Re: Saw Asian dude with hot blonde bombshell
Armani Code,
I’m an Indian guy (technically Bangladeshi but it’s the same thing) and I live in CA and I do well with girls (I’ve dated a couple of blonde girls but prefer curvy Hispanic girls and have dated many of them).
It’s not being Indian, it’s you lol (I mean that in as nice a way as possible).
Your fundamentals likely need work; if you’ve been approaching for 3 years then you haven’t been trying different things and changing up what you do, or setting goals and trying to get a different result.
The “3 years” as a length of time, doesn’t particularly matter, and you should not let that faze you (for example a corporate office worker who has worked 10 years can be outworked by an intern who has worked for a few months if the intern works deliberately, figures out what is wrong with his methods and analyzes them and then carefully goes and fixes his mistakes and consistently becomes better as a result).
This site has everything for you to go back and look at what you’re doing wrong and fix it.
You say that you’ve been lurking on the site: my advice is to start being active on the forums, start posting reports and writing down your interactions with women you are meeting. Start going out in the field and hardcore learning; guys on the board will help you whenever you’re confused or in need of practical help and you will get better if you (as Chase says) work hard and smart.
Your beliefs and paradigm are what are limiting you the most, don’t be a victim/complainer and instead be a fixer.
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-master-anything
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-victim-mentality-can-stifle-your-life-–-and-luck-women
Oh and regarding the other Indian guys who complain about not getting hot girls: they’re losers, they’re pussies and they’re gonna marry ugly chicks when they grow up (harsh but yeah fuck them).
It’s not cause they’re Indian and it’s not because “Indian guys can’t get hot chicks” it’s because they're the equivalent of “nice guys” and “man girls like assholes but they treat the nice guy like shit!”
They are the complaining group/herd and they’ll complain and complain and not put in any work to achieve anything or endeavor to change… and so they’ll reap what they sow and get friend-zoned girl after girl till they’ll marry some “whatever’s” chick equivalent to the “whatever’s” work they put in.
I’m super Indian looking dude! And not really very good looking at all… and (forgive me; I’ll be frank and not humble for a second) women fucking love me! They want my dick… so hard!! (And it’s majorly fundamentals that lets it be that way; fundamentals on their own largely determine why one guy is attractive and another is not; a fat bald old man can be hot if he has fundamentals cough cough Sean Connery lol).
I was super skinny and shit with women; but I worked to fix it. Any problem I had, I didn’t even know if it would be possible to fix, but I said “you know what I’m gonna try my hardest, and keep trying new things and changing my methods till I find what works and then will stick to it and work my ass off at it”. I’m ugly so I decide to take better care of my hair and skin and style of dress, I’m skinny so I start to eat more and lift weights, I’m shit with girls so I decide to go out and meet more girls and get better. Anything you’re bad at or not happy with you have a choice of bettering and improving.
I put in my work and I put on 40 lbs of muscle in the last 2 years and got a whole lot better with women. At that point, women love you and compliment you and check you out and finger themselves staring at you, and your past problems are forgotten and you can just enjoy the rewards you worked so hard to get then.
What else… oh yeah, I love being Indian; in a mostly Hispanic town, (once your fundamentals are good) it means I’m exotic and foreign and sexy because of that…
Become active on the boards, really try to better yourself and stop at nothing, no matter what keep going!
That would be my advice to you… also most importantly, adopt the fixer mindset and kick the victim mindset… stop hanging out with the victim/complainer other Indians and guys like that (yeah worth mentioning stereotypical Indian guys like that are lame as shit, because they don’t work to better themselves… so I don’t hang out with them, and hang out with and associate with only guys that are intensely fixer and improvement oriented too and intent on bettering themselves and not incessantly complaining and going home and jacking off after).
Work to make progress… I’m an Indian guy and I’m telling you it’s possible, it’s doable and achievable and once you get to that point, race only becomes a silly, trivial conversational plus.
-Gem