Hey guys,
Today I did some day game and was working on not being direct with my openers and not showing intent AKA being more subtle with my seduction and just letting things "happen".
I see this HB9 who is wearing a blue beanie hat and who looks like Natalie Portman low key. I go up to her when we're in an outdoor farmer's market and say:
She then walks over to a booth where they're serving wheatgrass shots or some shit and she buys one. I tease her a bunch about this and she starts telling me why they're great and qualifying herself to me.
Once she pays I say:
I set the frame that she's taking me along with her on her errands. Im careful to not walk behind her or suggest that she's leading in any way--Im the one leading, but she "asked me out".
We go into the first store where she's looking for some wire organizer or something. I legitimately try to look and help her, again being sure not to follow her around. The conversation gets a little sparse here and the focus is away from us getting to know each other and more on finding this stupid thing.
In retrospect I should've led us to a coffee shop or something where we could sit and talk. I could feel that I was losing the frame of her "taking me out somewhere" like on a date.
At one point in the store we split up and are actually pretty far from each other. I feel the momentum going down so I tell myself she can choose to avoid me now, but if she comes back to me and reinitiates, that's a good sign.
She comes back after a minute or two and stands next to me and kind of stomps her foot to get my attention. I look at her and say:
We're outside the first store and I ask where she's taking me now. She says she has another errand to run but I say:
I just start walking and she follows me. While in the coffee shop we are waiting in a pretty long line so this is a good time for some "get to know you conversation", which I think had been lacking until this point.
She's an actress and I deep dive her a bit about this. I also ask what she wants to know about me, and I give her some info. I can feel the connection building, but it seems like we have been "strangers" for too long and I was still the strange guy that went to her last errand with her.
While in line she also shittested me a bit, but I chose not to participate in these. There were no seats open in the coffee shop and she said "good, I guess we'll have to go".
We then start walking with our coffees to the next errand spot and we are conversing more about each other. However, the focus was not on getting to know each other for the first part of the date.
While walking she says that she's doing this errand and then going to her friend's house. I see this as a logistical barrier and choose to end the date, regrettably.
We part with a hug and Im not sure if she'll text me. I think I started the interaction too slow and we never really gained the proper momentum to make it feel like a date. I also may have rejected her too early when she said she had to see her friend later. I could've persisted and persuaded her to get a drink with me instead.
Any suggestions? I was also lacking with physical escalation because we were walking and looking for this stupid wire organizer for a while. Oh well.
Cheers,
BigS
Today I did some day game and was working on not being direct with my openers and not showing intent AKA being more subtle with my seduction and just letting things "happen".
I see this HB9 who is wearing a blue beanie hat and who looks like Natalie Portman low key. I go up to her when we're in an outdoor farmer's market and say:
Me: hey I like your hat. I'm BigS
Her: thanks (blushing), Im NP. I don't really like it haha
Me: yeah its a little interesting... (joking smile)
She then walks over to a booth where they're serving wheatgrass shots or some shit and she buys one. I tease her a bunch about this and she starts telling me why they're great and qualifying herself to me.
Once she pays I say:
Me: lets walk this way (gesturing towards the way she was walking)
Her: weren't you walking the other way?
Me: no im walking this way
Her: okay I actually have some errands to do
Me: lets go do your errands. where are you taking me?
I set the frame that she's taking me along with her on her errands. Im careful to not walk behind her or suggest that she's leading in any way--Im the one leading, but she "asked me out".
We go into the first store where she's looking for some wire organizer or something. I legitimately try to look and help her, again being sure not to follow her around. The conversation gets a little sparse here and the focus is away from us getting to know each other and more on finding this stupid thing.
In retrospect I should've led us to a coffee shop or something where we could sit and talk. I could feel that I was losing the frame of her "taking me out somewhere" like on a date.
At one point in the store we split up and are actually pretty far from each other. I feel the momentum going down so I tell myself she can choose to avoid me now, but if she comes back to me and reinitiates, that's a good sign.
She comes back after a minute or two and stands next to me and kind of stomps her foot to get my attention. I look at her and say:
Me: no luck?
Her: nope
Me: okay lets go
Her: she obliges
We're outside the first store and I ask where she's taking me now. She says she has another errand to run but I say:
Me: I have an idea--lets get a coffee around here. I know a great spot.
Her: idk, I have to run this next errand
Me: it'll take 5 minutes. lets go.
I just start walking and she follows me. While in the coffee shop we are waiting in a pretty long line so this is a good time for some "get to know you conversation", which I think had been lacking until this point.
She's an actress and I deep dive her a bit about this. I also ask what she wants to know about me, and I give her some info. I can feel the connection building, but it seems like we have been "strangers" for too long and I was still the strange guy that went to her last errand with her.
While in line she also shittested me a bit, but I chose not to participate in these. There were no seats open in the coffee shop and she said "good, I guess we'll have to go".
We then start walking with our coffees to the next errand spot and we are conversing more about each other. However, the focus was not on getting to know each other for the first part of the date.
While walking she says that she's doing this errand and then going to her friend's house. I see this as a logistical barrier and choose to end the date, regrettably.
Me: so you took me out this time, let me take you out next time
Her: hahaha
Me: put your number in my phone (handing her my phone)
Her: why don't you give me your number?
Me: okay
We part with a hug and Im not sure if she'll text me. I think I started the interaction too slow and we never really gained the proper momentum to make it feel like a date. I also may have rejected her too early when she said she had to see her friend later. I could've persisted and persuaded her to get a drink with me instead.
Any suggestions? I was also lacking with physical escalation because we were walking and looking for this stupid wire organizer for a while. Oh well.
Cheers,
BigS