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Hey guys,
I made a huge mistake within my relationship over stepping the boundaries while in the bedroom by misreading the signs. After a while she came around and we were alright and ended up having make up sex. This is where I made a huge mistake by over stepping the boundaries again and I really upset her. (A misplaced thumb if you're wondering...) At the time I knew I made a huge mistake and possibly cost myself again by apologising for what I had done. In the apology however I used careful consideration and owned the mistake (I did however say I'm sorry) She seemed to come around straight away this time and told me it was okay but then proceeded with being distant with me the following couple of days.
Last night she gave me a call and we seemed normal, out of nowhere she told me that she's still mad at me and asked me why I done it. During this time I had already re read a couple articles on GC regarding apologising (Should you apologize to women) and didn't apologise again. I used careful consideration, owned it and tried working on a resolution to it.
(To explain a little more I didn't jump straight into it, I tip toed into it testing the waters and had no resistance which made me feel it was acceptable at the time)
"I made a mistake, I crossed the line, I was out of order. I understand how you feel. I didn't think, I got carried away and I should never have done (X) to you. It won't happen again"
She said that I've broke her trust and that she feels violated. Today she hasn't messaged me back, and I'm opting to give her space and time and to come to me when she feels ready. Is there any tips or advice with resolving a mistake like this other than don't chase and to give them time?
Many thanks,
SilenceintheSnow
I made a huge mistake within my relationship over stepping the boundaries while in the bedroom by misreading the signs. After a while she came around and we were alright and ended up having make up sex. This is where I made a huge mistake by over stepping the boundaries again and I really upset her. (A misplaced thumb if you're wondering...) At the time I knew I made a huge mistake and possibly cost myself again by apologising for what I had done. In the apology however I used careful consideration and owned the mistake (I did however say I'm sorry) She seemed to come around straight away this time and told me it was okay but then proceeded with being distant with me the following couple of days.
Last night she gave me a call and we seemed normal, out of nowhere she told me that she's still mad at me and asked me why I done it. During this time I had already re read a couple articles on GC regarding apologising (Should you apologize to women) and didn't apologise again. I used careful consideration, owned it and tried working on a resolution to it.
(To explain a little more I didn't jump straight into it, I tip toed into it testing the waters and had no resistance which made me feel it was acceptable at the time)
"I made a mistake, I crossed the line, I was out of order. I understand how you feel. I didn't think, I got carried away and I should never have done (X) to you. It won't happen again"
She said that I've broke her trust and that she feels violated. Today she hasn't messaged me back, and I'm opting to give her space and time and to come to me when she feels ready. Is there any tips or advice with resolving a mistake like this other than don't chase and to give them time?
Many thanks,
SilenceintheSnow