Long ass FR: Yujin Korean.

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So I got a day 2 from a number farm. I text her for a meet and she agreed. I text her to confirm our meet and she didn't reply back. I called her to make sure she would turn up. I don't want to travel far and have her not turn up. She texts me back to change dates. I agree and she didn't answer my text message for the following 2 days and assume she wouldn't turn up. I thought I stay at home but got a text an hour before the date. I'm like WTF because I was still at home. I text her to say I will be half an hour late. This has happened to me twice with different girls, texting me at the last minute. I'm not really sure why they do that and WTF they are thinking. If a girl doesn't text back them I assume it's NOT ON and might stay at home or might decide to go out.

As soon as I arrived at the location, I call her and we meet

F: hey how are you haha.

+ I point in a direction and we start walking

HB: how are you

F: so how you been (kino her shoulder because she was walking in front of me) oh your really small (put my hand on her head)

+both giggle a bit

F: very cute. like Hello Kitty

HB: no haha

F; so ah, yeah, what you been up to? when I last saw you 2 days ago

HB: blah blah

F: shall we get a cup of coffee

HB: yeah yeah

F: what you like to drink

HB: I don't know

F: you don't know at the moment

+ Costa coffee and I buy drinks. Attraction level is high

F: I wasn't sure you were coming today because you didn't text me back. I was like, is she coming or she not coming haha that was why I was a bit late

HB: haha sorry I didn't text you back

F: that's okay do you like it in the UK?

HB: Yeah, it's okay

F: you been here for more than a year right? or?

HB: I been here for a while, a bit more

F: do you miss Korea? do you miss your mum and dad?

HB: yes haha how about you

F: Yeah, I was born here but my parents are basically from HK. So they live in this area as well

minutes 16.47

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F: I like your English, it's very good

HB: oh haha I don't think so. I have to try and study more

F: oh

HB: because it's very basic

F: yeah.

+ for some reason I was thinking about the question she asked me previously

F: basically my mum and dad are living here. I see them a lot, so I don't really miss them. maybe I see them too much

F: are you the oldest in the family

HB: yeah

F: you look like the mature one

HB: really

F; yeah you're the one that tells your siblings what to do

HB: how about you?

F: I'm the naughty one. the youngest

HB: haha

F: my brothers and sister spoil me

F: they give me whatever I want

HB: one brother and one sister?

+placed my hand on her shoulder

F: shall we go to the park?

HB: yep

F: there is Blah blah Park? have you been before?

HB: no

F: really wow, so you are the oldest right. Do you have an older brother or

HB: sister

F: ok

F: why she not here with you?

HB: she is working in Korea

HB: she loves Korea

F: so she likes Korean men and you like foreign men

HB: no haha

F: British born Chinese (grin)

HB: really haha

NOTE: this is a very good frame. Well done.

F: haha just kidding haha

F: your sister, is she one year younger than you

F: I'm just guessing because normally when parents have children. It's normally a year apart

HB: oh right

HB: that's right

F: so are you the leader

NOTE: try not to say SO

F; out of her and

HB: yes

HB: but the character is not

F: the character is not, why is your English so good. It's really, I love it

HB: why haha

F: you properly understand what I'm saying

NOTE: I like the way you self amuse less and more serious at times. This is an improvement in game

HB: ok

F: I guess because you been working here for over a year, right?

HB: I like to work here blah blah

F: so waht did you do before then?

HB: actually I worked in a tea house

F: yes with cakes and stuff

F: can you make cake for me

HB: um sorry haha

F: maybe tomorrow haha

HB: it will take about 10 years

F: no problem I will wait, I will grow my beard and not shave. I will wait for your cake

HB: haha

HB: you be starving

F: starving? but obviously I will eat other food as well. But I will wait for your cake

HB: I then transfer the job

F: shall we cross the road

NOTE: good leading

HB: I use to work in an accounting firm

F: did you want to be an accountant or to help the accountant

HB: ahh just help

F; what made you decide to come to the Uk? apart from the attractive men here

NOTE: good

minutes 22.55

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HB: I don't know

F: you don't know

HB: blah blah

F: I think it's the movie "Four Weddings and a Funeral"

+ you should have said "The kingsman Instead"

F: have you seen the movie before?

HB: I'm not sure

F: the British men, they have very good Brish accent and a lot of foreign women like the British accent so. Is that why you came down here, for the British accent

HB: haha

HB: I want a British accent and I saw the movie, Sherlock

F: Cumberbatch? one of my favorite actors. I like him in Startrek as well, he plays a good villain. Sherlock Holme is really good. You look like a mini detective

HB: oh haha

F: like solving cases

HB: I'm not good at solving cases

HB: so where you working now

F: basically yeah. Basically my dad has a couple of restaurants and he has property. I help him manage some of the restaurant and property side.

HB: em cool

F: lemonade will help you grow a bit taller ( I got her a lemonade)

HB: yeah haha

F: lemonade in Uk is very good. It has vitamin B12 and can make you one inch taller. I'm just kidding lol

HB: yeah I know lol

F: you seem to be really serious

HB: no no

F; have you traveled Uk yet? you must have right?

HB; 4 years ago, I been here and this is the second time

HB: The first time was site seeing and traveling around. this time finding a job

F: can you cook bibimbap. I love Bibimbap

F: it is easy to make

HB: maybe you have some side dishes

F: kimchi is a bit sour for me but I can get used to

F; have you tried HK food?

HB: I been to HK twice

F: did you like it or

HB: I like it, the weather is not good. it was raining

F; ok

HB: i love HK

F; have you watched any HK movies?

+ still walking

F: just cross

F: I can't remember the English name

+ I try to explain some Hong Kong movies but she didn't know any

F: I seem a lot of Korean movies as well. Oldboy

F: have you seen Oldboy

HB: yeah

F: have you seen my wife is a ganster

HB: I havn't seen

F: yes you are a ganster

HB: haha

F: there's another one I like. The man from nowhere. Wong Bin

HB: ah Wing Bin

F: he plays a lonely man, no friends. Meets a little girl

HB: I saw that

+ it's very good describing movies in short brief details. It's interesting for people in general

F: he becomes friends with her and the best thing that happens in his life is this girl. He gets captured and he finds a way to free her

HB: oh yeah I seen that movie

F: what kind of miovies you like then?

HB: emm

F: I believe you like romance, like titanic, twilight, Harry Porter and Bridget Jones

NOTE: good stereotype image of a girl.

HB: I haven't seen Twilight

F: you should watch it, I think it's for women so

F: if you like handsome young vampires. it would be perfect for you

F: do you like 50 shades of grey. I think women like 50 shade of grey

HB: I heard about that but I

F: never watched it

F: Harry Porter. All women like Harry

F: do you like Harry?

HB: not so much?

F: why

HB: blah blah. this is st james?

F: this is St James. This your first time?

F: do you know prince harry and Price William lives over there?

F: in a minute I will introduce you to them and then we will have a sandwich, scone

HB: haha

F: just kidding

HB: i know

F: I don't know why but your very cute. Very easy to tease

HB: what

F: apart from London. You live in London right? Have you lived anywhere else in Uk or

HB: just London

F: so your a city girl

HB: yes

F; you like shopping, you like being where the parties are

HB: yes

F: do you party a lot?

HB: i like hanging out with my friends

F: oh good

HB: you

F: what do I like doing, I like traveling. I have a small selected group of friends but a small selected few. I like reading, movies, I like bike riding and tennis. I love tennis, I haven't played it for a very long time but I miss tennis

HB: I heard tennis is the hardest exercise?

F: for me, it's easy, for me because I love it. I'm rubbish at football because I don't really know how to use my legs

HB: ah

F: but tennis for some reason when I hold it, it's natural for me. and then swimming I'm okay but it's something I learned and able to swim

NOTE: it good you are sharing information about your life. it builds vulnerability and connection. Not one is perfect and she knows that. it's good that you share what you are good at and what you are not good at

minutes 32.13

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F: have you tried tennis before?

HB: not yet

F; tomorrow with me

HB: haha tomorrow

F; we have to do many things together

HB: do you play tennis every week or every day?

F: like I said, I haven't played it a long time but I love it

F: I'm more a nature guy, walking around the parks and stuff. Shall we take a seat down there?

HB: yeah

F: Christian Dior, you really like shopping huh

HB: yeah haha

F; what did you get, did you buy anything?

HB: I don't shop in the UK

F: how come you don't have any earrings

+ kino her ear. GOOD

F: you do have a hole, yeah yeah yeah

HB: I have an allergy to metals

F: to metals

HB: I can not wear earrings

F: what about grass, if I get grass and put it through your

+ kino ear again

HB: wow haha can you make it

F: yes it's very easy. In a minute I will take some grass and put it through your ear and you can take a picture. You can post it on Instagram and facebook

HB: haha

F: show your friends and they will all be jealous of you. I'm just kidding

HB: I'm not into Instagram

F: I don't know how that works either

F: can I ask you why your hand is so small.

+ I put my hand just to measure her hand.

F: you have tiny hands, baby hands

HB: yes I have small hands

F: is it difficult to. Have you played the piano before?

HB: yes before

F: is it difficult to play the piano?

HB: no

F: this is what I heard. People with small hands find it difficult to play the keys

HB: yeah em

F: I know Korean, Onion eye seye O

HB: How did you know that?

F: my ex used to be from Korea. She taught me this sentence, she taught me quite a few things but I forgotten

F: I also like Korean movies you know. I think Korean movies and HK movies, they really know how to make a movie but in China it's still not their yet. the story line is not quite there yet

HB: yeah

F: I think Korean people and HK people have life experience

HB: yeah

F: they are very Westernised in some ways. they have that kind of experience but people in China. They don't have that experience. China is changing but they still don't have the experience of being in the city

HB: yes yes yes

F: I don't know if that makes sense

F: a new movie I watched where this woman is an assassin. She married a guy but the guy is a bad guy. He and her had a child. She lost her memory and had plastic face surgery. Lady vengeance that's it.

HB: I seem a poster or something

F: so how come you don't have a boyfriend? you been here for a while. How come you don't like? no one asked you out?

HB; maybe I don't know

F: you too busy

HB: I just meet some friend but just friend

F: so you just go out

HB: just hang out in groups but just friends

F: are you still studying?

HB: I finish study

F; so now it's time to look for a job

HB: yeah right

F: I think find a part-time job first and then go for a job you really like

HB: I'm trying to find out what I can do well and what is the best job for me

F: make bibimbap

HB: haha

F: I love bibimbap and I think you be successful

HB: Have you been to any Korean restaurant here?

F: only small ones lol for some reason I like bibimbap haha

HB: you can go

F: there is one in manor house, I haven't been in a while. I think it's nice. I really like it yeah. I do like the metal bowl. you put the metal bowl

NOTE: I love the way you are describing your experiences in detail. Your painting a picture of an experience. She is picturing that experience and linking it to you. Describing experiences in details builds rapport

F: oh Korean barbecue

HB: oh yes

F: you know the Korean barbeque here is not really Korean barbeque. When I went to Thailand, they had a proper Korean barbeque. the restaurant had an extractor fan (demo with my hands)

HB: yes i know

F: so it's really (shhhh making sound)

HB: yeah

F: the hot plate has coals underneath but here is not.

HB: many friends told me it's like that

F: I think restaurants will do well if they spend the money and really put the thing on top

HB: that is expensive I think

F: in Korea, they have that thing?

HB: yes

F: do you have tattoos like Lady Vengence

+ I think I should get a tattoo. I always ask girls if they have them lol

+ kino her back ( very good)

HB: not yet haha

F; how about hello kitty

HB: do you like hello kitty

NOTE: I think the reason why my game have improved is that I realize half is inner game and the rest is techniques and tactics. Most of it is just to bring your best self forward and being yourself. You just have to chip away at it and persist. You really need to become outcome dependent and not give a shit. It's fucking hard at times and it hurts. Nowadays girls will drop you in a heartbeat even if your game is good. You are no longer the best and they know that. They can always find something better in Tinder or online games in a click of a button. They are frustrated because they overvalue themselves. They find a boyfriend who is better than them and end up getting dumped because her SMV is lower than his.

+ I would also add day game is becoming increasingly hard and you can't expect to get the same results as before. It's really now, just a self-improvement tool for correcting your behaviors to become high value. Uk is hard but don't know what's it like in other parts of the world. Before you can be a normal guy that can escalate and you can get laid. Now it's about 4 times the effort.


HB: you like Hello kitty?

F: I don't know, I think all girls like Hello kitty

HB: em

F: or you can put my name on your arms. I love Fearless

both giggle

HB: how about you, do you have any tattoos or

F: no, I did think about putting hello Kitty here ( point bum)

HB: haha why

F: I don't know it's cute right haha

F: I just like tennis, it's my thing

F: so when you were young, what is the most naughty thing you have ever done?

F: did you mum say, that's so naughty. You can't do that

HB: blah blah

F: I remember when I was younger, the most naughty thing I done was, my dad was about to hit me. with a stick. I pretended to have a faint

HB: haha

F: I was so scared, so I continue to faint and he called the ambulance. He panicked "my son, he fainted on the floor" "can you come really quickly, quick"

HB: yeah

F: my mum and dad, I think they were quite nervous standing around

F: the ambulance came and I got up and started running

NOTE: this is a good story I forgot. I can bring it up again if I ask the girls a question. "whats the most naughty thing you have ever done"

HB: oh haha

F: and then my dad told me the story. he had to explain to the ambulance man, what happened

F: my dad never knew I was pretending. He really thought I had some health issues or something. I never told him

HB: oh

F: be quiet, if not I have to kill you..... like James Bond.

F: why you laughing haha

HB: just funny

F: when I was younger, my dad had a restaurant. He still has a restaurant but a different restaurant. I would jump from one table to another table. My dad with get very angry with me. What the hell are you doing

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NOTE: I should tell her the Kevin story.

+ I once had a friend but now he lives in HK.

F: when I was younger. We had trolleys at the back of the restaurant. I think we were about 13 years old. We use to play in the trolleys all the time. One time my friend told me that's it's impossible to get him out of the trolley. He was sitting in the trolley. He bet I couldn't do it. So I just started to swing the trolley aggressively. Remember I was 13 and he flew out like Superman. I thought shit WTF I have done. Lucky he didn't hurt himself and I started to laugh uncontrollably. He was a good friend and he didn't tell anyone. No one knew.

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mintues 44

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Here is a couple of stories, don't use all of them. Just free associate if you can and sprinkle it in however long the date lasts.

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NOTE: the yellow car story, how I crash the car

When I was 4 or 5. My mum went into a mechanic shop to do get something very quickly. I was sitting in my mums yellow Mercedes. the engine was still on. I was young and I didn't know what I was doing. I was playing around with the handbrake (make handbrake movement) all of a sudden it went backward and smacked into another car. My mum was shocked and because I was 4 or 5 I didn't understand what she was saying. I only knew when I got older when she told me it again.

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NOTE: the window story, how I broke it

next time

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NOTE: My brother's story.

next time

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NOTE: the sister bunny story

next time

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FR continued:

F: I use to climb a lot as well so

HB: wow

F: I remember the restaurant had a door and sometimes there is no key. I had to jump on the railings to open the door and yeah, thats the kind of thing I would get up to

HB: hahaha

F: how about you, when you were younger what kind of things did you do

HB: I rang the bell on another house and ran away

both giggle

F: that's good. I wish I did that when I was younger. in a minute we go to some house and ring the doorbell and we run away

HB: haha yeah

F: it be fun

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NOTE: you can talk about fireworks and IKey the builder taking you there.

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F: how old are you when that happened?

HB: nothing happened but the landlord open the door

F: open the door haha and then?

HB: he chase us and we had to run away

F: so you quite evil

HB; yeah when I was young

F: I think we never really grow out of it, when we get older, we are even more evil. We just smarter about it

+both giggle

HB: yes

F: apart from Uk, have you been anywhere else?

HB: HK, China, Japan

F: you really like the Asian countries like i do

HB: it's close and easy to get there

HB: Vietnam

F; what is Vietnam like, I would love to go there. I heard the people there are friendly and the place is very cheap

HB: yes yes very cheap

F: did anyone speak to you in Vietnamese or they speak to you in korea?

F: do you like pigeon?

HB: haha yes

F: how do you like it? barbecue?

HB: barbecue haha

F: yeah, I like barbecue

HB: haha

F: pigeon is popular in Chinese weddings. They will serve lobster and pigeon as well.

HB: is it symbol?

F: I'm not sure why they serve pigeon. I think because it's expensive. so in weddings, they do that kind of thing

HB: how about you, have you traveled to other countries

F; yeah I went to Prague and Madrid about half a year ago

F: Madrid is Spain but I'm planning to travel more. I like to travel. I like walking around and experiencing new things and eating different types of food

HB: good

F: Madrid is very fun. You should try fried circle squid in a bun ( its called Calamari)

minutes 48.37

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F: Madrid is very fun. You should try fried circle squid in a bun ( its called Calamari)

HB: my friends told me Spanish food was good

F: I didn't like the food in Prague, it was salty. I also don't like ti when they charge 1 euro to use the toilet

F: in Spain, the weather is very nice and the weather is very beautiful.

F: not as beautiful as you

HB: haha

F: but the place is beautiful

F: you mum and dad, what do they do?

HB: they are working

F: what do they do, Korean gangster or

HB: haha they work in an office

F: is it popular, are there a lot of gangsters in Korea

HB: not a lot

F: in HK there is a lot of triads. I don't know if it's similar like that?

NOTE: don't talk about gangsters in Korea or HK. It's not a good topic.

F: in Korea, are you allowed tattoos?

HB: I don't like tattoo

F: what happens if I get Hello Kitty, would you date me if I had a Hello Kitty on my bum?

HB: haha no

F: no? why?

F: Say I really love you and you love me. Say I get a hello kitty and you don't like it, will you break up with me

NOTE: This is good. Next time say "say, if we were dating each other"

HB; hahaha you have to change it. You have to

F: what kind of tattoo, would I have to change it to?

HB: er no Hello Kitty

F: do you like Wong Bin on my bum?

HB; haha yeah I like Wong Bin

F: really?

F: who is your favorite guy actor

HB: blah blah

F: there's another Korean actor I like, in Magnificent 7. He normally plays a bad guy

HB: blah blah

F: I love this movie, this man, his wife died because the killer killed his wife. and then he wants revenge. He did something really stupid, he didn't kill him. he was trying to torture him because he was so angry. He wanted to kill him slowly. he escapes and kills his wife's sister and his wife's dad. eventually, he kills him. Very heartbreaking the movie, there's like no happy ending.

HB: the killer who killed his wife is Old Boy

F: really wow

HB: same actor

F: I like old boy but I don't like him haha

HB: haha its the same guy

F: Wow, I didn't know that

F: is he a famous actor then?

HB: yes blah blah

F: what I like about the character, the bad guy. Is he not scared of dying or being tortured. There is something wrong with them> They want to kill people and it's interesting how he is able to act in this role

HB: yeah you like movie

F: yes, so do you because you know all the movie I watched

HB: haha

F: is it popular?

HB: yes popular

F: I like all types of movies, even Superhero movies. I don't know thriller, some kind of movie that makes you think really deep. Not 50 shades of Grey

HB: yeah haha have you seen that

F: I watched a little bit. I watched it in the cinema. About 20 minutes I fell asleep. Actually I walked away and told my friend this is rubbish.

NOTE: If a girl asks you about 50 shades of grey, tell them you watched it with an ex and fell asleep. You can always say you never watched it

F: I feel like it's not meaningful but I think woman like it because he is rich good looking man

HB: yeah

F: and he is powerful. The character is good but the movie is terrible. I think it was written for women. Women like to fantasize rich man with a good body. Like Wong bin taking off his clothes

HB: hahahaha

minutes 56.56

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