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- May 13, 2019
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Somewhere in Central London I opened a girl. The impression I got was, she was not interested. I still wanted to instant date her to a coffee anyway, for practice and more FRs. I feel, I still have some confidence issue and the only way round it, is to chat to more girls until I build more reference experience.
This girl is very standoffish, I could tell she wasn't interested in talking to strangers. It's just my gut feeling
direct
F: you look like your from China
HB: yeah
F: your from Shanghi?
HB: yeah
NOTE: tonality is going up because of her one worded answers and I was feeling nervous. I felt she wan't interested and that kind of effected my state. I tried the eye contact with her but she still had some cold energy about her.
F: my name is F by the way, whats your name
HB: Rita
F: Rita isn't a Chinese name, it sounds very English
HB: yeah but my English name is hard to spell.
F: oh, all right, so was it given to you by your mum or did you choose it yourself.
HB: no by my parents
F: sure sure sure I like you ice cream, it looks nice. Just kidding
NOTE good observation. Her ice cream was melting. Also let her finish her sentences before you start chatting again.
F: so what are you up to today, just shopping or are you?
No answer
F: you look like a student, are you a student or something?
HB: yeah
F: you look like you study fashion or something, I have no idea
NOTE: hoping something would hook. Was kind of ready to give up
HB: no
F; what do you study?
HB: linguistics
F: whats that?
HB: Kind of like language.
NOTE: I have no idea what it was lol but now I do. She want's to teach language.
HB: I teach foreigners Chinese
F: oh really
F: can you teach me Chinese
HB: ummm
F: how to say, pretty girl
HB teaches me
F: Rita, shi pearl len lui hi
HB: yeah yeah
F: I like the way you agreed
HB: you already learnt some Chinese
F: yes actually, I use to work in a restaurant, so I started practising Chinese with the workers and eventually learnt a little bit, but not much
F: I also have a friend in China as well, he lives in Shanghi, I went there and I ordered food, try to fit in basically.
F: why Uk, why you decide to study language in UK
HB: its for my masters degree
F: so whats it you want to do
HB: an English teacher, in an international school in Shanghi
NOTE: I think I was in a very nervous state because I felt I wasn't doing well. I was also in my head. Listening to my recording, I felt like I did ok. Not the best but okay. Not worst than I thought it was. because of my state, it took a few minutes for her to explain to me what she was doing.
After she explained it all
F: why are you so pretty
hb
F: haha are you the only one in the family?
HB: yeah
F: so your the lucky one, you mum gives you everything, whatever you want
NOTE: your so lucky, your parents spoil you and give you whatever they want. I'm so jealous
HB: how about you, any siblings
F: I have an older sister and 2 older brothers, so I'm the youngest one.
HB: you have a lot of family members
F: you more lucky, you don't have to fight over the toys and able to do whatever you like
NOTE: sounds bitter and not helping you move the interaction forward. "Yes, i'm the youngest so I get spoilt the most.
HB: yeah but my mum will feel lonely when I'm gone for a long time.
minutes 4.15
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Somewhere in Central London I opened a girl. The impression I got was, she was not interested. I still wanted to instant date her to a coffee anyway, for practice and more FRs. I feel, I still have some confidence issue and the only way round it, is to chat to more girls until I build more reference experience.
This girl is very standoffish, I could tell she wasn't interested in talking to strangers. It's just my gut feeling
direct
F: you look like your from China
HB: yeah
F: your from Shanghi?
HB: yeah
NOTE: tonality is going up because of her one worded answers and I was feeling nervous. I felt she wan't interested and that kind of effected my state. I tried the eye contact with her but she still had some cold energy about her.
F: my name is F by the way, whats your name
HB: Rita
F: Rita isn't a Chinese name, it sounds very English
HB: yeah but my English name is hard to spell.
F: oh, all right, so was it given to you by your mum or did you choose it yourself.
HB: no by my parents
F: sure sure sure I like you ice cream, it looks nice. Just kidding
NOTE good observation. Her ice cream was melting. Also let her finish her sentences before you start chatting again.
F: so what are you up to today, just shopping or are you?
No answer
F: you look like a student, are you a student or something?
HB: yeah
F: you look like you study fashion or something, I have no idea
NOTE: hoping something would hook. Was kind of ready to give up
HB: no
F; what do you study?
HB: linguistics
F: whats that?
HB: Kind of like language.
NOTE: I have no idea what it was lol but now I do. She want's to teach language.
HB: I teach foreigners Chinese
F: oh really
F: can you teach me Chinese
HB: ummm
F: how to say, pretty girl
HB teaches me
F: Rita, shi pearl len lui hi
HB: yeah yeah
F: I like the way you agreed
HB: you already learnt some Chinese
F: yes actually, I use to work in a restaurant, so I started practising Chinese with the workers and eventually learnt a little bit, but not much
F: I also have a friend in China as well, he lives in Shanghi, I went there and I ordered food, try to fit in basically.
F: why Uk, why you decide to study language in UK
HB: its for my masters degree
F: so whats it you want to do
HB: an English teacher, in an international school in Shanghi
NOTE: I think I was in a very nervous state because I felt I wasn't doing well. I was also in my head. Listening to my recording, I felt like I did ok. Not the best but okay. Not worst than I thought it was. because of my state, it took a few minutes for her to explain to me what she was doing.
After she explained it all
F: why are you so pretty
hb
F: haha are you the only one in the family?
HB: yeah
F: so your the lucky one, you mum gives you everything, whatever you want
NOTE: your so lucky, your parents spoil you and give you whatever they want. I'm so jealous
HB: how about you, any siblings
F: I have an older sister and 2 older brothers, so I'm the youngest one.
HB: you have a lot of family members
F: you more lucky, you don't have to fight over the toys and able to do whatever you like
NOTE: sounds bitter and not helping you move the interaction forward. "Yes, i'm the youngest so I get spoilt the most.
HB: yeah but my mum will feel lonely when I'm gone for a long time.
minutes 4.15
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