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Hey guys,
Went out for coffee today with a girl I met on campus. She had seen me around and finally stopped me and asked who I was, so that's how we met. She lives in the dorms, so I figured I'd try to end up back at her dorm room, since my parents are at my place (plus it's close and she'd be more comfortable).
I picked her up at 6 outside of her dorm. She hugged me when we met and we chatted and talked till we got to my car. I then drove us to the nearby Starbucks. We got our drinks and I directed her where to sit. I then had to show me some of her things and watch my drink while I used the restroom, telling her "I trust you with my things". We had a good conversation that covered different topics: travels, adventures, dreams, etc. She's very spontaneous and adventurous.
Then after around 30-45 min, I said "What do you say we not have a boring old date where we just talk at this Starbucks and go and play some pool? Do you play?" to which she excitedly replied "Yes! I'm going to kick your butt!" We then hopped in my car and drove over to campus to play pool.
We played a few rounds and (yes) she did kick my butt haha. We had a fun time with light conversation, physical contact, and strong eye contact. A few times she said I was distracting her. So after a few games, she wanted another rematch (when I won), but I said no let's do it next time. We then headed out and had a short walk back to my car, talking about her interest in photography.
I drove around the campus a bit to give us more time to connect before arriving at her dorm. As we sat in my car, before getting out, I brought up how I had to take human anatomy next semester (following the conversation) and how I read an article about delaying orgasms. I then described how it worked, teasing a girl sexually and keeping her from orgasming until the end when she cums really hard. She was really interested and said "you really have this down to a science" and when I was done that "wow you must have a lot of success with this" to which I replied "maybe" while shrugging, causing her to laugh. I could tell it got her horny as her breathing got heavier as we walked back to her dorm. She also told me that "that anatomy class is going to be pretty interesting!"
We stood outside her building and I told her "I haven't gotten to see what these dorms are like, invite me up?" to which she said "hmm, not tonight" to which I asked if there was any reason why. She kind of paused and in a whispered voice said "it's the first date. next time". I then told her we would just chill, unwind, and talk. No pressure on her. She then said "next time" again after pondering it. I then said "alright, but we'll see how busy my schedule gets. No promises". She replied "OK" and we hugged, to which I then held her a bit. The sexual tension could be cut with a knife. Seeing she wanted me to kiss her while she was close to me in my arms and that she was super horny (I didn't want her to go into auto rejection from getting horny and then having nothing happen), I decided to kiss her. She happily did and then kissed me again. I then pulled away and said "OK" and she smiled. I had originally decided a while ago to not make it my goal to kiss on first dates, but to only when she's ready for sex. However, knowing I didn't push the right way to beat her resistance to me coming up to her room, and not wanting her to go into auto rejection from being really horny, I decided lowering her sexual tension a bit wouldn't hurt. She was still visibly horny after we kissed, but not nearly to the same extent, having relaxed just slightly. We then hugged again and went our separate ways.
Did I handle this OK or did I shoot myself in the foot? The whole date lasted around 2 hours. I've kissed girls in the past on the first date, just to not see them ever again. I don't think that will happen this time, but what are your guys' thoughts?
All feedback appreciated!
Went out for coffee today with a girl I met on campus. She had seen me around and finally stopped me and asked who I was, so that's how we met. She lives in the dorms, so I figured I'd try to end up back at her dorm room, since my parents are at my place (plus it's close and she'd be more comfortable).
I picked her up at 6 outside of her dorm. She hugged me when we met and we chatted and talked till we got to my car. I then drove us to the nearby Starbucks. We got our drinks and I directed her where to sit. I then had to show me some of her things and watch my drink while I used the restroom, telling her "I trust you with my things". We had a good conversation that covered different topics: travels, adventures, dreams, etc. She's very spontaneous and adventurous.
Then after around 30-45 min, I said "What do you say we not have a boring old date where we just talk at this Starbucks and go and play some pool? Do you play?" to which she excitedly replied "Yes! I'm going to kick your butt!" We then hopped in my car and drove over to campus to play pool.
We played a few rounds and (yes) she did kick my butt haha. We had a fun time with light conversation, physical contact, and strong eye contact. A few times she said I was distracting her. So after a few games, she wanted another rematch (when I won), but I said no let's do it next time. We then headed out and had a short walk back to my car, talking about her interest in photography.
I drove around the campus a bit to give us more time to connect before arriving at her dorm. As we sat in my car, before getting out, I brought up how I had to take human anatomy next semester (following the conversation) and how I read an article about delaying orgasms. I then described how it worked, teasing a girl sexually and keeping her from orgasming until the end when she cums really hard. She was really interested and said "you really have this down to a science" and when I was done that "wow you must have a lot of success with this" to which I replied "maybe" while shrugging, causing her to laugh. I could tell it got her horny as her breathing got heavier as we walked back to her dorm. She also told me that "that anatomy class is going to be pretty interesting!"
We stood outside her building and I told her "I haven't gotten to see what these dorms are like, invite me up?" to which she said "hmm, not tonight" to which I asked if there was any reason why. She kind of paused and in a whispered voice said "it's the first date. next time". I then told her we would just chill, unwind, and talk. No pressure on her. She then said "next time" again after pondering it. I then said "alright, but we'll see how busy my schedule gets. No promises". She replied "OK" and we hugged, to which I then held her a bit. The sexual tension could be cut with a knife. Seeing she wanted me to kiss her while she was close to me in my arms and that she was super horny (I didn't want her to go into auto rejection from getting horny and then having nothing happen), I decided to kiss her. She happily did and then kissed me again. I then pulled away and said "OK" and she smiled. I had originally decided a while ago to not make it my goal to kiss on first dates, but to only when she's ready for sex. However, knowing I didn't push the right way to beat her resistance to me coming up to her room, and not wanting her to go into auto rejection from being really horny, I decided lowering her sexual tension a bit wouldn't hurt. She was still visibly horny after we kissed, but not nearly to the same extent, having relaxed just slightly. We then hugged again and went our separate ways.
Did I handle this OK or did I shoot myself in the foot? The whole date lasted around 2 hours. I've kissed girls in the past on the first date, just to not see them ever again. I don't think that will happen this time, but what are your guys' thoughts?
All feedback appreciated!