Hey everyone. It's been a long time since I had a journal. The last time I had one, I only had one post in it. But this time, I plan on doing more than one post for this journal.
I will admit that I haven't been doing that much cold approach lately. I kinda stopped in late 2017, because I lost all motivation to do so. I kept getting the same results: sometimes I would get her number but never get her on a date, sometimes she would say that she has a boyfriend, and other times the interaction would not go past the first sentence. I got discouraged and I stopped talking to new girls.
Earlier this year, I got a bad case of oneitis. I "fell in love" with some girl that I had become friends with late last year. I asked her out. she said yes. But when I tried to get her phone number, she said that she was getting a new number and asked me to message her on Instagram instead. I did, and I freaked out about it because I thought that she blocked me. But she didn't and she never respond to my DM. My emotions sunk, and along with other things that happened in my real life, it affected my grades. I got two C's and an F last semester. Then, this semester, she gets back with her ex: a guy that I know and that I am friends with. It sucked. This happened because I stopped cold approaching. We are still friends though.
When I joined Girls Chase, I thought that it would help me get the results with girls that I have always desired. Instead, nothing has changed, I feel like I am in the same place I was in 2015, and I wasted four years of college. Every time I post on Girls Chase, it feels like I have accomplished nothing next to other members who have joined the forums after I did. Earlier this year, someone in one of the threads I started recommend to me the "How to Avoid Being a Nice Guy" article by Halvor. One of the pieces of advice in that article was to get Cognitive Behavior Therapy to deal with any sort of negative behavior. I started looking for that a few months ago. I saw a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist during the summer, but I couldn't see her again because she did not accept my health care provider. I still plan on seeing one, to deal with the negative behaviors that affect my life.
So, I am not approaching any girls right now. How do I avoid going into full blown depression? Because it feels like that's the way my life is going right now. I have never diagnosed with it, but my mother has been.
I will admit that I haven't been doing that much cold approach lately. I kinda stopped in late 2017, because I lost all motivation to do so. I kept getting the same results: sometimes I would get her number but never get her on a date, sometimes she would say that she has a boyfriend, and other times the interaction would not go past the first sentence. I got discouraged and I stopped talking to new girls.
Earlier this year, I got a bad case of oneitis. I "fell in love" with some girl that I had become friends with late last year. I asked her out. she said yes. But when I tried to get her phone number, she said that she was getting a new number and asked me to message her on Instagram instead. I did, and I freaked out about it because I thought that she blocked me. But she didn't and she never respond to my DM. My emotions sunk, and along with other things that happened in my real life, it affected my grades. I got two C's and an F last semester. Then, this semester, she gets back with her ex: a guy that I know and that I am friends with. It sucked. This happened because I stopped cold approaching. We are still friends though.
When I joined Girls Chase, I thought that it would help me get the results with girls that I have always desired. Instead, nothing has changed, I feel like I am in the same place I was in 2015, and I wasted four years of college. Every time I post on Girls Chase, it feels like I have accomplished nothing next to other members who have joined the forums after I did. Earlier this year, someone in one of the threads I started recommend to me the "How to Avoid Being a Nice Guy" article by Halvor. One of the pieces of advice in that article was to get Cognitive Behavior Therapy to deal with any sort of negative behavior. I started looking for that a few months ago. I saw a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist during the summer, but I couldn't see her again because she did not accept my health care provider. I still plan on seeing one, to deal with the negative behaviors that affect my life.
So, I am not approaching any girls right now. How do I avoid going into full blown depression? Because it feels like that's the way my life is going right now. I have never diagnosed with it, but my mother has been.