Will's Newbie Assignment (Sort of)

Will KZ

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So I’m a bit conflicted about being here. On the one hand I can’t stand most pua stuff I read, and while this site is generally a lot better, I still find sentences and sentiments that make me feel physically sick. On the other hand, I want the best women I can possibly find for myself and this seems like a good way to keep me accountable and encourage action. I've read enough that action is really the only viable way of moving forward

I’m not technically a newbie, according to this site’s diagnostics I am a “technician”. However, I am very new to daygame.

(Here’s a quick rundown of my dating background, feel free to skip - pretty useless throughout teenage years, got into getting drunk and hitting on women in bars and clubs at uni, but didn’t start having sex until I lost my virginity to a prostitute at age 19. Then at 21 I suffered from anxiety induced ED, my dick half-worked when I trained martial arts heavily, but not enough for my liking. I met an amazing Brazilian woman in a bar, who may have been my soulmate, and I didn’t even try anything because I was too drunk and afraid. Got into pua stuff at 24 when a girl I liked went around fucking other guys and wouldn’t even look at me. The stuff had me pretending to be something I was not, which half-worked, except that my dick still didn’t. Eventually cured that over months through a combination of meditation, yoga, kettlebell swings, nofap and noporn. Pretty much abandoned the pua stuff after reading Mark Manson and 60 Years. I consider myself a feminist, I’m also into heavy bdsm as a dom, but I can get turned on and have fun without it. I’m short, which I used to be quite insecure about, but I’ve slept with enough girls taller than me, and got rejected by enough to not care any more).

Don’t really like clubs anymore, so did the online thing, met a gf on omegle - which didn’t work out, then did a few ons from tinder, before meeting a girl I really liked on tinder and dating her for 3 months. Wasn’t serious and was still best relationship of my life. So historically I’m more of a one night stand guy, 3 months seems to be my longest relationship. But that’s not why I’m here, tinder works well enough for that. It’s because I’d like to meet my soulmate one day (I believe in soulmates, but believe we have more than one, if you don’t believe just interpret it as soulmate calibre). I’m on a backpacking trip in south america at the moment. Currently in Medellin, finding it hard to leave - partly thanks to an approach on the metro.

So I’m going to skip a fair few things here, and do my own version. Plus not going to do it everyday, taking it slowly but surely. My priorities as they stand are as follows: My physical and mental health, my experience as a tourist, my business, daygame comes after that. I’m not skipping out on things just to hit on women. Have actually already started, but wanted to write here to keep myself accountable and maybe get some encouragement. I think chase’s article here is really what sold me - https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-c ... thing-else
sounds worth it to me.


PS - if Chase’s people read this, he offers a free sample of 25% of his book, at the end of which he offers it for $38, but on the page it’s $57 or something. Interesting since he even has an article on chase framing about setting expectations for this sort of thing, maybe worth updating the sample.)

PPS - I don't really read lay reports, but I don't think I'm going to post any either, pretty happy with my sexual technique, don't see the benefit
 

Will KZ

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So I skipped a bunch of things - not scouting places since I'm travelling it's a waste of time. Have done enough not to worry too much about posture. Yoga, calisthenics and moderate ways seem best for that anyway. Also give plenty of eye contact, although not as used to people staring back with the length and intensity they do in colombia.

So I started with day 4 - go say hi to 6 people. I said hola - not many here speak english - about 4/6 didn't say anything back. They either didn't hear me, or I was quiet enough to ignore. My voice is fairly deep, but is also quiet, something I need to work on - I don't speak a lot either, consider myself an introvert. 2 said hola back, one was attractive, so that was nice.
 

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Will,

Welcome to the boards, man! I'm glad you've taken an interest in Chase's material and the path to cold approaching women via daygame.

I've moved your post to the "Journals" board since it seems like you're going to be keeping a journal of the Newbie Assignment. If you have any specific interactions with girls that you would like feedback on, please feel free to post them on the Field Reports board with the appropriate label.

Good to have you aboard!

- Franco
 

Will KZ

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Ah yes, sorry about that, wasn't sure which area to use.

Day 2 - ok this wasn't meant to be a day 2, I just started saying hola again to people because I figured why not? Then on the metro I saw this beautiful girl and stared at her, she stared back. She got on the train at the same door as me, then sat down. I saw her still staring at me in my peripherals. After waiting a few mins I went and sat next to her. Didn't say anything, just stared at the iphone she had out (she was listening to music), then she took the earphones off. I looked at her and said hola, eres guapa. she smiled and said y tu tambien. We got off at the same stop and we went to the park, chatting in broken spanish - she's a 20yr old student of journalism. After the park we got some pizza - she paid, but then she said she had to go do some work with her friends before I could bring her back to my apartment. I got her number and took her to meet her friend.
 

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Day 3 - again wasn't meant to be a day 3, but this girl was on her own and just staring at me. I had to go say hello. Turns out she was 17 and waiting for her friends. Legal here. But she was leaving the city with them, otherwise I think something might have happened. I realise I'm going to have to not just wait for super obvious signals to get good at this, but also, it seems kind of a waste just to go say hi, how are you when I want more. Might try going more direct and skipping a few assignments here.
 

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Yeah got pretty lazy on this one. Had a couple more days of approaches - met a pretty 17 year old girl in Medellin (I'm 26), legal here in Colombia but she was leaving the city that night sadly. Then went out one night and saw this beautiful woman staring at me. Introduced myself, asked her if she was single, and what she was up to. Turns out she was looking for sex, in exchange for money - and I just thought my good looks had caught her eye. Apologised for my mistake and moved on.

Then I got kind of desperate for sex having been in Colombia for a while without any luck, so I just hit tinder pretty hard. Met an English speaking 31 year old latina, went out for a couple of beer and took her back to my place. Then hit something of a roll on tinder like I had back home, and kind of lost my motivation for daygame. Now I may be getting back with my ex in some sort of relationship, think I'm getting somewhere in convincing her to give threesomes a go. Not really sure about where my daygame goes from here, but I definitely enjoyed the little successes I had, something to bear in mind for the future.
 

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Ok I'm back, girlfriend couldn't make it on my trip. Tried daygame in Cali but couldnt even get myself started. Convinced myself it was because I was in a dangerous city, and kept up that line of thinking through Ecuador. But really it was just fear. Stuck to tinder.

Had a tinder date here in Peru a couple of nights ago. She was stunning. I stopped rating girls on a 1-10 scale long before I found this website, but still I can tell when I'm with a woman who is more attractive than the average I usually sleep with and she was definitely way up there. Actually I thought she might have been a professional trying another angle at first. Anyway, did a lot of dumb pua stuff, we just went to a cafe, she doesn't drink and I drink very little. She spent half her time chatting with her friends on her phone. Tried using the bored look, tried a thumb war, and she just looked at me like I was a retard. Finally I caught myself and remembered why I stopped doing pua things like 90% in my life. Because I end up in my head over-analysing, and I want to be in my body experiencing. Once I made that switch it was much easier. Invited her to go to a private place, she was like "for what" (In spanish), I just said "fun". No bullshit let's watch a film, when I'm calm that's not my style. She decided not too, but got very touchy-feely - kissing me in the cafe. I tried to hold her but she was convinced she was too tired. I went to bed. Of course, in the morning I see I have a whatsapp from her at 2:30am saying "hey". Could have just been checking in, but I doubt it, and this is not the first time this has happened to me. May have to reconsider my airplane mode for phone at night. Anyway, next day I invited her to a hotel room before I left, she asked "what time?" Sadly she couldnt make the time, it was super tight, and I decided not to change my bus ticket, hard though it was.

Despite it not working out, it was a huge confidence boost. It reminded me, I have slept with truly beautiful women before, I can do it again. And if I found her on tinder, I can find even more in the street. So motivated to give daygame another go. The key will be getting started - getting some momentum - and also staying out of my head and going for what I want on instinct - that is my natural style and has worked far better for me thus far.
 

Will KZ

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More tinder dates - this time just did what I felt. Wanted to hold a girl's hand at the time - is this what my body wants? Yes - ok, going for it. I'm liking this living in the body thing more and more, it's working out pretty well. Last date what I felt was tiredness - so I wanted to go to bed, so I did. There's an article on the front page about getting laid while you're super tired, I haven't read it, but to me it's kind of crazy. It speaks to a massive disrespect for your own body, a sense that you are so wrapped up in your image as a playboy or something that you will sacrifice your health and peace of mind just to keep up that image. And I can't imagine the sex being all that good for anyone involved. Maybe it's just because I'm an introvert and need my space to recharge. I've come to realise that if this daygame thing is going to work out I need to stop analysing it too much and go with my body's feeling.
 

Will KZ

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Ok, this living in the body thing needs a rethink. It's better than analysing everything in my head, which just leads to awkwardness. But I have been fully listening to my body lately, and one thing is clear, my body is a complete prick. It wants to slap random girls on the ass, hit on girls walking hand in hand with their boyfriends, yell at random times. If I lived fully in my body my life would be a neverending series of fights and legal issues. In fact, I have a friend I used to go out with who used to drink a shit-ton. Basically switching off his brain and living in his body. He had a lot of sex, mostly with unattractive women from nightclubs, and if a girl looks unattractive in a nightclub she looks far worse in real life. Sometimes a decent or even very hot girl would slip through the cracks. Then he would get obsessed. He would also have random bruises from fights he couldnt remember, he seldom remembered the night before.

So as with most things, a middle path is best. My brain will have to step in to prevent serious abuses, and then take a backseat when stuff needs to get properly done without overthinking.
 

Will KZ

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Well I turned off my tinder. Partly because it was very time consuming, and partly to leave me with more motivation to try daygame. Still not been that motivated because I've been meeting girls in my hostels, but the other day I told myself I couldn't come back until I asked one girl if she was single. The first one I tried to stop but she just walked right past me, she had earphones on but I think she was just pretending not to hear me. The second time was quite fun, stopped a girl and asked her if she was single, "yes, no," she changed her mind very quickly and walked past me smiling. I had to smile also. I was done for the day, I only needed one, life is busy enough. However, on the way back from the park where I was exercising I saw an attractive girl sitting alone, I asked her if she was single. A straight no this time. But I could see how I could get some momentum going and find this easy. After all it is just a numbers game - easy to understand in theory, harder to action. But not this city, not to brag but I'm a bit busy datewise, have to turn them into threesomes to accommodate the girls before I leave in a couple of days...
 
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