How to keep girls interested when you are an introvert?

shyman30

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I just want to throw this out there, I’m an introvert. I spent my adolescence and mid adulthood in the comfort of my home playing video games. The fact that I work freelance and from home doesn’t help. I’m almost 30 and it has been pointed out to me that I should be more active.

More accurately, my parents have been nagging me to socialize more. I’ve been trying so hard to step out of my comfort zone and participating in social events. It’s been really tough on me dealing with my social anxieties and unavoidable awkwardness when talking to people. I’ve decided to try something that’s more up my alley.

I decided to interact and communicate with people through the internet. I’ve joined forums, online games, and community websites. It took me awhile for me to get used to this kind of lifestyle, casually chatting and checking up on virtual friends. Then it hit me –I want to find a lover. I then asked my internet friends for any recommendations and they’ve suggested this site called A Foreign Affair. I was a bit skeptical at first. I immediately tried to take everything in and adapted to how things work with online dating.

So far, the experience has been great. I’ve met great single women with the same interests as me and it’s been really fun. But my only problem is, I don’t know how to keep them interested in me. Right now, I’m not expecting a long term or serious relationship –or just a relationship in general. I’m keeping a slow pace but eventually I’d want to settle down and be serious with a woman but I can’t achieve that because I’m really introverted.

There are so many problems in my mind right now. I hear that single tours are a great way to get yourself out there and to meet a woman. I badly need some advice on how to keep girls interested and I would gladly appreciate some dating tips before I try joining one myself or even meeting up with a date in the future. Thank you so much!
 

Seppuku

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Alright young man,

I don't know if you'll ever reconnect to these Boards to read this, but I'll give it a shot anyway.
So far, the experience has been great. I’ve met great single women with the same interests as me and it’s been really fun. But my only problem is, I don’t know how to keep them interested in me. Right now, I’m not expecting a long term or serious relationship –or just a relationship in general. I’m keeping a slow pace but eventually I’d want to settle down and be serious with a woman but I can’t achieve that because I’m really introverted.

There are so many problems in my mind right now. I hear that single tours are a great way to get yourself out there and to meet a woman. I badly need some advice on how to keep girls interested and I would gladly appreciate some dating tips before I try joining one myself or even meeting up with a date in the future. Thank you so much!
By "keeping them interested", if you mean happily chat them online forever after, you are on the wrong route.

There are two ways to keep a girl interested.

1. Make things happen. Meet her in real, bring her at home, make love to her. Then keep her "well sexed" moving forward. Decrease in sexual frequency = drop in interest.
2. Shove her with attention. They all love it. If this is the value you bring to her, she will take it. She will keep you orbiting around her, giving you just enough hope to keep you around, but keep you forever in platonic orbit to gorge herself with the interest you will shove her.

The second route is what you will be getting at, if all you do is to engage into prolonged friendly online chat. Welcome to FriendZone and OrbiterWorld. That will do you no good, in terms of your introvert tendencies, and in terms of your sexual and love needs. It is No Man's Land. Don't go there!

The first route is the route to the Real World. It will make you improve yourself. It will give you a fulfilling love life, made of real pairs of boobs dancing in front of your nose. Girls Chase, and these Boards, are a very good resource to learn Route #1. So if you're serious about it, stay tuned here!

And for a first lesson, you should meet girls online with one and only purpose, namely meet her in real life. This means chatting her a little bit, test the waters by throwing the idea of a date, screen out time wasters and attention whores, and start meeting them in real.

Seppuku
PS. And for now, I wouldn't worry about relationships if I were you, because you're not yet ready for this.
 

Richard

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Man, you gotta ditch the negativity that you think comes with being an introvert - I'm an introvert.

Just means that socializing drains your battery - has nothing to do with whether you become good at it or not. I enjoy talking to women, grabbing numbers, sleeping with them, etc. but I still need my time to myself to recharge my internal battery.

You'll get so much farther so much faster by embracing the positives of who you are and using them as a building block to improve yourself and being an introvert means you'll have a lot of solid pieces to work with.

-Richard
 
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