So here's the story, we were together for roughly 2 years (both are 23) and fresh out of college. Both of us wanted to go to medical school but after she realized she was not competitive enough to get in she gave up and decided to become a flight attendent (I am still applying). Our relationship went south in spring when I urged her to not give up on her dream but she had none of it.
Becoming a flight attendent means she had to have a month long training (12 hours a day) and then she had to move to a base which for us was halfway across the country for a year. We mutually agreed to breakup before her training and at that time back in May I began no contact. It worked. She texted me in mid June and after that point we talked casually throughout the summer up until early August where things got bad.
Generally our talks were good and we could still sense our attraction for one another but she gradually dropped hints that I should start seeing someone else. Our talking carried onto the last day of July when I messed up. I went on a camping trip alone and got drunk and excited because it was a place we had both been together. I sent her a dick pic. That did not go well.
While she sent some texts back along the lines of "Dudeee. No. Too much lol" I thought not too much of it. The next morning however she responds more seriously "Real talk I don't need pics like that". I say okay never again and reply again later that night that I was drunk, and going off our texting from earlier during the day that I thought it was okay and asked if she was judging me. (Note:We sent each other nudes before during our relationship and it was never a problem)
Following that text she said she was judging me a little bit and she was dealing with some stuff up there. Then I asked if she was seeing anyone. She said not exclusive, but yeah. Within the next day she recieved two pacs of cigs from me that she mentioned she missed because they didnt sell them up there. She said it was really sweet.
After like 4 days of not talking (possibly still a little mad) I ask her how her trip was, but she did not respond. Since then I reinitiated no contact and it has been just over two weeks of not talking. She texted me once during that span a photo of her and a mutual friend she ran into on a flight. That was a week ago.
But this past Thursday she posted a photo to fb of her on a date with another guy. This is the first time I realized her cues from earlier in the summer that she was probably talking to someone for roughly a month or so (?). This is a guy who lives just as far away as I do and he is 11 years older than her. I talked to the mutual friend who tells me that she referred to that guy as her "boyfriend" I've had a hard time accepting this fact the past few days and am worried she is going to forget about me.
I am considering tomorrow breaking our two week no contact to gain "closure" from our relationship and everything I did wrong that I could use for self improvement. But I also want her back and read up on Chase's article and was going to implement some tactics in the phone call. Is this the best way to get her back? Part of me really believes she still likes what we had and that she is just in a rebound for the time being. My other option is to do more no contact but I risk her moving on/leaving it up to chance.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, I'm desperately been considering my options these past few days.
Becoming a flight attendent means she had to have a month long training (12 hours a day) and then she had to move to a base which for us was halfway across the country for a year. We mutually agreed to breakup before her training and at that time back in May I began no contact. It worked. She texted me in mid June and after that point we talked casually throughout the summer up until early August where things got bad.
Generally our talks were good and we could still sense our attraction for one another but she gradually dropped hints that I should start seeing someone else. Our talking carried onto the last day of July when I messed up. I went on a camping trip alone and got drunk and excited because it was a place we had both been together. I sent her a dick pic. That did not go well.
While she sent some texts back along the lines of "Dudeee. No. Too much lol" I thought not too much of it. The next morning however she responds more seriously "Real talk I don't need pics like that". I say okay never again and reply again later that night that I was drunk, and going off our texting from earlier during the day that I thought it was okay and asked if she was judging me. (Note:We sent each other nudes before during our relationship and it was never a problem)
Following that text she said she was judging me a little bit and she was dealing with some stuff up there. Then I asked if she was seeing anyone. She said not exclusive, but yeah. Within the next day she recieved two pacs of cigs from me that she mentioned she missed because they didnt sell them up there. She said it was really sweet.
After like 4 days of not talking (possibly still a little mad) I ask her how her trip was, but she did not respond. Since then I reinitiated no contact and it has been just over two weeks of not talking. She texted me once during that span a photo of her and a mutual friend she ran into on a flight. That was a week ago.
But this past Thursday she posted a photo to fb of her on a date with another guy. This is the first time I realized her cues from earlier in the summer that she was probably talking to someone for roughly a month or so (?). This is a guy who lives just as far away as I do and he is 11 years older than her. I talked to the mutual friend who tells me that she referred to that guy as her "boyfriend" I've had a hard time accepting this fact the past few days and am worried she is going to forget about me.
I am considering tomorrow breaking our two week no contact to gain "closure" from our relationship and everything I did wrong that I could use for self improvement. But I also want her back and read up on Chase's article and was going to implement some tactics in the phone call. Is this the best way to get her back? Part of me really believes she still likes what we had and that she is just in a rebound for the time being. My other option is to do more no contact but I risk her moving on/leaving it up to chance.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, I'm desperately been considering my options these past few days.