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I've not been very active regarding approaches lately, but like I told y'all about before there's a married woman at my martial arts training who is into me.
Last week on Monday we sparred again, and there was quite a bit of touch, and a few opportunities to slightly lead her. I managed to catch up to her when she was going home (she's usually gone in a jiffy and I never have time to talk). She asked me for my age, and I asked for hers. We're the same age. She asked me if I had plans for vacation. I said no and asked her for hers. She said she was going, so I asked "alone?" and she said "no, with my husband". She then asked me flat out if I "had a family", and I simply replied that I had a sister and mother, but she then said "no but kids or a wife", and I said I "was relaxed, alone".
She then responded with a knowing look, like things made sense to her now (who knows, she might think I'm a total player). She touched me on the chest with her hand, which I held for a short moment, then we parted ways.
On the second training of the week, she was paired up with another woman. Then after training, she talked to me a bit and said something that seemed like she was sorry for not having paired up with me for sparring. She then suggested sparring together next Monday. I didn't really follow and I just looked at her. She then said "you're here on Monday, aren't you?", so I said "okay, it's a deal".
So I've been hanging back and being relaxed and mostly relying on her / allowing her to feel the sexual tension, which seems to work wonders. My question is really, what would be a good way to ask her out? I think if I just point blank asked her to have a drink with me later, she might say no as an ASD, since she is married. So if I can come up with a good alternative to get her to my house with plausible deniability for her, that might be a good way to allow her to slip into my bed, because I'm starting to become more convinced she wants that, even though I still have some inner game issues. Fucking her would be a good way to dispell those inner beliefs.
Or am I totally overthinking this? I'm so damned frustrated
Last week on Monday we sparred again, and there was quite a bit of touch, and a few opportunities to slightly lead her. I managed to catch up to her when she was going home (she's usually gone in a jiffy and I never have time to talk). She asked me for my age, and I asked for hers. We're the same age. She asked me if I had plans for vacation. I said no and asked her for hers. She said she was going, so I asked "alone?" and she said "no, with my husband". She then asked me flat out if I "had a family", and I simply replied that I had a sister and mother, but she then said "no but kids or a wife", and I said I "was relaxed, alone".
She then responded with a knowing look, like things made sense to her now (who knows, she might think I'm a total player). She touched me on the chest with her hand, which I held for a short moment, then we parted ways.
On the second training of the week, she was paired up with another woman. Then after training, she talked to me a bit and said something that seemed like she was sorry for not having paired up with me for sparring. She then suggested sparring together next Monday. I didn't really follow and I just looked at her. She then said "you're here on Monday, aren't you?", so I said "okay, it's a deal".
So I've been hanging back and being relaxed and mostly relying on her / allowing her to feel the sexual tension, which seems to work wonders. My question is really, what would be a good way to ask her out? I think if I just point blank asked her to have a drink with me later, she might say no as an ASD, since she is married. So if I can come up with a good alternative to get her to my house with plausible deniability for her, that might be a good way to allow her to slip into my bed, because I'm starting to become more convinced she wants that, even though I still have some inner game issues. Fucking her would be a good way to dispell those inner beliefs.
Or am I totally overthinking this? I'm so damned frustrated