Ken's Journal II



Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Mon Oct 01, 2018 12:09 pm

Hey everyone. It's been a long time since I had a journal. The last time I had one, I only had one post in it. But this time, I plan on doing more than one post for this journal.

I will admit that I haven't been doing that much cold approach lately. I kinda stopped in late 2017, because I lost all motivation to do so. I kept getting the same results: sometimes I would get her number but never get her on a date, sometimes she would say that she has a boyfriend, and other times the interaction would not go past the first sentence. I got discouraged and I stopped talking to new girls.

Earlier this year, I got a bad case of oneitis. I "fell in love" with some girl that I had become friends with late last year. I asked her out. she said yes. But when I tried to get her phone number, she said that she was getting a new number and asked me to message her on Instagram instead. I did, and I freaked out about it because I thought that she blocked me. But she didn't and she never respond to my DM. My emotions sunk, and along with other things that happened in my real life, it affected my grades. I got two C's and an F last semester. Then, this semester, she gets back with her ex: a guy that I know and that I am friends with. It sucked. This happened because I stopped cold approaching. We are still friends though.

When I joined Girls Chase, I thought that it would help me get the results with girls that I have always desired. Instead, nothing has changed, I feel like I am in the same place I was in 2015, and I wasted four years of college. Every time I post on Girls Chase, it feels like I have accomplished nothing next to other members who have joined the forums after I did. Earlier this year, someone in one of the threads I started recommend to me the "How to Avoid Being a Nice Guy" article by Halvor. One of the pieces of advice in that article was to get Cognitive Behavior Therapy to deal with any sort of negative behavior. I started looking for that a few months ago. I saw a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist during the summer, but I couldn't see her again because she did not accept my health care provider. I still plan on seeing one, to deal with the negative behaviors that affect my life.

So, I am not approaching any girls right now. How do I avoid going into full blown depression? Because it feels like that's the way my life is going right now. I have never diagnosed with it, but my mother has been.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby lostnumber » Sat Oct 06, 2018 7:12 pm

Have you tried online dating at all? I have mad respect for anyone that truly masters cold approach and is walking up to random women and getting laid, but that always seemed way too intimidating to me. I lucked out and got a few girls through social circle before I discovered tinder and online dating. I've gotten good enough at online game that I've never felt the need to tackle cold approaching.

I'd never tell someone not to do it if they really wanted to, but since it sounds like you're not having a lot of success it might be worth trying a different tactic. Getting rejected over and over again sucks, but its a lot easier online than face to face.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Fri Oct 12, 2018 4:31 pm

lostnumber wrote:Have you tried online dating at all? I have mad respect for anyone that truly masters cold approach and is walking up to random women and getting laid, but that always seemed way too intimidating to me. I lucked out and got a few girls through social circle before I discovered tinder and online dating. I've gotten good enough at online game that I've never felt the need to tackle cold approaching.

I'd never tell someone not to do it if they really wanted to, but since it sounds like you're not having a lot of success it might be worth trying a different tactic. Getting rejected over and over again sucks, but its a lot easier online than face to face.


No, I have not tried online dating. In fact, I don't plan on doing online dating until after I get good at cold approach. I mean, if I can't get laid in real life, then there is no chance of me getting laid online.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Fri Nov 02, 2018 12:03 am

Fundamentals: While I have improved my fundamentals during my first three years at this forum, I feel like I can do a lot more to improve them. Among the improvements that I have made in those three years: I grew my hair out for the first time in my life, I starting getting rid of ill-fitting clothes and replacing them with better fitting clothes, and I started working out more recently this year. As for some of the things I can do to improve my fundamentals even more: I am a skinny boy, so I could work out more to improve my body and get a more masculine build, look at Darius' articles on fashion and get outfits he suggests in them, work on making my voice more louder. I will be getting a haircut on the 2nd, so I could find a hairstyle that I like from one of Blumaan's videos on Youtube and find out how to style it like that.

I have to go to sleep soon, so I will be listing more ways I can improve my fundamentals tomorrow.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Tue Jan 22, 2019 11:10 pm

Sorry for the long time between posts. I've been putting this off for a long time. Anyway, I have not had the success with women that I am looking for since I joined the Girls Chase forums in 2015. The reason is simple: it is all my fault. I have not worked hard enough to get the success that I want with women or socializing. Plus, I have been letting fear get in the way of approaching women. I have been letting feat get in the way for too long. It is time for me to push it aside.

Recently, I have been spending more time off the forums and less time posting on here because I feel like I have not done as much as other people on this forum, including people who joined this forum after me. I have also been complaining about the same things way too much on here and I do not want to keep talking about them over and over again.

It is up to me to improve with women. No one else can do it for me, and no one else should. I need to get back to cold approaching women and keep doing so despite the failure. I start my next semester of college on Monday, the day of my 23rd birthday. So I will start cold approaching again on that date.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ambiance » Tue Jan 29, 2019 11:08 pm

What's up Ken-

Feeling like you you've not made enough progress in a given period of time is something I've struggled with too. I'd guess nearly everyone on this site goes through it to some degree. Only exceptions I can think of might be Franco and Richard, who from what I know relentlessly threw themselves into seduction and wracked up experience fast. And I might just not know enough about their stories.

You can't let it get you down though. If you're not cold approaching right now (and be honest with yourself), you need to be doing SOMETHING. Whatever it takes to get you some momentum.

I would try online dating. I went through the same hesitance you are going through, since I wasn't cold approaching as much as I should have, but ultimately made the plunge. The result? My texting game is wicked, I've improved my fundamentals quite a bit to compete, and have learned how to get a bunch of dates whenever I want. Probably half of these dates result in sex.

You had asked me about what to journal about? Figure out what you want from seduction, write it down, and track your progress as your mission evolves. For me that is Absolute Abundance, which means getting and keeping my choice women with minimal difficulty.

Finally, the main site has the answers to all your questions. If you dig enough, you WILL find purpose. Such purpose will vaporize any depression you feel.

Best of luck brother!
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Hue » Wed Jan 30, 2019 12:56 pm

Recently, I have been spending more time off the forums and less time posting on here because I feel like I have not done as much as other people on this forum, including people who joined this forum after me. I have also been complaining about the same things way too much on here and I do not want to keep talking about them over and over again.

It is up to me to improve with women. No one else can do it for me, and no one else should. I need to get back to cold approaching women and keep doing so despite the failure. I start my next semester of college on Monday, the day of my 23rd birthday. So I will start cold approaching again on that date.

Yo man, you got this.

Don't compare yourself to other people who succeed on the forums, learn from them. You can see so many dudes on here that started WAAAY behind others in terms of experience. Yet, they kept at it. They worked and worked until they found themselves with the fundamentals, the skills, and the insight they needed.

They earned all of those things by putting in the effort.

Compare yourself to yourself. Compete with yourself. Having present expectations to be at other people's level with women just doesn't make sense. You are where you are at, there is no getting around that. If you think you can do better and you feel within you the urge and desire to do better, then recognize it might be time to get serious about putting work in.

You're right, it's up to you. And once you start pushing yourself and exceeding your limits you'll recognize how powerful of a realization that is, and how boundless your energy, effort, and performance can feel.

Get after it, man.


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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Tue Feb 05, 2019 11:31 pm

So, for years I have been trying to approach one girl for four straight days while on campus. I decided that this week will be the week that I will achieve this girl. With the weather being nice outside and being more like spring than winter, this is the best time to day so. Two days down, two to go. Here is the first day: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=19960

The second day will be added tomorrow. I need to get some sleep.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Wed Feb 06, 2019 9:05 pm

So yesterday, I cold approached a girl on campus later on in the day than I did on Monday. She had pale skin and dark hair. I told her that she was cute, and before I could ask her what her name is, she told me that she had a boyfriend. Then I told her that I had one too, shout outs to Marcellus for suggesting that to me. Her reply was, "nice to know". I laughed as I walked away.

Sadly, I did not cold approach today. I will complete my goal of cold approach one girl for four straight days while on campus this semester. I will try again when the weather gets warmer.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Marcellus » Fri Feb 08, 2019 5:36 am

My Man! Laughed for like 10 minutes at you using my line hahahahahahah!!!!!!! It's literally the funniest thing ever, whether it works or not haha
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Thu Mar 14, 2019 10:38 pm

It;s been a while since I've updated this. I have been cold approaching a lot during the past few days, more than I have in the past two years. I will be adding those here over the next few days.

On February 1, I responded to Hector's selfie, and we had a little chat on his post. In that chat, I told him about people here recommending me to do online dating and he said that online dating is for guys who are already getting results or else it will be a crutch. Then he told me to go approach. So I did. I made two approaches between February 1 and February 8.

On February 8, I DM'd Hector and asked him how do I go about improving my inner game.

His response was that I don't even approach. He says that how am I gonna improve my inner game, then tells me that I have no basis to fix my mind because I lack concrete evidence to give a mindset any strength.

I then asked him how many times a work must I approach in order to have enough evidence and told him about the two girls that I approached recently. He said a lot more than that, then added that because I'm on the Autism Spectrum I won't be able to intuitively learn things. Then, he states that I will need lots of concrete evidence and tells me to go do 500 approaches, then we'll talk about inner game. Hector told me that he has talked too thousands upon thousands upon thousands of women.

In my head, I'm thinking that I can never do 500 approaches. Doing one approach a day for four straight days is enough of a challenge for me. I then asked him, "500 approaches in one week?" No, he sent to me, you can be patient. 500 in six months. Then came back. He told me to write notes on every detail (which I have) and try to find patterns.

I asked him if they all had to be with women I didn't know prior to approaching and he said yes. I am thinking that 500 approaches in six months is the most difficult thing I've ever had to do in my life. In fact, getting girls is the most difficult thing that I ever had to do in my life. But at the same time, if my prior way of approaching worked, I would not be asking Hector for advice, would I? So I decided to do it, despite thinking that this is an impossible task and that at most, I will end up with 100 or less approaches in six months.

It took me a while to start, but I did, and it started to gradually get a bit easier. So far, I have done eight of the 500 approaches that Hector asked me to do. The first one will be posted tomorrow.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Sun Mar 24, 2019 9:57 pm

Sorry for the delay, again. It's just that I've been putting this off for weeks. Writing this approach on here is just so much work and I feel that way about a lot of things in my life right now. Me personally, I'd rather do the easy things first and the hard things never. This time around, I'm doing the hard thing (writing this journal entry) first. I've meant to do this way earlier, but I kept getting distracted by bullshit. Anyway, from this point on I will be numbering my approaches, from 1 to 500. I got 9 approaches as of today. This is the advice that Hector gave me: to approach 500 girls in 6 months, all of them being girls who I did not know prior to approaching them. He said that this is how I get experience with girls.

#1

February 13

It took me a few days after I got that PM from Hector (the one where he told me to approach 500 girls in 6 months) to approach a girl. Even then, I had to convince myself that you miss all the shots that you don't take. That's one of the things that I still struggle with in terms of approaching. I keep putting it off until later (in terms of approaching on campus) and I have a hard time finding a girl to approach. Plus, I keep letting my approach anxiety get in the way of me approaching girls.

But anyway, I saw a girl on campus and walked up to her. Before I could preopen her, she looked up at me. I said hi, then she said what's up. I responded and told her she was attractive. We introduced ourselves and I asked her where she was going. She was going to class. I then asked her where her class was, but she was busy checking her texts or texting on her phone or something. She asked me what I said. I repeat my question, and she said her class was on the other side of campus. I asked her a few questions about herself, and she answered. Her major is political science, she choose it because she likes law, and she wanted to use her degree to get into law school. She also wanted to become a lawyer. I then tell her that it's a good thing that her degree means something, and she agrees.

She told me that she is about to call someone. And that was the last thing we said to each other. Our conversation didn't end, it just stopped. I thought I was walking next to her, but when I looked up, I saw that I was walking next to an old Asian woman, and the girl I approached was on the other side. As soon as I saw her, I went the other way.

She looked into my eyes occasionally, when she wasn't on her phone, and she didn't ask me any questions.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Wed Mar 27, 2019 10:43 am

#2

February 15

Out of the nine approaches I have done so far, this is the far one that I have not done on campus. I should do more approaches outside of campus. Anyway, I got out of CBT therapy and was heading to eat. On the train station where I got off, I saw a brunette white girl with a pretty face and nice, striking eyes. They were either green or hazel. I told her that she had nice, striking eyes, and she said thank you. I said you're welcome. and before I could say anything else, she took a call on her phone. Then, I left.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Sun Mar 31, 2019 10:34 pm

#3

February 27

Before, I was walking in the opposite direction as her. When I saw her walking towards me, I did an about-face and spun on my heel so I can talk to her. I looked at her while I preopened her. She was a short, skinny Indian girl. Then, after i touched the side of her shoulder, she looked up at me. I told her that she was attractive, and she said thank you. I introduce myself, and she said that her name was Kira. I was about to ask her where she was going, but she said she was going to the building that we were right next to, where her class was. I said bye, and she said bye, and we left.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Mon Apr 01, 2019 10:53 pm

#4

March 6

I saw her walking in the opposite direction of me, so I turned around and followed her. She's a white girl with a pretty face. There was ice on the ground, and it was snowing that day, so I walked through and around that, while she was doing the same ahead of me. After I finished walking the icy walkway, she was there and while she walked she looked towards my direction.

I touched her the back of her shoulder, and she looked at me. I direct opened her, and then we introduced ourselves. I said to her nice to meet you, then I asked her where she was going. She said she was going to math, and we made small talk about math. She is a Physical Therapy major. Then we get to her building, and I told that I want to see her again. I try to get her number, but she says that I'm a nice guy but she has a boyfriend.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Wed Apr 03, 2019 10:33 pm

#5

March 7

There's this girl in the Library. Black hair, brown eyes, pink lips, beautiful face. She was wearing a black long sleeve sweater. She looked Middle Eastern.

It took me a while to go talk to her. I sat across from her in the same table and stare at her for a few minutes while wondering what to say. I went upstairs for a bit to look for other girls to approach. Then I came back downstairs, and she was talking to a friend. And then the friend left. After a few minutes, I decided to talk to her.

I said hello from across the table. She removed her airpod and asked if I'd said something. I repeated myself.

Then, we made small talk about what she is doing on her laptop as well as her major. Her major is sociology.

She tells me that she has to get back to working on her anthropology project. So I leave.

A few days later, I asked her for her name. Her name is Lillian, and I have talked to her several times after approaching her. She is slowly becoming a friend of mine.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Thu Apr 04, 2019 10:42 pm

#6

March 11

I was walking toward the fountain when I saw a girl in black sitting on the hard seats around the fountain.

I went to the are between where she was sitting, to get a closer look at her face to see if she was attractive or if she was someone I knew. She was attractive, and I didn't know her, so I approached.

I walked up to her, preopened her, and she looked up at my eyes. I direct approached her and we introduced ourselves.

She said that we had class together, and I told her that we had two. While we spoke once, in the second class, we didn't know each other, so this counts as one of the 500 approaches. I asked her about herself. My friend Devon walked in during the approach, said hi to her, and dapped me up. We both know him.

A few minutes later, she gets up and tells me that she has class. I tell her that I want to see her again, but she said she has a boyfriend and that she's a nice person.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Fri Apr 05, 2019 9:35 pm

#7

March 12

I saw her sitting in the table on the second floor of a building on campus. I went to the bathroom, and decided to approach after seeing that she was still there.

At first, I hesitated. Then, I approached.

I preopened her, and she looked up. I opened direct, and we introduced ourselves.

I asked her things. What's your major, why did she choose that major, etc.

She spent most of the conversation on her phone, and I could get the sense that she was not interested.

I left.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Sat Apr 06, 2019 4:12 pm

#8

March 14

I had an appointment in a few minutes, and while walking there I saw a thick Spanish girl walk by. She had a pretty face, and I had wanted to approach her earlier in the library, but I didn't.

I preopened her, then I direct opened her. We introduced ourselves. Her name was Emily. We talked about what we were doing at the time as we went inside the science building. She needed to get something from there.

We walked and she was looking for the stairs. She couldn't' find any. She asked me questions. At last, she found an elevator. I told her that I enjoyed speaking to her and I wanted to see her again. She said no. I asked if it's because she has a boyfriend. as she was in the elevator. She said yes. I wished her a good day as the elevator closed and I left.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Mon Apr 08, 2019 10:10 pm

#9

March 18

She was talking to friends in the Library early on. Then, I noticed her by herself in the same table. I was going to approach a different blonde, but she wasn't there at the moment. So I decided to approach her.

I went over to where she was. She turned and looked at me before I could preopen her. I direct opened her as I sat down. We introduced ourselves. Her name was Sabrina. We shook hands.

I asked her what she was doing here, sand she told me that she had class soon. Then I asked her where her class was specifically, and he said on campus, with a laugh. I could tell that she was not interested. While she looked at her laptop, I left.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Wed Apr 10, 2019 9:50 pm

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March 27

I saw a thick, Middle Eastern girl when I got out of my class. At first, she was far away, so I walked toward her to see what she looked like. She walked forward, so once I saw what she looked like, I turned around and walked in the same direction that she went in.

I debated about whether or not to approach her. At first, I didn't think that she was attractive enough to approach. Then I looked at her thick ass. Then, I looked at her face again and saw that she looked like a bunch of girls I approached in the past. So I approached.

Before I could preopen or direct open her, she looked up at me and asked me if I was gonna ask her something. I then used a direct opener on her. We introduced ourselves, then we talked. She works as an RA on campus, and I stated that I know someone who works as an RA on campus too. She assumed the RA I knew was a he. Then she said that she was going to meet her boyfriend in the campus cafeteria, the same place that I was headed to, and I knew that I had no chance with her. So I didn't bother asking her out.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Mon Apr 15, 2019 10:44 pm

#11

April 8

I saw her walk towards where I was waiting for the bus. She was a white girl with long, blonde hair. And an ass that popped out of her black jeans. She was wearing a black leather jacket with a green shirt underneath. I preopened her, then we introduced ourselves. She said she was going home, then asked if this was where the bus stopped. I said yes. Then, the bus showed up a few seconds later. Our conversation didn't end, it just stopped.

And this is last approach I have made so far. My approach anxiety keeps getting in the way.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Wed May 01, 2019 10:54 am

#12

April 30

I saw a blonde girl walking on the right side of the Center of the Arts. She was wearing blue skinny jeans and a navy blue sweater. I saw her from behind so I wan't sure if I wanted to approach her. So I moved so I can see her face, and also to make sure that she's not someone that I know. Then I moved up and saw her face. She's attractive and she's someone that I do not know.

Before I could preopen her, she turned to look at me and was creeped out. I direct opened her.

I asked her a lot of logical/interviewer questions, but I also deep dived her and asked her about what she wanted out of life. She was visiting the campus that day, and she will start going here in the fall. I asked her things such as what she wants to study here, why did she want to study that, what do you want out of life outside of studying here, etc. I should have put her in emotional mode instead of logical mode.

She was about to give me her number, but then she told me that she didn't pay her phone bill, so she didn't give it to me. Instead, she scanned my Snapchat account and said she will add me on Snap once she connects to the school wifi. But the school wifi sucks.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Wed May 01, 2019 10:36 pm

#13

May 1

I got out of class. And as I was walking around campus, I saw a brunette girl with a pretty face walking in front of the library, so I decided to approach her. She had wide hips. I preopened her, then I direct opened her. Her name was AJ. She looked better from a distance.

I asked her where she was heading. Then, I asked her what her major was. She said it was Cinema Studies. I asked her why she chose that major. She said she likes writing and storytelling. I said, "same.". She asked if I was also a Cinema Studies major. I told her I was an English major for the same reasons.

Later, I asked her out in an awkward fashion. I was stumbling over my words and I was stopping mid sentence. She told me that she has a boyfriend, and that he was the jealous type. I told her to have an good day and I left.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Thu May 02, 2019 10:18 pm

#14

May 2

I saw this one girl drawing in her notebook as she sat on the hard seat around the fountain. At first, I couldn't see her face because it was down, focused on her drawing. Then, a few seconds later, she looked up, and I saw that she had a cute, young looking face. Also, I didn't know her. We made eye contact for a few seconds, before I looked away. I walked behind the hard seats where she couldn't see me for a few seconds, then I decided to approach.

I walked over towards her. I didn't want to creep her out, so I didn't preopen her. She looked up. I direct opened her. The way she said "thanks", she must have thought that I was a creep.

Her name is Rose. Rose did not ask me any questions. She was a creative type, and I tried to use that to establish common ground, but she didn't bite. Then she called someone. She was not interested.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Mon May 06, 2019 9:26 pm

#15

May 6

It took me an hour of walking up and down campus before I approached a girl. Before then, I was dismissing girls as not being "pretty enough" to approach, and one pretty girl was too busy talking to someone on her phone.

The girl I approached wasn't as pretty as other girls I approached, but she was cute enough. I hesitated, then I approached.

I preopened and direct opened her. Her name is Marissa. We were at the bus stop, and I asked if she was going home. She said yes. Then the bus came. Our conversation stopped a few seconds before then.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Tue May 07, 2019 7:03 pm

#16

May 7

After I got out of class, I saw a Hispanic girl walk by me. She had a nice ass. I didn't approach at first, but then I turned around and decided to approach her.

She turned around briefly, then I preopened her. She took off her earbuds, then said hello. A few seconds later, I direct opened her. Her name is Ashley.

I asked her where she was going. She said she was going to a nearby building where her next class was going to be. Several seconds pass and I am thinking of things to say. At last, she tells me that she'll see me around campus. Dammit.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Wed May 08, 2019 10:32 pm

#17

May 8

After nearly 3 hours of walking around campus, I walk behind a girl, far up ahead than me, until she reaches the shuttle bus stop. I saw her talking to her friend earlier before that and she had big titties and a big ass. I go in. I preopen her and direct open her. I ask her bunch of boring interviewer questions. She didn't ask me anything and made no attempt to keep our conversation going. Then I left.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Thu May 09, 2019 11:59 pm

#18

May 9

After a long day, I spot a girl leaving the bus. She had a nice ass. I had to approach her.

After walking behind her for a while, I preopen her. She has bright blue eyes. Then, I direct opened her.

After I direct opened her, she asks me if we had a class together. I tell her that I don't remember, and then I introduce myself.

I ask her if she's got class. She tells me that she is meeting her friends first, then she's going to class. She asks if I had a class, and I tell her that I don't and I am done for the day.

After a brief silence, I ask her what her major is. She said mechanical engineering, then she asked me what my major is. I said English.

We talk about her major and this is the first time that I heard about this college having that major.

We got in front of the library and she tells me that's where her friends are. I stammer as I ask her out, and she tells me that unfortunately, she has a boyfriend. I hug her and leave.

Today, I finally achieved a goal that I've trying to accomplish for the past 2-3 years: I approached a girl on campus everyday for a week. During most of my semesters in college, I have had a four-day schedule: Mondays-Thursdays. There have been exceptions to that, but for the most part I try to have this schedule every semester. This semester, I have a Monday-Thursday schedule, which means that a week of class is four days. So in those four days, I approach one girl each day.

I have attempted to complete this goal several times in the past. But they all ended in failure. This one nearly ended in failure too, until I saw the girl approached several hours later. I almost accomplished this girl last week, but I didn't approach a girl on Monday despite my best efforts.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Mon May 13, 2019 10:33 pm

#19

May 13

I saw her walking in the rain. After walking after her through campus in the rain, including through an entire building, I finally caught up to her. I preopened her. She said "oh". Then I direct opened her. She walked away without responding to me.
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Re: Ken's Journal II

Postby Ken » Thu Jul 04, 2019 4:02 pm

Sorry for the long hiatus. I got lazy and I've been putting this off for far too long. These are the last approaches I have done as of today.

#20

May 14

I saw her earlier on my way to the campus cafeteria. Then at the campus cafeteria, I saw her again. This time I decided to approach her. As she left the cafeteria, I approached her. I preopened and direct opened her. Her name is Alex. I asked her stuff. She asked me questions back. She left before I could ask her out.

#21

May 14

I saw a girl walk by after my English class. I had to approach her. It took a while for me to catch up to her, but I did. I preopened and direct opened her. We made small talk. Then, she told me she was going to the parking lot and told me she'll see me around.

#22

May 16

I saw a white girl with a nice ass walk by while I walked to my English Final. She went inside, so I followed her. Once inside, I approached her. I preopened her and direct opened her. She told me her name is Samantha, and that she has a boyfriend.

#23

May 16

While walking to approach Samantha, I saw a girl with a fat ass in the building. But she was on the phone with someone. After I approached Samantha, I was waiting for her to get off the phone while I contemplated going to my final. She got off the phone, so I approached her. I preopened her. Then, I told her she was cute. She said thank you, then told me that she has a boyfriend. Literally has a boyfriend, she says as she shows me a pic of her and her boyfriend on her phone. Lol. I told her to have a good day and I left.

#24

May 22

I saw a girl with ombre hair sitting in the seats to the left of the Library entrance. I approached her quickly. Before I could preopen her, she looked up. I direct opened her. She said "thanks, but I have a boyfriend". I then told her to have a good day, and she said "you too" as I left.

#25

June 1

I was in the mall, and after I failed to approach an attractive girl, I saw a slightly less attractive girl. But she was still attractive. I wasn't going to let this one slip by. She was walking slowly, so I got over my anxiety and got to the left of her. I preopened her. She was looking over at my direction briefly, then looked at me after I preopened her. I looked straight forward until after I preopened her. I direct opened her. She said thanks and she has a boyfriend. I told her to have a good day.
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