was also a dead night on the town. Very few people were out, and I wasn't able to pull. I did -- make out with a married woman who was very cute who is supposedly getting a divorce soon -- got the number of a few other chicks -- and got the number of a very beautiful lawyer with these amazing dimples. I need to be asking for more investment from girls sooner -- aka moving them and screening them for pull home closes. But over all my fundamentals are getting back to mid/late 2015 levels before I quit pickup for my monogamous gf. Only a matter of time before I start closing more from night game. Also as spring roles around things will get MUCH better with my cities night life scene as the bitter cold keeps the cuties cuddled up indoors on the weekends many times.
I am excited to see what happens as I completely start over in pick up. This is the first time since I was 25 that I am in a position with a totally fresh slate. I have nothing going on with women right now other than my pickup skills that I have worked on for many years. But no FBs or even friends that are girls at the moment. I know I am not as good in some ways as I once was, but in other ways I have grown tremendously, I think my skills will be back to 100% in the coming months and the new base level of life confidence that I have continues to rise, my career is getting better, and life is still on the up and up for me despite some hiccups here and there.
Anyway, its great to be back guys and seeing the old and new names around here! Can't wait to start contributing to the community again.
Radeng