I've seen this re-occurring theme happening on the boards. It's understandable, but it's harmful, so here are some thoughts:
It's one thing to be frustrated about not getting results fast enough, and it's another to say you've "made it" and now the world owes you compensation. One leads you to work on yourself very,
very efficiently and fast, and the other gives you extremely small increments of growth spread between lengthy periods of victim mentality.
If you deliberately improve three weaknesses every time you go out, and you go out ~3 times a week, you'll see steady improvement (provided you legitimately push yourself out of your comfort zone). You'll see progress like no other; the farther you push yourself, the faster you see results.
An aside, an anecdotal allegory of what I saw when I first read this post: An enthusiastic, but skinny and lanky, man buys himself a new gym membership. Our man attends to the gym two or three times a week, and he's seen some steady improvement. Awesome! A month or two in, he glimpses the burly men beside him lifting 250 lb. on a bench press. This new lad wants the body just like these men do, too! So he goes straight from 100 lb. to 250 lb., and he struggles to even lift the bar; let alone squeeze 10 more reps. Angry and cynical about his current strength, he drives straight home. "I've been going to the gym
every week!", he thinks. "Most of the time two or
three times a week!! Why can't I just have strength like those burly men NOW?!!"
Well, our answer is that he
is improving. Probably well, too. But there's no denying that our young man in the story has more things to learn about nutrition, form, and fitness in general to keep improving. He simply needs to put in his time.
And speaking of time...have y'all seen
Determined's journal? That dude started his journal in
March! He just got his first lay three weeks ago, and now has a steady stream of LR-'s coming in. Or take Marty, he'll claim that he has a slow learning rate, but he's improving fast; now getting dates more and more often (he started in June). Or even me; I also started back in March and it took me 6 months to get a date off cold approach! Dude, 6 months of rejection, 0% text-to-date conversion. But I finally broke the barrier after 6 months and I've had 15+ physical escalations since then.
Everybody has a different time for their learning curve. The lower you started with fundamentals, the longer time until your 'good'. Zphix/Tool took 3 months, and Determined and I are still catching up, even after 9+ months. I know if I didn't have victim mentality for part of that time, I'd be a solid 3-4 months ahead in terms of progress.
Don't let victim mentality slow you down. Learning seduction is a long, dark tunnel, but you just got to bolt into it, and eventually you'll see the light on the other side. And it's not done through ranting on a forum, or complaining to yourself. The fastest route is to learn, implement, and relearn as much as humanly possible. And luckily, your surrounded by men who've rode this path before. And they spend time here specifically to help you learn and provide value.
You could be using your time
right now to improve one of your weaknesses.
~Nick