Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'



Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Sun Jun 25, 2017 11:39 pm

Here we go again.

Summary and review of my old journal will come after I get my new laptop. I'm fucking with an IPad right now and it's not as convenient as I'd like, but certainly better than a phone.


This journal will mainly include:

Weekly Schedule
I'm a fairly disorganized person that runs around like a headless chicken juggling all my responsibilities and impulses. Gonna fix that by creating a schedule for the week every Sunday night.

Exercise Progress
I need to keep track of gains and increases in my max lifts at the gym. I'm loosely following Ross Leon's bodybuilding guide and will be updating a weekly draft.

Approaches
Every week I'll be committing times of the day specifically for approaching. I've continued to make excuses to not for most of summer, and while I am rather busy I need to get out there and dust off the cobwebs. This will include mall approaches, grocery stores, open mics, street stops, server game, and night game.

Monthly Updates & Summaries
Rather than strain myself summarizing my whole journal like I did with Hustler's Ambition, I'll write a monthly summary and include my overall improvements, as well as # of approaches, numbers, dates, hookups, and lays.


Tomorrow I have a coaching session with Hector.

Let's get it.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Schedule 06/26 - 07/03

Postby Hue » Mon Jun 26, 2017 12:17 am

Monday
9:00 - 9:45 Prepare for day (Meditate, Shower, Dress)
10:00 - 2:00 Internship
2:45 - 3:45 Hector Coaching Session
4:30 - 9:00 Work
9:30 - 11:00 Open Mic at L*****

Tuesday
9:00 - 2:00 See Monday 9-2
2:15 - 3:30 Exercise Biceps & Back
5:00 - 6:30 Walk to local farmers market, approach
7:00 - 8:00 Read Philosophy
9:15 - 11:00 Approach at Hipster Venue

Wednesday
8:00 - 1:00 See Monday 9-2
1:15 - 2:30 Exercise Chest & Triceps
3:30 - 10:00 Work
10:00 - 1:30 Approach Hipster Venue

Thursday
9:15 - 4 See Monday 9-2
4:15 - 5:30 Exercise Legs
6:00 - 7:00 Read Philosophy
7:00 - 9:00 Nap
9:30 - 2:00 Approach at campus bars

Friday
11:00 - 12:00 Prepare for day
12:15 - 1:30 Exercise Core
3:30 - ~12:00 Work
~12:00 - 2:00 Night Game Club

Saturday
11:00 - 12:00 Prepare for day
12:15 - 1:30 Exercise Shoulders & Biceps
2:00 - 4:00 Mall Approach
5:00 - 6:00 Read Philosophy
6:30 - 7:00 Write Lyrics
7:00 - 2:00 THE BOYS

Sunday
11:00 - 12:00 Prepare for day
12:15 - 1:30 Exercise legs
2:00 - 3:30 Mall Approach
4:00 - 12:00 Work
12:00 - 1:00 Weekly Journal Schedule
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

FR: First Grocery Store Approach

Postby Hue » Mon Jun 26, 2017 12:48 am

Just got back from out of state and decided to do a little bit of approaching before starting the new journal.

I get to the super market kind of late, probably about 9:30 pm. I've never done an approach here before, but after all I'd read, I knew a good move was making a contextual opener then turning things towards the girl.

I was looking for avocados to no avail, and as I'm about to ask the store clerk where they are, see a cute familiar face. She's a brunette, under dressed, and unlike an attractive MILF I saw moments ago, not in a huge hurry. I slowly work my way around back toward her direction, and draw closer from behind.

As I think of something to say, I look at salad dressings. I glance at her shopping basket and see nothing but fruit and vegetables. I decide on, "going for the vegan life?" right as I see refrigerated avocados and grabbed them. I think more or less it looked pretty natural, despite my precontemplation.

Her: *big smile* No haha I wish, just some lima beans
Me: *slow smile* Oh?... You.. look familiar.
Her: (: oh I bartend at [bar], do you ever go there?
Me: A little too much actually, that's gotta be it
Her: Oh yea, must be.
Me: What's your name?
Her: B*****, *switches grocery hand, extends for handshake*
Me: I can't really, *shows groceries in hand, awkwardly left hand shakes* (lol at least I was confident about it), Hueman.
Her: I always see people who know me out, they're all like blah blah
Me: Oh? *we start walking around the aisle*
Her: Yea, but never during... this, it's a little bit better than when I'm at the gym
Me: Hah, when you're less.. serious?
Her: Yea usually it's like blah blah
Her: I actually live with 2 of my coworkers blah blah
Me: So you got your little squad
Her: Yea one sec I'm taking classes and next thing I know I have this job and all these new friends and, it's just crazy you know! (She's getting increasingly nervous)
Me: (: that sounds like college life, B******, pretty cool you got your little family though.
Her: Yea I was telling my mom about this job and how it would be awesome if I got it and blah blah

Her: *stops walking, body fully faces me* but usually this isn't when I talk to customers (:
Me: *slowly stops, fully faces her* would over coffee be better? (:
Her: *tilts head, looks slightly upward* well... I have a boyfriend.
Me: *sexy smile* he can come too.
Her: Hahaha *body language shows me she's unsure of what to do*
Me: Well I'm not gonna lie, I just recognized you and remembered you being cute. Had to make sure it wasn't just the drunk goggles (:
Her: Aw well thank you (:
Me: Haha, yea
Me: But no, he really couldn't come *touches shoulder, slowly walks away* cool seeing you B*****.
Her: It was nice meeting you!


Could have definitely gone better with the handshake, where I could have held on to screen her interest. She seemed quite anxious during the whole thing. I highly doubt she's ever been cold approached in the grocery store. There weren't any other girls hot enough to approach I saw there, at least girls not in a hurry. (Edit: Next time, fuck it, try the rushed girls anyways if things line up, worth the experience)

Also, if you approach at the grocery store and it goes good, shouldn't you dice out as to not be seen chatting with other women? In this scenario, I may have left anyways since she works at a very popular bar - I see at least 2 groups of people I know everytime I go there.

At least my feet are a little wet after not doing anything but night game for the longest time. Surprisingly, I was less nervous than I thought after I started the dialogue.


Hueman
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

OR: Insight to female relationship views

Postby Hue » Tue Jun 27, 2017 4:43 pm

Ended up working the closing shift at work last night so I couldn't attend the open mic.

I just started working at this new place and like it considerably better than my old. I had a player reputation at my old which brought me good and bad things. This new place has way more sexual dialogue since half the staff is gay. It's great.


Anyways,

This girl who I work with (I really don't find her that attractive) is talking to her coworkers about this super hot guy that just left his number.
Her: Talk about a moral dilemma! That dude had biceps for days!
Gay Guy: Yeah lol I would text him.
Girl 2: Yea *gives look like why the fuck wouldn't you, slightly like I wish I had gotten it*
Me: Moral dilemma? *inquisitive slight smirk*
Her: Well I'm sort of dating this guy.
Me: Seeing him, or dating him?
Her: Seeing
Me: Well, does he know that's how it is?
Her: Well I just had this conversation with him last week like hey, I'm thinking about going on a date with this guy, if I did would that bother you?
Me: (: Then go for it
Her: But he said that, yea, I'd be kind of hurt.
Gay guy: Well this guy is... *looks down and smirks at me*
Me: Live life on your own terms (:
Her: *smiling* Haha I mean I don't know.
Her: I'll just keep him in my back pocket for.. a rainy day haha.
Me: *walks away smiling*



Lol.

She feels a moral dilemma, openly brings it up to seek external validation from friends.
Friends give her typical responses that she probably saw coming, encouraging her to text him since he was so hot. Girls sometimes need influence in their sexual explorations

This other dude she's seeing is a beta, but probably one that she's invested in. She knows that she could probably bend him to see her terms since he's beta and likely monogamous to her. She has control of the relationship, and may already be considering easing out of it.

This dude she's keeping in her back pocket, she already has decided she wants to fuck him, after one 30-50 min experience of being his server. I didn't see the guy but his fundamentals must have been great.

She may be considering down the road her beta will disappoint her, so she'll booty call the new guy for a fuck.


All my judgemental speculation, but I'm pretty sure on this one.

Gonna go street approach for a bit, and try to wind up at the grocery store while I walk to my other errands.

Hueman
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Mon Jul 03, 2017 2:37 am

Tuesday night

I get invited to a small party where I befriended my buddy's friends, and by the end of the night they had given me power to lead the direction of the group. We went to a dive bar for a girls birthday, but the bday girl was sloshed, and the other hot ones got out gamed by some other dudes as far as I could tell.

My new friend was getting obvious signals from a girl but doing nothing with it, so I wingmanned for him and her meh friends' number. We leave to another bar and I text her but she responded with a bs excuse.

At the new place I took Hectors advice on how to properly post up around a bar, and literally within seconds was ran up to and hugged by my excoworker. She was drunk there with her hot friend, Lips. I immediately go up and start flirting with her, and she's receptive. She asks me to buy her a shot and I tease her and tell her to get me one. Then during a pause grab her arm and pull her with me to get one.

Attainability fucked me.

I live by a "I don't buy shots for girls, they buy shots for me" rule which I should have just broken. As a joke, I get her a shot of water disguised as a tequila shot, and get myself a tequila shot. It's funny but she's ultimately annoyed and leaves.

After that I had a girl from my old school who had previously been totally aloof to my approaches approach me, but then my buddy tried to pull her and fucked up the dynamic, she walked off and I lost sight of her. I think she approached because my fundamentals were pretty good that night.


Wednesday

These texts the next morning, holey shit.

My excoworker sends me a screenshot of her text with Lips.
Her: hahahah i know so many dick suckings before this
Lips: Poor guy had to wait
Lips: Oh god Hueman was a big flirt yesterday
Her: now he can get it all he wants
Lips: But wouldn't buy me a drink
Her: was he there hahahahah
Lips: Yes Hahahah
Lips: He kept grabbing my hand and touching my side I'm like yo ya gonna buy me a drink or what
Her: yea he doesn't buy drinks for girls lmao
Lips: Buys himself drinks and gives me water


Then we text and the conversation is sexual. After about 5 exchanges she tells me that if Inhad bought Lips a shot she would have fucked me, then goes further saying that she finds me really hot and has brought up a threesome to her, with me. I started sending all the shit to whatshereallymeant and Hector helped me rope in plans to have the threesome. I was in an incredibly mood that day to say the least.

At my new workplace an older coworker gave me a huge window to go home with her but I didn't wanna, she's not attractive enough. The coworker I mentioned in the OR was also giving me incidental touch all day, to the point I considered if it was even incidental or not.

Thursday

I got smashed as fuck with my friends. I approached at the bar but was too fucked up to do anything successfully or remember it. Except for on the way back I street approached two girl musicians and got their numbers. I set up a date and the cute one was super down but....

Friday

I worked and then had to choose between the girl I met last night, let's call her Skate, and going to a party with my schools field hockey team. I chose the latter.

I received IOI's out the wazoo when I showed up fashionably late. The host was quite drunk, but honestly a straight 9-10 in my book, looks wise. Great face, amazing lips, solid ass and tits, blonde wavy hair. I held her hand when I introduced myself and she offered me shots. I received several so I could catch up. I jumped around meeting girls, but my eyes were on the host and this reserved blonde in the corner. While taking a break from the host I chatted with the blonde. She was 18 and very mature for her age.

Here's where I fucked up: I got excited at the idea of a young, hot, mature girl, and jumped the gun by asking her to coffee 10 minutes into our convo. My confidence was very high because of how receptive everyone else was to me. She said no, and I was basically dumbfounded.

I returned to the host, now getting quite physical, the peak of our sexual tension (that began immediately) and I had my hands on her waste. I was seconds from pulling her into a room and smashing her, the next sentence out my mouth was to say come over here I need to tell you something, my left hand now touching her ass.

BOOM.

Blonde in the corner gets up and steals her from me. They're gone for 10-15 minutes. When they return, the host is looking skeptically at me, and it's very obvious my cock has just received a Donald trump wall size block.


We all go to the club, I'm now squading with my friends from Tuesday. I remember we went to a section where I opened and got asked with dance 2-2 with my impromptu wingman. Things go well for a few minutes until there's a disagreement about grinding with the two girls, they eject. Not sure what happened, either I moved too slow, or my wingman moved too fast. Incongruent.

I see my ex coworker and start dancing with her toward the end of the night. Lips and I lock eyes, and she goes "I can't do this!" and leaves looking flustered. I find out later she was puked on. I forgot to mention we had a date set up Saturday evening, unsure if this effected anything.

Venezuela texts me and I pick her up and we bang. Kinkiest sex yet. She lets me call her my dirty little slut now.


Saturday

Rough night.

Off the bat, Lips bails on the date. Did not help my momentum.

Then, my two friends come over. I'm growing very annoyed with one of them, he simply will not think of the group, ever. His way or the highway, no matter the logic or rational. Every suggestion the three of us make he shoots down pessimisticly for our plans, except going to his house 20 minutes away for drinks, where as we're already near bars. He senses my frustration and calls me out. I explain that I'm growing annoyed with his in capability to see what our friend or myself want to do, and attempt to compromise. He uses Trump style arguing and belittles a dive bar I like, even though I said moments prior I did not want to go there. Provoked, I shut him down, explain myself, and tell him to cut the weird argumentive attitude and to stop saying such stupid shit. An intense silence fills the room. It had been months since I've done this, last time because of again, an annoying pessimism my friends were bringing.


We agree to some place downtown, and eventually share laughs again over drinks. At the bar another argument takes place, again, because of our fundamental differences in optimistic and pessimistic views on people and how one should live.


Lips texts me she's going out. I wait a bit then call her, and I'm pretty damn good at phone calls. I immediately know I'm on speaker phone, and it's very noisy, but not incoherent from either end. When I ask where she is she hangs up. I text her "lol" and she apologizes. I say "where are you" and receive radio silence. From all I've gathered, my attainability is too low, and she's insecure, a poor combination.




I failed to day game, utterly. I approached 1 girl Monday, and 2 Tuesday. Both were poor and indirect. Who would have thought that AA could be so real? Haha! No more excuses. I must break out of my shell.

Next week will be interesting, I'll write up my schedule and weight training progress tomorrow. It's late.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Mon Jul 03, 2017 6:43 am

Schedule July 3rd-9th

Monday

Work out tris and chest
Thoroughly clean apartment
Walk to library, and bank, approach
Attend massive Independence day party

Tuesday

Work out core
Attend MASSIVE Independence day party

Wednesday

Sleep off hangover
Work out legs
Work

Thursday

Rest Day (workout)
Internship 10-330
Help parents with house project 330-7
Night game 9-2~

Friday

Biceps and shoulders
Work
Night game clockout-2

Saturday

Triceps and chest
Day game at Mall 2-5
Night game 9-2

Sunday

Legs
Workout
Update weekly plan




Workout Progress

Biceps / Back
-Pull Down Max 150
-Pull Up 4 sets of 8 reps
-Row Max of 62.5/130
-Bicep Iso Max 80

Triceps
-Tricep Iso 6 Reps of 85 (final set)

Chest
-Chest Press 4 reps of 145 (final)
-Push ups Max 36

Legs
-Squat 6 reps of 185 (final)
-Quad Iso 3 sets 12 reps of 130
-Back leg (lol fuck) 3 sets 12 reps of 130
-Calves 2 sets 20 reps of 190

Core
-Obliques 4 sets 20 reps of 140
-Russian Twists 4 sets 20 reps of 20
-Leg raise 4 sets 20 reps


Focusing on higher weight less reps next week in areas I didnt max last week. Drink water before workout, load up on calories post workout, then small meal 6-7 hours later.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

LR: Happy 4th of July

Postby Hue » Wed Jul 05, 2017 3:25 pm

Monday I didn't have time to approach or even attend to my errands other than working out. The party started early and I got there around 4.

My high school buddies and I roll into the frat party and play some games, make some chit chat, but the whole vibe is overall laid back. No ones going crazy quite yet. I catch up with the girls we hung out with during HS, and as usual all but a couple of them are pretty boring to talk with. We all are dishing out the friend zone.

I'm chatting with a lot of old friends, admittedly kind of bored with the frat dudes, but still in a decent mood. I accidentally get scraped by a twig when I'm grabbing a beer, and start bleeding. I find toilet paper and bandaids and there's 5 dudes that took a ski trip to the bathroom, and offer me a bump. I did not say no.

Moments after I'm back with my friends, and now everyone's trying to leave to a bar. I'm down, but right when I start to leave 3 blondes, 1 hot, 2 cute approach me. They all know me from a restaurant I used to work at and are all excited and asking me about it. It's something that's happened to me before, and their interest is amplified since I'm at a top tiers frat. Social proof.

When I had their table they did this thing where they wanted me to compare her to her ex's new bf, and while I told them that should be the last of her worries and not to compare herself, noted that yes she was cuter and had prettier eyes, a genuine compliment.

They shoot vodka in my mouth and I tell them to join us at the bar. They're down but don't wanna leave yet, and one of the cute ones seems pretty interested in me so I get her number. After I got it a dude I know came up to me and as we talked she slowly drifted away. Never do this. It shows her you're not even that interested.

We go to the bar and do our thing. When I'm walking out to leave the blondes walk in and grab me again. We talk and it turns out I'm actually decent friends with the hot ones new boyfriend. She "introduces me" and brings up what I said about her at work. Obviously using me for attention for her bf. I accept it and say "yea, I said you had much prettier eyes" and she goes " (: ... no! That's not all you said!" And I give her that really? Smiling face until she breaks frame. I smile at her boyfriend and his eyes understand.

I leave to my apt and we regroup before heading to another party. We get there, its obviously almost over. There's about 10 people sitting on a roof, that's it. I get up there, dap up the host, and see a girl I recognize.

A cute redhead that went to my high school. We ran track together but never spoke. Last month she came in with her boyfriend to my workplace and I had their table. I was flirty with the whole table, guys and girls alike, and remember IOI's from her. I don't know her name, though.. just the boyfriends since we were somewhat close from track.

I immediately sit next to her. She seems tipsy and is flirting with me. Not exact but:
Her: Hueman! Do you remember me from [restaurant]??
Me: Of course! It was a good time serving you and [boyfriend]
Her: You were a good waiter! We had such a good time (:
Me: Thanks. I actually don't work there anymore
Her: *touches my arm, turns head* Noooo! Why?? (:
Me: *touches her arm* Not my style anymore (;
Her: Toooo baaad
Me: Do you and your boyfriend still go there? (One way I screen for boyfriends in social circle)
Her: Well, [boyfriend] isn't my boyfriend anymore

We're sitting very close at this point, and have slowly been schooching towards each other.

Me: Oh. Well, lucky you *bedroom eyes*
Her: Hmm, lucky you *bedroom eyes*

Its on!

Can't really remember right after that, but then the universe hits me with a god send, her friends walk out and yell goodbye to her from the yard.

Her: Oh, and there goes my friends
Me: Those were your friends?
Her: Yea that's them
Me: Cool, you should stay here.
Her: I should?
Me: Yea we can get to know each other better. Chill here with me.
Her: Hmmmm, okay.

*We look into each other's eyes for about 5 seconds*

Me: *grabs arm* let's go inside *talking in her ear*
Her: Why? We're already out here
Me: *talk closer to her ear, her hair is on my lips* We'll get to know each other better inside *put hand on her keg* lets go.
Her: I don't know if we should
Me: *backs off completely, slowly, looks slightly up in air* yea, maybe we shouldn't (:
Her: You don't want to?
Me: *slightly turns head* It might not be the best idea (:
Her: Well... okay I'll go inside with you.
Me: *fully turns, takes hand* Okay... let's go.


We stand up, I take her hand, and we crawl through the window. All my dudes are staring. We go in, and stop at a wall a few rooms down, and I put my hands on her waist and pull her into me. She tries to kiss me and I don't let her, over some drunken flirty banter I move her upstairs. I try and pull her into one of the rooms while she repeatedly asks me where I live. I try to get her in the room and she says no. I say "you want to see my house, don't you?". And she said yes. I tell her okay, we can go to my house, but we should just hang out in the room to our right. She leans into me and I'm half hard. She manages to get her lips on mine but I don't engage. "Look what you did" I say to her, referring to my chub.

After this we agree to go to my house and start walking. Right on the way out she says somewhat loudly (she was saying this to make it look like me doing all this, even though she's the one coming onto me for the most part) "I have no idea where you're taking me!" so everyone on the roof could hear lol.

On the way back she shit tests me saying that I'm only moderately interested in her, and she's only moderately interested in me, as we walk to my house lol. A growing concern of mine is she's not walking as straight as she was when we started walking, like whatever booze she had in her is starting to hit her. Hooking up with a chick who's smashed is fucked up. I decide I'll make a judgement on how drunk she is once we're at my apartment, and fuck her in the morning if things feel off.

She keep saying she doesn't want me to leave her in the morning for the festivities the next day. I had to tell her repeatedly that we would take things one step at a time, that we're not even to my place yet. It was about a 10 minute walk till we're finally there, and I've shut down all her attempts to make out and/or rationalize not coming.

Oh yea and I didn't know her name, and she called me out. I played it cool and told her she doesn't know mine (even though she did) and deflected and ignored to the best of my abilities until she told me what it was lol.

We step in, she takes her shoes off, and we get some water. The moment I put my glass down she starts making out with me. We go uptstairs and she gets right into bed. The way she's laying down tells me she's really drunk. At this point I'm thinking I have to wait until tomorrow morning - I don't feel right about this.

I lay down with her and we're making out, and then I find a way to respect my morals: Whiskey dick! The little man was looking pretty sad, even if I wasn't feeling she was too drunk, I was lol.

She's pretty disappointed lol. "Just fuck me!", "Come ooon I want to fuck! Stop being boring!" and shit like that. I tell her to go to bed, and say some very explicit shit about how I'm gonna wake her up with my hard cock.

I can't sleep, and a 3-4 hours later, I do exactly that. She shifted in bed and wasn't asleep anymore. From behind I move my dick on her ass and grind, while slowly feeling up her body and kiss her neck and ears. She's moaning and we're both getting very aroused. She has a fine body. Thin, good ass, plump tits. I start dirty talking her and she starts whispering "fuck me".

I enter her like this, pull out, put on a condom, and go to town in adapted missionary for only like 3 minutes. I hadn't busted this fast in so long lol, her hips were too much for my excitement. I said " first ones for me second ones for you (; ". The second time we fuck is awesome, I go in adapted for like 15, doggy with clit stimulation for like 10, and finish with cowgirl and me slapping and ravishingly her ass.

Turns out we're practically neighbors (:

Fun time, glad we both enjoyed ourselves sober even though the pull itself was in drunkenness.


Hueman
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Sun Jul 09, 2017 10:59 pm

Tuesday--> Missed SO much opportunity because I failed to ditch my core group of friends and party hop. smh

Wednesday --> Too hungover / tired, drank water and went to work like all day

Thursday --> Interned, then sat around all day. Was still recovering mentally from Tuesday tbh. Did convince myself to go out though.

I get to the bar around 10:30. First I posted up, and waited for some friends to show up. They do, and I had been scouting since then. 4 groups of cute-hot girls.

The first clearly is with a boyfriend, the 2nd is a duo of two girls. Really should have approached these two. They looked all relaxed and flirty at first, but I never approached and saw them leave flustered. 3rd is a pack of like 6 girls, anxiety got the best of me. The last is one hot girl, and right when I went to approach she gets grabbed by her boyfriend.

There was also two girls who sat down to wait for their turn for pool, and one looked kind of cute. I went up and said, "came here just to see us play huh?" and it didn't land well. Pretty douchey actually. Also the cute one turned out to have a glass eye, so, not a big deal.


Eventually I'm talking with a couple of dudes, one black dude is talking to me about how because he's not in a frat he can't get girls without trying super hard and I'm calling bullshit since I've seen both sides. My friend introduces me to a big girl who seems chill.

Then a short, cute blonde who's friends with her come up. I intentionally ignore her at first and then introduce myself and hold onto her hand. I quickly screen for boyfriend and proceed to deep dive about how she ended up working as a photographer at a modeling agency. I decide to move her after a bit but when I take her hand and sit down she says she's been sitting all day and won't. Her face says yellow light. I ignore and talk some more. Eventually I propose coffee, she's down but then hits me with how busy her schedule is. I laugh and say "busy busy, let's do Sunday afternoon" and she says it'd have to be at like 10:00 AM and it feels more like 'I'll give him excuses until he gives up' then it does legitimate excuses. I laugh and say we'll see then walk off to buy myself a drink.

When I come back there's like 3 dudes talking with the group I was with, 2 to her. I can't get next to her again, and put my hand one guy saying, " 'cuse me bruddah, tryna sit down" and he looks at my condescendingly, then looks at her asking "What, is this your boyfriend?" with a smirk and laugh. I say, "yea we just got engaged actually" and then turn to my friend to talk. Unsuccessful redirection of getting tooled.

I talk with my friend about shit until they leave, as I had a sense they would. They do and I sit next to the girl and get her number, but she's a dim yellow light. I'm aloof and eventually leave and go home, then text her about an hour later my name and to save my number. She never answered. Next.


Friday

I had work and did my best to game a girl who's table I sat. Logistics were fucked, but she seemed like she wanted to meet someone that day and extroverted. All alone, getting margaritas and talking to me warmly while I serve her? Probably thirsty. I chatted with her about her plans for the day, but didn't move forward. Should have said, "So you'll just be out an about with yourself?" "Yea!" "Let me join you when I'm off, no need to ride solo (: " or something.

When I get off I'm crazy tired and take a nap. I had been texting the girl from my last LR and she comes over for wine. She's weirder than I remember - probably from the booze and candy I had that day. I wake up like 5 min till our date and scramble to clean my house. We Netflix and chill, fuck, Netflix, fuck, get more wine, dinner, fuck, and she stays the night. I didn't want her to, really, but we both wanted to fuck again and I wasn't ready - too tired. I wake up again, we fuck, and then she literally sits and waits for me to wake up again to fuck for 3 hours. Lol ironic, considering what I did because I couldn't sleep wasn't at all dissimilar. But... after hanging out with someone for.. 14 hours? I was ready for her to leave. Yeesh. Good sex though - I love girls on the pill.

I had a chance to go out with my friends to some bar their parents rented out, but decided to stay in and have sexy time instead. Not something I would have done last year.


Saturday

Slept a lot, then hit work. Gotta make a move on my coworker soon - attraction may start to fade and I've made my choice on who it's gonna be. Always be moving things forward.

Got off at midnight and hit up my buddy who's only in town for a bit longer. Go to the bar and my dudes are with their girlfriends, drunk and loving their own nonsense. Funny to watch for a little bit but tbh it's getting old. I talk with my dudes older brother for about half and hour before people start to dissipate.

I get a call from my excoworker (threesome girl) and she immediately hands the phone to her friend who is flirting with me hard - she just got back from Spain and has heard so much about me (we've never met). They want to meet me at the club, like right fuckin now.

I start walking over and remember this bar that my coworkers always go to and rave about. I see it and stop inside. Pretty divey. I stand next to a cute but chubby girl at the bar and order myself a shot. There's two drunk dudes behind the bar taking a picture of them with a trophy and I go, "Are we supposed to know what the fuck they're doing? (: " and she laughs and is immediately showing IOI's. The guy next to me seems to have taken offense to this, and goes "It looks like they're taking a picture with their trophy" in a stern voice. K, bud. Calm down. I glance at him then turn back to the girl.

I introduce myself, we chat about what drinks we're getting and I ask her if she's a regular here, all my coworkers are. She is, and it seems that many people in the restaurant biz fuck with this place. Turns out her old coworker went to my highschool. The girl is a total bitch (from my hs) so I make some sarcastic joke about how nice she is. She's giggling and showing more IOI's, and mentions something about her friends. At that point I had a decision to go see if her friends were hotter than her, and chill with them / pull one of them, or go to what I saw as a for sure thing with the other girls and meet them at the club. I get her number and chose the club.

I get there and immediately pull the hot one away, things are looking very good and she's got her hands on me letting me lead. Doesn't seem drunk either. Then my coworker (who's pretty tossed) gets lost with a guy, the hot one bails. My attraction wasn't regained after that. Then from the high energy of the club, I have to periodically sit there, leave, have them come to me, dance, laugh, and come back to them (in no particular order) while 3 groups of guys try to out-attract these girls to them. Chasing, hard. I just do my thing, and eventually make an effort on the hot one. Her bubble is above level 9000 at this point and she's seemingly in auto reject.

I bail, what a waste of time. If you're gonna call me all flirty to hang out, well bitch, I expect to hang out. Not be extra fuel for your ego with these guys you're not going home with lol.

I'm waiting outside the club - I was gonna catch the girls as they walked out, or maybe cold approach a girl that caught my eye. That hot one was like top 3 girls I saw out that night. As I'm posted up, I see my excoworker going home with a guy she met. "Haha, have fun with the pipe (;" I think to myself. I'm not all that attracted to her (if she lost 10 pounds then I might be), it's more just the 3some proposal that enthralls me about her. I may have a party this week and invite their whole group, then take my pick between Spain and Lips - or more. I obviously am not good enough with club game to pull these girls away from such a high energy, competitive environment yet.

I'm posted up outside the bar and a girl from my highschool (she's in counseling, ex boyfriend in jail, has been to rehab, labeled as a basket case... while I don't see her this way as the total of her identity, I know I have to been careful around her) comes up to me and says some shit while sliding her hand from my chest to the top of my crotch, super obvious. I ask her if she has a cigarette. She runs off to her friend, grabs her, and then grabs me and we go to smoke near some alley/parking lot. Her friend starts taking a piss between the dumpsters, while multiple groups of girls band together in a wall to let her get away with it, then all go their separate ways. Lol, what sisterhood.

We smoke a cig and chat and she keeps touching me. She doesn't seem very drunk, and I'm thinking in my head "this girl is known as crazy. I've seen her do crazy shit. She's super sexually open.. do I fuck her? She's obviously down, but..." and then this possibly homeless guy comes up and starts talking to us wanting a cig. They start talking, I'm not really enjoying the conversation so I back up to a wall and smoke my cig, kinda in my thoughts and watching them.

The dude is asking her for help / advice and being vulnerable. She's being really nice and compassionate and I think "wow, that's pretty cool of her to be so helpful" and this goes on a minute or two. Then he starts holding her arms by the elbows. At first I think its a heart to heart, but then I sense her being uncomfortable. Soon after I go up and say, "hey, ******, let's get out of here", and grab her arm. She immediately takes both hands wrapped around mine going "thank you thank you thank you thank you" and explains how she was getting really nervous with this guy and thought I had left.

We sit down and shes leaning into me, saying how I saved her and starts getting really touchy with me, and then we stare in eachother eyes and kiss. I pull off. She goes "Oh, I ..." and then I kiss her. We keep talking and she kisses me again. Then some guy comes over, also homeless (we're near an alley) and asks me for advice.

I take my arm around her and she snugs into me right quick, and tell him where to go very calmly. When he leaves she starts making out with me. I pull off and she invites me home. I'm getting kind of turned on and have to think for a sec, then decide I have to get up early for an impromptu job my dad hooked me up with, I shouldn't. She calls an uber and I direct him where to take me (my house), we exchange numbers and I leave. She's texted me 3 times since.

Her: Hi (2:58 am)
Her: Thank you for tonight (5:18 am)
Her: Hi (2:01 pm)
Me: hey wassup ****** (4:04 pm)

Weird.


I don't think I'll fuck her. Her friends are hotter, so hopefully this will amount to an interesting scenario or a score with one of them. I definitely think she'll be inviting me out soon where I'll put my toes in the water of their social circle.


Sunday

I had to work for a good amount today, and then my logistics were annoying when I meant to go approach at the mall. Had to get lunch, then worked out while I waited for a time-dependent chore, then had to do that, and finally got home tired as shit.

I did force myself to approach at the grocery store though. Not good.

I walk in and start getting groceries at this organic market, fairly small place. I see a girl I want to approach, she looks stressed on the phone. I try and not look creepy while I wait for her to hang up so I can open.

Then I see a hipster looking girl, but couldn't smoothly get around to her without losing her. She fucking vanished lol.

I see the 1st girl now in the line, and she smiled at me. Why the fuck do you have to be in line? I didn't just want to go up and talk to her. I didn't because there was like 6 people working, doing their grocery shit, yada yada I'm a pussy. Excuses.

I poke my head around to another area and see a girl in sports gear looking at yogurt. I slowly move over to her, then see her going for something way in the back.

Me: Scroungin for the fresh stuff, huh?
Her: Hmm?
Me: You're getting the new stuff in the back, I don't blame ya.
Her: Oh, well this one's all like this *shows fucked up yogurt thing*
Me: Ah gotcha
Her: It's my favorite, so you know *not looking at me*
Me: What is it? (What are you doing?)
Her: Honey
Me: Ah nice.
Her: *stands up*
Me: *points to her headband* I like your headband (what a compliment!)
Her: *blank stare, leaves*
Me: *laughing breath through nose* (:


Yeah, rough.

Could have complimented her rather than asking about yogurt, and the headband was cool because it matched her shirt and pants in a nice blend that compliments both. <-- that sounds a lot fucking better than, "I like your headband"

There was no one else that I saw attractive enough in the store, so I left.

I'll hit up Kroger next time, more people, less vicinity.



Badoo

Cute 18
Me: hello September (: how's Badoo world treating you?
Her: Lol it's treating me wdll
Me: well you did just match with me after all ;p I can't really complain either. you a fan of coffee?
Her: I LOVE COFFEE
Me: nice, I'm not really a fan of getting to know each other over text. we ought to grab a cup sometime (:
Her: Sure :)
Her: Add me on snap *********
Me: sure, once I'm sure you're not crazy I'll get you number ;p *adds her* 15 minutes later, *snaps her*
Her: Give me ur snap


could have closed that a lot better... hopefully she opens it and just snaps me back

Latina
Me: hola mamacita como estas? ;p
Her: Hola (: bien bien gracias y tu
Me: mas o menos, per no hablo espanol mucho jaja
Me: no estudie despues colegio *embarrassed smiling emoji* te hablas ingles?
Her: Hahahhha pero hablas bien
Her: I can speak English but I'm not speak well (oh really)
Me: haha no, no estudiaba mucho en mis clases de espanol
Me: you don't seem terrible senorita, do you like tequila?
Her: Lol pero escribes bien :)
Her: yes :)
Me: we should grab a drink sometime (: es me favorite
Her: Mm ok good
Her: eso es Bueno :)
Me: great, what's your number? ;p
Her: *logs off*


Dunno, maybe she just went to bed.


Further.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Weekly Schedule 7/10/17 - 7/17/17

Postby Hue » Sun Jul 09, 2017 11:26 pm

Workout Progress

Didn't stick to the work out plan. Next week I will. This week I upped my weight a lot in chest, tri, and squat. This is per set. If it's 4 or below it's a max out.

Chest Press: 4 reps 170
Fly: 6 reps 130
Tri Iso: 4 reps 95

Squat: 4 reps 225
Quads: 12 reps 130
Hamstrings: 12 reps 130
Leg Press: 10 reps 215

Also did a deck of cards workout and increased my burpees to 8 cards and below instead of 6.


Monday
Intern
Research Lab
Bicep & Back
Street Approach
Open Mic!!

Tuesday
Intern
Chest and Triceps
Read Philosophy
Night game

Wednesday
Intern
Legs
Work
Grab a drink with coworkers

Thursday
Intern
Core
Read Philosophy
Either: throw party / night game

Friday
Workout Bicep & Shoulders
Mall Approach
Work
Rally Night game

Saturday
Rest Day
Read Philosophy
Mall Approach OR Day Game at City Bars (older venue)

Sunday
Workout Legs
Read Philosophy
Family
Grocery Store game


Less Theorizing. More Doing.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

FR: Older Redhead

Postby Hue » Tue Jul 11, 2017 12:55 am

Intermittent fasting can leave you exhausted, wow.

After a day of intern shit and research lab, I basically passed out at home. Tried to street approach and had one indirect interaction about the pouring rain, but it wasn't much.

I woke up, worked out, got a food deal at my place of work, then went to the open mic.
Not much of an open mic lol. I got there about an hour after it started, so I guess it's my fault, but I expected a better turn out.

Right when I walk in, I see a pretty red head sitting at the bar, giving the kind of indirect IOI's experienced women do. I sit right next to her.

Me: Hey, did the open mic already end?
Her: The what?
Me: Oh, (: there's an open mic on Mondays. I've never been but was trying to check it out
Her: OH I had no idea. I saw something going on over there but wasn't too sure.
Me: Yea my buddy and I might do one soon, wanted to see what it was about.

*bartender comes up, I get a drink*

Me: So you're here alone tonight?
Her: Yea
Me: That makes two of us.
Me: What's your name?
Her: ********
Me: *takes hand* Hueman. What brought you out?
Her: Well I just got off work, *handhold subsides* and wanted a drink before I went home. Before a nightcap.
Me: I gotcha. Where do you work?
Her: The [restaurant] over in [town].
Me: Ooh I love that place, where?
Her: The one over in [town]
Me: (I can't hear her) *pulls closer, incidental touch* Which one?
Her: (: [town}
Me: (still can't hear her, fuck it) Never been. I've been to the one in [town]. So you like it there?
Her: Yea I've never had a better time working actually!
Me: What is it you do over there?
Her: I'm a bartender.

I ask her about other places she might have bartended, places she's lived, why she's in our city, where she's going, and eventually she asks me what I do and I tell her a bit about being a server. I assume she's decently older than me.

Me: I just started working there, actually. It's been interesting getting to know my coworkers - like a week into the job my boss, he's gay, openly starts talking about a pretty descriptive explanation of what he's gonna do to one of the servers in his promiscuous ways *she starts to subtlety show IOI's* (why did I not capitalize here??). Pretty interesting to say the least.
Her: *playing with hair* Oooh (:
Me: So do you have a little family with your coworkers or how is it?

things go bad from here because I wasn't sexual enough and didn't keep the conversation moving deeper

Her: Yeah I mean, there's a lot of new people, but we have our little clique for sure. I'd consider myself the vice president bar tender.
Me: Oooo cocky
Her: (:
Me: (you're an idiot, kinda weird question, and ultimately derailed you) So are most of those guys your age or is it pretty diverse?
Her: *pauses* Yea most of them are about my age, but some of the servers are younger.
Her: How old are you?
Me: *smirk* guess.
Her: *pauses* 23.
Me: Ha, no.. close.
Me: How old are you? (the vibe had slightly become negative at this point, and then I continued to feed the subject instead of transitioning or quickly settling and transitioning. Instead I deflect)
Her: 26. Wait, how old are you?
Me: You have to guess
Her: 21.
Me: Yea that's it
Her: *smiles, turns away, looks down* Oh my, go awaay.
Me: *laughs* Ohoho. Okay, maybe.
Me: And you thought I was 23, hmm?
Her: *looks back at me smiling*
Me: What made you assume that?
Her: I don't know, that's just what I assumed.
Me: Well, assumptions can get the best of us sometimes.
Her: You're pretty young *nose in the air kind of way*
Me: Ha, like that means shit. A coworker of mine is 30 and acts 17. (I'm qualifying here in a slightly bitter way, bad move)

Me: So you must know a thing or two then.
Her: Yes, yes I do.
Me: Okay. Teach me something.
Her: Haha, like what?
Me: *looks away, ponders* something from the army, let's hear it (forgot to mention she did 4 years in the army)
Her: Haha, nothing that I could show you here
Me: *pauses* well where's all this wisdom, ******? *busting your balls kind of smile*
Her: *laughs* [I can't remember what she said]


Then something or other about what each of us are supposed to know. I missed a sexual window where I could have said she knows how to fuck, and turned it into a completely sexual conversation, where none of that bullshit would have mattered. I was too timid in fear of being too direct.

Me: Okay, quiz me then.
Her: Haha, what??
Me: C'mon it'll be fun. I'll ask you if you know how to do something and you hit me back with yours.
Her: Okay, fine.


we do it, and it's a platonic "quiz" of 3 questions. it was kind of fun, but just not sexual when it should have been.

It was like.. "How to [insert skill or hobby]" where I could have started with a slightly sexual skill (unhook a bra with one hand or something / give a hickey), then a normal one (ride a bike, idk), then a more sexual skill (take someone's pants off without your hands / give a blow job / reverse cowgirl)

After we finish she asks for her tab. I asked her for coffee and she said goodbye and left.


I went to an arcade bar next to the place, because there was no one there that was hot. There was a group of 3 hot girls gossiping about guys and I should have opened, but I went to the bathroom to get a better angle and when I came back they were gone.


Kind of a rough night. I wasn't sexual enough. But, if I'm gonna have a meh night then I'd rather it be a Monday at a dive bar than on a Friday at a more popular one.

Hueman
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Fri Jul 14, 2017 2:01 pm

Tuesday

Finally submitted a protocol rough draft in my internship - months of work finally getting somewhere.

Went out with friends afterwards. 1st bar we went was rough, 2nd one was fun. I saw Lips there with all her girls and did my best to ignore them and use preselection. I did bump into Lips and just had a quick "hey, how are you?" in passing with a warm smile. I found out yesterday she was bugging to her friend about the whole thing since she flaked on me.

My exceptionally good looking friend was there and we had some fun with a random group of girls that approached him. When the girls were being silly and shit testing us we just looked at eachother and laughed, it was a great moment. Unfortunately the hot one's had boyfriends that were there and got all protective.

Wednesday

I got a new intern's number after realizing she was interested. Afterwards my mentor says to me "I'm assuming you got her number on a strictly professional basis, Hueman". lol yes sensai.

At work there was a table of chicks celebrating their friends 20th birthday. One of them was eye fucking me and I flirted with the table the whole time, then directly spoke to her after the meal while I was bussing. Right when they started to leave, I told her to wait and motioned her over. She came closer to the door and I said "Hey, I don't usually do this but I thought you were really cute. Are you single?" She gave me a big smile but said "No I have a boyfriend", I told her "Tell him I say hi" and gave a little kiss to the air. It was fun.

Thursday

My exceptionally good looking friend and I went out to bars. The one we went to was pretty lacking with girls - not one chick above a 7. Eventually a larger group of dudes I know came and I chatted some of them up, eventually bumping into a dude I met from pool. He told me he's meeting a girl at a bar, who has 3 girlfriends coming with, and to join. I thought it'd be fun and ditched my friends and went. This dude is nuts, fucking drunk drove us to the bar, popped two oxy's, and split a 40 with me while on the way there. He offered me some, but I said no thanks - not when I'm drinking.

Once we get there, the 1 girl shows up, with 3 gay dudes! Lol, like you gotta be kidding me man. I left to another bar by myself, approached two girls but couldn't hook (plus I was really drunk at this point and it was probably visibly clear).

When I left I saw some REALLY drunk girl walking on the wrong side of the street - and straight into some construction going on. I yelled to her to try and help her out and she looked at me then started running lol. Probably thought I was trying something. I just laughed and kept going my way.

Then I went to an older person bar, bumped into a pretty woman, tried to start a conversation, but she quickly told me to "go back to my friends". That should have been an indicator that I'm appearing and acting in a way that screams shitfaced, and it was probably best to just go home.

Instead I get to some other bar, and sit down next to the only hot girl there. I saw some dude chasing hard with her, while she was trying to have a conversation with her friend. After he left, I tried talking to her, but immediately realized how drunk I was and incapable of holding a good conversation.


Lesson? Don't get that drunk! Doesn't serve any purpose, and only brings negative consequences.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

FR: Mall Day Game

Postby Hue » Sat Jul 15, 2017 5:10 pm

Friday

Work. Getting a better footing at being a sexual individual while being socially calibrated in the work place again.

Saturday (Day)

Just went and cold approached at the mall for a few hours. I realized how you really do have to just GO AND APPROACH or nothing will happen when it might have. Also, you must learn to deal with rejections one of two ways: 1). Their loss! 2) Laugh and move on, forget it even happened. Both times though, constructive criticism is needed.

1st Approach

I had been walking around for about 30 minutes and anxiety held me back from approaching, plus a lot of the girls just weren't hot enough. I see two honeys walking on the side walk (the mall is half out door half indoor, pretty cool place) and do a police hand stop. Unfortunately the girl who it was directed towards notices as there was a tree in between us.

Her: *confused look* wuh, I'm so confused
Me: Excuse me (:
Her: Oh, yea?
Me: I just wanted to tell you that I thought your friend was really fucking cute *looks at friend*
Her: Oh, umm, cool.
Her Friend: *turns away, starts walking again*
Me: What are you guys doing here today?
Her: Shopping
Me: Oh, what for?
Her: Some makeup *turns and starts walking*
Me: Well have fun guys!


Yep, pretty bad. That also hurt me for about another 30 minutes because of how cold they were.


2nd Approach

In a girls jewelry and clothing store. I poke around for a bit and see who's hot, then place myself next the hottest girl there as she's in the back of a decently big line. I'm looking at these little girly chests. She had said "oh sorry" as I walked over there to get out of my way.

Me: *lightly touches small of her back* 'cuse me
Her: Oh, excuse me (thinks I'm trying to get by)
Me: Quick question
Her: *turns, small smile* oh, yea?
Me: If I were getting this for my mom.. would it be too cliché?
Her: *examines box* Haha, yea, just a little too cliché.
Me: Haha yea I thought so... what would you say is less so?
Her: *looks at other boxes* This one!
Me: *examines box, chuckles* Not bad.
Me: What are you here for today?
Her: *turns body completely around and away from me* Just out n about
Me: Ah just some putzin
Her: *looks away* Yep.


Weird, maybe she didn't like how I was so indirect. She was totally engaged then went cold.

3rd Approach

Bookstore. I putz around, read some 50 shades (; and as I'm walking out see a cute girl and a really fat girl walk in. I was going to say fuck it, but a voice in my head said just fucking do it. I glance back and see them heading up the escalator. I slowly make my way over and find them in the Manga section. I used to read this shit when I was way younger so I look at some of the old books I was familiar with. I'm in the same aisle as the cutie, but can't think of an opener. She runs over to her friend to show her she found a book. I felt she would return, and she did.

Me: Excuse me
Her: Yea?
Me: Quick question. You're really cute by the way.
Her: Oh, thanks! (:
Me: So, I used to read a bunch of these, but when I talked to people that read manga now they told me I read all the shit series... you have any that you'd recommend?
Her: Oh, sure! *tells me about this series, light conversation on both ends*
Me: So what'd you come to do here today?
Her: Umm, well, *fat friend comes up* Julia, what do you think!
Me: *fascinated look, small smile*
Her: Sorry, I don't talk to people much
Me: Julia, hey. What's your name? *takes hand of cutie*
Her: [honestly can't remember] *clearly nervous
Me: Hueman. Well if you don't talk to people so much, we ought to grab coffee some time.
Her: OH, well, I'm 16.
Me: *surprised look* You're 16? Haha. I would not have guessed.
Her: Yea I'm pretty young
Me: Well, I'm still totally glad I talked to you. Have a great day guys.


It's legal where I am, but I'm not down. I felt very confident after this.

4th approach

I saw a older looking red head outside of Macy's. She stops before she comes in.
Me: Hi there
Her: Oh, hey.
Me: I just saw you walking there an thought you were really cute.
Her: *smiles* Oh, thanks.
Me: Are you single?
Her: Yea, I am.
Me: Great (:
Her: Wait, how old are you? You look younger.
Me: Guess (:
Her: 22?
Me: Ha, no. That's close.
Her: *pause* 21?
Me: Yea that's it.
Her: Oh, well I'm 30.
Me: Oh cool.
Her: You don't care that I'm 10 years older than you?
Me: I don't see why it'd make all that much of a difference
Her: (: Wow okay.


We talked about what we did, turns out we're in a very similar neighborhood, she's a nanny, has 1 kid, and a sister my age at the same school as me. I got her number and left her on her way. Probably could have instadated. However, after I approached she wasn't as hot as I expected - about a 6. I may or may not text her. Probably should just for experience, I guess.

5th approach

I complimented this black chick with awesome hair but when she turned around her face didn't do it for me.

6th approach

Girl looking at clothes. Blonde - 7.
Me: Hi there
Her: Hey *weird face*
Me: I just saw you standing there and thought you were pretty cute. Couldn't not come up to you
Her: *weird face* (: Oh thanks.
Me: What's your name?
Her: Kayli
Me: *takes hand* Hueman
Her: Nice to meet you.
Me: What you doing here today?
Her: Just shopping for clothes.
Me: Are you single?
Her: *more serious, but entertained face* No. I'm not.
Me: So you have a boyfriend
Her: Yes.
Me: Perfect (: You're not married.
Her: No, not married. But I'm very loyal
Me: Okay haha. *touches small of back* Have a good day Kayli.
Her: Yep




I think my question progression is probably a little wack. I'm definitely doing that again though. That was fun. I laughed my ass off after the last one.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

FR: Polarizing Extraversion

Postby Hue » Sun Jul 16, 2017 1:14 pm

Direct day game is king. I was so energized and extraverted the rest of the day. Actually, I was too extraverted. I got thrown out of a club by a dude who's tight with the bouncers and lost my key ring :P not good.

I began my adventure by hitting up a group of dudes who I've been partying with since I met them. Just some drinkin buddies. Right when I get there the dude I'm tight with feels sick and bails. So, I'm there with two girls, and 5 dudes who don't know me, and I don't know them, all that well. I talked to the girls the most, and befriended the guys. I had IOI's from this really hot power lifter, but her boyfriend was there and continuously kept her in check. Plus, he's a good guy. Sometimes he would give me power over the situation by allowing me to insert myself in the convo. I appreciated that.

We head off to some bar and its PACKED. I go in and start talking to the girl next to me at the bar, but after getting a closer look she's got pretty weird lips so I throw another guy I'm with at her and allow him to take over.

Eventually we get a seat at a table as 4 girls are leaving. I chat one of them up and get IOI's, and she tells me she'll still be at the bar, that they're just leaving the table. aka come find me.

Then I go over to the highest population of girls at the bar (the ratio, btw, was insanely good. I'll be back) and it's so crowded you can't move. I chat up the girl next to me and suddenly this hot girl I know from high school starts chatting me up. She used to fuck one of my natural friends.

I flirt with her and have her get me a drink and a shot lol. We made a bet about who would get drinks first, and she won, yet she still got me the drinks lol. I chatted up some girl next to me about people watching about how people's eyes react when the bartender gets close. She couldn't really hear me but got super excited by me talking to her. I also talked to my highschool friends sorority sister for a bit but she was cold.

I get my drinks and return to my table. I noticed how even though I wasn't that reactive in the conversation, nearly everything I said got a large reaction or put sway into the movement of the situation / topic. I didn't feel I was Rogue King, although I certainly had influence over these new friends I had made.

Things get fuzzy after this.

I make it over to another bar on a rooftop, and run into about 3 groups of people I know. They all come up to me at once. I just posted in General about this. Hopefully someone can bring light to that situation.

I mingle and flirt around, talking to many people. I remember one instance of a guy that wouldn't talk to me before wanting my attention because I was talking to the girls he wanted to fuck, and one of them was drunkedly falling on me. lol, fuck you dude, that's very beta behavior. Like I said things were very fuzzy at this point.

Then I left with a different group that I had started with, some old friends from highschool and head to a different bar.

Some girl I had met about a month ago comes up to me and introduces her friend with IOI's as we're sitting down at the bar. Don't remember the conversation at all. I didn't capitalize, I know that.

Then there's a little piece of my memory of talking to a larger group of girls at the bar, and then another instance of me talking with a girl that I had cold approached their group on a trivia night, but she was being a bitch.

Finally I get to the club. I remember absolutely nothing, other than getting kicked out for talking to some guys girlfriend.

Apparently I walked home, called an Uber to Venezuela's, convinced her to pool hop with me and try to fuck in the pool, and she got in and started shivering so it was short lived. We made it back to her place and she was too tired to fuck, we fucked in the morning, she fed me and drove me home. My keys are gone so I had to break into my house. Now I'm sitting here, unable to drive or lock my place up... FUCK.


What a night.


I also woke up with some girls number who I have no recollection of talking to. Looked her up on facebook, she's cute. Just shot her a text.


Aaaand that's how she goes.

Lesson? Don't get that drunk! Doesn't serve any purpose, and only brings negative consequences.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Weekly update 7/16/2017

Postby Hue » Mon Jul 17, 2017 1:37 am

Going to add a weekly goal, and a daily goal when appropriate.

I was shitty with my lifting this week. I maxed at 190 for chest press, and 105 for triceps, but that's the only important. I skipped multiple days, and had a few maintenance work outs, but was not committed. Not allowing that this week.

However, my car is in the shop for a few days, so I'll be unable to go to my gym, I'll have to adapt my workout to home.


Weekly goal: be self reliant when out. If in a scenario where you see a girl you want to approach, or things are going well with a girl you approached, leave your friends. Fuck em.

Monday

Do full body maintenance workout (deck of cards) TWICE. Gonna suck dick, but let's do it.
No access to car, no access to internship. Instead go to the library to continue research and send it in an email.
Street Approach since I'll be working everywhere

Tuesday

Same as Monday but focus on legs for workout.
May or may not have a date with Lips

Wednesday
Cofaciliate at other internship - meet with female intern for plan (probably best I don't pursue anything with her for conflict of interests)
Find a way to gym (car pool with lifting buddy) Biceps & Shoulders
Go to karaoke night at local bar --> limit yourself to 3 drinks MAX.

Thursday
Speak with mentor about behavioral specialist position at other internship
Find a way to gym if still without vehicle Chest and Tri
Go to the bar you went to on Saturday

Friday
Mall game
Legs
Birthday party

Saturday
Mall game
Core
Work

Sunday
Rest
Read
Work
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Tue Jul 25, 2017 3:22 am

Exercises Update

Leg Press: 310 - 8 reps
Quads: 155 - 8 reps
Hamstring: 155 - 8 reps

Pulldown: 90 each arm - 5 reps (talked to instructor and he gave me wrist exercises since its my wrists and fingers giving out, not my biceps or back)
Row: 75 each arm - 6 reps

Obliques: 155 - 20 reps on 4th set

Was still lazy this week, which I'm finding to be a direct result of blacking out the Saturday before then that leading into the week.



Monday

I did practically nothing all day. Lots of sleep.

Tuesday

Almost the same as Monday but I worked out and got roped in (aka I convinced myself) to go out with those drinking buddies. The night did not feel right at all. It felt forced, I barely approached and didn't have much fun.

Lips ghosted me. She's so hot, but after enough interactions she's clearly insecure about her appearance. When a girl gets so much attention I guess it makes sense that she'd be worried about upkeep. Plus if you're ego is fueled by attention that because a cyclic operation, like many others.

Wednesday

Didn't end up cofacilitating but did take part in an assessment, I've been assigned to a new client who I'll be following his progress. I got a ride back to my house from the new intern. Wow, did I kick ass the first day I met her, the impression I left was very clear. She even told me "I could tell that you're not a boring person" on the way back.

Ended up picking up a shift, which unfortunately made me miss a drink with that short chick. Since it's been such as hassle I gave her a ball in your court text and she didn't answer.. dang. Might have been bad news though, she told me in a text that she was going to court ordered drug counseling. Not trying to be judgemental as that could have come about in a number of ways, but that's definitely a red flag.

At work I had a really fun interaction with a table who had given me IOI's before. When I went up to them they recognized me and were all like "Oh its you!" and I knew it was gonna be fun the rest of the time. I chased framed them as my stalkers, then qualified them "How's my favorite table?" when I was checking on them, then chase framed again with something.. but the zinger, inspired by TwoRocky (username is now Fuck This) was this in total confidence:

Me: Hey ladies, I'm about to have a 12 top, you guys look like your finished.. do you need anything else?
Them: No we're all good (:
Me: Gotcha. So should I get your number now or on the check?
Hot One: What??
Me: Should I get your number now or did you plan on writing it on the check?
Them: *burst out laughing and embarrassed*
Hot One: That.. was really good
Other: She has a boyfriend!
Me: Oh, he would LOVE me
Hot One: *giggling and smiling*
Me: *smirks, takes plates*

I get the check

Me: So, you're not married?
Them: *burst out laughing again*


That was that, I was really surprised I didn't get her number! Either way it was totally fun the whole time.


After that I went to a local dive bar with my coworkers. I.. don't feel like I'm in yet. Not that I really have a burning desire to be, but they are my coworkers. They have this tight knit group, but most all they do is bitch about being a server / bartender which to me... is kind of a boring conversation topic. Idk, maybe we'll warm up to each other.


Thursday

I was a poor communicator with my ride to my internship - had to bail. Not cool on my part.
Did my maintenance workout, then this natural hit me up to go out. Thank fuck, I also got invited with the dudes from Tuesday and just didn't want to hang with them. Even if I said fuck it and went out alone, they go to the bars I go to and I would have run into them.

Anyway.. the dude picks me up and we go to some bar in his town. We're approached by this sorority girl from my old town, she's kind of always been into me and is clearly into him. We make loose plans to meet up later for her sister's birthday.

We eventually go to this other bar that I had planned on and it's packed with girls. I approach two at the bar but they got carried away, then when we went to buy some dollar shots we opened a 6 pack of girls who were all flirty with him. I should mention this guy is ripped, not bad looking, and has good posture. He's a playful dude so IMO a natural. After spending time with him I notice he doesn't see some of the things I see, but he's still got a major advantage with his fundamentals - and thus natural experience with women.

Things are a little fuzzy around here but I approached a pretty black girl and her friend, then he immediately tagged along and within seconds we're hooked and wingmanning eachother. He got in a fight and is showing them pictures of the initial battle scars, which.. they're fucking disgusting - idk why he'd show these off. They were already visibly turned on by him mentioning he was in a fight period lol, need not get so detailed. They wanted to go to some other bar and against my typical judgment we comply.

At this point the game is more of me deep diving the black girl while my buddy is playful and braggadocios.. which pretty much indicated to me that our styles don't click super great.

Once we got to the bar I run into some high school friends who are with some really hot girls, and I approach a few and chit chat before getting pulled back to my buddy who was with the two girls. Good preselection, no doubt. Don't really remember what made us leave but before I know it we're at a club.

I fuck up here. One second I'm with them, the next I realize I lost my dad's credit card I had used to go grocery shopping that day (I'm very fortunate he let's me do this sometimes - making me feel like even more of a punk). I immediately drop everything and leave to call him and tell him to cancel it. He's obviously pissed. I felt like a total shit head and went home.

Friday

I wallowed in self hate then went into work. By the end of the day I had talked with my parents over the phone, and restored my psyche. It was my coworkers birthday, so we all went out and got him some drinks. I had fun for the most part, but I quickly picked up that this coworker in particular is not the most popular of the establishment, at least not with the girls. He's a nice guy, just talks about himself 90% of the time.. which can definitely get annoying.

Saturday

Rather than mall game I felt I needed to spend some time with the family so I did that instead. Also worked out and killed it, putting up more weight than I ever had with legs. Not a max out though. I will mall game next week, I still remember how fun that was.

Luckily the birthday party was that night. I hit up my highschool buddy, we pregame at my house, then leave to the party. At the gas station we went to before the party (it was BYOB) we chatted up two drunk girls who were reupping their drink. They seemed interested, but weren't that good looking so I didn't feel the desire to number grab. I bumped into Lips on the way and said in a suuuper flirty voice "Ooh hello there!" and she gave me a big smile in passing. It smelled loud as fuck where she was, she had just walked out of a house with a couple other people.

We get to the birthday party at almost the same time as everyone else showed up. Immediately it turns into a huge flip cup game with like 20 people around the table, it was rowdy and fun. I talked to about 3 girls I hadn't met who were cute, but they would always flock back to the people (girls and guys) they showed up with. One weird interaction was this girl who said "if you need any of my information just ask *****" which.. I don't know what that meant. Is that a rejection? Was it a test or underhanded invitation to see if I'd push for information right there? Whatever it was I kind of brushed it off.

There was also a moment where I went up to two of the guys from that group of drinking buddies (two of the cooler dudes in the group, they actually have ambitions) while they were talking to these two field hockey players from a few weeks ago. The dude's face tensed up the moment I entered circle (like, uh oh, what do I do? kind of look). Perhaps my vibe was weird, or perhaps he was worried I'd do something out of his control to the interaction with the girls. If I remember correctly, these two (they're twins) were really liking what I was putting down the night I met them.. but I didn't even talk to them. It was just a quick convo before I moved on, probably no big deal as I'll see them again and be able to better assess it.

My friend from Thursday showed up and we throw drinks in his face and head to the bars. When I saw him I realized how drunk I was <--- that phrase just gave me deja vu from Hustler's Ambition, and a post I made from last week..

I opened like 3 girls but barely remember it, before I know it I'm at the club again. I booty called the crazy chick (yikes) and Venezuela who was sleeping. When I finally went down at my house, I woke up the next morning to a 3 am phone call from my coworker who I almost pulled a threesome with Lips with. She was by my house with her friends and they wanted to come in. A good sign. Alas, ya boy was out for the count.

Sunday

Work, hit the gym, and set up a date with the black chick. We'll be getting coffee this Wednesday (;



Okay, I've been thinking all week about this: I NEED to control my drinking. I made a pros and cons list of everything that heavy drinking (and drinking in general) brings into my life and the cons WAAAY outweigh the pros. Next time I go out, I'm saying in the mirror to myself, "you will not have more than X number of drinks". If I go out with someone I'm really close with (enough to tell them my concern) I'm going to say, "Yo dude, I know it's my responsibility for this, and it will be in the back of my head all night, but if you get the vibe or see me starting to accelerate my drinking, just nudge me in a way that lets me know I might be getting ahead of myself, I'd appreciate it." or something of that manner. This shit is getting reckless, and is a massive hindrance on my progression in numerous areas.


I've been thinking about what "my problem" is recently, and it mainly stems from anxiety of why I'm not "there' yet. It brought me to a realization that IT'S OKAY that I'm where I'm at right now. I'm going to improve. I've laid out how to improve, this website, other influences, books, my mediation, has shown me how to improve. I just need to take action, and a deep breath.

It's been a rough week since losing my keys followed by my dad's card though, that's for sure. I'm gonna stay on track with my plan and try to lower stress. Also, I'm not going out tomorrow. If I do later this week, lower, lower, lower my drinks. I need to remind myself, I go out to meet people and be social, not to get drunk. If I wanted to get drunk, I could call a friend and get shit faced in my apartment - but why the fuck would I want to do that? lol.

Onward and Upward
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Wed Jul 26, 2017 4:26 pm

Part of the reason I go out so often is I have X amount of people who like to go out on specific nights, Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday. Last night I turned my friend down who asked me to go out to a popular Tuesday bar, and tonight I picked up a shift.

I noticed that I accidently named two girls Lips, because of, well, their DSL's. First lips is an adorable Persian shit tester, and that ship has sailed. The other one is my coworkers hot half Japanese half puertorican friend, who I think still might be a yellow flag if I play my cards right.

OR: Married Beta

I saw a sad site yesterday. This 40-50 y/o dude on a date with his wife and her friend. The moment I sat their table I could tell something was off in the wife's eyes. When I returned a few minutes later, the guy (who's balding pretty bad) is bent over in his seat, trying to hold his wife's hand. The wife is barely returning any grasp and looking away blankly.

Everytime I came back to their table, the wife was more and more disinterested and annoyed with the guy. By the end, the dude is bragging to the wife's friend as she scrabbles for single's to leave me a tip. He goes "well, I mean I usually only have 100 dollar bills in my wallet, but there's a slight chance" and proceeds to pay for the woman's tip. The wife just goes "ooooh" in a knowing, confirmation kind of way.

"Ooooh, wow, you really do place your self worth in your money, and not your character. How pathetic." Is more of what it said.

I felt bad for the guy, revamping his provider frame when he so desperately needs to act like an independent man. His wife was really hot, too.


I also deep dived my coworker by accident. She has depression and when she found out I facilitate group therapy started to open up to me, somewhere along the conversation she's talking about her old boyfriend she had a shitty experience with, and by the end of the shift she was touching my body. I'm not interested, this girl isn't that attractive and obviously carries some baggage. I'll be her friend, though.

My date flaked with these texts, I'm not worried though.
Me: hey, still good for later?
Her: Ugh I actually can't this week I have a biochem exam next Wednesday and need to focus but I'm totally down for something after that
Her: Sorry to bail :/
Me: no biggie, I'll make some other plans. best of luck (:

Higher chance of me moving it to drinks next week as a celebration


Got some girls number off Tinder, soon to get another off Badoo.

Will be going out tomorrow, possibly day game and go out Friday, definitely day game and go out Saturday. I will not black out this weekend. I can do this.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Fri Jul 28, 2017 11:36 am

On Wednesday I got mad IOI's from two girls who's table I had that were just visiting for the night. They were being really flirty and accepted most of my frames, and told me they were adventurous. Threesome immediately popped in my head. Right after that, I got quadruple sat and couldn't flirt with them more. I still busted the line, which bombed, and they gave me a sassy return and no number, just wrote on the bill that I was cute.

Approached two girls (interns) after my internship luncheon that go to my university, they were cute, but I never got the hooking point.

After some daily duties,

Lay report
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Sat Jul 29, 2017 7:06 pm

Friday
fast.

I ended up at the club with my buddies and these field hockey chicks. The smokeshow from the last time I partied with them was there, but it dynamic was so damn weird.

So, she lost her friends and was with just us guys, her friends went to a different bar to party with athlete guys. Some of the less cool guys in this particular group were just standing around her, while she danced, and looked like fucking rape vultures. I chatted her up and tried to move her but she wouldn't engage. Odd, it's like she just wanted to stand their and dance - but it didn't look like she was having fun.. but she didnt' want to leave either.

I got tired of whatever the fuck that was and went to approach elsewhere. Hit some hard rejections because I wasn't feeling very high energy and we're in a club, and then I run into a couple groups of people. One is my old research lab coworkers, and M (old fuckbuddy) is apparently there.

I go back to my friends, and am typing up a text to M. Since last semester, she stopped fucking me because she was boyfriend hunting. RIGHT before I hit send, M grabs me, and we start hitting it off.

They're with this gay dude, and I ask him what M's deal is (she's said to my face she wants to fuck me, but she just can't. He explained that "M wants a good guy, but she's into bad boys like you." AKA attainability.

So, I buy her a drink and give her attention, dance with her friends, flirt with the gay guy lol (he tried kissing me at one point, telling me he was so into me), and eventually invite her back for an after party at my house. She took it as an actual afterparty, so I ambiguously lied in a "what she doesn't know won't hurt her way". My rationalization is that it was the greater good.

Eventually I leave, go home, tidy up the house a bit, and in comes M and the gay dude. The gay dude is about to get an uber to pipe up some guy, and M stays after I do some convincing and being physical (holding her hands from behind, my dick on her ass, talking to her with my head turned, she's short). Once he leaves we almost instantly start hooking up and move into fucking.

Too put the icing on the attainability cake I made us breakfast and did some cuddling, which she loved. She saw other condoms lying around though, she knows we're not monogamous.


Saturday (morning)

After M left I got lunch with mother (:

I went shopping at the mall, missed a huge opportunity to approach a smokeshow, but because I hesitated it looked weird and I thereafter talked myself out of it.

Got my necklace de-tarnished, some threads, a new book, and sadly only made one real approach. Tbh, I only saw about 6 girls I wanted to approach. A lame excuse, I know.

The approach I did have went decent. It was only slightly non-platonic, and she had a boyfriend. For the first time though, we kept talking for like 6 minutes after I found out she was taken. She seemed really warm at the end, but I didn't try to number close. Lame.

Went to my old workplace and met some of my would-have-been coworkers while I ate and got a drink with a good friend (excoworker). This girl got THE CREEPIEST text from some dude. A guy, mutual friend, didn't know this girl.. and covertly got her number and texted her, jumped from talking about harry potter to what she wants in a relationship, got ghosted, AND THEN sent her a paragraph with this weird as romantic shit. We laughed (and cringed) very hard. If I could actually put the texts on here I would as an example of the absolute don't-do-this thing.
Did my daily shit, couldn't get above 2 reps with chest press, so time to lower a little bit for some higher reps on 175~ or so.

Went to a party with the field hockey team again. Hated the dynamic. The girls invited other athletes over and other than a few girls I couldn't compete. Even then they ultimately chose the guys in their regular social scene over a couple of my friends and I. However, I know they're attracted from the way the engagements would end. I might run into some attainability issues because I didn't feed their chase at all, later on, but I'm confident if the opportunity opens up I can work
Yikes.


Going out tonight with a few different people. (; Let's get 3 for 3 of nights I don't black out getting me some snatch.


EDIT: Oh yea, and when I was talking with the gay dude about M, some guy overhears the conversation and buts in.

His eyes were dialated, and his emotional overflow was obnoxious, as he preaches, "YOU KNOW WHAT I THINK MAN? WHO NEEDS WOMEN?? MEN DON'T NEED ANY OF THAT, BECAUSE THE FUCK YOU IN THE END ANYWAYS"

I listened for him about two seconds, then interjected, "Do you read red pill?"

He get's even more excited and starts preaching about how everyone needs to wake up to the truth, and I just say, I don't want to talk about his. He goes, "fine! go get bitches bro!" I said, thanks I will lol.

Too much of anything, is a bad thing, gentlemen.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Sun Jul 30, 2017 2:23 pm

Saturday (night)

Pregame with some high school friends, then go out to a bar, and shortly hop to another. The 2nd bar is vibing way more and a ton of kids we know are there. Didn't approach, just mingled, and hopped to another place.

There, my frat friends are there, and there's shots going round. I was mindful about pacing, I drink more with my hs friends than anybody and had to get waters with drinks, I could feel myself losing control.

Lots of mingling, basically, but not a lot of women out. Summer has that scene in a dead zone because everyone's moving in / moving out right now. It will change though.

I went to grab some food before I went home and started chatting up a girl in line. She's totally fucking with my vibe and invites me over to a table with 4 other girls. I sit down and the leader starts shit testing me. I play along, and actually become more attracted to the leader than the other girls at the table.

Eventually my food order came up so I got outta there. The girl I initially chatted up was being socially inept and showing me awkward IOI's. Huge turn off. Funny thing is, we matched on Tinder and she revived a fallen off convo between us today. So, she wants the D. Idk if I'll give it to her though. If she's that awkward normally, like not just cuz she was fucked up, I'm pretty hesitant.

Right before I walk in the house, it turns out a group of musicians I know moved in right next to me. So, we'll be partying a lot now lol. Made some friends, got a dudes number who gave me a trip to the ski resort (wink wink), got some IOI's from the women, all good stuff. I'm tired as shit today though. Time for coffee.

Work in an hour, but I'll get off early and hit up a coffee shop. Tryna network for my freestyle club now that schools a month away.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Weekley Update & Schedule 7/31/2017 - 8/6/2017

Postby Hue » Mon Jul 31, 2017 5:56 pm

Pull down - 180 5 reps
Row - 75 6 reps
Pull Up - 5 reps

Chest Press - 190 2 reps
Tricep Iso - 110 2 reps

Squat - 240 6 reps
Bike - Hill, Level 18, 15 minutes

Reconnected with that ditzy blonde from earlier. Persistence really does make you stand out among men.
Her: Ohhh yeah hahaha okay and I'll have to see with my work schedule
Her: sorry I just don't have you saved in my contacts haha my bad lol
Her: it's just because most guys that I meet out don't stay in touch or anything lol
Me: ooo playa playa *cheesing emoji* *flirty skeptical emoji* is that so
Her: No I am not ha but that's just how it is you just don't find quality people at a bar often it's true


And now she's chasing me via text. She is a weirdo, though. Once we get a date set up I'll probably keep it to a one time thing.



Plan for this week

Monday

Internship
Workout Bicep and Back
Meet with a rapper and set up open mic dates / write a collab song
Write Monthly Summaries of Hustler's Ambition

Tuesday

Workout Legs
Internship
Get a haircut (but keep it long (; )
Work

Wednesday

Workout Chest & Tricep
Try to pick up work shift
Read Philosophy (gotta finish this book before you start the new one!!)

Thursday

Internship (and speak about taking part time position)
Workout Core
Go to rented out club? (got invited by a natural to go to bottle service at a club downtown, if they do it)

Friday

Workout Legs (bike)
Work

Saturday

Mall Game
Maintenance Workout
Work (or get it called off)
Possibly go out

Sunday
Rest Day
Read
Date with black chick from last week?
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Mon Aug 07, 2017 1:13 am

Monday - Snoozy, laid back day. Not a whole lot done.

Tuesday - I got my haircut and went to work. Observation: my hairdresser either stopped treating me like a kid, or I'm more aware of how the interactions have been going. Not totally sure which, but the whole vibe was different, and I had the sexual frames flowing the whole time. Banged the crazy chick. I'm wondering what effect this will have on reputation.


Wednesday - Met with two old friends who basically fucked their lives up. One just got out of rehab and is doing AWESOME.

So happy I never truly gave up on him even though it seemed like the thing to do / all my friends did. I'll admit it hurt my external value to be associated with the kid, but.. sometimes you gotta weigh your personal values.

Reading Chase's recent post on the social exchange makes me think about many things.

I absolutely see what he's talking about, especially in groups that are higher status / have more going for them. It gives me cognitive dissonance contrasted with what Hector said in his podcast about college social circle game, and how the player is constantly a polarizing individual.

How does someone navigate the social atmosphere through his established value when their value is a fluctuating factor, as people are constantly reacting in vastly different ways to the same behaviors and qualities?

Certainly, I've noticed that people have been wanting my attention, consider me high value, qualify themselves around me before... then as time passes they no longer show it. Rarely have I seen it the other way around, but perhaps that's because of my own transgression in that specific scene - I may have failed to give maintenance to those relationships properly. I even had a close friend tell me that after someone sees my "bad side" or me when I'm on a negative polarization, they rarely return or switch to the positive polarization... just his observation, but it's congruent with my experience (more times than not).


I went to catch up with the other old friend at a bar. It had been a year since I'd last seen him and I wanted to see how he was.

He hasn't changed at all. Other than being deep in addiction, which he's recovering. Especially after Chase's article, I wonder how this may effect me.. It's definitely a relationship of me not gaining anything and him gaining shit. He literally asked me to counsel him which I jokingly deflected. No, I'm not going to counsel you because we used to be friends. Go pay for a counselor, not leech my emotions while I try to get into graduate school for counseling. Also there's data that suggests that giving too much empathy causes burnout, where as giving some empathy and a majority of compassion is more long lasting. Not that life is completely reflective of data and paper, but it supports my stance.

Anyways.. approaches.

First approach: It was karaoke night at this bar and I jokingly signed my friend up to sing. While doing so there's a girl signing herself up - I talk her up and flirt, getting her name. She seemed interested. I leave back to my friends for a while, then run into her inside. I start trying to deep dive a little bit, and get "tossed" to her friend while she goes to the bathroom. I started to joke and have a good time with her, it actually was fun and seemed solid. Before the girl I want returns I ask her friend if she's single, and she says no, she has a boyfriend. I pull the marriage line and naaah. Lol I think I'm in too young of an age group to make that a regular line. She comes back, we chit chat, and I eject.

Second approach: There's a girl eye fucking me. She won't stop. I tell my friend, "yo, I need to go talk to this girl" and go up. Yet, she gave me nothing. I talk to her and her friend, AGAIN getting good vibes from the friend, but not her. Wtf? I'm clearly missing something here..... maybe I was asking too basic of questions. Eventually I'm just not getting the investment I expect and bail.

Third approach: Same thing with eye fucking and me approach to see nothing, but this one was different. She's staring me down, I walk over, and open with "Hey (:" and she just turns around 180. What. The. Fuck??? I try further, "if you're gonna flirt with me like that you should say hi first". Nada. Nothing. Was I just giving off PUA vibes? I don't know, but something was majorly off with my vibe.

Fourth approach: Woof. Okay, so my old friend somehow starts convo with these two chicks. One's a 5, one's a 6. The 5 says "Don't worry, I'll do anything for you" and I chase frame her on him, making some good fun out of it. Eventually he starts talking to them, which he never does. I see him about to fall off (he's starting to look around anxiously) and go up to wingman. I just didn't get any vibe from these girls, I really don't get what was going on. It's like my empathy is turned off. Regardless, I talk and try to get an idea of what they're like. Eventually, the 5 says she's a psych major and we chat about that. After a few minutes, I realize... I book-club gamed this chick 1st semester last year.. she's put on weight. Used to be a 6. I bring it up like, "wait a minute.... you're in psych book club aren't you" and afterwards she's way warmer. After a bit she goes to the bathroom, I take her friend to get drinks, but she pulls the " I don't have money card" and then just doesn't really show me any real interest. It didn't feel right!

After that I went home.

Oh yea, and when I first got there the crazy chick's friend sees me,

Me: Hey [name]!
Her: What's up you freaky animal? (;
Me: Haha, that's a new one
Her: Well I'm sure you'd prefer that to sock-boy
Me: *glances to the right and laughs*Haha! No that's a keeper
Me: Do you have any nicknames.. in that field?
Her: Cutie-petudy (I thought she said butt-tudy)
Me: (god this is so lame) Oh, is the butt capitalized? (What?)
Her: What? Or heaven's little angel (oh my god sexual framing window, wtf)
Me: You said buttudy right? (holy fuck now I get what I was doing wrong)

something something

Her: Maybe you'll just have to give me one after some.. experience (YEEEEEP)
Me: Hmm, we'll have to see about that (should have said, "That can be arranged")
Me: Yo, Mikey! (pulls bartender aside)


Wow, that was super meh.

For some reason that night, I was being overly literal and serious. That's weird. Why, though?
I went home shortly after. Rough night.


Thursday:

Went out with my buddy, didn't approach other than two black girls at the bar. Some guys we ran into opened them, then introduced me and it seemed like it was on, but then the lights came on and they left. I quickly tried to get her number, she said she'd take mine, and I laughed and said we might not see eachother again, and stuck my phone out. They left.

A really hot girl we were with was smiling at me saying that they were into me, but her vibe felt weird when she did, so, idk if she was being facetious or not.

Friday:

Got off work early and then chose to go out even though two of my friends tried to get me to stay home with them and hang. I felt bad. Ah well, I'll make it up to them.

I approached 3 girls that night, and put in some real estate for later with two of them (ran into them last night too but couldn't smoothly number close and didn't wanna seem desperate).

What really ended up happening was my buddy convinced me to afterparty with these older guys. No hot girls, just a bunch of post graduates in their late 20's. It turned into a snow party, which by the end of I was killing it. But, ehh, weird vibes the next day. Just, people get too intense and pour out too much when their on the shit.

Saturday: I went to bed incredibly late and slept all day before work. Two hot black girls gave me IOI's but I couldn't bring out my vibe. After that two white girls gave me the same thing (both tables just came for drinks), and I went up to their table right before the lights come on. I can't fully remember the dialogue, but it was something along the lines of me teasing them because they got scared when the lights came on for closing hours, then I asked them where they were going after, and if they were gonna go onto the next dimly let place. Then the hotter one sexually framed it, "yeah so you can't see what we're doing" and I accept her frame, then eject. I come back and the other one does something eccentric and I go, "ooo now I see what bad things you're up to over here". (bad things is more calibrated than naughty in the restaurant setting) and she starts to giggle with light banter. I leave again and come around asking if they're also both students, we talk about how we're both seniors and their upset, I frame in positively like a new adventure, and then it turns out we both used to work at the same place before I quit for the same reason. I got lucky here. I left again, then came back one more time and she was writing down her number as I came up. Boom. Trying a new tactic of waiting two days so I'll text her tomorrow.

I banged Venezuela, practiced sexual dialogue, and made her cum harder than she ever had before. But, I'm growing bored of her and she can tell. I snuck away in the night and didn't sleep over, and I've been slowly distancing myself from her. I'm totally fine with her banging some other guy - I also don't want to hurt her. She has to take the hint by now that this is dissolving. I'm gonna stay around just a bit longer and see if she has hot friends then try to pull a threesome. Selfish, I know, but worth it. I planted seeds of trying new things in bed with her so maybe this can grow into that, who knows?

Sunday: Moved into my new apartment, a single (; and it's great. So spacious and well divided. I have an office now (: and looking forward to pimping it out, throwing some parties, etc. I knocked on my neighbors door who I had cold approached last week and got her wifi password. I didn't flirt but I tried to do any and everything in the sexiest way possible. She knows who I am, and that we're neighbors. Oh, and she had to bend over for an extended period of time to look behind her router. Great ass. I wonder if this was on purpose.


Lifting update

Squat - 250 2 reps
Quad - 190 6 reps (after 8,10 with 150,176)
Hamstring - 175 8 reps
Calves - 130 20 reps

10 pound assisted pull ups - 10 max
Pull down - 190 3 reps, 180 5 reps
Row Cords - 100 7 reps
Row Machine - 170 1 rep

Chest Press - 190 4 reps
Fly - 135 6 reps (X2)
Tri Iso - 110 4 reps
Super DB 50's - 15 dumbells


Plan for 8/7 - 8/14

Weekly goal: Practice time management and street approaching by walking to work instead of driving

Monday

Intern
Work out Legs
Text girl who left her number
Get new debit card
Work

Tuesday

Work Out Chest
Pimp out my apartment
Work
Go out? Or save money

Wednesday

Work Out Core
Pick up work shift
Find an errand to run and street approach

Thursday

Introduce Overhead Barbell Lunges to Workout, then workout shoulders (carefully)
Pack For Colorado
Pick up Work Shift

Friday - Sunday

Coloraaadoooooo

We're going on a huge end of summer trip. Still haven't told my parents :P but I should soon. Friday night we're hitting the bars, Saturday we're throwing a party with a bunch of other people visiting, Sunday - Tuesday we're gonna hike and bum around. So pumped.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Wed Aug 16, 2017 10:31 pm

I am not a big deal.


Didn't approach much at all this week. The vacation trip with my good buddies plus juggling a bunch of shit had me so busy. We got super drunk and then went hiking. And, of course, we didn't smoke any legal weed. Because that's bad for you.

I approached one girl at the bar on vacation who was friendly but not giving me the signals I wanted. I was also shitfaced. I danced with some girls at a club but don't remember much of it. I had to sit alone on the airplane and flirted with the girls next to me, but the hot one's dad was behind her so I didn't go too far. Lol mile high club was all that was on my mind though.

Went out last night and started chatting up 2 girls at the bar. One was hot but aloof, and they left to a table. After hanging with my buddies for one of their birthdays I talked myself into going up to their table. I just asked for a cigarette, then asked all three of them about their selves, switching between deep diving and flirty banter. The prize was still being aloof, and I had to invest more to get her to talk much.

Both of the other girls left to the bathroom, and the hot one stayed. Yea, she wants it. Then I compliment her and get a really warm smile. Her friends come back and say their leaving, and still, she stays. In my head I'm thinking I'm totally in, holy shit, this will be such an easy pull.

I ask her to leave with me to get some food and she says she's just gonna go home. I turn on my sexy eyes and a slight "really?" look and her eyes get red (her heart is beating faster because she's turned on). She leans into me across the table and we kiss. I immediately pull back.

Then I fucked up. She took my pull back as rejection to her kiss and says "oh, I'll just go home then". I say, "what are you thinking about right now" and she asks me the same thing back.

I say, "well, I'm really just thinking about fucking your brains out right now, but I think we should go to [place] before", and she looks at me with a gasp, then storms off. So, I hyper sexualized with poor calibration, and did so without making her feel comfortable first. Lame. Then I realized, I had cold approached her before, I don't think either of us remembered. We talked about fucking listening to death metal being super intense sex when we first met, and maybe my hyper sexualizing reminded her of that? Dunno, doesn't matter though.

Lol, was a funny story to the guys I was with though.


I set up a date with the intern girl because she just completed her time with the company. Risky business, but I'll screen before moving forward too much.

Next week school starts (: Let's let my final year in college be my best. I can't believe I'm here right now.


Weekly plan:


Thursday

Intern
Buy Texts
Work Out Biceps
GO TO DMV
Date with Intern girl
Go out


Friday

Work out Legs
Walk to coffee shop and street approach while doing so
Work


Saturday

Work out Core
Mall Game
Finish Philosophy Book
Go out


Sunday

Work out Chest / Triceps
Finish Philosophy Book
Work


Monday

Intern
Full Body Workout / Cardio
Prepare for school


Tuesday

Class
Research Lab
Class
Rest Day
Go out?


Wednesday

Intern
Work Out
Class
Freestyle Club


Thursday

Class
Research Lab
Class
Work Out
Go to Banger


Friday

Workout
Work?
Homework?
Party?


Saturday

See Friday


Sunday

Workout
Work





Man, I wish I wasn't so fucking busy with all the shit I've signed up for. And, I'm overall disappointed at my lack of motivation to day game cold approach this summer. That was my big plan at the beginning, but when you're running around with all this shit, the energy usually just isn't there.

Lately I have felt more extraverted and confident, not as caring about others. The vacation plus the literature and GC I've been reading has helped me a lot.

On another wavelength, part of me wants to settle down and get a high quality girlfriend. But, I fear this would end poorly. When I've had girlfriends or significant others in the past I tend to get bored. There's one girl I have in mind who is girlfriend material. Best not set any expectations.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Mon Sep 11, 2017 12:55 am

Busy busy.

I feel like I'm back in my groove with women, and things will be going well looking forward. Flirting is second nature, I'm recognizing IOI's that I didn't know existed before, and I feel like I can read a girls vibe within the first 10-15 seconds of interacting with her and whether or not to proceed. Also my understanding of the subtle differences between a shit test and a legitimate rejection are starting to open up to me but I'm not there yet.

Whether I'm cyclothymic or not is something I'm wondering, but it's more likely than not just the amount of shit I'm putting in my body that are excititory and inhibitory, and the collateral effects from that, coupled with my hefty schedule. Basically I'm burning the candle at both ends. It's exhausting.

As I get more comfortable at my work place, I'm picking up more and more on tests that some bitches give. Really, not all bitches are constantly shit testing - it's the dominant ones who love being out dominated by an alpha male that do. I work my ass off at work, but now I'm beginning to see the pointlessness of going the extra mile to help those who would not do the same for me. We're expected to run eachother's food when its at the window, and to bus eachother's tables. I'm one of 3-5 people that actually do this, while there's a couple bitches that never do that for anybody, and furthermore try to order me around. The same bitches that have been shit testing me. So, yea fuck that. Respect demands respect.

There's also this older fellow who I'm now cautious towards. The day I met the guy we got into an hour long conversation about self improvement and absolutely hit it off. Almost told him about GC, but glad I didn't. After a shift at the bar this guy and I started talking about how he quit his other job as a bar manager, and then started telling me about how he's amazing at making people loyal to him. Definitely raised my eyebrows and so I deep dived him about it, and he started saying all sorts of narcissistic shit. Very critical of others yet praises his own accomplishments without ever showing the slightest instance of vulnerability or self-criticism. Anyways, this isn't a rant about him. I'm just cautious because I know that there's quite a high chance of him running his mouth about me - and, since I'm a fairly polarizing individual, that's not great. He's starting a life-coaching business, so hey, maybe befriending him could turn into something quite fruitful. I guess it makes sense that he wants to life-coach if he's highly critical yet shows himself in the best light at all times. It's likely he's highly critical of himself just doesn't show it.



Yesterday was overall a mess. I went to a party that had a slow start, I flirted with a lot of the girls, had a girl comment on a hicky that Bundle gave me before autorjecting, and eventually I passed out. I went out to bars after I woke up again and missed a massive opportunity because of some bros>hoes shit. There were people visiting from Florida because of the hurricane aka they're only here for the night aka come stay at the Hueman Hotel. Instead I fulfilled a promise I made to my homies and left the bar with the florida people for another one.

Eventually I did go out to another bar by myself, and made a highly polarizing move that taught me something.

So I see these 3 chicks and approach one with high energy. I don't remember what I said, but was getting beaming smiles from these girls. Then the hottest one introduces herself to me whilst cutting off her friend, meaning she was the leader and was probably wondering why I wasn't talking to her in the first place. This part is fuzzy but I think one of them asked me if I was gay because of what was wearing plus me using flamboyancy in my game now. I tell them I'm bi and they don't believe me so, *cringe*, I say "Oh you don't believe me?", then walk over to the closest dude, whisper in his ear "I'm gonna pretend to kiss you. I'm not gay". And he's just like "umm okay?" and then I do it, turning back to the group of girls who are still beaming at me.

My next action would have been to move them and keep up the fast pace of what I was doing, but then the guy next to the dude I pretended to kiss is all like "bro, did that guy just kiss you?" and the guy gets all flustered and starts tooling me hard, threatening me, and all three of the guys they're with start surrounding me. I think what happened here was at first the dude was just like "okay, go a head, this is pretty weird but whatever", and then his friend challenged his masculinity, making him react in a grunting bull type of way.

I turn back to the girls and give them an look that says, "well, I'd love to stay, but I'd better get the fuck out of here" while doing a little shrug with my hands. I start walking away and chirp the guy back a little bit, flicking my tongue out like a total faggot. He looked so fucking pissed as I left. I definitely would have gotten my ass kicked.

But that taught me that a lot of dudes are in a state that they must show their masculinity uncompromisingly. And, to not use homo-eroticism and flamboyancy to the point of homosexuality, even though it was fake. It's pretty absurd lol, using homosexuality to get pussy. Even though I'm not gay, the external me would quite clearly be gay, which is what people see.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Sandman » Mon Sep 11, 2017 4:49 am

Hahaha that's crazy lol. Kudos to you for trying it out. But yeah telling him I will pretend to kiss you might have been too much / try hard. A subtler approach might have been smiling seductively at the guy, winking and saying Why do you ask? Just as you would do to a girl. Then when he gets flustered turn to a girl and change the subject. But that took balls I give you that!

The most I come close to playing homo is complimenting other dudes calling them handsome and such. And I do tell girls if the subject comes up I wouldn't mind trying to mfm if the oppurtunity presented itself. And oh if they ask me if I'm bi, I just tell them nah, but I'm open to experimenting you never know ;) Btw, I did inadvertedly (thought he was a she) seduce a trans (not that it requires much skill) omg worse experience in my life lol. It was just super weird for me.
Do you know what Freud said about dreams of flying? It means you're really dreaming about having sex.

Indeed? Tell me, then, what does it mean when you dream about having sex?
Sandman

User avatar

Cro-Magnon Man
Cro-Magnon Man
 
Posts: 359
Joined: Mon Apr 18, 2016 1:18 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby fog » Mon Sep 11, 2017 10:20 am

Hueman wrote:So I see these 3 chicks and approach one with high energy. I don't remember what I said, but was getting beaming smiles from these girls. Then the hottest one introduces herself to me whilst cutting off her friend, meaning she was the leader and was probably wondering why I wasn't talking to her in the first place. This part is fuzzy but I think one of them asked me if I was gay because of what was wearing plus me using flamboyancy in my game now. I tell them I'm bi and they don't believe me so, *cringe*, I say "Oh you don't believe me?", then walk over to the closest dude, whisper in his ear "I'm gonna pretend to kiss you. I'm not gay". And he's just like "umm okay?" and then I do it, turning back to the group of girls who are still beaming at me.


When they asked you if you were gay, you could have responded with a chase frame or some flirting......something like, "why... are you interested? :)"

I'm glad you learned something by being polarizing!
fog

User avatar

Cro-Magnon Man
Cro-Magnon Man
 
Posts: 1023
Joined: Mon Jul 20, 2015 12:46 am
Location: a forest

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Mon Sep 11, 2017 12:08 pm

Hahaha that's crazy lol. Kudos to you for trying it out. But yeah telling him I will pretend to kiss you might have been too much / try hard. A subtler approach might have been smiling seductively at the guy, winking and saying Why do you ask? Just as you would do to a girl. Then when he gets flustered turn to a girl and change the subject. But that took balls I give you that!


Yea there was deefinitely a more subtler way of going about this dynamic lol.

The first time I tried this shit I went from "yea I'm gay" --> *immediately make out with the girl* --> girl is putty in my hands. Their guards go down. It's just really funny for me to have that shit work lol.

When they asked you if you were gay, you could have responded with a chase frame or some flirting......something like, "why... are you interested? :)"


I'll give a chase frame with some lighter fragrances of homoeroticism a go next time I get asked. Thanks for the suggestions gentlemen.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Tue Oct 03, 2017 2:45 am

I'm mentally a lowkey mess right now, jesus.

My ego = a suffocating balloon (get's huge, pops, shrivels, get's huge, pops, etc. )
My mood = rollercoaster (fluctuations between highs and lows of happiness and sadness. )
My motivation = firecracker (goes hard as shit then is effectively nothing. )

Sounds like some fucked up carnival ride.


Rather than throw a label on it and fall victim to a victim mentality, I must simply ask myself what I've done to fix this problem before, and the answer is return to healthy habits. Stupidly I've neglected these habits.

I've stopped meditating regularly, exercising regularly, watching my diet, reading books, playing guitar, writing raps, and regularly seeing my family.

I stopped reflecting on the "why's" of things as much, and going with pure instinct more often than not; acting without thinking.

I'M NOT PUSHING MYSELF IN THE APPROPRIATE WAY.

I'm throwing bandaid solutions on everything, and that doesn't fucking work.

Two Posts I Wrote Almost a Year Ago

Self Actualization

Been doing a lot of self reflection about my deeper motives behind my actions recently, and ended up here. After sifting through many ideas and thoughts, I thought this recent experience spoke most toward overcoming irrational motives behind getting what one wants; what one does to feel satisfied.

I was studying for my neuroscience exam with a grad student this summer, and we got deep into a topic about emotional stability. He had been in many different relationships from the age of 12 to 24, and had a copious amount of experience with trying to control and stabilize his emotions. He explained emotions in a metaphor about a table.

Most people stabilize their emotions on a table, usually with the four legs of:
Relationships
Family
Hobbies
Work
(There's certainly more, but that's beside the point.)

When someone puts too much energy, even if that means too much enjoyment onto one leg of the table, it will inevitably lead to stress on that leg, and the neglect of the other legs. This can perpetuate into the breaking of the stressed leg. In an attempt to stabilize the table, one might push more weight into the other areas, struggling to keep the top of the table from hitting the ground. Obviously, this creates more stress in the other legs as well (which can be sudden and forced when there's a sudden weight shift). The emotional table demands balance.

When he was finishing his point, I proposed the idea that there could be a pedestal (for lack of a better word) in the middle of the table. The pedestal would resemble one's self-actualization. With self-actualization, the other legs of the table don't demand as much stress, if any stress at all. To create a strong pedestal, one has to build a strong foundation, use good materials to build upward, and take their time to chip away and sculpt. By doing this, the need of the other tables are no longer required for emotional stability, and the stability comes from oneself. This is not to say the legs should be ignored, just not relied on.

So, how does this begin? I'm still trying to learn. How I think it begins is by going deep, breaking down the bad materials of one's current pedestal, replacing them with a stronger, more sustainable material. Obviously, a perfect pedestal is impossible, and there's always room for improvement. One has to be brutally honest with oneself.

I can only build if I tear the walls down - R.I.P. Eyedea


It's not an easy task to accomplish, but hey, are most things really worth it in the long run easy to attain?

I'm trying to create a list of what some of these materials for strong personal foundation are, and continue to set goals and build. If anyone has ideas about core values that really strengthen things like character, perception, and happiness, feel free to post them in the reply.

Keep it real.


Ideas =/= Realities
The initial reason I joined this GC was quite honestly to win back my ex. Thing is, I broke up with her because she wasn't who I thought she was. Once she got a new boyfriend I wanted her again, and became obsessed with "her beauty" and "our deep connection".

Here I am months later, more emotionally stable than then, and in realization of a a very important lesson:

The idea of having something is not having that thing. The things that are most difficult to have or are unattainable are often the most desired, but not necessarily the most satisfying.

If I may,
I suggest you identify the core idea of what you think will bring you satisfaction. Whatever qualia that thing possesses, I guarantee there are alternative methods of grasping it.


Where'd that guy go?

I'm going to re-read these everyday. I hate this cyclic nature I'm going through. Fuck this shit.

Tomorrow after my classes I'm going to revamp this journal with a weekly gameplan.
Tonight, it's late and I have class in the morning I need sleep.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Tue Oct 03, 2017 1:46 pm

Jake's Snatch Tourny is my call to action. Let's go.

By Halloween, I want at least 2 new lays, and at least 3 dates. That happens by setting specific goals for the day / week and trying out new things.


Diet: White meat, vegetables, fruit, cheese, nuts, milk, honey and high protein cereal for when I'm craving carbs. If it's not in my house, I can't break this.

Money: 40$ taken out to save per shift, per paycheck.

Exercise: Return to my workout routine I wrote up when I began this, the way I've been doing it is too hit or miss, and even though I write shit in my planner I cheat too much for naps / impromptu situations.

School: 30 minute chapter review before class, for each class. Back to back classes? Read them day/night before.

Work: Socialize with customers more. Use tips from Hector's Small Talk video to make their experience more enjoyable and impressionable.

Drinking: Yep. Making a subtitle about this. No more than 2 drinks per hour - to start. Drink waters intermittently. If you feel out of it, GO HOME. Sleep it off. DO NOT keep getting drunk.


Tuesday

1:00 - 2:00 Eat / Shower
2:00 - 4:00 Class
4:00 - 6:00 Research Lab
6:30 - 8:00 Chest Day
8:00 - 8:30 Clean House
8:30 - 10:00 Study
10:00 - 12:00 Approach with wingman


Wednesday
9:30 - 10:00 Prepare for day (Mediate, Shower, Water+Coffee)
10:00 - 11:30 Leg Day
11:30 - 12:30 Eat / Relax
12:30 - 3:00 Library (Study 45, Chill 15 intervals)
3:55 - 5:15 Class
5:30 - 7:00 Campus & Street Approach
7:30 - 8:30 Rap My Ass Off
9:00 - Sleep Relax / Read

Thursday
8:30 - 9:00 Prepare for day
9:35 - 12:30 Class
1:00 - 2:00 Research Lab
2:00- 3:45 Class
4:00 - 5:30 Core Day
5:30 - 6:45 Eat / Relax

Catnap

TBD

Friday
10:00 - 10:45 Prepare for day
11:00 - 5:30 Work
6:00 - 10:00 NHL
10:00 - ? Rally with friends

Saturday
10:00 - 11:00 Prepare for day
11:15 - 1:30 Exercise Shoulders & Biceps
2:00 - ? Football Parties

Sunday
10:00 - 11:00 Prepare for day
12:15 - 1:30 Maitainance Workout
2:00 - 3:30 Street / Campus Approach
4:00 - 12:00 Work
12:00 - 1:00 Weekly Journal Schedule


Breath, and Focus.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Thu Oct 05, 2017 12:42 am

No direct approaches yet, sad to say. There's only been two girls who I've even felt the desire to. One was a cute black girl with purple hair, who was walking sooooooo slowly in front of me. I couldn't think of a smooth entrance, coming from behind. Something to look up before I hit the hay tn.

The other was a HB8 blonde who was walking quite fast with a puzzled/worried look on her face. I felt like she didn't want to be bothered.

I did a social-circle classroom approach with 3 girls though, but I'm not going to call them actual approaches. It was a tutoring session for my neuro class and there was only one dude. I was in a bit more chipper mood, having just gotten off the phone with my mother, and sat down and greeted everyone as if we were old friends.

Second time I've felt this - you can use study sessions to build attraction well with Slow Burner. Don't say much, and use sexy mannerisms and a low energy voice when you speak, and it just drawwws them in. It seemed they gave me more IOI's towards the end of the tutoring than the beginning, especially right at the end where I was getting up to leave because I exchanged names with them.

I stood up, slightly leaned in and extended my hand, "what was your name?" with a smile and just a slight downward bending of the eyebrows. Like, a lowkey mischievous smile. Right when I did this both tutors popped up just a tad with a little sparkle in the eye.

Subtlety, meet subtlety.


After this I freestyled with the rap club, and made some connections with producer club who we merged with this week. It went well, and went on for a long ass time.

Then I decided to visit my old workplace because it's national taco day. Right when I walk in, the FIRST thing my excoworker says to me is, "Yo Hueman, the new bartender, I got dibs." Lol, aight dude. I sit at the bar and chat up old friends and see the new coworker, who's really not that hot. Very masculine girl. Like, her voice was deep and she had noticeable muscles. I asked someone if the dibs thing was serious and it was lol.

Just for fun I flirt with her a little bit, which turned into deep diving about what she wants to do and what she's done. Turns out she's a stripper, too! Heard a load of stories, and practiced that thing someone put in general, adding "because" to connection building.

Like instead of being like "oh yea I understand", being like "yea. I got you. because you were trying to..." and it worked pretty well. She seemed more excited during times I did that than times I didn't.

Right before I left she was showing a worker and I pictures of her in stripper outfits. Wow, was she a lot hotter with everything on. The worker did something I picked up on to make her show the pictures.

Him: "Baylor, are you gonna let me see your pictures?"
Her: "Pictures?"
Him: "Yea those pictures"
Her: "Oooh haha..."

*ignores him and goes back to work"

Him: "I don't know if I believe it's you honestly"
Her: "Yea!! Damn right it's me!" *pulls out phone and proceeds to show some awesome photos"

Similar dynamic as reversing a girl's objection, combined with token resistance. "Yea, maybe we shouldn't" or "Oh it's probably not best anyways" because the first thing a girl thinks when she here's that is you changing your mind on her identity. She wants to keep an image of her in your head, so she reciprocates with compliance.


Stay focused.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Sat Oct 07, 2017 11:48 am

I've been chizzeling at the cutest girl in my research lab since the thing has started. I've only seen her a total 4 times now.

First day I intentionally ignored her. Second we were introduced by our boss and became acquainted. Third I caught her at an internship fair and we were both looking dapper, and I did some light flirting.

Yesterday I made moves, in a very socially calibrated way. We're coworkers, so shit has to be under the nose.

I come in and greet my boss, who immediately gets distracted by another RA. Perfect. I mosey into the office she's in, and place down a free cupcake I got from lunch on a desk (was gonna give it to one of my superiors who loves chocolate, she wasn't in today. This helps later (; ).

Me: Hey you, how'd the internship fair go?
Her: Hey! Pretty well actually.
Me: You snag yourself a job or what happened?
Her: Well I got two offers, but I already have an internship so... eeeh hahaha
Me: Poppin like you got options! What were those?
Her: Oh one's at [autism care] and the other I didn't really like. I have one at [big ass business] so you know.
Me: Nice! Yea they offered me too but I looked at the description and wasn't feeling it. That... is pretty solid though.
Me: What are you putting all this work in for anyways? What made you join this lab? Other than coming to find me that is (;
[chase frame]
Her: Hahaha! *shifts body language, gives me sparkly eyes* Oh well I want to get my M.D. and my Ph.D. so need as much as I can get.
Me: Damn gurl! Put in work! So I'm guessing you're... neuro for premed? [cold read]
Her: Yea! *playing with hair*
Me: Knew it! Is that something your parents did or..?
Her: Nope! Just me haha.
Me: Trailblazer! That's what's up. *checks on boss*


After this my boss is done talking to the other RA and gives me the gameplan for the day. I only have a very small task to do. We sit in his office and start going over the document, when another worker comes in and says he's taking all the RA's on a tour of the tunnels under the hospital we're in, so we know how to access them if it's pouring rain or a dangerous situation. A little field trip.

I convince my boss to let me go because "it's a little fuzzy" from when he showed me the tunnels.

So it's me and the 3 RA's standing in the office hall, all girls. I mostly let them talk, introducing myself to a girl I hadn't met, reintroducing myself to a girl who's name I didn't remember in a playful way, and ask the girls about themselves when appropriate. Positive vibe.

We start walking along and I joke and say "okay guys, buddy system!" to the girl I'm going for, let's call her Cupcake, and another RA. Then as groups naturally form for the walk I bounce around. As I do, my playful teasing comes out more and more, where I'm eventually flirting with all the girls and pushing them "stop it" here and there, and crack a couple jokes to the superiors. Preselection wasn't great, because some of these girls are 5's at best, but nonetheless it helped. It was fun, anyways.

Eventually we're in the main lobby of the hospital and I see a window to isolate Cupcake, and immediately do. This didn't go perfectly smooth, but I was aiming for social calibration. You're not supposed to ask out your coworkers while you're around your superiors. I wasn't as direct as I could have been.
Me: blah blah blah nueroscience shit *she was showing IOI's even though the conversation was medical*
Me: So other than all that serious jazz, what else do you do?
Her: Haha, drink margaritas. [window to ask out for drinks]
Me: Mmmm (in like a heyyyy kind of way), that's my favorittte. Where do you go?
Her: My friends got me into [bar]. So much fun.
Me: [bar]?? Oh man. Yea I tried to get a job there and they just gave me a blank face stare cuz none of them knew english! Rough time.
Her: *laughs*
Me: You ever been to [restaurant]? That's where I ended up going.
Her: [restaurant]? No I've been told about it but never have.
Me: Ah gotcha. Okay so margaritas and what else? You join any clubs are that jazz? (window for her to qualify herself)
Her: Oh you'll make fun of me. Most the clubs are nerdy.
Me: Haha, lay it on me.
Her: Okay I joined the swing dancing club *starts to bury her face in her hands*
Me: No shit? I've been wanting to do that! I'm way too busy.. are you any good? *slight mischeavious smile*
Her: Haha I mean.. I... I guess I'm decent.
Me: Okaaay that's what everyone who's good says. When can I see this?
Her: Me dancing?
Me: Yea that sounds pretty entertaining (teasing bordering condescending, gotta watch it), do you have any videos?
Her: Nooo I don't.
Me: Well I gotta see it sometime! I'm to busy to start swinging with you or I might.
Her: Haha, you would join the club?
Me: Why don't we get margaritas, THEN I'll watch you condescendingly.
Her: You want to get margaritas, then watch me?
Me: Yea, sounds fun *super feminine*
Her: We could just get margaritas
Me: That we could, as long as you're not trying to get me drunk (;
Her: Hahahah okay we'll see
Her: When I went with my friends we all used the same id to get in
Me: Passbacks! Classic haha
Me: So you don't have a fake?
Her: No I don't
Me: Well you can always use hers, I don't see what thatt'd be an objection
Her: Hahah yea I can


So, she more or less asked me on the date.

We talk a little more about her job and how she used to be a camp counselor. Right when it starts to fall off, the rest of the group finishes getting their coffee and we go back to the tour, now checking out some food areas in the hospital.

We get back to the actual research offices, and tend to our duties. I'm sitting there talking with my boss, then suddenly I realize "SHIT, I forgot to get her number!".

Then a few seconds later, I remember I put the cupcake down in the office she was in. I poke my head in, slowly waltz over to the cupcake "forgot something", pick it up, then turn to her with my phone out, "not all I forgot, actually". And she gets all excited like "Oh! yea!" and starts typing her number in. I do a light banter about iphones vs droids, and then slowly exit while I hear her do a little giggle behind me.

The rest of the office is none the wiser.

Good, because that's a violation of code to bang your coworkers.

2 hours later I text her:
Me: hey Cupcake it's Hue, save my #
Her: *thumbs up emoji*

hour later

Her: You're so lucky you left. [Boss] didn't stop talking until four lol
Me: lol I'm not surprised, he's got a lot to say
Me: when are you free this next week?
Her: I have two midterms next week :/ but I'm free from like 3-4 on Wednesday!
Me: yikes, let's just grab margs this weekend then
Her: Alright cool, when? *blushing smiley emoji*
Me: how bout Saturday around 12, before things get crazy for the game
Her: Lol but it's going to be dead at noon
Her: My friend said I can use her fake
Me: we'll just be trend setters and get it lit ;P
Her: Okay haha I'm up for whatever
Me: awesome *blushing emoji* I'll chat with ya then

next day (I don't wanna talk, but I can't ignore her)

Her: Hey, how's your day going?
Me: busy as hell actually, you
Her: Oh geez what happened? And pretty good, just relaxing and studying
Me: haha nothing that'll kill me just some shit at work
Her: Aw, I'm sorry to hear that. You'd think people making the best food on the planet would always be happy -\_(''/)_/- (lol alright)
Me: *cheesing emoji* you'd think right
Me: well tomorrow there'll be plenty of time for more important shenanigans ;P
Her: Oh shoot I just realized you're around Mexican food all the time! Is there some place you'd rather go?
Me: nahh plaza is still cool, we're going for just a drink or two anyways
Her: Okay sounds good


So she's excited at the end there, and felt she had to text me. Must definitely remove the boyfriend hole with her.

Dates in an hour! Let's get it.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Sun Oct 08, 2017 3:26 pm

So, the date wasn't all that enjoyable for me.

She was so nervous.. which made less attracted. And I mistook awkwardness for introversion in our previous encounters. Her body language and mannerisms in her face turned me off to the point I lost most all attraction. I had her very attracted, but I don't think she's even been on a date before (she was 19).

Since she "asked" me on the date, it felt an awful lot like she was chasing me, and I was the prize.

We met up at a school building, then walked to the place for margs, and they're closed. So I impromptu to this divier place that was right next to us, and we each grab one drink. I had been building up physical touch through light banter, and it wasn't until we sat down facing eachother that things started to stop fizzling. I wonder if we sat side by side I'd have just gotten horny enough through touching eachother to try and fuck her.

But since we were facing eachother the touching stayed light, and it left me nothing to be checking out other than her face and tits. Ah, man, she kept doing this really weird laugh where she'd almost clench her face and close her eyes. It was just really unattractive. And, since she was nervous as we talked, that happened alot. We talked about party shit, some family shit, a lot of music, dancing, etc.

Ultimately I knew that I'd be selling myself short as well as investing my dick into a girl that probably wouldn't handle my typical relationship dynamic well. I ended the interaction and gave her a hug.

I meet up with my friends at a party and we have a good time for a few hours, then they mostly go to the game and I kick it with some other peeps at a bar. I danced with this girl for a little bit, then left to get some food and rest.

When I go back out my friends are back from the game and we pregame at my friends house. My buddy was back from the navy seals and I got cucked, and I guess he's fucking the bitch I wanted to for a while now. I had just cut her off because I knew shit was a waste of time, I really didn't care all that much.

We go out to a few bars, having now met up with this bitch and her lowkey crazy friend. We're right next to my favorite dive so I excitedly ran in when we rolled up.

I'm there for 5 seconds and see a HB7 from my highschool, and immediately go up to her for an intimate hug, are body's were fully touching and she was giving me doe eyes. She was pretty drunk, as was I. We kissed for a second and then I find out my buddy didn't get in because he has a temporary out of state ID, so I leave somewhat upset. I never see these dudes, I chose bros>hoes. EDIT: Hindsight, why didn't I have her come with us or pull her out, do my business real quick and then meet back up with them later?? That would have been so doable. Fuck me.

Eventually we stumble into another place and it turns into a little highschool reunion with all the people who were back in town.

Then I can't explain why but I just couldn't be around people. I went home, got stoned and thought about shit for a while.


I had.. 5 approaches Thursday night, and 3 on Friday night, but they didn't go great.


I need to stop going to these campus bars, and start going to older people bars. They're boring me. Will try to write up a week schedule before I hit the hay tonight.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Weekly Schedule 10/9 - 10/16

Postby Hue » Mon Oct 09, 2017 2:57 pm

Monday

Bicep & Back
Bank
Office Hours
Class
Work

Tuesday

Class
Outline Class Notes
Hormones & Behaviors Office Hours
Class
Legs
Study
Read

Wednesday

Prepare for day
Chest
Research Project Update???
Class
Office Hours
Read
Go out? (Fall break)

Thursday

Abs
Hang out with family / get lunch
Study
Read
Climbing wall?
Go out?

Friday

Biceps & Shoulders
Hang out with family / see a movie
Study
Read
Biking Trail
Go out!

Saturday

Rest
Mall game
Work
Go out

Sunday

Go for a run
Study
Work
Write next weekly schedule
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby lostnumber » Tue Oct 10, 2017 9:47 am

Admire the dedication man! Keep it up!
lostnumber


Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
 
Posts: 307
Joined: Wed Aug 30, 2017 9:32 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Wed Oct 11, 2017 12:44 pm

lostnumber,

Thanks man.
You should give a fuck. You really should.

But only about things that set your mind on fire

Save your fucks for the magical shit.

-Puff Daddy



Interesting night. Need to write all this down because I'm sure there's much to learn from.

Got offered a research position today. Sometimes I sware to god my networking just lands in my lap. I'm pretty lucky when it comes to that shit.

Thennnn my freestyle club president throws in our chat that he has free tickets to some concert. I called dibs and invited my friend, who was on too many drugs to show up. Odd.

I go to my old workplace to get tacos and a few cheap beers, and stop up at my house and make a drink afterwards. Still adhering to my 2 drinks an hour rule (broke it later :P).

Okay so I go to the concert wearing a burgandy shirt sleeves rolled up with interior plaid showing, white shorts, and grey shoes. Nothing special. Oh and my silver necklace w a piece of quartz on it. Concert looks like a ton of young people. I buy a beer and slowly snake my way through the mosh pit.

I see a spot with lots of chicks and move over. Almost immediately the girls behind me start whining about how they can't see. I turn around and smirk at them, then move best I can to get out of their way and into a good position. When I find it I'm still in front of some fat bitch, and she's bitching (but not in a particularly pissed way). I turn around and say "are you harassing me?" and she laughs and says, "no, I just didn't expect any giants tonight!". lolol bitch I'm 6'1 don't flatter me.


I throw a couple bits of banter at em then turn back to my initial spot. I post it up for about 5 minutes. 2 of the girls who are friend with the fat bitch come up "Are you having fun??" and we start bantering and small talking. I would go back and forth with banter and posting up until I finally felt it was time to rearrange myself.

I go to the bathroom, come back, and squeeze up from behind where some girls in the same group from kentucky (just hotter girls I mostly hadn't spoken with yet) are. I open with "hey I"m back" to the one I know (which gets all their attention) and then turn to the other two and ask "how are my kentucky girls doing?".

They respond receptively. There's an ugly fat bitch on my left, a 4 in front of me, and my target, an HB7 on my right. I banter with all of them and make small talk accordingly for about 10-15 minutes. For a couple minutes they basically laughed at every word I said. Then I tried to deep dive the HB7 and she wasn't receptive.

Me: So other than go to sorority funzies and leave state for concerts, what are you up to over there?
Her: Uhhhhmmmmm, I don't know......
Her: I'm pretty boring


I hate when girls say that.

Some you can tell they just want you to invest more to get them to let it out but she honestly didn't seem with it.


Maybe I just need to get better at making girls more comfortable so they'll open up more...


Okay so I prod the HB7 a few times to try and get her to open up, still going back and forth between watching the show and talking (probably some issues here I'm not even aware of yet with concert settings), and decide fuck this.


I leave to the bathroom again, come back to a different area and get IOI's from a group of three. Try to rearrange myself in an approachable way to them, but when I get closer the one that I thought was super hot has a bunch of acne.. which made me lose interest in all of them... (interesting).

I post up on the side of the bar facing the stage. Things get kinda cool, and definitely interesting here.

Okay how'd this start...

I grab a PBR and stance myself next to two chicks. One's an HB8 and ones a 6 a best. They're at the part of the bar where it cuts off and becomes back crew / sound engineering /idgaf or care. I post up for a few minutes, and a 30+ black woman comes up to me and starts hitting on me asking if I'm here alone, why I like the artist, blah fucking blah. She wasn't cute so I just answered her ?'s and occasionally bantered in return. A little bit of playful shoving.

When she gives up this 25 y/o, married woman comes up to me and tells me I'm super cute, and asks if I'm here to fuck chicks tonight. I laugh at her and reply, "me???? I wooooould neeeevvveeerrrrrr" with a devilish grin.

She becomes my wingman and cockblock for the next 45 minutes.

Shortly after a cute blonde rolls next to me, and Mrs. 25 haaaas to set us up, because, I'm "not trying enough for being so good looking". She actually does give us a cute little opener (btw I've probably said >10 words to this woman at this point) and I start talking to Stormy.

Opener was something like,
25: Hey! So I noticed that you guys were standing near eachother, and that the two of yuz are both very attractive people. It would be SO MAGICAL if the two of you could chat, and probably..
Me: Yea, she's not ugly ;P
Her: Not ugly?!?
25: Baby you're gorgeous
Her: Yea I'm fucking hot what are you saying?
Me: *laughs* What's your name?


She's a freshman that goes to my school and lives in the area. HB7. She asked how I got in and I told her, then she wants to know how I knew the promoter (I don't) and I asked "you mean that guy at the door?" and tell her my club president knows him. She let's me know that the promoter that got me in asked her for nudes. Qualifying I suppose, to my doucheyness.

Then girl after girl comes into our bubble that is now created in plain sight of the bar and concert. At one point it was me standing there talking to these two, with 7 other chicks just clouding around us.

Best part: I didn't do shit. Sprezzaturaaaaa.

BUT, I don't think the blonde was ever really that interested, OR she thought I was i kahoots with this 25, who repeatedly, and annoyingly, tried to force us into topic conversations and frames.
Despite my physical attempts to keep her close to me, she eventually started ignoring me both verbally and nonverbally and leaving with her friends, tanking my preselection.

Then the 25 reveals to me a ton of details on her marriage, and keeps telling me she'll be my wingman for the night. I wanted to tell her to stfu (not gonna lie) but instead just teased her, chatted with her, pushed her, until finally saying I was using the bathroom and left.

Oh wait.

Right before I left this girl that was friends with the HB7 pops up, asking if I've seen her. She looked super receptive when she did, it caught my eye. When this happened the 25 turns to me, saying "YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN LIKE.. WHERE IS SHE???" lol okay you drunk woman. yes, attainability is my problem, I'm too condescending, but I'm not chasing.


I leave to the bathroom, and then find the friend. Cute HB6 with a petite body. I come up to her and her friends almost immediately shut up and walk away. She stays. She wants something.

We chat and turns out THIS BITCH IS AN 18 Y/O STRIPPER and so we become quick friends. I do hit a couple notes on her seducing me, and if she does this to every guy and she declines. Well, yea. It's your job to make me feel like this. Bbbbullshit. (even though I hope not).

We go outside to smoke a cigarrette and she tells me about how she doens't fuck like her coworkers do and she's not a slut, she just does it for money, while showing me pictures of her sweet ass and such. I cop a quick feel while I'm talking with her.

I trust her, somehow. WTF?

Fuckin strippers man.

I want to believe she's a good little girl, who just needs a man who's dominating and nice enough to treat her right. BULLSHIT. fuck. I fell for it. Should have told her were leaving when we were outside smoking.

Okay so I get her number then meet up with my buddy to hit other bars.



We arrive to the bar of choice and it's way to crowded. I kiss my co worker in front of her boyfriend as she's pulling out of a bar. whoops.

We decide not to go to that bar because it's overpacked. We hit the next and it take a WHILE to get the juices flowing again.

When they do, I start approaching. Most were quick little flirty banters. A lot of those were with chicks who weren't even hot. Just for fun. As for the hot ones...

First real approach I start of great on a 3 pack, then my buddy comes in and starts saying all this douchey "i'm from Florida. us floridians blah blah" shit and is super condescending about it. And I thought I was, jesus. I watch them go from greenish yellow to dark red flag. I explain to him after why I'm trying to be less condescending after he asks me what happened.

Lololol there was one 3 top I took and her friend cockblocked me in such a cunty way. Hats off to her.

I poke around a bit, almost leave cuz I'm bored, and then see a girl I recogize. I open and we start talking. She's beign awkward so dumb drunk me is like "oh yea she must be into me" and it turns out SHE'S MY FUCKING TUTOR from last week.

The vibe was nonexistant, but her body language, as well as her friends pushing us together and insisting her to stay with me said go for it. So I got her number and suggested we do something later but got a maybe.


I'm bouncing around the bar at this point and then a couple girls open me.

This HB7 brunette opens me amongst her friends. I take the role of the prize, but then leeway into investing her by finding out she plays soccer. I ask her what position she is and then answer for her, that she was "bottom" with a devilish grin. She goes "oh you're full of shit you never played soccer", and deflects the sexual frame. Shortly after she says we will go get a drink. I ask what she'll get me, and she says no you're the guy, you get me the drink. I tell her that's cute, but WE can go get a drink. She's bordering AR but comes with me. I ask her what she wants, with the plan of getting her a water and her drink, presenting the water, then touching her "just kidding" and giving her the drink, which would raise my attainability and walk her into my frame - that this doucheyness is just flirting. But, she says she's going to the bathroom and doesn't come back.

I post up and wait, she never comes back.

I'm walking home, pretty drunk and a little disappointed. Then, I see the bitch on frat row. I pivot my direction and walk that way, then pass her w/o making eye contact, as she walks into a frat house. I got used.

Then her friends are behind me talking about how they're mad at her, and how I was cute, and how some guys don't deserve that shit. Or it could have been about some other guy, idk. Could be true, could also be bullshit that woman tell themselves - they might have done / do the same thing.

I'm gonna go to this stripper's club, and chat her up there. I'm also gonna head into tutoring and try to slyly pull this chick after class today lol.

Tonight will be lit.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Thu Oct 12, 2017 1:50 pm

Had mad second thoughts on going out tonight but did anyway.

In my anxiety about going out I actually drove a down some streets to see if shit was poppin around 10:30. Two bars were PACKED, and despite the couple dudes I hit up to go out not wanting to go, this motivated me to say fuck it, solo baring.

I go to the less popular place first, and it turns out it's just a trivia night, which always tends to attract a regular crowd. As I'm peering over my friend from grade school who I've run into a few times now sees me and calls me over. We chit chat and I decide to go to the other bar because of the environment at this one.

I roll over to the bar closer to my house and try to talk to some kids in line but if falls short quickly. Then out of nowhere a kid I haven't seen in a couple years calls my name and we catch up a bit. He was really fucked up though. He's with some girls, and I fucked one of their friends this summer, and I exchange with them and get introduced to a HB7 she's with. No IOI's whatsoever, I didn't put much into that.

Then the kid I saw at the other bar pops out while I'm talking to the drunk kid and I tell him I'll be with him in a second. I move with the drunk kid and have an exchange with the crazy bitch who's mouth I stuffed with a sock this summer. She wants to fuck and I say no, but she keeps fucking going after it. I decided I'm not fucking her again, and don't give in.

To get away from her I go back to the kid who was at trivia, N, and he's with a bitch that I matched with on Tinder, twice, let's call her R, but she never replied much to my shit. I play like I've never met her before but can tell she remembers.

I hang out with them with some light banter for a bit, while I coerce N into some tequila shots which he hates cuz he always does stupid shit. He does give in though, and I kind of buddy up with R in coercing him. Everybody was watching a baseball game and when it ends I suggest we go up to the bar and R tells me to lead the way.

At the bar we get the shots while R goes and looks for the rest of N's group. She finds em, comes back, and I join the bubble of my school's sailing club, that apparently exists. I make quick friends with one of the dudes there, a 5th year frat guy, over a cigarette. Thing 2 also comes up to me during this and brings up the sock-gag thing AGAIN and I flirt with her. Something is said about cigarette butts and I just go "Oh you know I love those" and grab her ass for a second. The 5th thought we were fucking but I explained that she's just the biggest flirt in the world.

We mainly hang out at the table they had. Eventually, R brings up to me the fact we met on Tinder. I ask her how her experience had been and we have a good laugh about it. I was being a little bit touchy and she was receptive. Grabbed a little ass which is obviously green.

Then it occurred to me, she doesn't want her sailing team to see her leave with some rando, which, I basically was, only knowing 1.5 people there before this.

She goes to get a water, and I follow her and ask her what she left to get me, then she gives me shit, eventually answering that she's giving me her number. Yep. She wants to fuck but doesn't want her friends to see any of the jazz.

Once we're back I set up a frame that this is "our first Tinder date" and how the process works with fucking on the first and second dates, then if there's a third we start getting romantic. It was fun and she took the frame decently well.

Right around now I start running into a ton of people I know. Great social proof, some solid preselection. Set up some plans for later for a kid in another fraternity here this weekend.

I use that to my advantage to ditch any lame pauses in conversation with either the friends I was making in the sailing club or with R. Most the talk with R was banter about the karoake night, light flirting, and light touching. It was also pretty damn chaotic with the crowd for karoake, the dancing, and the fact it was the first night of fall break. I was good about my new drink rule, and felt WAY more in control and confident in what I was doing.

Towards the later half of the night I go outside to smoke a cigarette with Thing 2, and briefly talk with this dude she's with about 3-some's being on the bucket list haha.

Then Thing 2 distracts me from the convo for a quick sec, then jumps back to talking to her FB. I post up and smoke my cig just to relax for a second. Right before my cig burns out the sailing club comes back out. I walk up to R and say "aw you guys came to find me!" and she laughs and says "oh yea. where were you?". I get one the frat dude's # so we can chill later - that guy was pretty chill.

We all sit on this bench and hang out for a bit, and then the situation became R standing infront of me and two other sitting dudes telling some stories about her blacking out. I keep throwing jabs of touch / escalation when I get the chance and before I know it I'm putting the tips of my fingers into her waistband, and I can tell it's working from her body language. She ended up telling me two stories that involved her having sex, I knew what she was up to (;

Then things spike a bit.

Thing 1 (who had been dancing on stage idiotically, waaay too drunk during karoake. Also there was this creepy black dude grinding on her the whole time, he comes up later) pops out of the bar and sits on my lap. She gets her face super close to mine and I play it cool like "oh, hey Thing 1. How are you?" and she can barely hold a conversation. She's leaning in and out, and I had my hands on her just to keep her upright - not to escalate or anything. She has a boyfriend and has brought this up everytime I've seen her in the past 2-3 occasions (even though I never prompted it), which points to her wanting to fuck me.

I'm telling her ,
Me: Thing 1, you're really fucking drunk
Her: Oooohh yeeea. we were talking about that. about how I'm not too drunk for...
Me: *laughs* For?
Her: staaaahp. for...
Me: *laughs*
Her: Hue! stahp it.
Me: Thing 1, too drunk for what??
Her: That thing....
Her: That thing for when you have sex
Me: Consent?
Her: Yea *gets face super close to mine*
Me: Yea.


Me: Okay Thing 1 guess what.
Her: What?
Me: I'm gonna pick you up, and put you next to Thing 2, okay?
Her: What?
Me: I'm gonna put you next to Thing 2 and you're gonna talk to her okay? You want that?
Her: Okay.


I lift her up in a baby-cradle position and put her down on the bench Thing 2 is at. She immediately gets mad and starts whining at me. I go back to my friends and they're like "do you know her?" and I tell them "yea we're good friends - she's just really fucking drunk right now."

R hears me say that and gets somewhat flustered like, "you should get her a water!! Here, I'm gonna go get her water!!" and gets up to grab water. I go up with her to get some for myself, as well as Thing 1 and I can tell she's a little ticked off. I can't remember word for word what she said but I go, "wait... yoooou think I wanna fuck herrr, don't you?" while putting my hand around her waist and pushing my body a little into hers. This helps with attainability, which obviously went down from her seeing Thing 1 be all over me.

We go back to the bench and I give her a water, now she's coercing my friend into dancing with her lol. He's putting in like 0 effort to it, similar to how I was (basically what you have to do when a blacked out bitch is on you dick), until Thing 2 comes back from the bar. She's with her (according to her) ex-FB and skips over to me and says "look how much game I have, this guy's gonna follow me" and turns to her FB, then walks to the corner of the guy and he follows her. That must be why she sorta-of not-really broke things off with him, since he wasn't the dominating one. She obviously wants me to see her pre-selection among guys, too.

I try to get back talking to R, everyone standing up now, and Thing 1 comes over and tries to grind on me before latching on for like 10 minutes literally begging me to kiss her. She keeps saying "you're really attractivvve" "Huueeee.... quit being a pussy" "kissss meeeee" like straight out of Superbad. I give her a peck on the lips to "satisfy" her and start saying shit like "I don't know how to kiss" "not tonight" you're too fucking drunk! lol" until she finally gives up.

I join back with R and the two other guys and they're actually worried about her now. One guy wants to go home (who's friendzoned with R) and says he's taking R home. R is expressing concern for Thing 1, because we can't find her friends anymore (fucking bitches ditched her) so I try and use plausible deniability and say "we can stay here and make sure she's good" directly to R and not the dudes. Unfortunately this doesn't work mostly because N is being kind of protective but whatever.

Then I see the creepy black dude from earlier getting up on Thing 1's shit, and in a moment of instinct I go "Thing 1! Come here." and grab her arm, and pull her into me. "Where's Thing 2?" She doesn't know so I tell her I'm gonna call her and the bitch ignores my call. I text her to pick up her friend and don't get a reply until 3 am.

I hold on to Thing 1, then the black dude comes up to me like "ohohoahaha I'm just as confused as you guys this is crazy!". NO, you creepy fucking loser, there's nothing crazy about this other than you being that fucking pathetic to try and fuck this wasted chick. I just gave him a stern look, then saw a girl who knows Thing 1, hand her off, and make sure that she's gonna get her home. She agrees.


Finally I leave with N & R and pull R to the side for a second, getting our bodies touching as we walk, and I ask her how our Tinder date was going. She's positive so I ask her if we keep it going for some after-party drinks at my house. She says no, she has to pack for her fall break vacation. I push a little bit more, but then she's really saying no, but after fall break, absolutely yes. I tell her maybe in a teasing fashion and then leave in the direction of my house.

About 30 seconds later it turns out N & R are going the same way as me. I just keep walking to my house, and sent my text to R " Hue ;-* "and slowed down once they started hollering at me from behind. We chat a bit more for 30 seconds and I throw a hail mary and suggest we head in once we arrive to my place, but they keep going. Right before I walk inside R slows down and looks at me, and asks if she'll see me next week. I blow her a flamboyant little kiss and walk in.

She texts me 15 minutes later,

Her: Hi Hue
Her: Still can't believe you went to [place I went to school with N back in the day]
Me: hi R
Me: I can't either with so many weirdos hanging around ;P how's packing going
Her: I'm in bed, so poorly lol
Her: But I think I need at least a nap at this point you know?
Me: lol you tried
Me: lemme know when you want some help
Her: When I want some help?? Help with packing?
Me: yea, packing (:
Me: or napping, I'm not bad at that either
Her: Well I do need help packing bc I'm not doing it currently. But if you were to come to help I don't think I would pack either!! And I hardly need help with napping.
Her: *Duplicate text*
Her: Although that does sound nice
Me: how about I walk over and we give it a try, and I'll leave if we get too distracted
Her: Mmmmmmm no I don' think you should walk over here!! It's a) like twenty minutes away and b) I rlly have to pack and sleep and I'm fairly sure we'll do neither
Her: And I can't do neither, I have to do both
Her: So next time?? :) (these three text show her thought process, and the thought process of mental resistance of women pretty well)
Me: well you can take it or leave it, I promised I'd behave (: ( I did his for a, balls in your court, and use of past tense to act like she already missed her chance)

hour and a half later

Her: Welllll I didn't pack anyway lol whoops


I'm not gonna text her till next week.


*grindstone noise*
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Fri Oct 13, 2017 3:58 pm

Last night sucked dick. No one out, and my friend's random roommate followed us around the whole night, I swear this kids got some intellectual disability. We eventually ditched him, but all around just a bogus night. One approach, nothing more than an opener and both of us getting distracted into nothing.

Had coaching with Hector just now.

My Biggest Problem: Show some fucking pizazz. Bring on the weirdness, eccentric shit, and flair. Great social calibration is understanding what average is, and saying fuck that when you need to. Break that frame with a better one. That better one is YOU. Convey your deep personality within the first 5 seconds and know exactly what that is. Peacock your personality. Polarize people with your personality. THAT is what gets you to hook faster, get attraction, and get investment. When YOUR personality POPS out of YOU.

--> Polarize with emotional affect. Bring out your inner shit. You'll find when you need to tone it down more and bring it out more. Once you get good at that, fucking fire.

Let's get weird (;
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Sun Oct 15, 2017 11:47 am

Sometimes I wear my heart on my sleeve, other times I don't. When I don't it's usually because I'm trying to hide part of how I feel / am which sometimes doesn't work. When I'm feeling insecure.. that shit shows.


Friday

Cold approached a girl on the outskirts of campus with ruby red hair. No IOI's, asked if she was single --> boyfriend. No reason to persist.

Also set up a date with a girl that I had fireworks with first time I met her. Ping --> Cold Call.

Went out with my friends to another dead-zone campus bar scene night. We were at a rooftop bar and I got opened by two girls who looked really young. They were drunk and couldn't find the lighter to the cigs we were going to smoke. When they finally got it I asked where they went to high school, and what year they were.. they responded like "when did we graduate? ummm 2013?" and it seemed pretty off. That, plus how young they looked, plus how most college students are out of town this weekend made me assume they are likely still in high school. I left back to my friends, because of lack of interest to bang drunk high schoolers.

At one point I get called a sex addict by my friend. Fucking reputation dude. I don't even bang enough chicks to be a sex addict, but that's how rumors swirl I guess.

Saturday

Bad night.

I woke up feeling like I'm not enough. Not a great start to the day.

Went to work and flirted with the new co worker for fun. She's not attractive enough to bang, but I basically flirt with all my coworkers to see how quickly / different ways I can get them attracted.

I got off early, and sent this quick text to that girl: "hey [girl] looks like I got off early, when you thinking you're done with dinner?" as a ping. No answer. I got flaked on. This might have been a). unrelated to the text or b). because the text comes off as "hey, when are you free? because I'm as soon as you are we should meet up, I'm chasing you."

Then I get a text from my natural buddy about bottle service at a club. Haven't been downtown in a while, let's fucking go.
I actually gave myself a peptalk before heading out. Left my house dressed and feeling like a boss.

There's some small parties my neighbors are having so I pop in and mingle before my friend picks me up.


I get in the car with two natural kids, the one who's not my buddy has crazy good fundamentals. Once downtown we go to another bar to wait for the kid who's buy bottle service. Let's call my friend Z. The buddy, let's call him S, get's opened by a 7 redhead, who asks him if he has a girlfriend. This chick wasn't even that drunk, and just throws herself at this guy. My buddy and I wingman for the kid, my friend doing most of the work though. Oddly enough the girl was staring and smiling at me more than Z, even though I wasn't saying much. S just got a girlfriend who he's trying to commit to and you can see the internal battle going on in his head. The girl's friends come up and show us IOI's, but none of them are that hot. We didn't speak.

Z and I move over a tad and the girl tries to kiss S. I'm dumbfounded. How the fuck does this kid do it? He hadn't been there for 3 minutes, and this hot girl is literally telling him to fuck her.

We eventually leave and banter about what happened with S, who's embarrassed. I joke and say I'm on the devil on the shoulder, fucking bang her, because this girl won't find out, and Z is being the angel saying don't bang her, reserve yourself.

We move into the club and it's mostly dead, and I'm introduced to three guys who have bottle service. One guy I shake his hand, instead of dapping him up, and he's weirded out I didn't dap him up. Okay? Here's me dapping you up fella.

I start to try and get to know the host, who's having his 22nd birthday here. The guys not totally open, but we have some good light banter anyway. Our waiter is in the rap club, which I think is fucking awesome he's working here now. We catch up a tad and it's fun. I'm starting to get in a better mood.

Z leaves to smoke a cigarette. S asks me to explain what happened with the girl, and I do my best to portray what happened. Before I finish, I lose the focused attention of the 3 guys. S then takes over and tells the rest of the story. So I guess I did a shitty job of telling it.

A few moments later I'm talking directly to S about this girlfriend he's into and find out he's banged 100+ girls, lost count, and this new girl is some really hot 19 y/o. He's used to girls coming up to him and banging them, he's fucked a couple bad bitches, and some of the strippers where he works as a bouncer. Wow. What a fucking natural.

More people start coming into the club. Some guys that know the host come up and I get introduced. This latino fello and I are talking about Z, and I said some really uncalibrated shit. It was something like "yea you're basically a lil bitch when you hang out with this kid, he'll be driving like 10 deep, and then suddenly pop an oxy".

The last part I got some laughs from most, the first part, fuck no. Uh uh. The guy's body language changed immensely because it was akin to me calling him a little bitch. Then I try to keep up the conversation with these two guys after Z leaves and they leave. That really made me feel off. After this I simply feel out of my element, being at a club surrounded by adults 20-40 and just being some college kid.

Z and S dropped out of college, and don't do anything but work and party. They're earning degrees in socializing, while I double major in Psychology and Life. I noticed the difference and began comparing myself to them, pushing me further out of my element.

We go back and Z starts macking on some girls. To make things even better I accidentally spill my drink a tiny bit on one of them, and the girl starts asking me to apologize. I don't.

I sit down to one of S's friends and we talk about rap, us both being freestyle rappers. But the guy isn't investing all that much in the conversation. At this point I'm questioning the shit out of myself. Why am I having this effect on people?

The music starts getting better and I dance a little bit. S takes a snapchat video and goes "turn it up!" and I do a dance move that most think is pretty funny. My friend from the rap club comes back and we agree that, if the club isn't too busy by closing time, he'll join me and the other kid in a cypher. At this point I'm starting to feel back into it, but after this crash and burn.

The girls Z is talking with take a huge picture, and Z tries to include me, but I get snubbed out of the photo, twice. I talk to S again and ask if he's doing good with the holding himself back with the girls, since now he's more drunk. He doesn't hear me say anything other than "are you good?" and turns to his friend and starts making fun of me.

S: Yo Hue just asked me if I'm good.
Friend: Haha, you good?
S: *sarcastically* Yea, are you good?
Friend: NO!!! HAHAHA

Then I go back to questioning myself. Usually when I get to feeling out of it / anxious / whatever, it's a storm before the sky clears. Like here. This is a really fucking long storm.

I eventually open this girl who gives me a positive response but isn't talking to me directly. Not interested. I leave to smoke a cig with Z and he says something about me being a liability. I'm doing that fucking bad? I leave.

I went home and slept it off. Now I'm writing this, with an exam tomorrow, feeling like shit.


It's been a full week of going out. Mon-Sat. I need some rest.


EDIT: NOTE TO MYSELF

This reads like a need for attention. Every time I felt less secure was a direct result of me not getting the attention I wanted. That's fucking gross. Meditate on this. Stop doing shit for other people's approval. No fucking wonder this cyclic nature is ever continuing. I can't fucking please everyone. I can't fulfill other people's expectations. I CAN fulfill MY EXPECTATIONS. I've known this. Stop falling back into these silly patterns that reap 0 benefit.



At least there's this, from R.
R: Hi, what are you up to Monday night?
Me: hey, well, after class I'll be getting a drink with you
R: Cool when do you get out of class? :) [this made me realize my texts to the girl earlier come off as too eager]
Me: 5, but we'll grab a drink around 8 ;P
R: Perfect, you have a place in mind?
Me: [bar], you ever been?
R: I have been! It's the bomb. Won't it be weird at 8 on a Monday tho?!
Me: we'll have to find out! if it is, it's not like we can't walk elsewhere
R: That's an excellent point, sounds good Hue:)
Me: See you Monday ;-*
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Sun Oct 15, 2017 2:23 pm

Just saw a video of myself last night from my natural buddy, who wants to chill again next weekend.

Honestly 90% of this shit is in my head.

Really gotta get over myself.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Sun Oct 15, 2017 10:22 pm

Okay, re-analysis of what happened.

When I succeed or fail at some kind of goal, it amplifies whether I'm low self-esteem or too high self-esteem.

Success
If I'm too high self-esteem and I succeed, that obviously raises my self-esteem higher.

When I'm low self-esteem and succeed, I feel as though what I have done wasn't because of me or that I don't deserve it, making me view myself as a facade.

Failure
If I'm low self-esteem and I fail, that obviously makes things worse.

When I'm too high self-esteem and I fail, that actually makes me cling to my ego more, in a desperate attempt to preserve that image. I start bragging. I start projecting. That IS me putting on a facade.


Both can be very unattractive, but that's not what is really important with the matter. By behaving in the way I am^ it creates high stress, emotional rollercoasters, and blunted progress. When the issue blocking a stable self-esteem isn't resolved, there is no stability. It's a back and forth of high and low. Over the past few days, that back and forth fluctuated rapidly.


This sequence of events occurred.

- It's been about 5 months of me living alone, while burning the candle at both ends (party party party, work work work)

- I've not been getting the reactions of wanted from people (as described in the EDIT two posts up.

- A couple of my friends have noticed my emotional instability / self-esteem being rocky and have been more flaky as of recent, and this bothered me.(AKA I wasn't getting the attention I wanted from them)

- Pussy / Self Improvement has been on my mind almost nonstop. Complete obsession.

- I get called a sex addict.

- I get moved up a "rank" in the forums.

- I've gotten drunk every day of the week besides today.

- Hector said some red pill shit to me in the coaching session and it hurt my self-esteem.

- This girl (who for once in a long time, I was really into - like heart pounding when we spoke) flaked on me.

- I meet up with two naturals who are WAY better than I am.


This all compounds into me desperately and obsessively trying to save my self-image and fixate it. Which is silly, as this is and will be ever changing.

Again, I found myself running away from myself.

Hector's Genuine Man series describes using the armor of arrogance. And your skin being your confidence. I'm gonna steal the metaphor for a quick sec. Not sure if I'm subconsciously presenting something I've already read, but:

I had been parading around in my armor, but the continuous events that occurred served as a piercing arrow through that armor, and into my skin. I still had the armor on, but was bleeding inside. Rather than heal the wound, I just kept going to battle in the field. By the end I can barely fight properly and am swinging my sword belligerently. I had low blood supply and was becoming delirious. lol I'm not trying to be too dramatic here, but that's how I see it.


Basically I need to really focus on calming my emotions, and keep an eye on my self image.
That means: doing all the shit (specific goals) I described in another recent post of heavy emotional upset.

I was thinking about my "In My Element" FR and it more or less came down to being able to make a rapid connection with people. Being in-state. Having inner game. I've heard and read multiple times that inner-game is 90% of game. It makes complete sense, women being able to read whether your confidence is real or fake. "It's all about confidence", is true as fuck.

I'm not confident, in this moment.

But, the more I let thoughts come to me, the more my thoughts crystallize, the closer I feel to it.


Just an hour ago I was flirting with my co-worker (she's got a bf, who also works there though), and I felt a whisk of that connection I describe in my "In My Element" FR. THAT. That is what I want, and is what I'm missing in my abilities. And I don't know it's possible unless you are comfortable in the environment you're in or in you're own skin.

So, while I'll still try and focus on adding some pizazz to my social interactions, self-esteem is my next project to focus on. STABLE self-esteem, that is.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Mon Oct 16, 2017 5:38 pm

Well, I feel much better. The racing thoughts have stopped. Such an internal rebound effect hasn't happened in a while. Tired though.


Less campus bars. More adult bars downtown. Finna cut my teeth with some bigger fish and see how it goes.


Monday

Exam
Work Out Biceps and Shoulders
Date with R
Edit Videos
Study for exam

Tuesday

Class
Submit muthafuckin research project
Research Lab
Work Out Legs
Study for exam

Wednesday

Get financials handled
Work Out Chest
Read
Class
Study for exam

Thursday

Class
Exam
Research Lab
Work Out Core
Meet up with classmates
Go out with navy seal friend

Friday

Work Out Legs
Read
Work
Go Out, Older People bars

Saturday

Go for a run
Mall game
Day bars with frat friends (Go for day-game bar pull, try E, M, and O)
~~~We'll see~~~

Sunday

Read
Rest
Work
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Tue Oct 17, 2017 1:52 am

"Date" with R went well. She's a very sexual person. Honestly, a walk in the park other than actually meeting up.


Texts:
2:00 PM
Her: Hi are we still on for later?
Me: yes we are missy. I'm neck deep in office hours rn but I'll text you after my exam
Her: Okay, good luck on your exam!!

6:50 PM I call her, no answer

7:33 PM She calls me, I pick up
Me: *at the gym* Hey R! How are you?
Her: Good!
Me: Yea I called to tell you that [barrrrrr] is cloooooosed.
Her: What? (lol okay too much)
Me: On Monday.
Her: Oh.
Me: Yea, so instead let's just got to PZ.
Her: Okay that works. Wait, sooooo I don't know if I can make 8:00 my car blah blah blah
Me: Oh yea?
Her: Yea, but once I fix this up... is 8:30 cool?
Me: I'm at the gym right now anyways
Her: Oh you are?
Me: Yea. Not a problem with me.
Her: Okay cool.
Me: Sounds good R, see you then *click*.


8:19
Her: I just got home, meet at PZ at 8:45??
Me: like 8:50~ is perfect. gotta hop in the shower real quick then I'll start walking over
Her: Let's call it 9 and then you don't have to rush??
Me: ;P good call, time management's not my forte
Her: Perfect, no biggie hahaha

*right when I get in my car, my buddy calls me trying to convince me to get a drink* 8:56
Her: Okay soooooo I missed that bus, might be a sec late :/
*me thinking she might be testing me, I grab a super quick drink with my friend*

9:10
Her: Are you here?
Me: I ran into a friend right when I saw your text, are you there now?
Her: Coming up now
Me: okay lol I'll be there shortly

9:21
Her: Hi fun fact they close at ten. Want to stay here or try somewhere else?

I call her

Me: Hey, R! Well this is just going splendid isn't it? Good startt!
Her: Haha yea we're rolling out a great beginning to the date
Me: Okay so tell you what.. after... I.. *I was pulling out of a parallel park* get out of being fucked in this parking spot...
Her: *laughs*
Me: ... I'm just gonna pick you up. You're at PZ now?
Her: Yea I'm here. You're driving?
Me: Yea I walked out and kinda said fuck that to the cold.
Her: Oh haha okay.
Me: Cool cool, I'll see you in a bit R.
Her: *starts saying something* *click* (lol I didn't mean to that time)


I pull up and she's on the phone, then gets off and gets in my car.

My plan is to say fuck the bars since things haven't been working with them, let's just go have a drink at my house.

She gets in, we have a warm greeting, and she starts talking about how she's trying to get a car for her job a little bit out of town. I ask some light question and break the touch barrier, to keep the banter up and her a little distracted. We get to a light that's next to a bar that's picky on ID's and she goes

Her: oh, [bar]. I was just gonna say... they're kind of hard on ID's... I got in last year though, once! (:
Me: Last year you did? I wasn't really planning on going there.
Her: Where'd you want to go?
Me: Well since the bars aren't being too nice to us, why don't we just make some drinks at my house?
Her: *smiles, slight downward head tilt, eyes sparkle a bit* Okay! ("you're gonna fuck me.")

I only lived like 6 blocks away from where we just turned, and I have her show me her fake ID. Then a fire truck goes by that I thought was an ambulance. When I pull over she says something like "that truck is just so much bigger than I thought it was" (lmao you don't say??). I just go "Hah, yea." She tells me her internship is paid and I say that she's poppin like Cardi B, out here making money moves. She mentions that she'll be getting a car from her parent's divorce contract and I acknowledge it, say that's cool about the car and try to shift to something else - didn't want to hurt the connection we had building.

We pull up, get out my garage, and walk through the lot to my house. I see a cat and go "ooooo, kitty. are you a cat person?" and she says she has two dogs, but wants a cat because cats are harder to get them to like you. I say "so you want a challenge?" and she laughs and says yes.

Nearly our entire dialogue felt like a dance of frames and windows and minor innuendos / associations to sex.


We get in, and my kitchen is pretty gross. I own it, and say I'll probably clean it up later.

I make her a drink, make myself one, bragging that I make the best tequila sunrises (the juice I use is pretty bomb not gonna lie) and we sit down. She tells me some story about a weird conversation she had on Tinder and I kind of play with her about it. I throw on some music, and ask her about the music she's into. Initially, we sat at 3oclock and 6oclock in a corner of my couch. Then as we chat a little more I move closer to her position, and then ask her to tell me about and show me pictures from her vacation. I had some Youtube Actor on my history who I look like and she see's it and calls me out, and I chase frame by saying she's just calling me cute, since the actor I look like is cute (I've heard this twice in the past weekend).

While doing so I see her Tinder, and tease her about re-downloading it, getting more physical to her side and her knee. She's submissive. I go further and get my arm around her as we look at her pictures, and frame her has having naughty pictures on here she doesn't want me to see. She says "oh I don't have anything, but now that you're looking through it I'm nervous" (lolololol). I scroll through some pics and find her in a bikini with her twin sister. I ask her which one's her, then quickly get it wrong haha, and the one that I thought she was has her eyes closed. I tell her to close her eyes and look at her. She does, and TOTALLY thought I was gonna kiss her. I don't just to make her want it more.

Then I remember Franco's put-her-drink-down move and do it. I can't remember the exact dialogue but she was like "why don't you do X?" (something with music) and I turn to her, my face next to hers with a brooding, seductive look and say "because X is boring" in a more hushed tone and manhandle kiss her, then pull off.

Melted butter. You could tell she wanted this to go exactly how it was going, and personally I find that a great feeling.

Then we both go back to watching the show, and I start playing with her body much more. Both of us were becoming very aroused. My hands rubbing on the inside of her left leg with my left and, her outside of the right with my right hand, and the sides of our bodies getting very close.

We're talking a little bit about music still and I just start quietly talking into her ear and letting my lips brush it, then start kissing it and she moans.

Surprisingly, she breaks kissing me once, and turns her head from me kissing her neck after that. I pull back a teeny bit and within 30 seconds go back into it. This time I'm more forceful with her body and she submits by getting on top of me. I pull the suck-on-her titties, cup the other one move that I mentioned in backstory's post about a girl thinking your a player, and it's muthafuckin magiccc.

I get her bra off, tell her to take her shirt off, and ask why my shirt is still on. Pretty nice tits. She says she's having trouble getting my shirt off and I just proceed to lift her up, throw her on the bed and rev things up while she rips off my shirt. It quickly turns into fucking. She said she was on birth control but I still use a condom. I busted quick lol. Like 3-4 minutes this time. I kept going for her and the condom ripped.

She's super into me after sex. We talk about sex for about 30-40 minutes, with intermittent kissing. I asked her when she knew she was going to fuck me and she said when I was touching her at the bar on wednesday. Even though that was light touching, that shit can be really powerful. She also told me that she doesn't want her guy friends to see her getting physical with other guys and she hates public displays of affection. Interesting. I tried to deep dive her about it but only got so far.

I also asked her thoughts on not fucking me the night we met (not in a worried or concerned way, just asking). And she got nervous, then said do you want to know? Do you really want to know? I told her yes and she said her ex boyfriend gave her chlamydia. I wonder if this is true, or if as backstory suggested she was fucking some other guy, or something else hidden - her nervousness could point to either.

I've had it (didn't tell her this) and understood it's not a big deal (you take a pill and *poof!*) so I said oh that's all? No biggie.

I couldn't get up when she gave me head, but then we fucked again and I give her doggystyle with clit stimulation (she's never had this and LOOOVES IT).

We hang around till midnight and I eventually kick her out. Said something kinda douchey her way out like "enjoy the walk home" which probably hurt attainability. I want to bang her again but picked up on some insecurity / tendency to dive into relationships which makes me skeptical of how well that'd play out.

When girls are excited about some guy they're really attracted to, they chase. This chick chased me like the whole time, so all I had to do was handle logistics and escalate. Fun.

OH and she told me that she's only on Tinder for likes, and that if she's feeling shitty she'll dress up with some sexy jeans and just walk around in the day time. BITCHES. WANT. TO. GET. DAY. GAMED. She said that ALL the guys that approach her aren't the ones she wants to. Lol. Fuck.

Let's see if I can pick up on IOI's and make something happen from this truth I've just been revealed. Hearing a concept, or conceptualizing something, is NOT knowing that thing (Hector made a video about this). Food for thought.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Sub-Zero » Tue Oct 17, 2017 5:13 am

Are u black? Just asking because after reading your posts it looks like stuff I say lol.




Hue wrote:"Date" with R went well. She's a very sexual person. Honestly, a walk in the park other than actually meeting up.


Texts:
2:00 PM
Her: Hi are we still on for later?
Me: yes we are missy. I'm neck deep in office hours rn but I'll text you after my exam
Her: Okay, good luck on your exam!!

6:50 PM I call her, no answer

7:33 PM She calls me, I pick up
Me: *at the gym* Hey R! How are you?
Her: Good!
Me: Yea I called to tell you that [barrrrrr] is cloooooosed.
Her: What? (lol okay too much)
Me: On Monday.
Her: Oh.
Me: Yea, so instead let's just got to PZ.
Her: Okay that works. Wait, sooooo I don't know if I can make 8:00 my car blah blah blah
Me: Oh yea?
Her: Yea, but once I fix this up... is 8:30 cool?
Me: I'm at the gym right now anyways
Her: Oh you are?
Me: Yea. Not a problem with me.
Her: Okay cool.
Me: Sounds good R, see you then *click*.


8:19
Her: I just got home, meet at PZ at 8:45??
Me: like 8:50~ is perfect. gotta hop in the shower real quick then I'll start walking over
Her: Let's call it 9 and then you don't have to rush??
Me: ;P good call, time management's not my forte
Her: Perfect, no biggie hahaha

*right when I get in my car, my buddy calls me trying to convince me to get a drink* 8:56
Her: Okay soooooo I missed that bus, might be a sec late :/
*me thinking she might be testing me, I grab a super quick drink with my friend*

9:10
Her: Are you here?
Me: I ran into a friend right when I saw your text, are you there now?
Her: Coming up now
Me: okay lol I'll be there shortly

9:21
Her: Hi fun fact they close at ten. Want to stay here or try somewhere else?

I call her

Me: Hey, R! Well this is just going splendid isn't it? Good startt!
Her: Haha yea we're rolling out a great beginning to the date
Me: Okay so tell you what.. after... I.. *I was pulling out of a parallel park* get out of being fucked in this parking spot...
Her: *laughs*
Me: ... I'm just gonna pick you up. You're at PZ now?
Her: Yea I'm here. You're driving?
Me: Yea I walked out and kinda said fuck that to the cold.
Her: Oh haha okay.
Me: Cool cool, I'll see you in a bit R.
Her: *starts saying something* *click* (lol I didn't mean to that time)


I pull up and she's on the phone, then gets off and gets in my car.

My plan is to say fuck the bars since things haven't been working with them, let's just go have a drink at my house.

She gets in, we have a warm greeting, and she starts talking about how she's trying to get a car for her job a little bit out of town. I ask some light question and break the touch barrier, to keep the banter up and her a little distracted. We get to a light that's next to a bar that's picky on ID's and she goes

Her: oh, [bar]. I was just gonna say... they're kind of hard on ID's... I got in last year though, once! (:
Me: Last year you did? I wasn't really planning on going there.
Her: Where'd you want to go?
Me: Well since the bars aren't being too nice to us, why don't we just make some drinks at my house?
Her: *smiles, slight downward head tilt, eyes sparkle a bit* Okay! ("you're gonna fuck me.")

I only lived like 6 blocks away from where we just turned, and I have her show me her fake ID. Then a fire truck goes by that I thought was an ambulance. When I pull over she says something like "that truck is just so much bigger than I thought it was" (lmao you don't say??). I just go "Hah, yea." She tells me her internship is paid and I say that she's poppin like Cardi B, out here making money moves. She mentions that she'll be getting a car from her parent's divorce contract and I acknowledge it, say that's cool about the car and try to shift to something else - didn't want to hurt the connection we had building.

We pull up, get out my garage, and walk through the lot to my house. I see a cat and go "ooooo, kitty. are you a cat person?" and she says she has two dogs, but wants a cat because cats are harder to get them to like you. I say "so you want a challenge?" and she laughs and says yes.

Nearly our entire dialogue felt like a dance of frames and windows and minor innuendos / associations to sex.


We get in, and my kitchen is pretty gross. I own it, and say I'll probably clean it up later.

I make her a drink, make myself one, bragging that I make the best tequila sunrises (the juice I use is pretty bomb not gonna lie) and we sit down. She tells me some story about a weird conversation she had on Tinder and I kind of play with her about it. I throw on some music, and ask her about the music she's into. Initially, we sat at 3oclock and 6oclock in a corner of my couch. Then as we chat a little more I move closer to her position, and then ask her to tell me about and show me pictures from her vacation. I had some Youtube Actor on my history who I look like and she see's it and calls me out, and I chase frame by saying she's just calling me cute, since the actor I look like is cute (I've heard this twice in the past weekend).

While doing so I see her Tinder, and tease her about re-downloading it, getting more physical to her side and her knee. She's submissive. I go further and get my arm around her as we look at her pictures, and frame her has having naughty pictures on here she doesn't want me to see. She says "oh I don't have anything, but now that you're looking through it I'm nervous" (lolololol). I scroll through some pics and find her in a bikini with her twin sister. I ask her which one's her, then quickly get it wrong haha, and the one that I thought she was has her eyes closed. I tell her to close her eyes and look at her. She does, and TOTALLY thought I was gonna kiss her. I don't just to make her want it more.

Then I remember Franco's put-her-drink-down move and do it. I can't remember the exact dialogue but she was like "why don't you do X?" (something with music) and I turn to her, my face next to hers with a brooding, seductive look and say "because X is boring" in a more hushed tone and manhandle kiss her, then pull off.

Melted butter. You could tell she wanted this to go exactly how it was going, and personally I find that a great feeling.

Then we both go back to watching the show, and I start playing with her body much more. Both of us were becoming very aroused. My hands rubbing on the inside of her left leg with my left and, her outside of the right with my right hand, and the sides of our bodies getting very close.

We're talking a little bit about music still and I just start quietly talking into her ear and letting my lips brush it, then start kissing it and she moans.

Surprisingly, she breaks kissing me once, and turns her head from me kissing her neck after that. I pull back a teeny bit and within 30 seconds go back into it. This time I'm more forceful with her body and she submits by getting on top of me. I pull the suck-on-her titties, cup the other one move that I mentioned in backstory's post about a girl thinking your a player, and it's muthafuckin magiccc.

I get her bra off, tell her to take her shirt off, and ask why my shirt is still on. Pretty nice tits. She says she's having trouble getting my shirt off and I just proceed to lift her up, throw her on the bed and rev things up while she rips off my shirt. It quickly turns into fucking. She said she was on birth control but I still use a condom. I busted quick lol. Like 3-4 minutes this time. I kept going for her and the condom ripped.

She's super into me after sex. We talk about sex for about 30-40 minutes, with intermittent kissing. I asked her when she knew she was going to fuck me and she said when I was touching her at the bar on wednesday. Even though that was light touching, that shit can be really powerful. She also told me that she doesn't want her guy friends to see her getting physical with other guys and she hates public displays of affection. Interesting. I tried to deep dive her about it but only got so far.

I also asked her thoughts on not fucking me the night we met (not in a worried or concerned way, just asking). And she got nervous, then said do you want to know? Do you really want to know? I told her yes and she said her ex boyfriend gave her chlamydia. I wonder if this is true, or if as backstory suggested she was fucking some other guy, or something else hidden - her nervousness could point to either.

I've had it (didn't tell her this) and understood it's not a big deal (you take a pill and *poof!*) so I said oh that's all? No biggie.

I couldn't get up when she gave me head, but then we fucked again and I give her doggystyle with clit stimulation (she's never had this and LOOOVES IT).

We hang around till midnight and I eventually kick her out. Said something kinda douchey her way out like "enjoy the walk home" which probably hurt attainability. I want to bang her again but picked up on some insecurity / tendency to dive into relationships which makes me skeptical of how well that'd play out.

When girls are excited about some guy they're really attracted to, they chase. This chick chased me like the whole time, so all I had to do was handle logistics and escalate. Fun.

OH and she told me that she's only on Tinder for likes, and that if she's feeling shitty she'll dress up with some sexy jeans and just walk around in the day time. BITCHES. WANT. TO. GET. DAY. GAMED. She said that ALL the guys that approach her aren't the ones she wants to. Lol. Fuck.

Let's see if I can pick up on IOI's and make something happen from this truth I've just been revealed. Hearing a concept, or conceptualizing something, is NOT knowing that thing (Hector made a video about this). Food for thought.
Sub-Zero


Space Monkey
Space Monkey
 
Posts: 546
Joined: Sat Sep 06, 2014 7:25 am

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Tue Oct 17, 2017 11:17 am

Are u black? Just asking because after reading your posts it looks like stuff I say lol.


I'm a cracker ass white boy bro.

Funny you mention that, R mentioned how I'm "too white for the way I am".

Many of my interests are heavily mixed with black culture though.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Tue Oct 24, 2017 12:47 am

Wednesday

At a tequila tasting thing at work. 4 of us there. My coworker (waitress) who's always either a bitch to me, laughing a lot at what I'm saying, or giving me the eye starts asking about my love life. I deflect and redirect as much as possible, like 4-5 times (she started laughing when I said "I don't kiss and tell") before giving her a little, "I like to keep my options open".

She keeps pushing for it and I broke the "don't give her what she wants rule" again. I told her, "I'm in a couple open relationships" and she just goes "....damn Hue." I realize what I've done and try to compensate by going "yep, one for every day of the week" before giving her close to the same round of questioning her. Except she goes asexual with her head down.

Tells me the time some Australian dudes came in and after clocking out she went out with them she didn't do anything with any of them and she "can't believe I thought that", and that she is waiting till marriage. Not in a funny way though, totally serious. Then another girl we're with asks her if she's serious and she finally goes "no." I think what happened might have been both autorejection for what I exposed about myself, and then anti-slut defense to the rest of the coworkers.

Towards the end I managed to turn it around a little bit. I walked out a different way when returning to my car than she did, yet we land right next to eachother once we started heading where we were going. I have sauce on my shirt and was just getting a ton of shit about it lol, and just before we head separate ways, I point to my reflection while bumping into her with my arm going "who's that guy? I would sauce the living hell out of that guy" and she starts losing it. When we head separate ways I give her a byyeeee like you'll see girls do.

I had 3 interactions with good looking girls that went good and then bad.

1+2). We're at freestyle club and right before I go up two girls (HB6, HB7) walk in like "is this the rap club?? we wanted to watch!". That gave me a quick burst of motivation / energy to kill it, and I did, even referencing them in it - felt a great vibe while doing it. When I go up again I kinda bomb, saying too much shit about fucking bitches in my rap - plus it overall wasn't great. Shortly after that they left, and instead of just being like "yea, I gotta leave too" and walking out with them I stayed and rapped.

3). I'm studying after the club meeting and a HB7 with a trainee dog comes up and sits in front of me. I eventually caught her staring at me through corner of the eye after sneaking a few glances myself (petite blonde with perky tits, DSL's) and then her dog made a noise. I turned my attention to him just a tad and smiled, then she opened me with "haha sorry". We talked and I could feel her getting more into the conversation and me as it went, and then.. out of nowhere.. I just stop talking, and look at my notes for a minute or two. Then I try to ignite it again with something she said earlier (she grew up alone in a small town with tons of pets) and the vibe isn't much there anymore. Eventually, this turns into chasing because I abandoned the small ember I had started with her.


Thursday

7 approaches
Skipped some shit to party with my old HS friends that were mostly back in town. We grabbed beers, then went to a party. Not a ton of chicks showed up, but after riding to a bar with a huge squad enough people showed up for the amount of chicks out to be plentiful.

I opened 4 girls at once with something totally stupid - but it wasn't important. It reminded me of Pablo Garcia's comment in a podcast about the opener really not being that important if your fundamentals / way of going about it are good enough. I tapped the girl at the front and asked if that was a 5 she was about to pay with (and no shit, it's a 5 dollar bill, what else would it be?) and she thought I was gonna ask her to get me something and got all gamey-flirty, the other 3 just tuned into what's going on. I go "nooo, silly I assumed you were paying for all these fine ladies too, and I could scrounge your spot" in a girly flirty way and they all laughed, with the first girl saying sarcastic about it being a great observation.

Nonetheless I hooked and started talking to the girl now to my left, getting good vibes. Then it was my turn to get a drink, so I grabbed one and told the girls I'd find them later (should have been the other way around). I eventually do find them and the one I tried connecting with isn't interested anymore, but this girl on my left looks excitedly at me so I start talking with her, again with good vibes. I felt the window to get her number and got it, then to move her and asked her to come with me. She smiled with a pause, turned to her friends, and then told me it's a girls night out. Then the girls agreed, yea, it's a girls night out (: , I told them it will just be a second but then the girl wouldn't budge so I auto-rejected.

After this I walked into a teasey girl who graduated HB8 who flirted with me then left with like 3 guy friends.

Then I was getting an uber home and two latinas needed a ride from me, and I decided fuck it, let's go for it, and tried to get them to my house in like 40 seconds. They agreed to leave with me, but then started giving the driver directions to their different hotels, so I had both of them get out. Had a good laugh with the driver afterwards.

Friday

I worked, then got impromptu invited to an after party when I went out after. No new interactions but a fun time. I think this one girl in this friend group is using me to make her boyfriend have to prove himself more. Like she uses flirting with me as a test. I flirt back but nothing too crazy. The guy is the alpha of the friend group and not one to make enemies with.

Saturday

HS friend bbq, then went out to bars, then went to a frat party before bars again. Smh on missed opportunities that night. Also, some thought... how do you differentiate momentary flippancy and intended skewing of something?

Like if someone is trying to manipulate someone they might make a statement about something in a way that underminds it's seriousness / makes it an overstatement. This could be directly trying to skew it, or as a distraction to something else.

Or, if someone is just saying something in the moment that was for effect or right before changing subjects, rather than a serious statement, they're just being flippant about what they said. It wasn't intended for harm / to be taken seriously. Not the same as sarcasm, though.

Anyways, that night I was looking fucking nice. Received a lot of compliments. I got approached by a girl at the frat party, who's number I'd gotten a while ago not knowing she was dating a loose friend of mine. She told me that she likes my style and thinks I'm "fucking cute as hell" and I got real close to her face like "you're... you're not too bad yourself" (didn't expect it, hence the stutter. did feel that magnetic pull though) and felt the urge to kiss her, but then backed off. After that she practically did a lap around the place, and I saw her getting all flirty with this frat dude dating an IG model. I wonder if they just broke up, if she was just horny, or if she was trying to get his attention and start drama.

Then I went out to bars, and on the way in got pretty physical with these two girls, and had one of them taking my hand into the massive crowd to get drinks. I had to compete with like 3 guys all dancing around her and grabbing her attention, and when I finally started to lead by taking her hand, her friend pulled her away, I saw a slightly concerned look on her face so I left. Probably was being too aggressive for their social circle surrounding them. I found my old coworker and that girl I'm pretty sure I named Lips (missed threesome opportunity) and danced with them. I tried talking to Lips and she basically autorejected so I left shortly after.

Then I went to a gyro shop, and was half blacked out. I opened these two girls HB5, HB7 and asked them to buy me a gyro, and they at first were into my drunken charm and agreed to sit down with me. Then I have a window of memory gone, but blacked in with me asking them their thoughts my roommates old girlfriend being a cunt. I have no idea how the conversation got here, but it was fucking weird. They told me to stop being such an asshole, and that this "cunt" sounds like a really cool girl. I asked them to explain how I'm an asshole other than me using the word cunt and they started laughing their asses off, wouldn't tell me, then left smiling. I can't even begin to imagine how ridiculous the shit looked start to finish from an eagle view lol. Wow. Looking back the ordeal was pretty narcissistic.

Sunday

Felt great by the middle - end of work. New coworker = flirt = see how quickly you can get them to want to fuck you. Both the new hostesses, two waitresses, and one bartender want my dick or are at least interested. Debating if I should ask them on a date, or wait till the Xmas party and be a slut lol. If I do the date route, I have to decide on just one. Low chance that word won't get out, and then that creates a mess of social work environment.

Fuck, I hope I don't say the same line to both of them - that could be bad. Most of the shit I say is on the fly, but some chase frames are just too easy for me, since they usually work with my style, like "so other than me, what's your favorite part about the job? / your first day?".

My manager actually cut me off mid deep-dive twice with the new hostess. Which is fucking perfect situationally, it's like circumstantial fractionation.

There's this cute sophomore waitress too, who has never partied a day in her life. Such a hard worker, so easy to tease... I always have to get the cups from the shelf because she's short, and told her I'm gonna start charging her. She's adorable honestly lol.

Also had a killer set with server game, might post this as a FR.

Group of 4, one pretty, one cute, two meehh.
Me: Helloo ladies, how are we doing tonight?
Them: Good! (:
HB7: How are you? (:
Me: Great to hear, and I'm doing just dandy. My name's Hue and I'll be taking care of you ladies tonight. Can I get us anything to drink?

blah blah

Me: *goes to refill their waters using a pitcher* Wow, you guys really downed these things.
Them: *slight laughs*
HB7: Yea ahaha sorry! (:
Me: Thirsty girls...
Them: *laughs*
Me: ...my favorite.. *slightly devilish grin*
Them: *couple of them burst out laughing, all of them smiling at me*

blah blah, I get them refills once more and don't say anything food comes out

Me: Is everything satisfying over hear guys?
Them: *all agree*, one "thanks!" (probably insignificant)

*get's checks*

Me: Here you are girls *starts handing out checks* so, *looks at the HB7, then slightly turns to everybody* should I get your numbers now, or with the check?
Them: *all laugh and beam at me*
Me: *grin and walk away*


I grab their checks, cash em out, then give em back and wish them a fantastic night. One number from the cute chick (I think? I couldn't find her online, so I don't know if I'll text her. Maybe I will tomorrow), and a note from the pretty one, "you're hotter than the queso ;) " lol.

Monday

Got stoned with Bundle and banged tonight, and have R coming over tomorrow.

Bundle and I didn't connect much through conversation, but during the sex I felt very in tune with her vibe. We took it slow and the weed intensified everything. Like our minds really started to feel synced. She's also got a great pussy.

Fucked up thing the last two times we had sex though - she barely gets wet until sex. Never happened to me before. I try and focus on foreplay enough, as well as tease the fuck out of the girl's pussy until finally going in, to have her solidly wet / dripping / rubbing her wet pussy on my dick. Not with her though. The passed two times she'll blow me then I'll enter her barely wet pussy, and fuck her until she's into it.

I'm realizing she is a very anxious person. I knew she was anxious, but it was pretty bad this time - possibly because of the weed on both our ends. I usually can't do the whole conversation thing when I'm ripped, not so much because of the anxiety weed can give me but I just turn stupid as a rock. Despite that decided to dabble tonight. Not a lot of talking coming from me, which puts her in a hard spot as an anxious and stoned girl. Much harder for me to connect if there's anxiety floating around instead of excitement.

She had brought up how she's having "an identity crisis" about joining a sorority or not and looking at all of this ratemygreek shit. Normally, I'd explain that she will naturally fit where she fits - and not to worry about it. If she joins greek life she'll likely find people that she fucks with and fuck with her by the recruitment/bidding process. But I was stoned and slowed to neanderthal levels of intelligence, and instead answered her questions about who the best sororities were - which is just gonna make her more anxious and compare herself to those girls, as she had explained she'd been doing.

Then after sex I realized that and tried to deep dive her about it, but in my sluggish responses came off as insensitive / not giving a fuck, and she literally jumped out of my bed to get dressed, then left about 20 min later after throwing frames into leaving. Now I feel disconnected with her and like a bit of an asshole, even though I hadn't meant to come across this way.

I might call / text her about something or other and try to connect over the phone this week, because with the sex thing and the connection fading, much higher chances I lose her. It's very likely she feels used for sex, because that's the entirety of what my actions say. Or.. maybe I'm going about this the wrong way.. and she just wants dick o.O lol idk I'm tired and stoned. Gonna hit the hay.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Sun Oct 29, 2017 3:01 pm

Weekly goal: Finish reading book

Monday

Biceps & Back
Research Project
Class
Work

Tuesday

Class
Chest & Triceps
Class
Research Lab
Study for next week
Go out

Wednesday

Legs (Lunges)
Class
Tutoring
Freestyle
Study for next week

Thursday

Class
Research Lab
Class
Abs
Study for next week
Go out solo (C-->L-->Ot)

Friday

Work
Study
Go out with old roommate

Saturday

Get up at 10:00
Maintenance Workout
Journal Specific Goals for Day gaming before leaving
Mall Day Game
Day Drink (Go for day pull at M, O, E)
~?~

Sunday

Survive Hangover
Study
Run
Work
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Sun Oct 29, 2017 3:11 pm

Studied most of last week.

Went out Thursday with 8 approaches. First one was a group of 5 girls who didn't seem interested, and the hot one was at the corner of the table furthest away from me. I probably should have greeted the group as a whole and made fun of them for being antisocial in the corner or something, but instead I just asked two less hot girls how their night had been, with the intention of the others eventually showing me enough IOI's to introduce myself to them too.

Then there were two girls at the bar who were trying to get away with getting a drink deal even though they didn't have the right cup you need to bring / buy to get it, just one that looked like it. I tried to help them then teased them about being sneaky when the bartender told them nice try lol. One wasn't good looking and the other was cute, but I didn't hook them.

I eventually ran into a fraternity kid and bar hopped with him for a little while, but he was really tired and his brother's weren't doing it for me so I went solo to my favorite dive. Did a lap for scouting as usual, then approached the cutest girl. Unfortunately it was like 1:30 at that point so the hottest girl there was a 6~ latina. Immediate hook when I open wit her dancing by herself, looking silly, and I got her to sit down, her legs pressed into mine, really nice legs actually. I didn't move fast enough and the more I asked her about herself the more apparent it became I just wanted to fuck her - so why was I deep diving her. It went from 100 to like 60 and we both just fizzled out and parted ways.

Then R booty texted me. Had her over then didn't let her stay the night. She was not happy about that.

Friday

My highschool buddy had a halloween party. It was okay. Probably should have went somewhere more promising, but oh well I had fun with the guys. The 6 girls that came had boyfriends. Normally my onezy costume get's me a lot of attention among girls - at least it did at my old school. I invited my natural buddy to roll to bars with us and we all went to a couple. One dude's girlfriend is there who he's in a rough patch with (he's become whipped, all of us have seen it and been trying to tell him, and now he's waking up to that reality), so that stirred some emotion among him. My natural buddy is getting opened left and right, but I couldn't reach hooking point with the 3 girls I tried to talk with, also getting stink eye'd by one girl who I autorejected before. Didn't help with my vibe - felt like they wanted my friend, not me. May need to work on myself before I seriously consider wingmanning with him in the future. He called me the next day though and wanted to hang out again.

Saturday I worked all day, and today I'll relax, read, and get ahead in my classes.


I plan to go out on Tuesday (actual halloween) and give my goal for this month (2 new lays, 3 dates) one more try. Right now I'm at 1 lay, two dates (could have had 3-4 lays - mistakes to be learned from).
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Wed Nov 01, 2017 1:31 pm

Meditation is helping a lot for when my thoughts start to run a certain way. I'll catch them, "this is you doing this" and then return to the present moment. Very helpful with returning to a stable self-esteem, too. Feeling good right now.

Well, I failed to hit my mark.

Went out to my old work place and right as I was about to leave, my favorite old coworker comes in so I decide to have a margarita with him. Helped me get into my groove and fuck around. Also got invited to this years Xmas party >:)

I pop over to my buddy's house for the pregame. Have a talk with one of them, who confided in me that his girlfriend isn't giving him the connection he wants, and he's annoyed with her being a party girl. I explain to him to tread carefully - I've seen one of my friends with a party girlfriend use it to shift the dynamic of the relationship, and now he's whipped cream. She caught him right when we would have started being a player (one of my best friends, tall, handsome, cocky, oh and word got out to sororities that he's hung like a horse lol), a tendency talked about on GC before. Now he buys her shit, is hoes>bros, AND he's unhappy. I told him if it were me I'd just do best to make sure that you guys are still doing shit that YOU want to do, to not pay for all of her drinks (and tease her into buying you drinks), but to not let her partying bother him. She's into the scene, he's not, it's just a difference of preference.

We get to the bar and my natural friend from last weekend is there, being a loud drunk douche, and I greet him and his friends. They're all pretty fucked up, so I head inside.

I text the drunk girl that came onto me two weeks ago to come enjoy halloween with me and she brings her friends out. I'm touchy and flirty despite her not being single because of what happened plus we're good friends (we are so gonna fuck one night) and she introduces me to her british friend who's visiting. She's a HB7, plus bonus points for the accent. I love me an accent. She tells me they're throwing a party this weekend and I should come. I shift my gaze to the british friend, then back to her and say "I'd love to be there".

We pop around the bar, and I'm trying to decide which girls I'll be approaching among the choices tonight. I run into a bunch of people I know, and am getting many compliments on my halloween costume. I see an HB7 brunette looking at me, and I feel like I've served her table before, so I go up, "hey, aren't you that girl from [restaurant]?" and she denies it but body language is solid so I start asking her about herself, explaining I'm a server there. Eventually she starts going, "so I'm a bartender, and I've heard this little schicht before, I know what you're doing" I ignore her frame and then create an us vs world one saying that it's hilarious to see all the patterns of what customers do, and it's a kickback of the job to people watch all day, and she invests by then taking my hand and introducing me to her friends.

I talk with her friends, then she wants to get a drink. A little weird here because I thought she wanted me to get her one, which I would have teased before then maybe gotten her one if she earned it, but right as I start saying that she buys herself a drink. *this is a sticking point then, I'm doing too much of what's expected of guys who pick up girls do. I need to break frame more often and do unexpected shit to my advantage* I think we gotten broken apart after this.

We find eachother again and she stops me, is being super into me, and I respond with touch which she's receptive towards. Her friend is unhappy to see me talking to her, and then they start making out. O.o nice. Then her friend leaves angrily, and I try to get her to come outside with me. She's aroused, obviously, so I need to make the pull quickly. But nada, she won't go outside even though I push for it and all signals are go. I thought token resistance, but she wouldn't budge. Hindsight she probably wanted me to do something cooler like cook up a solid reason to go outside, not just push for it. We get broken up again.

I find her again with some dude who I'm assuming she texted and her friends. Fuck me.

Got pretty drunk at this point, blurry stuff. I find her at fucking 1:59 and she's lower energy, so I try to quickly build shit up again and she's not as receptive to touch (I wasn't being a slobbering drunk guy, I see how that might read like that). I put my hand on her waist and she takes it off, but is still smiles at looking deeply at me. Then I failed to talk her up some more before the lights come on, and she leaves with her friends.

I should have hounded another girl, instead of sticking with her the whole night, too. Things started well and ended bad.

Lessons:

Do unexpected shit that helps your frame
Calibrate touch to her energy level
Know when to next a girl
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: October Breakdown

Postby Hue » Wed Nov 01, 2017 3:09 pm

October Breakdown

Well, I failed to hit my mark.


The pedestal would resemble one's self-actualization. With self-actualization, the other legs of the table don't demand as much stress, if any stress at all. To create a strong pedestal, one has to build a strong foundation, use good materials to build upward, and take their time to chip away and sculpt. By doing this, the need of the other tables are no longer required for emotional stability, and the stability comes from oneself. This is not to say the legs should be ignored, just not relied on.

I suggest you identify the core idea of what you think will bring you satisfaction. Whatever qualia that thing possesses, I guarantee there are alternative methods of grasping it.

I can only build if I tear the walls down.


How'd I do with goals? If not, what will I do this month? (0-10 scale)

________________________________________________________
By Halloween, I want at least 2 new lays, and at least 3 dates. That happens by setting specific goals for the day / week and trying out new things.

1 lay, 2 dates.


Diet: White meat, vegetables, fruit, cheese, nuts, milk, honey and high protein cereal for when I'm craving carbs. If it's not in my house, I can't break this.

(8 - Came close but did have some red meat and some churros. Both times were at work. I should come full before the work day to I'm not hungry for what's available there, and bring a water bottle so I can keep filling it up)


Money: 40$ taken out to save per shift, per paycheck.

(8 - Raised a lot of cash this month (: but I wasn't religious about it. Aka I didn't include a spending budget, only a saving budget lol. MAKE A SAVING BUDGET


Exercise:Return to my workout routine I wrote up when I began this, the way I've been doing it is too hit or miss, and even though I write shit in my planner I cheat too much for naps / impromptu situations.

6 - Skipped to drink with friends instead. Definition of not being disciplined. I did make notable gains and feel more in shape again. Can help with this by working out earlier in the day - and going to bed earlier. Or, I could wait till night to work out, being the night owl I am.


School: 30 minute chapter review before class, for each class. Back to back classes? Read them day/night before.

4 - I did study much more, and picked up a free tutoring session after one of my classes. Still adderall study binge. Have to build up here from scratch. Got an A on my most important exam though..
so, bonus point.



Work: Socialize with customers more. Use tips from Hector's Small Talk video to make their experience more enjoyable and impressionable.

5 - Used less canned dialogue & asked more questions to customers. Only did so when customers were already friendly. Gonna make a point to do it 5-10 times a day


Drinking: Yep. Making a subtitle about this. No more than 2 drinks per hour - to start. Drink waters intermittently. If you feel out of it, GO HOME. Sleep it off. DO NOT keep getting drunk.

2 - I went home when I wasn't feeling it. I only drank that slow at bars, but by the end of the night I wouldn't follow it enough times to not meet this. Drank waters sometimes. And I blacked out one night, so I may as well make this a zero.

Add that up, and we get 33/50. 66%! Not good, me. Not good.


I was a pretty smooth operator with that social circle research lab shit. Not perfect (if there is such a thing), but pretty damn good. I must give some credit to the situational luck of it though. I'm the only guy in the research lab, and the timing of my schedule was on the money with pacing. Then that shit burned I lost interest in how nervous she was (I mean can you blame her (; lol nah she was probably just inexperienced) because of these texts:
Hour after the date
Her: Hey that was fun we should do that again sometime

Next day

Me: hey yea that was fun, maybe we should again sometime (fuckboy)
Her: Hmm idk
Her: Probably not
Me: hmm, yea maybe that's not the best idea. what make you say that?
Her: I thought about it, and I just didn't really appreciate that you were late and then blew me off. I was so excited/nervous
and you didn't really seem to care about it and you kinda made me uncomfortable. Plus, I think we just want different things.
Her: Sorry, I don't mean to be a bitch but I want someone who cares about me.
Me: no you're not being a bitch I'd rather you be honest. I kind of had that vibe and wasn't totally sure what you were expecting/wanting
Her: What do you mean?
Me: had the vibe you were really nervous for some reason
Her: Lmao yeah you're incredibly attactive
Me: ah shucks ;-*
Me: well you're not too bad yourself Cupcake (: but if we were to see eachother again I'd want to know what your expectations of anything would be
Her: What are you expectations?
Me: I have none
Her: Lol thanks but that's why I was so nervous (I think the texts split up from how fast she sent em)
Her: Alright I'm confused but should we try again?
Me: if we're both free sometime this week I don't see the harm (:
Her: What about after fall break?
Me: sure. just text me next week (FUCKBOY)


So, I walked her away from auto-rejection, had her ready to go again (and maybe she'd be less nervous this time!) and then just drop it with a totally low investment, "yea text me". Nice.

I saw her again and she was totally aloof and bitchy. Then texted me asking for the bosses password.

I could invest with her more and essentially tell her I think we should "give it another shot", but I would probably end up hurting her. She very likely wants a boyfriend. I don't see her as girlfriend material - plus it's in the company ink. Gonna let that one pass. Maybe we hook up at a work party or something.



I'm there for 5 seconds and see a HB7 from my highschool, and immediately go up to her for an intimate hug, are body's were fully touching and she was giving me doe eyes. She was pretty drunk, as was I. We kissed for a second and then I find out my buddy didn't get in because he has a temporary out of state ID, so I leave somewhat upset. I never see these dudes, I chose bros>hoes.


Priorities. Do you want to get laid? Ditch you friends. Do you want to keep as strong of relationship with you boys? Don't.


I explained the night I went to the concert to Hector and he basically told me that I didn't go fast enough with any of the girls that were near me, and that I had to make a decision with the preselection. Preselection is girls fighting over you, and there is a bubble to that. It pops once you're too high attainability, as there is a balance between the two in seduction. The stripper, I should have been super fucking sexual with, as she's a fucking stripper. Instead I was timid.



Thing 2 wants my dick, but I don't think my game is tight enough to pull her. She's stereotypical flirty girl that needs to be out dominated, or else she just takes her pick with men. Last night even, after the crazy bitch texted me this gross shit:
Wanna fuck tonight

I told Thing 2, being a little touchy.
Me: "can you let [crazy] know, if she texts me DTF?? I'm gonna be even more grossed out?"
Her: "Oh.. You know, she's banging my old fuck buddy now." *slightly sad face*
That's a window to fuck her, actually. I could play that into us vs the world, and even a sexual us vs the world, like we're probably better in the sack than them anyways lol.


Hector's sticking point to me, about me being fitting the expectation is essentially the bridge from intermediate to advanced. Intermediate knows game, and inexperienced - moderately experienced girls will be the ones that guy gets. Advanced is going above and beyond that, having that extra little mmph, or X factor, plus some higher caliber techniques and subtle differences to get those experienced girls. The stuff that passes or altogether avoids shit tests.

That hurt my self esteem. It goes back to thinking your a big deal. Grandiosity. Pair that with me pumping up my ego balloon, then going out with actually advanced naturals, and *pop* goes the fucking ego. That's overall what happened that night at bottle service.

I was thinking about my "In My Element" FR and it more or less came down to being able to make a rapid connection with people. Being in-state. Having inner game. I've heard and read multiple times that inner-game is 90% of game. It makes complete sense, women being able to read whether your confidence is real or fake. "It's all about confidence", is true as fuck.

I'm not confident, in this moment.

But, the more I let thoughts come to me, the more my thoughts crystallize, the closer I feel to it.


Just an hour ago I was flirting with my co-worker (she's got a bf, who also works there though), and I felt a whisk of that connection I describe in my "In My Element" FR. THAT. That is what I want, and is what I'm missing in my abilities. And I don't know it's possible unless you are comfortable in the environment you're in or in you're own skin.

So, while I'll still try and focus on adding some pizazz to my social interactions, self-esteem is my next project to focus on. STABLE self-esteem, that is.


This is part of it too. My main sticking points are self esteem, doing the unexpected / special, CARING ABOUT THE GIRL (for christ's sake) and now I believe executing the pull itself with tests/resistance.



R is too easy. Very sexual person, when talking about sex, but I have little sexual chemistry with her. Probably done with that.


Then I went to a gyro shop, and was half blacked out. I opened these two girls HB5, HB7 and asked them to buy me a gyro, and they at first were into my drunken charm and agreed to sit down with me. Then I have a window of memory gone, but blacked in with me asking them their thoughts my roommates old girlfriend being a cunt. I have no idea how the conversation got here, but it was fucking weird. They told me to stop being such an asshole, and that this "cunt" sounds like a really cool girl. I asked them to explain how I'm an asshole other than me using the word cunt and they started laughing their asses off, wouldn't tell me, then left smiling. I can't even begin to imagine how ridiculous the shit looked start to finish from an eagle view lol. Wow. Looking back the ordeal was pretty narcissistic


Don't talk to girls about social dynamics that involve dominance and attraction, you blacked out fuck.


New Goals


Diet: Same diet plan. Continue carb cycling. Up calorie intake you skinny ninny. Come to work full, so that you're still productive and don't feel the need to snack. If a customer order get's fucked up, offer it to your other coworkers and / or box it up and take it home. Looks for for management too if you want that promotion.

Money: 40$ a week still. Talk to dad about opening a savings account.

Exercise: Switched to the alphalion aesthetic workout. Just started so I can't say much yet. If you have a day that working out is scheduled, pick the exact time you're gonna do it. It might be late, it might be early, but do it.

School: Fucking lock yourself in the study building every Monday and Wednesday. That's the only way this shit is gonna work. Make a it regular habit.

Work: 5-10 attempts per shift to engage customers in conversation. Start with that.

Drinking: Waters. Waters. Waters. Every drink, "and a water". Stop drinking after 1:00 - 1:30 unless it's an after party. You're not getting much out of those drinks anyways, you're already drunk stupid.

Levitate, levitate, levitate, levitate.


Well, things are looking bright (:

While typing this up I set up two tinder dates. Shout out to lostnumber because I effectively took his opener and intertwined it with my messages when I needed to spice up the excitement of the girl. Thanks pal (; Let's hope these go smoothly.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Kvothe » Thu Nov 02, 2017 4:02 pm

While typing this up I set up two tinder dates. Shout out to lostnumber because I effectively took his opener and intertwined it with my messages when I needed to spice up the excitement of the girl. Thanks pal (; Let's hope these go smoothly.


Would you be able to share his opener? I'm having a lot of trouble with that myself. I tried looking through his most recent posts, but couldn't find the one you were talking about.
Knowing your own ignorance is the first step to enlightenment
Kvothe


Tool-Bearing Hominid
Tool-Bearing Hominid
 
Posts: 281
Joined: Sun Feb 05, 2017 6:02 pm
Location: New York City

Re: Get Pussy Or Die Tryin'

Postby Hue » Thu Nov 02, 2017 7:18 pm

Here's the specific thing lostnumber described,

Here is an example of what I mean by framing and being incredibly specific about compliments. This is from a Tinder date a while ago;

Me:Jessa, I'm looking for a partner to join me in world domination. Job responsibilities include diabolical scheming and looking fetching in a lab coat.
Me:You've already got criteria #2 on lock, so I think you may be a qualified candidate. Interested?


I tweaked the world domination partner thing a little bit, and then whatever best thing on her profile is intertwine that very specific compliment.


Then I'm about to post a FR (or.. a Tinder Report? lol) with me using this shit from reddit,

My best openers were based off something in their profile, such as if they were wearing some weird hat. "If we hang out later can you not wear that (__)? I already have mine on and I don't want it to be weird."



There's a lot of lostnumber's thoughts and process on Tinder in these two threads,

Semantics on Dating Apps

The "Add me on Snap!" Phenomenon of Dating Apps

One of the main things I got out of it is standing out and not being a guy doing the same shit every other guy is doing when they message her.
Always be a student.
Hue

User avatar

Tribal Elder
Tribal Elder
 
Posts: 1178
Joined: Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:51 pm

Next

Return to Journals

AVAILABLE PROGRAMS

girls chase programs eBook Video Mastery Package Phone Coaching w/ Cody Lyans Email Coaching w/ Cody Lyans

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 0 guests