I've recently realized something since being back in "the game". Meaningless sex is fairly unfulfilling. I've also realized that the women I have come to seek (i.e. not the slutty/one night stand types), want to believe that you are in it for the long term. The issue I'm facing is, I don't believe in the whole monogamous one person for the rest of your life thing. I also don't want to lie, in fact, I'm terrible at it. At the same time, I have an emotional void that can only be fulfilled by connecting with someone on a deeper level than just having sex. It's a pretty odd position to be in. Needing an emotional connection with someone, yet not believing in monogamy and not being able to "fake" my way into letting girls think I want to be with them for the rest of my life.
Has anyone else on here ran into a similar predicament? How do you deal with it? How do you sustain an emotional connection with one person, without lying, and without telling them you want to be with them and only them for the rest of your life (sexually and/or emotionally), while at the same time wanting to sleep with other women because you don't think monogamy for the rest of your life is realistic?
Any help sorting through this apparent oxymoron would be really appreciated!
Thanks!
Has anyone else on here ran into a similar predicament? How do you deal with it? How do you sustain an emotional connection with one person, without lying, and without telling them you want to be with them and only them for the rest of your life (sexually and/or emotionally), while at the same time wanting to sleep with other women because you don't think monogamy for the rest of your life is realistic?
Any help sorting through this apparent oxymoron would be really appreciated!
Thanks!