I've been dating my girlfriend just over a year. When we started dating her body was almost perfect. She had recently lost 30lbs and I really admired her dedication and hard work. She was 130lbs and 5'8". I really like slim girls. She was like perfect.
It's super sexy to me when girls work out. I also workout regularly so it makes sense to be with someone who does as well.
But now since then she's probably gained 10 pounds and she hasn't worked out in forever. She eats junk food all the time. Whenever i suggest she eat healthy she disagrees. She's been saying every once in a while that she'll start working out real soon but that's been going on for months with no action.
Of course it bothers me. Part of me is concerned that she'll never get back to how she used to look and even worse that she'll continue to gain more weight. She got fat once before so it is possibly she could do it again.
2 months ago she said she felt uncomfortable just being naked in my bed after we banged and she went to cover herself with a blanket. I told her she never used to feel uncomfortable being naked. That was when she said she was working out everyday. This bothered me the most. Heres my girlfriend being insecure about her body when she used to be so hot and she can easily change and get back to that, it's so easy to change if you put the work in but she seems to not believe it's possible, otherwise shed be doing it. It's such a turn off to see her not caring at all when I'm eating healthy as fuck and working out all the time.
I haven't said anything to her about it this whole time. Just kept it to myself because I didn't know what to say. Well yesterday she brought up her weight on her own and then I asked her if she was gonna start working out again soon. She said yes and then we switched topics. Everything was good. Later she said I was so weird for asking her that and I just said that it was weird to me that I was working my hardest at looking my best and that she wasn't at all and that in relationships people should try to look their best for each other and that it's kind of like a gift you can give to each other.
She just got super mad. Like we've had arguments before so I've seen her mad but that's usually when I'm mad too. I wasn't mad at all but she just had the craziest look. I had to go eat tho and just forgot about it. When I saw her again 30 minutes later she was still super mad. Even today she's still super mad and it's been 18 hours since I said that.
She won't even talk to me. Won't make plans for tomorrow with me. Won't kiss me on the lips, she turns her head. And it's so weird, I'm not even mad at her but she won't forget it. So though I'm not going to give in and apologize. Ive told her I didn't even do anything wrong. Kind of makes me a little upset she's trying to make me feel guilty even though she's just insecure and is trying to pin it on me.
She says I can't say that and it has her second guessing herself every time she eats now and that it makes her feel like she's not good enough for me and makes her feel bad about herself.
What would you guys have done differently if anything? I've never seen her this mad and I'm not going to apologize because I didn't do anything wrong.
It's super sexy to me when girls work out. I also workout regularly so it makes sense to be with someone who does as well.
But now since then she's probably gained 10 pounds and she hasn't worked out in forever. She eats junk food all the time. Whenever i suggest she eat healthy she disagrees. She's been saying every once in a while that she'll start working out real soon but that's been going on for months with no action.
Of course it bothers me. Part of me is concerned that she'll never get back to how she used to look and even worse that she'll continue to gain more weight. She got fat once before so it is possibly she could do it again.
2 months ago she said she felt uncomfortable just being naked in my bed after we banged and she went to cover herself with a blanket. I told her she never used to feel uncomfortable being naked. That was when she said she was working out everyday. This bothered me the most. Heres my girlfriend being insecure about her body when she used to be so hot and she can easily change and get back to that, it's so easy to change if you put the work in but she seems to not believe it's possible, otherwise shed be doing it. It's such a turn off to see her not caring at all when I'm eating healthy as fuck and working out all the time.
I haven't said anything to her about it this whole time. Just kept it to myself because I didn't know what to say. Well yesterday she brought up her weight on her own and then I asked her if she was gonna start working out again soon. She said yes and then we switched topics. Everything was good. Later she said I was so weird for asking her that and I just said that it was weird to me that I was working my hardest at looking my best and that she wasn't at all and that in relationships people should try to look their best for each other and that it's kind of like a gift you can give to each other.
She just got super mad. Like we've had arguments before so I've seen her mad but that's usually when I'm mad too. I wasn't mad at all but she just had the craziest look. I had to go eat tho and just forgot about it. When I saw her again 30 minutes later she was still super mad. Even today she's still super mad and it's been 18 hours since I said that.
She won't even talk to me. Won't make plans for tomorrow with me. Won't kiss me on the lips, she turns her head. And it's so weird, I'm not even mad at her but she won't forget it. So though I'm not going to give in and apologize. Ive told her I didn't even do anything wrong. Kind of makes me a little upset she's trying to make me feel guilty even though she's just insecure and is trying to pin it on me.
She says I can't say that and it has her second guessing herself every time she eats now and that it makes her feel like she's not good enough for me and makes her feel bad about herself.
What would you guys have done differently if anything? I've never seen her this mad and I'm not going to apologize because I didn't do anything wrong.