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I had an opportunity to lose my virginity last night. Everything was going as planned but then Jr. Elder just did not want to cooperate. I think I know the problem, but I still would appreciate if anyone has any tips.
Jr. Elder has two problems. 1. He is super sensitive before 'releasing the first load,' and 2. In sexual situations (like last night, with a naked girl on the bed...), he struggles to get up.
(1) has been a problem for a while. Maybe it's not even a problem. It just seems odd. Basically, ANY stimulation from a girl, and he just pops immediately, even without getting hard at all. Examples: Spooning with a girl, clothed, not hard at all. Just laying there cuddling. Then she starts rubbing her butt against him. Boom. instantly pops. Or 1-2 years ago when a girl grinded on me on a dance floor for a first time. My brain: This is cool. Jr: Popped instantly.
This has been going on for years. I thought it was something that would go away as I got more experience being sexual with women. It just hasn't gotten any better so far. I feel like it's not the sexual situation that excites him per se, but more so the physical contact. I don't know. I'm not too worried about it because he acts much more normal afterward going into 'Round 2' as you'd expect.
(2) This is definitely Mental ED. I can feel it. By myself, in my own bed, completely relaxed.. no problems at all. But the slightest amount of anxiety or excitement? He really struggles.
I guess my main concern is how do I overcome this if my goal is to sleep with girls fast after meeting them? It seems like I (Elder, not referring to Jr. Elder here) just can't avoid the tiniest bit of anxiety, and that amount is all it takes to stay soft. So it seems to me that the only way to reach that 100% comfort level where JR. can just work and have a good time is by meeting a girl who will stay around long enough for me to get used to her and ultimately get comfortable. Which may be a while since EVERYTHING about this and each step of the process is new to me and thus exciting. Jr. struggles to get up when ANY contact with a woman is involved, whether that's making out in the car, grabbing her ass, or kissing/cuddling in bed.
I read the GC articles on the subject (ED/sexual anxiety) and I employed most of those tips last night. Didn't make a difference. So I guess I'm just curious if anyone has any practical tips, particularly for Problem (2). I just can't seem to shake anxiety or excitement with this process, even if it's with steps I've already covered before. For example, even after about 50 dates, I still have the tiniest amount of anxiety/nervousness during them nowadays. I mean tiny. So I definitely have a little more anxiety when isolated and escalating with girls.
Anyway, I'd appreciate any tips. Thanks guys!
Jr. Elder has two problems. 1. He is super sensitive before 'releasing the first load,' and 2. In sexual situations (like last night, with a naked girl on the bed...), he struggles to get up.
(1) has been a problem for a while. Maybe it's not even a problem. It just seems odd. Basically, ANY stimulation from a girl, and he just pops immediately, even without getting hard at all. Examples: Spooning with a girl, clothed, not hard at all. Just laying there cuddling. Then she starts rubbing her butt against him. Boom. instantly pops. Or 1-2 years ago when a girl grinded on me on a dance floor for a first time. My brain: This is cool. Jr: Popped instantly.
This has been going on for years. I thought it was something that would go away as I got more experience being sexual with women. It just hasn't gotten any better so far. I feel like it's not the sexual situation that excites him per se, but more so the physical contact. I don't know. I'm not too worried about it because he acts much more normal afterward going into 'Round 2' as you'd expect.
(2) This is definitely Mental ED. I can feel it. By myself, in my own bed, completely relaxed.. no problems at all. But the slightest amount of anxiety or excitement? He really struggles.
I guess my main concern is how do I overcome this if my goal is to sleep with girls fast after meeting them? It seems like I (Elder, not referring to Jr. Elder here) just can't avoid the tiniest bit of anxiety, and that amount is all it takes to stay soft. So it seems to me that the only way to reach that 100% comfort level where JR. can just work and have a good time is by meeting a girl who will stay around long enough for me to get used to her and ultimately get comfortable. Which may be a while since EVERYTHING about this and each step of the process is new to me and thus exciting. Jr. struggles to get up when ANY contact with a woman is involved, whether that's making out in the car, grabbing her ass, or kissing/cuddling in bed.
I read the GC articles on the subject (ED/sexual anxiety) and I employed most of those tips last night. Didn't make a difference. So I guess I'm just curious if anyone has any practical tips, particularly for Problem (2). I just can't seem to shake anxiety or excitement with this process, even if it's with steps I've already covered before. For example, even after about 50 dates, I still have the tiniest amount of anxiety/nervousness during them nowadays. I mean tiny. So I definitely have a little more anxiety when isolated and escalating with girls.
Anyway, I'd appreciate any tips. Thanks guys!