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So David Deida talked about this in book regarding hotter and colder women but I wanted to expand on it.
So a while ago I played around with the idea of an experiment where I would approach 10 hot blondes and redheads while also approaching 10 hot darker skinned brunettes (mainly Caucasian).
The reason?
As a white guy with dark hair who tans easily (get told I look like Jon Bernthal a lot), I noticed that natural redheads, blondes and pale brunettes (as in really white) seemed to show the most interest in me. Now I also found that women of minority groups like Asian, black and to an extent Indian loved me too. Of all the groups, I was getting the least attention from my type, white women with dark hair and slightly tanned skin. Then I wondered if it was confirmation bias or what but I noticed that I ran into a lot of couples in which the kinds of hot girls I liked were with a pale blond guy and the like (e.g.: Look at Emily Ratajkowski and her trollish looking husband).
I noticed a bit of a trend where hot blondes and redheads would go for dark haired men and minorities while brunette hotties would more commonly go for blond guys.
So I decided to approach at least 10 hot girls of each group, then decided that there is no way that is enough, so I approached around 25 or so over a period of a couple months.
The standards were simple, if she was slim and had a pretty face, I was going to approach. Here are the findings after 50 or so approaches.
Cultural upbringing > phenotype and her look.
I found that I had a pretty good experience with brunettes from more rural American backgrounds and more conservative southern areas. My thoughts are for one, a guy with my kind of look is either slightly exotic or my look is neutral. I find myself having more success with women from this kind of a background anyways, usually they are blondes but I have been with brunettes like this as well so it made more sense when I did the approach.
Yesterday night at a bar I approached this brunette beauty, dark hair with blue eyes and a tan. She was from South Carolina and things were going well but she kindly let me down as her boyfriend arrived, her boyfriend was a buff Hispanic guy that looked like Aaron Hernandez but I went away safe. The guy and I had a laugh and he understood that things happen.
So what kinds of brunettes and tanned skin white women do have a similar mindset towards male beauty as Hitler did?
I find that this is probably the most true for Italian women and Mediterranean women in general. One my cousins is a blond guy who went to Spain, said he was shooting blanks after a couple weeks there. On the other hand one of my friends is a Middle Eastern guy who is a natural that cleaned up in Hungary and Denmark, in Spain he was incel.
My thoughts are that white women from cultural groups that aren’t perceived as being white enough but take whiteness very seriously tend to have some self-hate. Now this is why you commonly see good looking Mediterranean women with blond men, even though a lot of these men often look trollish. Does not matter, the mindset is that they get to surround themselves with whiteness and be around whiteness, putting them mentally at ease.
I think this is also why you hear of minorities cleaning up in a place like Scandinavian or some of the more blonde Eastern European countries but struggling in the Mediterranean.
Could it be confirmation bias too? Maybe but I think there is something there.
Maybe if I see a sexy Mediterranean looking girl or a Catherine Zeta Jones type of chick with a dark haired guy or a minority, I don’t notice? Maybe I just notice it more when I see a darker guy with a blonde or redhead compared to a Megan Fox lookalike even more. That very well could be the case as it was with the South Carolina girl I approached.
Then again I am left asking about how it ended up that way. Maybe the blond guy just showed up and she was all over his dick while the Cristiano Ronaldo lookalike had to work more for it, comparatively speaking. At this point, we are doing mental gymnastics.
The point of my thread is that it is common enough to not be ignored. I have seen enough cases of it to think there must be something going on right?
My results? No definite conclusion yet, maybe I need to approach more?
Just as easily, I noticed I was running into a lot of stuck up blondes and even redheads too. After really doing it in terms of making the approaches, there was not that much of an overlap. Bitchy girls were bitchy girls and receptive girls were receptive girls. Where there was overlap was on dating apps where looks mean everything, in that case I matched with a lot of blondes and redheads but not nearly as many brunettes.
Where the overlap did happen was culture itself. If she was from an ethnic background like Mediterranean, then I do feel she might be more hostile towards darker guys but if it was a more WASPy or Slavic brunette, I feel that the hostility died down. Which makes me think of one of my Arab friends who is dating this Russian HB9 with dark hair, green eyes and tanned skin.
So what about it?
At the end, as men we want women who will be most receptive to us and we want the highest return on investment in our game. My proposal is simple with that in mind, simply go for the look you like but be weary of culture.
So lets say you’re like me and the raven haired look makes your dick go crazy, then go for a girl from Eastern Europe or maybe even a Northern European brunette who is either going to be impartial or maybe even like your swarthy look. Don’t go for women from cultures that have a lot of self-hate towards their look and want to desperately get whiter, this would include all of the Mediterranean.
So a while ago I played around with the idea of an experiment where I would approach 10 hot blondes and redheads while also approaching 10 hot darker skinned brunettes (mainly Caucasian).
The reason?
As a white guy with dark hair who tans easily (get told I look like Jon Bernthal a lot), I noticed that natural redheads, blondes and pale brunettes (as in really white) seemed to show the most interest in me. Now I also found that women of minority groups like Asian, black and to an extent Indian loved me too. Of all the groups, I was getting the least attention from my type, white women with dark hair and slightly tanned skin. Then I wondered if it was confirmation bias or what but I noticed that I ran into a lot of couples in which the kinds of hot girls I liked were with a pale blond guy and the like (e.g.: Look at Emily Ratajkowski and her trollish looking husband).
I noticed a bit of a trend where hot blondes and redheads would go for dark haired men and minorities while brunette hotties would more commonly go for blond guys.
So I decided to approach at least 10 hot girls of each group, then decided that there is no way that is enough, so I approached around 25 or so over a period of a couple months.
The standards were simple, if she was slim and had a pretty face, I was going to approach. Here are the findings after 50 or so approaches.
Cultural upbringing > phenotype and her look.
I found that I had a pretty good experience with brunettes from more rural American backgrounds and more conservative southern areas. My thoughts are for one, a guy with my kind of look is either slightly exotic or my look is neutral. I find myself having more success with women from this kind of a background anyways, usually they are blondes but I have been with brunettes like this as well so it made more sense when I did the approach.
Yesterday night at a bar I approached this brunette beauty, dark hair with blue eyes and a tan. She was from South Carolina and things were going well but she kindly let me down as her boyfriend arrived, her boyfriend was a buff Hispanic guy that looked like Aaron Hernandez but I went away safe. The guy and I had a laugh and he understood that things happen.
So what kinds of brunettes and tanned skin white women do have a similar mindset towards male beauty as Hitler did?
I find that this is probably the most true for Italian women and Mediterranean women in general. One my cousins is a blond guy who went to Spain, said he was shooting blanks after a couple weeks there. On the other hand one of my friends is a Middle Eastern guy who is a natural that cleaned up in Hungary and Denmark, in Spain he was incel.
My thoughts are that white women from cultural groups that aren’t perceived as being white enough but take whiteness very seriously tend to have some self-hate. Now this is why you commonly see good looking Mediterranean women with blond men, even though a lot of these men often look trollish. Does not matter, the mindset is that they get to surround themselves with whiteness and be around whiteness, putting them mentally at ease.
I think this is also why you hear of minorities cleaning up in a place like Scandinavian or some of the more blonde Eastern European countries but struggling in the Mediterranean.
Could it be confirmation bias too? Maybe but I think there is something there.
Maybe if I see a sexy Mediterranean looking girl or a Catherine Zeta Jones type of chick with a dark haired guy or a minority, I don’t notice? Maybe I just notice it more when I see a darker guy with a blonde or redhead compared to a Megan Fox lookalike even more. That very well could be the case as it was with the South Carolina girl I approached.
Then again I am left asking about how it ended up that way. Maybe the blond guy just showed up and she was all over his dick while the Cristiano Ronaldo lookalike had to work more for it, comparatively speaking. At this point, we are doing mental gymnastics.
The point of my thread is that it is common enough to not be ignored. I have seen enough cases of it to think there must be something going on right?
My results? No definite conclusion yet, maybe I need to approach more?
Just as easily, I noticed I was running into a lot of stuck up blondes and even redheads too. After really doing it in terms of making the approaches, there was not that much of an overlap. Bitchy girls were bitchy girls and receptive girls were receptive girls. Where there was overlap was on dating apps where looks mean everything, in that case I matched with a lot of blondes and redheads but not nearly as many brunettes.
Where the overlap did happen was culture itself. If she was from an ethnic background like Mediterranean, then I do feel she might be more hostile towards darker guys but if it was a more WASPy or Slavic brunette, I feel that the hostility died down. Which makes me think of one of my Arab friends who is dating this Russian HB9 with dark hair, green eyes and tanned skin.
So what about it?
At the end, as men we want women who will be most receptive to us and we want the highest return on investment in our game. My proposal is simple with that in mind, simply go for the look you like but be weary of culture.
So lets say you’re like me and the raven haired look makes your dick go crazy, then go for a girl from Eastern Europe or maybe even a Northern European brunette who is either going to be impartial or maybe even like your swarthy look. Don’t go for women from cultures that have a lot of self-hate towards their look and want to desperately get whiter, this would include all of the Mediterranean.