I haven't contributed my own topic on the boards here in awhile, and I happen to have some free time today, so I thought I'd contribute something that would be of interest and value.
--- Abundance Mentality ---
What is it really? And how do you get it?
Well, it didn't really start to hit me what abundance mentality was until relatively recently, and how I realized I had abundance mentality might surprise you a bit. Abundance mentality is not having five dates lined up for the week. It's also not having five dates lined up for the week while you're already having casual, sexual relationships with two other girls.
So if abundance mentality isn't having 5-7 girls wanting to see you during the week while two are ready and willing to fuck you, then what is abundance mentality, and how do you get it?
Let's talk a bit about my progression towards abundance before we get to the meat of this subject.
When I first started following the methods on this website, I was a bit clumsy (albeit a fast learner). I approached women knowing what I was supposed to do, but I would still fumble around with my words or miss escalation windows pretty consistently. It was frustrating because I could look back on an interaction almost immediately and analyze where things went wrong. And even after doing that, I would repeatedly make that mistake for awhile until I had finally made that mistake so many times that it was impossible for me to make that mistake again! Mind you, there was no forum to ask for help during this time, and I had not communicated with Chase personally until just around the time this forum was established.
I spent about three of my initial months just approaching -- meaning I went out every single weekend and consumed somewhere between 5-10 hours of my time -- and I did not end up with a single girl in my bedroom. My fundamentals were solid by the end of this period, and I was certainly making progress, but I just couldn't get the whole thing to 'click' and get to where I wanted to be: with a woman in my bedroom screaming my name.
But then, about 3 and 1/2 months into practicing, I finally got a lay. I took a girl into the back of my car and railed her like there was no tomorrow. It was liberating! I had finally done it! It wasn't the cleanest seduction (by any means), but I was able to read the signals from the girl early on and I didn't let the escalation window pass. And once I had done it the first time, and I had seen success, the lays started coming in more frequently. About 5 months into practicing, I had had multiple girls in my bedroom -- some on the first date, and some even the night I met them! It was starting to come together for me.
But even as I had girls lined out the door to spend some time with me, I was still struggling with one thing: I missed my ex-girl, and a solid part of me still wanted her back. None of the girls I had been with had measured up with her, and that slight "tingling" sensation in the back of my head that kept saying, "you won't find another one like her," was constantly there being a nuisance. Was this all for nothing? I have an abundance of girls now, and I still can't get her out of my head. What's the deal, bro?!
It even got as bad to the point where I directly asked Chase if he could help me get her back. I made it clear that I knew the chances were slim, and I made it clear that I was approaching new women. But to get her out of my head, I figured I'd at least give it a shot. Believe it or not, Chase agreed to give me some solid advice on what he believed would be the best chance at getting her back... and it failed.
Was I surprised? Not really. But my conscious was clear, and I knew that there were girls out there just as good as her, I just had to keep approaching until I found them. And sure enough, about 3-4 more months after vigorous approaching and numerous seductions, I landed a bombshell. This girl had everything I was looking for and reminded me of the way that my ex-girl made me feel.
So I had done it... I had replaced my amazing ex-girlfriend. But where does this story lead into abundance mentality, you ask?
Well, after being with this girl for a couple of months, I realized my mind was in a completely different place than it was with my last girlfriend. Although this new girl provided me with the same great feelings and emotions that I had with my ex, there was a new sentiment that was starting to creep up on me: I am capable of bringing home an amazing girl... so why am I only bringing home one?
All of a sudden, it hit me.
Even while I had this gorgeous, amazing girl in my bed willing to do anything at the drop of a hat for me, I realized that I could get more. All of a sudden, amazing girls stopped becoming scarce. Amazing girls are everywhere, and because I read Chase's material and realized that I am an amazing guy, I knew that I could get them. And I realized it would be easy.
So when do you have abundance mentality? Well, you have abundance mentality when one of the most amazing girls you've ever met is lying in your bed, waiting for you do to anything to her, and instead of having the following thought in the back of your head:
...you have this thought instead:
That is abundance mentality.
--- Summary ---
And as a result of having abundance mentality, the amazing women you bed will sense it. They will sense that you are capable of going out and replacing them. And when they are just the slightest bit nervous about that being a possibility, that's when they are yours for the keeping... should you choose to do so.
Cheers, gentlemen.
- Franco
--- Abundance Mentality ---
What is it really? And how do you get it?
Well, it didn't really start to hit me what abundance mentality was until relatively recently, and how I realized I had abundance mentality might surprise you a bit. Abundance mentality is not having five dates lined up for the week. It's also not having five dates lined up for the week while you're already having casual, sexual relationships with two other girls.
So if abundance mentality isn't having 5-7 girls wanting to see you during the week while two are ready and willing to fuck you, then what is abundance mentality, and how do you get it?
Let's talk a bit about my progression towards abundance before we get to the meat of this subject.
When I first started following the methods on this website, I was a bit clumsy (albeit a fast learner). I approached women knowing what I was supposed to do, but I would still fumble around with my words or miss escalation windows pretty consistently. It was frustrating because I could look back on an interaction almost immediately and analyze where things went wrong. And even after doing that, I would repeatedly make that mistake for awhile until I had finally made that mistake so many times that it was impossible for me to make that mistake again! Mind you, there was no forum to ask for help during this time, and I had not communicated with Chase personally until just around the time this forum was established.
I spent about three of my initial months just approaching -- meaning I went out every single weekend and consumed somewhere between 5-10 hours of my time -- and I did not end up with a single girl in my bedroom. My fundamentals were solid by the end of this period, and I was certainly making progress, but I just couldn't get the whole thing to 'click' and get to where I wanted to be: with a woman in my bedroom screaming my name.
But then, about 3 and 1/2 months into practicing, I finally got a lay. I took a girl into the back of my car and railed her like there was no tomorrow. It was liberating! I had finally done it! It wasn't the cleanest seduction (by any means), but I was able to read the signals from the girl early on and I didn't let the escalation window pass. And once I had done it the first time, and I had seen success, the lays started coming in more frequently. About 5 months into practicing, I had had multiple girls in my bedroom -- some on the first date, and some even the night I met them! It was starting to come together for me.
But even as I had girls lined out the door to spend some time with me, I was still struggling with one thing: I missed my ex-girl, and a solid part of me still wanted her back. None of the girls I had been with had measured up with her, and that slight "tingling" sensation in the back of my head that kept saying, "you won't find another one like her," was constantly there being a nuisance. Was this all for nothing? I have an abundance of girls now, and I still can't get her out of my head. What's the deal, bro?!
It even got as bad to the point where I directly asked Chase if he could help me get her back. I made it clear that I knew the chances were slim, and I made it clear that I was approaching new women. But to get her out of my head, I figured I'd at least give it a shot. Believe it or not, Chase agreed to give me some solid advice on what he believed would be the best chance at getting her back... and it failed.
Was I surprised? Not really. But my conscious was clear, and I knew that there were girls out there just as good as her, I just had to keep approaching until I found them. And sure enough, about 3-4 more months after vigorous approaching and numerous seductions, I landed a bombshell. This girl had everything I was looking for and reminded me of the way that my ex-girl made me feel.
So I had done it... I had replaced my amazing ex-girlfriend. But where does this story lead into abundance mentality, you ask?
Well, after being with this girl for a couple of months, I realized my mind was in a completely different place than it was with my last girlfriend. Although this new girl provided me with the same great feelings and emotions that I had with my ex, there was a new sentiment that was starting to creep up on me: I am capable of bringing home an amazing girl... so why am I only bringing home one?
All of a sudden, it hit me.
- I had achieved abundance mentality.
Even while I had this gorgeous, amazing girl in my bed willing to do anything at the drop of a hat for me, I realized that I could get more. All of a sudden, amazing girls stopped becoming scarce. Amazing girls are everywhere, and because I read Chase's material and realized that I am an amazing guy, I knew that I could get them. And I realized it would be easy.
So when do you have abundance mentality? Well, you have abundance mentality when one of the most amazing girls you've ever met is lying in your bed, waiting for you do to anything to her, and instead of having the following thought in the back of your head:
...you have this thought instead:
That is abundance mentality.
--- Summary ---
- Abundance mentality is not having dates and lays lined up for the week
- You do not have abundance mentality if you are thinking about a girl that isn't already yours
- You do not have abundance mentality if you are scared of losing a girl that is already yours
- You have abundance mentality when you have an amazing girl that is already yours, and you're thinking about when the next one may come along
And as a result of having abundance mentality, the amazing women you bed will sense it. They will sense that you are capable of going out and replacing them. And when they are just the slightest bit nervous about that being a possibility, that's when they are yours for the keeping... should you choose to do so.
Cheers, gentlemen.
- Franco
