I broke it off with gf 2 days ago. She lives 2.5hr away (but in the same town where my closest friends are located, which was nice).
Why I broke it off:
1) She'd occasionally drink and when she did she'd be inconsiderate the times she would drink in excess (she wasn't really a club person though)
2) She just graduated and is waiting to hear back from graduate schools (applied to school in my town among many others)
3) She was a very on the go person (extrovert), whereas I need time to recharge (extrovert)
4) I'm studying for the CPA exam - 1/2 way through it all (I study all wk then spend weekends with her)
5) She lives paycheck to paycheck - but hinted towards things like 'taking a vacation together'
6) She said she'd 'settle' with 3 kids (wants 4), whereas (I told her this) I want 0 to maybe 1 someday
7) We weren't getting very much one on one time together
8) I feel like I could find someone hotter (but I always feel this way sooner or later in relationships)
9) I found myself second guessing things particularly in the mornings for some reason
10) It was simply a whole lot of work ...
Why I was with her:
1) Emotional support
2) I was extremely attracted to her (not that I'm not attracted now)
3) She got me to be more social & spontaneous
4) I genuinely enjoyed seeing her/spending time with her
5) Similar turn on's in the bedroom
6) Could see things lasting if I let them
I broke it off with her saying: "I can't suppress the urge to want to see more women. Nor do I want to."
We're both hurting, and I'm unsure if I ended it too soon. Maybe I should have given it more time? Should I ask her back?
-I know I can get her back if I act now
-I would do so in a dominant manner (not begging), but stating my preferences
Why I broke it off:
1) She'd occasionally drink and when she did she'd be inconsiderate the times she would drink in excess (she wasn't really a club person though)
2) She just graduated and is waiting to hear back from graduate schools (applied to school in my town among many others)
3) She was a very on the go person (extrovert), whereas I need time to recharge (extrovert)
4) I'm studying for the CPA exam - 1/2 way through it all (I study all wk then spend weekends with her)
5) She lives paycheck to paycheck - but hinted towards things like 'taking a vacation together'
6) She said she'd 'settle' with 3 kids (wants 4), whereas (I told her this) I want 0 to maybe 1 someday
7) We weren't getting very much one on one time together
8) I feel like I could find someone hotter (but I always feel this way sooner or later in relationships)
9) I found myself second guessing things particularly in the mornings for some reason
10) It was simply a whole lot of work ...
Why I was with her:
1) Emotional support
2) I was extremely attracted to her (not that I'm not attracted now)
3) She got me to be more social & spontaneous
4) I genuinely enjoyed seeing her/spending time with her
5) Similar turn on's in the bedroom
6) Could see things lasting if I let them
I broke it off with her saying: "I can't suppress the urge to want to see more women. Nor do I want to."
We're both hurting, and I'm unsure if I ended it too soon. Maybe I should have given it more time? Should I ask her back?
-I know I can get her back if I act now
-I would do so in a dominant manner (not begging), but stating my preferences