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I’m having real trouble with approach anxiety. I don’t have social anxiety and I don’t have trouble approaching guys or people who I have met before (warm approach). But I am really having trouble getting past my sticking point with women.
What seems to be happening is that I am thinking “go approach” or “hold your hand out and say something to get her to stop” or “walk up to her” but then I freeze up and just keep going as I was. So I might see a woman out and about and I am thinking that I will approach her. I’m ready to approach but then my mind goes blank and I keep walking along my way, past her. As I’m walking, I’m thinking “turn around and go back” but my feet just keep going. One example is that once I was getting ready to stop a woman on the street. Everything was ready and I knew exactly what I would do. But then, out of nowhere, I turned and walked away. Another time, I was walking toward a woman who gave me an approach invitation. I missed the chance to stop her so turned around to go towards her. But then my feet seemed frozen to the ground and I couldn’t move. Then I seemed to turn round and unconsciously walk away.
Why does this keep happening and how can I handle it? It seems like I’m being physically inhibited from walking up to the woman or opening my mouth. Now I know with almost complete certainty that some of these women would be happy to talk to me. Well, most women enjoy approaches even if they reject and people like talking to me on average. After bottling the approach, I really feel terrible. I’ve read all the GC articles and associated videos on how exactly to carry out the approach but I just can’t seem to do it. Has anybody on here had trouble like this? Will I need medication? Thanks.
What seems to be happening is that I am thinking “go approach” or “hold your hand out and say something to get her to stop” or “walk up to her” but then I freeze up and just keep going as I was. So I might see a woman out and about and I am thinking that I will approach her. I’m ready to approach but then my mind goes blank and I keep walking along my way, past her. As I’m walking, I’m thinking “turn around and go back” but my feet just keep going. One example is that once I was getting ready to stop a woman on the street. Everything was ready and I knew exactly what I would do. But then, out of nowhere, I turned and walked away. Another time, I was walking toward a woman who gave me an approach invitation. I missed the chance to stop her so turned around to go towards her. But then my feet seemed frozen to the ground and I couldn’t move. Then I seemed to turn round and unconsciously walk away.
Why does this keep happening and how can I handle it? It seems like I’m being physically inhibited from walking up to the woman or opening my mouth. Now I know with almost complete certainty that some of these women would be happy to talk to me. Well, most women enjoy approaches even if they reject and people like talking to me on average. After bottling the approach, I really feel terrible. I’ve read all the GC articles and associated videos on how exactly to carry out the approach but I just can’t seem to do it. Has anybody on here had trouble like this? Will I need medication? Thanks.