Hi, so there is really cute girl working at the counter in a coffee shop next to where I work. I use to go there to grab coffee. At first we didn't talk much, there were several situations when I could have talked to her but didn't and there was just silence while she was attending me. This lasted for about 2 months.
A few days ago I walked in the store with a trolley (I was going on leave) and she asked where I was going, so we spoke fora bit and I left. Today I walked in and she asked how my weekend away was, we spoke for a few secs and I asked told her we should have a coffee and asked when she was free. She told she was busy after work all the time, etc so I get this a rejection.
So my take:
-I should have started to build up interaction with her earlier, I had the chance but didn't take it, probably I was perceived as non powerful by her for not moving. On the other hand it's hard to talk to someone with clients waiting in queue, etc, still should have moved earlier.
-I just asked her out right there.. With clients and her boss next to her. Maybe too direct? Should I have asked if she wanted to meet for a few minutes during her break to talk a bit, or something like that? Again, if she were into me, I guess she would have no problems to schedule with me (or would she?) Also I went from almost no interaction to asking her out very fast, so probably too sudden.
Finally, is it worth asking her for a brief meet during her break, sort of insisting, or it's a dead case?
Feedback welcome!
A few days ago I walked in the store with a trolley (I was going on leave) and she asked where I was going, so we spoke fora bit and I left. Today I walked in and she asked how my weekend away was, we spoke for a few secs and I asked told her we should have a coffee and asked when she was free. She told she was busy after work all the time, etc so I get this a rejection.
So my take:
-I should have started to build up interaction with her earlier, I had the chance but didn't take it, probably I was perceived as non powerful by her for not moving. On the other hand it's hard to talk to someone with clients waiting in queue, etc, still should have moved earlier.
-I just asked her out right there.. With clients and her boss next to her. Maybe too direct? Should I have asked if she wanted to meet for a few minutes during her break to talk a bit, or something like that? Again, if she were into me, I guess she would have no problems to schedule with me (or would she?) Also I went from almost no interaction to asking her out very fast, so probably too sudden.
Finally, is it worth asking her for a brief meet during her break, sort of insisting, or it's a dead case?
Feedback welcome!