Hey everyone , first post here . I’m new to this whole seduction game but have learnt a lot over the last couple of weeks.
A little bit of background on me, I’m 26 ,was always pretty shy but gained a lot of confidence Over the past few years . I just got out of a 4 year relationship last October when I started a new job.
Anyway now to the main story. When I first started the job I noticed that one of the receptionists was very attractive but I was still learning the ropes and so for the first few months didn’t really talk to her or pay much attention. Then after Christmas I we ended up doing some late shifts where it was just me her and one other person, we got to talking. People at work started taking notice I was spending a lot of my free moments at the reception desk, (I work with women and I’m the only man) they started asking me if I was interested in the receptionist (let’s call her Amy). I obviously was but I avoided answering these questions, unknown to me they were asking her as well , one of my colleagues who was the main person playing matchmaker came and told me that Amy found me really good looking but wasn’t sure if I liked her, at this point I seized the situation and got Amy’s number and told her I’d message her to set up a date
First date
We set up a date for the weekend on Saturday, we were texting a lot that week and talking at work when we got the chance. However during that week she managed to get quite ill , was coughing a lot, and looked overall pretty sick. So I said we could reschedule to next week. But she insisted she wanted to meet up. So Saturday comes she texts me she has a an awful headache , so I message back saying that does she want to reschedule , she sapologises and says that she really doesn’t want to let me down but she feels lousy . I said that it’s okay and we could meet up next week when she is feeling better. But again she insisted that she doesn’t want to wait a weeks so she’ll take the day and rest and meet up on Sunday .
So Sunday arrives I pick her up late afternoon and we go to a little hangout place near where she lives, we spend a few hours there playing some board games and chatting,then after that we head to a coffee place get some coffee and sit in my car for over an hour and continue talking and having a great time. Now this whole time I can tell she’s really quite ill, she’s doing her best to hide it but She’s coughing and sounds sick. So anyway the time comes to take her home. We get to her place and she says let me give you a hug and she goes inside. I was kind of disappointed not to get a chance to go in for the kiss, but considering she was sick I just chalked it up to that. Anyway I get home and message her saying “ I had a really good time” and that we should definitely do something again. She responded saying that she also had a great time and would definitely like to see me again.
Second date
So the following week she is off from work because she got even more sick, and I ended up getting sick too, we keep texting during this time period flirting etc. My colleagues at work are all being very nosey asking how everything is going so it kind of puts a pressure around the whole situation which i found annoying but I just ignored it. So once we are both recovered from our illness. I ask her out again, this time to the movies (Ik this isn’t the best date for seduction but she doesn’t really like going out to eat and has a low tolerance for alcohol so drinks and food places were kind of off the list.)Anyway we plan on going on the weekend but again she gets a major headache ( something she does tend to suffer with a lot at work) but is very quick to reschedule for the Wednesday after work.
So we got to the movies , we were whispering , laughing and touching ( nothing overtly sexual ) throughout the whole film. I take her home afterwards but again she goes in for the hug, ik I should have probably moved for the kiss at some point but I didn’t so I think ah well next time for sure I’ll make make my move. Again I text saying I had a great time and would love to see her again, and again she says the same.
I suppose I better add that throughout this we’d been texting a lot , being flirtatious and sometimes overtly sexual, she told me some really personal things about her ,I found out she had quite a lot of sexual experience as well, definitely much more than me. She also said that she feels really nervous and shy around me (in a good way) . She had also called me babe a few times when texting good night , the first time I didn’t reciprocate but I did the second time.
The start of the troubles
Anyway a few days after the movie date everything is going well the texting is still going on , she still seems into me, then
One day she doesn’t message me back , so I leave it a day or two then she messsages me saying sorry but she’s just had a stressful few days. I asked her what she was stressed about, she informs me that her ex that she broken up with just before Christmas has been giving her some drama . She says that she still wants to see me but that she just wanted to be honest and let me know that he’s still messaging her, she says she doesn’t want us to have any label just to have fun and be happy, I said having fun and being happy sounds good to me.
After that Her responses get slower and sometimes she doesn’t respond at all, when she didnt respond I’d give it a few days then rengage, we were still talking at work, and were still flirty but the contact outside of work had reduced a lot. A week or so goes by and I asked her out again, she said yes but where as before I gotten a solid day and time , now I got a vague “ I’m free next weekend”, so the weekend draws closer and I don’t hear back from her so I message her and ask if she’s still free and she says she is busy , I forget the excuse she used . Anyway the following week I decided to confront her. But in a non confrontational way. When I manage to get her alone at work I say that I know everyone at work was acting really childish about us seeing each other and I hope she hadn’t felt pressured into seeing me. She said “no way” that she would never agree to see someone she didn’t like , and it’s just that she’s been really stressed with everything going on with her ex.
The spark rekindled ?
Following that exchange she started responding to my texts again and being very warm and flirtatious , we would have quite deep conversations and it seemd like things are back on track. One day we were messaging and she texted me and said that “ I’m so different from every guy she’s been involved with” , she said they were all fuckboys. Anyway , So this renewed interest continues for a little bit and then I ask her out again and I get a seemingly enthusiastic yes but again I get a vague time period of availability , when it’s closer to the time I manage to get her to give me a day but when the day gets closer a prior engagement with a friend arises and she has to cancel the date.
So whilst this flakiness has been going on I have been reducing the amount I text her leaving days in between messages, but still engaging with her at work.
This week is asked her again when she was free and she said next week ( again vague) I asked her what day she said she wasn’t sure yet as she was going to be doing stuff with her sister .
There is probably more that I could mention but that’s the basic Crux of the situation. So what are your thoughts I know there’s lots I’ve done wrong since reading the website and posts here. But do you think it’s salvagable, I’d at least like to see if I can get an actual date next week before I move on but what do you all think . What’s my next move from here? All help is appreciated .
A little bit of background on me, I’m 26 ,was always pretty shy but gained a lot of confidence Over the past few years . I just got out of a 4 year relationship last October when I started a new job.
Anyway now to the main story. When I first started the job I noticed that one of the receptionists was very attractive but I was still learning the ropes and so for the first few months didn’t really talk to her or pay much attention. Then after Christmas I we ended up doing some late shifts where it was just me her and one other person, we got to talking. People at work started taking notice I was spending a lot of my free moments at the reception desk, (I work with women and I’m the only man) they started asking me if I was interested in the receptionist (let’s call her Amy). I obviously was but I avoided answering these questions, unknown to me they were asking her as well , one of my colleagues who was the main person playing matchmaker came and told me that Amy found me really good looking but wasn’t sure if I liked her, at this point I seized the situation and got Amy’s number and told her I’d message her to set up a date
First date
We set up a date for the weekend on Saturday, we were texting a lot that week and talking at work when we got the chance. However during that week she managed to get quite ill , was coughing a lot, and looked overall pretty sick. So I said we could reschedule to next week. But she insisted she wanted to meet up. So Saturday comes she texts me she has a an awful headache , so I message back saying that does she want to reschedule , she sapologises and says that she really doesn’t want to let me down but she feels lousy . I said that it’s okay and we could meet up next week when she is feeling better. But again she insisted that she doesn’t want to wait a weeks so she’ll take the day and rest and meet up on Sunday .
So Sunday arrives I pick her up late afternoon and we go to a little hangout place near where she lives, we spend a few hours there playing some board games and chatting,then after that we head to a coffee place get some coffee and sit in my car for over an hour and continue talking and having a great time. Now this whole time I can tell she’s really quite ill, she’s doing her best to hide it but She’s coughing and sounds sick. So anyway the time comes to take her home. We get to her place and she says let me give you a hug and she goes inside. I was kind of disappointed not to get a chance to go in for the kiss, but considering she was sick I just chalked it up to that. Anyway I get home and message her saying “ I had a really good time” and that we should definitely do something again. She responded saying that she also had a great time and would definitely like to see me again.
Second date
So the following week she is off from work because she got even more sick, and I ended up getting sick too, we keep texting during this time period flirting etc. My colleagues at work are all being very nosey asking how everything is going so it kind of puts a pressure around the whole situation which i found annoying but I just ignored it. So once we are both recovered from our illness. I ask her out again, this time to the movies (Ik this isn’t the best date for seduction but she doesn’t really like going out to eat and has a low tolerance for alcohol so drinks and food places were kind of off the list.)Anyway we plan on going on the weekend but again she gets a major headache ( something she does tend to suffer with a lot at work) but is very quick to reschedule for the Wednesday after work.
So we got to the movies , we were whispering , laughing and touching ( nothing overtly sexual ) throughout the whole film. I take her home afterwards but again she goes in for the hug, ik I should have probably moved for the kiss at some point but I didn’t so I think ah well next time for sure I’ll make make my move. Again I text saying I had a great time and would love to see her again, and again she says the same.
I suppose I better add that throughout this we’d been texting a lot , being flirtatious and sometimes overtly sexual, she told me some really personal things about her ,I found out she had quite a lot of sexual experience as well, definitely much more than me. She also said that she feels really nervous and shy around me (in a good way) . She had also called me babe a few times when texting good night , the first time I didn’t reciprocate but I did the second time.
The start of the troubles
Anyway a few days after the movie date everything is going well the texting is still going on , she still seems into me, then
One day she doesn’t message me back , so I leave it a day or two then she messsages me saying sorry but she’s just had a stressful few days. I asked her what she was stressed about, she informs me that her ex that she broken up with just before Christmas has been giving her some drama . She says that she still wants to see me but that she just wanted to be honest and let me know that he’s still messaging her, she says she doesn’t want us to have any label just to have fun and be happy, I said having fun and being happy sounds good to me.
After that Her responses get slower and sometimes she doesn’t respond at all, when she didnt respond I’d give it a few days then rengage, we were still talking at work, and were still flirty but the contact outside of work had reduced a lot. A week or so goes by and I asked her out again, she said yes but where as before I gotten a solid day and time , now I got a vague “ I’m free next weekend”, so the weekend draws closer and I don’t hear back from her so I message her and ask if she’s still free and she says she is busy , I forget the excuse she used . Anyway the following week I decided to confront her. But in a non confrontational way. When I manage to get her alone at work I say that I know everyone at work was acting really childish about us seeing each other and I hope she hadn’t felt pressured into seeing me. She said “no way” that she would never agree to see someone she didn’t like , and it’s just that she’s been really stressed with everything going on with her ex.
The spark rekindled ?
Following that exchange she started responding to my texts again and being very warm and flirtatious , we would have quite deep conversations and it seemd like things are back on track. One day we were messaging and she texted me and said that “ I’m so different from every guy she’s been involved with” , she said they were all fuckboys. Anyway , So this renewed interest continues for a little bit and then I ask her out again and I get a seemingly enthusiastic yes but again I get a vague time period of availability , when it’s closer to the time I manage to get her to give me a day but when the day gets closer a prior engagement with a friend arises and she has to cancel the date.
So whilst this flakiness has been going on I have been reducing the amount I text her leaving days in between messages, but still engaging with her at work.
This week is asked her again when she was free and she said next week ( again vague) I asked her what day she said she wasn’t sure yet as she was going to be doing stuff with her sister .
There is probably more that I could mention but that’s the basic Crux of the situation. So what are your thoughts I know there’s lots I’ve done wrong since reading the website and posts here. But do you think it’s salvagable, I’d at least like to see if I can get an actual date next week before I move on but what do you all think . What’s my next move from here? All help is appreciated .