Re: Victim mentality seriously starting to ruin my life, know the cause not the
@uForia-
uForia said:
Boy I didn't know complaining on GirlsChase repeatedly like this would bring me Chase's, Franco's, Richard's, etc. attention and responses to this magnitude for free (other than the time spent writing the posts). This incentivizes me to start complaining a lot too.
Franco suggested it was time to ban PeachFrustration. He pointed me to this thread.
I figured before we just go and ban him, let me give it a shot and see if we can get PF working on something productive.
And if that doesn't work, then we ban him.
So yeah, it can get my attention. Of course as you've seen with Ryan, and with that guy who was talking about how cold approach doesn't work and only the gym works, or with Altair, or whomever, much of the time a last-ditch effort from Chase to get a guy on the right path immediately precedes a ban.
(also, I realize I haven't been on the boards much. This year's been chaotic with the amount of things we're adding into the business. It is this thing at the back of my mind all the time: "Chase has got to get back on the boards! At least one day a month of heavy posting!" Gonna try to give it a little more love)
@PeachFrustration-
Okay, that's a strong list of good positive attributes you have. Very good. You're not starting from zero.
Also, there's no way you should be whining nearly this much with all those good things going on for you. You're clearly in a better position than a lot of guys. Have pulled yourself out of depression, can do cold approach to get dates and sex, you're generally liked/missed in the circles you engage in... I mean, the impression you give online is this morose, glum guy with a dead social life who just sucks the life out of everything with whining/complaining.
This is my last-ditch effort to get you being a positive dude again and not sucking the life out of the boards before I ban you for it, it's that bad. You're dragging down everyone -- take a look at how much good will you've squandered from the other guys here. You did that, it's not "life just didn't give you the opportunity to make a good impression" or something.
The poison of victim mentality is it traps you into "I want" and blinds you to "I must do."
Now this:
PeachFrustration said:
So I am wondering what I can work on now.
Task #2:
List out the things I and the other posters in this thread have told you you should be working on now.
And if you write anything like "these things won't help me get where I want to get to" you fail the exercise.
And probably get banned also, TBH.
Chase