So I’m a bit conflicted about being here. On the one hand I can’t stand most pua stuff I read, and while this site is generally a lot better, I still find sentences and sentiments that make me feel physically sick. On the other hand, I want the best women I can possibly find for myself and this seems like a good way to keep me accountable and encourage action. I've read enough that action is really the only viable way of moving forward
I’m not technically a newbie, according to this site’s diagnostics I am a “technician”. However, I am very new to daygame.
(Here’s a quick rundown of my dating background, feel free to skip - pretty useless throughout teenage years, got into getting drunk and hitting on women in bars and clubs at uni, but didn’t start having sex until I lost my virginity to a prostitute at age 19. Then at 21 I suffered from anxiety induced ED, my dick half-worked when I trained martial arts heavily, but not enough for my liking. I met an amazing Brazilian woman in a bar, who may have been my soulmate, and I didn’t even try anything because I was too drunk and afraid. Got into pua stuff at 24 when a girl I liked went around fucking other guys and wouldn’t even look at me. The stuff had me pretending to be something I was not, which half-worked, except that my dick still didn’t. Eventually cured that over months through a combination of meditation, yoga, kettlebell swings, nofap and noporn. Pretty much abandoned the pua stuff after reading Mark Manson and 60 Years. I consider myself a feminist, I’m also into heavy bdsm as a dom, but I can get turned on and have fun without it. I’m short, which I used to be quite insecure about, but I’ve slept with enough girls taller than me, and got rejected by enough to not care any more).
Don’t really like clubs anymore, so did the online thing, met a gf on omegle - which didn’t work out, then did a few ons from tinder, before meeting a girl I really liked on tinder and dating her for 3 months. Wasn’t serious and was still best relationship of my life. So historically I’m more of a one night stand guy, 3 months seems to be my longest relationship. But that’s not why I’m here, tinder works well enough for that. It’s because I’d like to meet my soulmate one day (I believe in soulmates, but believe we have more than one, if you don’t believe just interpret it as soulmate calibre). I’m on a backpacking trip in south america at the moment. Currently in Medellin, finding it hard to leave - partly thanks to an approach on the metro.
So I’m going to skip a fair few things here, and do my own version. Plus not going to do it everyday, taking it slowly but surely. My priorities as they stand are as follows: My physical and mental health, my experience as a tourist, my business, daygame comes after that. I’m not skipping out on things just to hit on women. Have actually already started, but wanted to write here to keep myself accountable and maybe get some encouragement. I think chase’s article here is really what sold me - https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-c ... thing-else
sounds worth it to me.
PS - if Chase’s people read this, he offers a free sample of 25% of his book, at the end of which he offers it for $38, but on the page it’s $57 or something. Interesting since he even has an article on chase framing about setting expectations for this sort of thing, maybe worth updating the sample.)
PPS - I don't really read lay reports, but I don't think I'm going to post any either, pretty happy with my sexual technique, don't see the benefit
I’m not technically a newbie, according to this site’s diagnostics I am a “technician”. However, I am very new to daygame.
(Here’s a quick rundown of my dating background, feel free to skip - pretty useless throughout teenage years, got into getting drunk and hitting on women in bars and clubs at uni, but didn’t start having sex until I lost my virginity to a prostitute at age 19. Then at 21 I suffered from anxiety induced ED, my dick half-worked when I trained martial arts heavily, but not enough for my liking. I met an amazing Brazilian woman in a bar, who may have been my soulmate, and I didn’t even try anything because I was too drunk and afraid. Got into pua stuff at 24 when a girl I liked went around fucking other guys and wouldn’t even look at me. The stuff had me pretending to be something I was not, which half-worked, except that my dick still didn’t. Eventually cured that over months through a combination of meditation, yoga, kettlebell swings, nofap and noporn. Pretty much abandoned the pua stuff after reading Mark Manson and 60 Years. I consider myself a feminist, I’m also into heavy bdsm as a dom, but I can get turned on and have fun without it. I’m short, which I used to be quite insecure about, but I’ve slept with enough girls taller than me, and got rejected by enough to not care any more).
Don’t really like clubs anymore, so did the online thing, met a gf on omegle - which didn’t work out, then did a few ons from tinder, before meeting a girl I really liked on tinder and dating her for 3 months. Wasn’t serious and was still best relationship of my life. So historically I’m more of a one night stand guy, 3 months seems to be my longest relationship. But that’s not why I’m here, tinder works well enough for that. It’s because I’d like to meet my soulmate one day (I believe in soulmates, but believe we have more than one, if you don’t believe just interpret it as soulmate calibre). I’m on a backpacking trip in south america at the moment. Currently in Medellin, finding it hard to leave - partly thanks to an approach on the metro.
So I’m going to skip a fair few things here, and do my own version. Plus not going to do it everyday, taking it slowly but surely. My priorities as they stand are as follows: My physical and mental health, my experience as a tourist, my business, daygame comes after that. I’m not skipping out on things just to hit on women. Have actually already started, but wanted to write here to keep myself accountable and maybe get some encouragement. I think chase’s article here is really what sold me - https://www.girlschase.com/content/why-c ... thing-else
sounds worth it to me.
PS - if Chase’s people read this, he offers a free sample of 25% of his book, at the end of which he offers it for $38, but on the page it’s $57 or something. Interesting since he even has an article on chase framing about setting expectations for this sort of thing, maybe worth updating the sample.)
PPS - I don't really read lay reports, but I don't think I'm going to post any either, pretty happy with my sexual technique, don't see the benefit