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I'm in a little bit of a predicament when it comes to Cold Approaching, specifically with the location. Even more specifically with malls.
I keep hearing about how malls are amazing for cold approach, but I rarely ever see any success from malls. And I'm not talking just about me, I'm talking about other self-proclaimed PUAs as well. I literally hear about how malls are great places to meet and approach women, but I rarely hear stories about successful attempts at hooking up with a girl at the mall from the author, blogger, user, etc.
(To anyone reading, feel free to post a successful approach you've had at a mall. I would be interested in hearing it and learning some of the steps you took that led to your success.)
Now I do a lot of screening before I approach a girl. I look at her eyes to see what she's communicating, her body language, her walk, etc. If I don't get a single sign of attraction from the girl, I tend not to approach to save myself some time and energy.
(Not very sportsmen like, I know, but there are other girls I can approach out there, after all, who would return the favor, so I really don't feel like taking a one in ten chance of trying to hook up with a girl who hasn't shown any signs of interest in me.)
So, whenever I screen I rarely get any feedback from a girl via eye contact flirting (at the mall of course). And yes, I do it properly. I slowly bring my eyes up to meet hers, I wait half a second before slowly moving them away, and I bring my eyes back again with a smile and really "drink her in", as Chase puts it.
I don't even think I can recall a single girl I was genuinely (key word: genuinely) attracted to at the mall that ever returned the favor.
Yet, almost ironically, nearly all my visits at the book store get me reactions (although I don't get as many results, but that can be attributed to my lack of moving things forward).
And no. I don't dress like a nerd, talk like a nerd, act like a nerd, or do anything remotely nerdy except maybe program and study physics. Instead, I dress like a skater, talk like a skater, and act like a skater.
And although I may be no jock, I am considerably adventurous. I'm experienced with motorcycles, have done all kinds of extreme sports (not competitively) including skateboarding with professional skateboarders, and I consider myself an amateur edgy rocker (more so with punk and metal, but ladies don't dig headbangers so I tend to leave those details out).
My only guess is that my love of literature (with it's surrounding vibe) is a contributing factor to reactions at book stores.
Now, despite this, I get no reactions whatsoever from girls at malls. Some ideas that I have are that:
- The mall is big and distracting, making it harder to grab the attention of a girl, and as a result, make it harder to successfully approach a girl.
- It is filled with stores that appeal to the 14-16 year old demographic. Hence, the lack of girls my age that happen to be single (I'm 19 by the way, so anywhere from 18 up to 24 is my target age).
- The girls there are high maintenance and a bit prissy. Probably want ten out of ten guys (in terms of looks, and although my looks are good, they aren't that good). And I'm not saying you have to be a ten out of ten to hook up with these types of girls, but your not likely to get good reactions from her when you screen her and flirt with eye contact if you don't have sizzlin' hot looks.
My last idea is that I am getting good reactions from girls at the mall, but I'm completely oblivious to those reactions.
Please don't mistranslate this as me being bitter about not being able to approach girls. That's not my problem. My problem is that I am not getting any reactions from girls at the mall, compared to other places where I do get reactions.
So my question is that is it me that is doing something that doesn't suit mall etiquette? Or is the mall not a good place to cold approach after all?
I keep hearing about how malls are amazing for cold approach, but I rarely ever see any success from malls. And I'm not talking just about me, I'm talking about other self-proclaimed PUAs as well. I literally hear about how malls are great places to meet and approach women, but I rarely hear stories about successful attempts at hooking up with a girl at the mall from the author, blogger, user, etc.
(To anyone reading, feel free to post a successful approach you've had at a mall. I would be interested in hearing it and learning some of the steps you took that led to your success.)
Now I do a lot of screening before I approach a girl. I look at her eyes to see what she's communicating, her body language, her walk, etc. If I don't get a single sign of attraction from the girl, I tend not to approach to save myself some time and energy.
(Not very sportsmen like, I know, but there are other girls I can approach out there, after all, who would return the favor, so I really don't feel like taking a one in ten chance of trying to hook up with a girl who hasn't shown any signs of interest in me.)
So, whenever I screen I rarely get any feedback from a girl via eye contact flirting (at the mall of course). And yes, I do it properly. I slowly bring my eyes up to meet hers, I wait half a second before slowly moving them away, and I bring my eyes back again with a smile and really "drink her in", as Chase puts it.
I don't even think I can recall a single girl I was genuinely (key word: genuinely) attracted to at the mall that ever returned the favor.
Yet, almost ironically, nearly all my visits at the book store get me reactions (although I don't get as many results, but that can be attributed to my lack of moving things forward).
And no. I don't dress like a nerd, talk like a nerd, act like a nerd, or do anything remotely nerdy except maybe program and study physics. Instead, I dress like a skater, talk like a skater, and act like a skater.
And although I may be no jock, I am considerably adventurous. I'm experienced with motorcycles, have done all kinds of extreme sports (not competitively) including skateboarding with professional skateboarders, and I consider myself an amateur edgy rocker (more so with punk and metal, but ladies don't dig headbangers so I tend to leave those details out).
My only guess is that my love of literature (with it's surrounding vibe) is a contributing factor to reactions at book stores.
Now, despite this, I get no reactions whatsoever from girls at malls. Some ideas that I have are that:
- The mall is big and distracting, making it harder to grab the attention of a girl, and as a result, make it harder to successfully approach a girl.
- It is filled with stores that appeal to the 14-16 year old demographic. Hence, the lack of girls my age that happen to be single (I'm 19 by the way, so anywhere from 18 up to 24 is my target age).
- The girls there are high maintenance and a bit prissy. Probably want ten out of ten guys (in terms of looks, and although my looks are good, they aren't that good). And I'm not saying you have to be a ten out of ten to hook up with these types of girls, but your not likely to get good reactions from her when you screen her and flirt with eye contact if you don't have sizzlin' hot looks.
My last idea is that I am getting good reactions from girls at the mall, but I'm completely oblivious to those reactions.
Please don't mistranslate this as me being bitter about not being able to approach girls. That's not my problem. My problem is that I am not getting any reactions from girls at the mall, compared to other places where I do get reactions.
So my question is that is it me that is doing something that doesn't suit mall etiquette? Or is the mall not a good place to cold approach after all?