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First FMF threesome experience. Cool experience with a lot of lessons learned.
Meeting FB after her event
I went to meet an FB (whom shall be referred to as “HT”) after a weekend event of hers - a workshop/conference in a hotel that she took part in all weekend long. The event ended and there was a social hour afterwards. Since I knew some other folks there, after connecting with her I went and socialized with the people I knew.
In addition, I met and did smalltalk with a couple of other women casually, including “HB,” as she will now be referred. She was by the door and I casually chatted with her as I waited for HT to do her social rounds.
We did some small talk after that and I made a very loose connection with HB, then she went off to go talk to some other people before everyone was going to leave the event. I was chill, then met HT who also wanted to socialize some more. I let her do her thing, she made her rounds while I stood and chilled, keeping mostly to myself.
Grabbing Drinks Across the Street
HT told me about a proposed plan for some of the folks to grab drinks across the street. She was down, and since I was hanging out with her I was obviously down. We went outside to wait for some of the other folks and see if they were down. In the end, it was just two other girls who wanted to come out, including HB.
HB and her other friend, another girl who was married, went to the bar first. I stayed back with HT and we joined them later.
The two girls were already sitting at the bar, HB to the far right. HT and I sat on the far left of both of them, myself on the outer side.
HT and I got a drink and started chatting. At some point in the conversation, one of the other girls turned to us and asked us what we were. HT and I looked at each other, and it went something like this:
Negative points for me for being such a “guy.” I forgot I have to frame this in the right way for women’s social acceptance. HT clarified this with the other girls and framed it nicely, and then turned to me - we had a solid twenty minute discussion about “what we are” and how to tell this to other people. In the end I just agreed that she can call it whatever she wants and I’ll agree with her. We came up with “intimacy partners.”
At some point in our conversion, HB leaned over into the bar while talking to other girl and checked me out while smiling. It lasted about five or ten seconds. I noticed this happening, and looked at her across the bar, and mirrored her pose and smiled. Once she went back to talking to the other girl, I then went back to talking to HT.
It then dawned on me that a threesome might be at play here.
Before we got to have drinks, HB had expressed that she was going to take a train back to her home in the city (we were far out in the suburbs), she wanted to have alone time, according to her. However, suddenly she asked HT and I if we were still driving back. HT said I was driving, and offered her a ride with us to the subway station by my house, where she could get home from. I asked HB if she still wanted alone time on the train home. Her response was something like:
Sweet, so I’m giving this girl a ride home and she seems attracted to me. Now I just need to clear this with HT…
Proposing to Go Home; Discussion with HT
HB and the other girl went back to the hotel to pick up their luggage. I told HB that we’d pick her up there.
HT and I finished our drink, then started to walk to the car. HT and I have talked about a threesome before, and I thought this could be an opportunity. Walking out the door with HT, I decided that I should try for this setup:
HT and I got in my car and drove a block to pick up HB.
The Ride, Proposed Diner Visit, Heading Home
We pick up HB, she puts her luggage in the car and we’re off!
I completely forgot that I was running out of gas in my car, and realized this when I got onto the freeway. I told them all this, and this began another adventure - the exit I took to get gas had zero open gas stations (at this point it was 10:30 at night in the suburbs of NYC). I gave the girls the assignment to find an open gas station - it took us about fifteen minutes and trying out five or six different gas stations before we found one open, almost right where we started. However, this experience was quite exhilarating - almost being out of gas and stranded, I think it elevated everyone’s excitement and emotion. I discovered that HB seems like a super adventurous girl - she wasn’t the least bit bothered, and was laughing/excited the whole time.
After grabbing gas we stopped at a diner briefly for HT to use the bathroom. I used this time to connect a bit more with HB. By the time HT got back in the car and we were on the road again, we all realized we wanted to keep hanging out more and grab some food. We agreed to stop at the next diner we ran across.
Fortunately, I got on the freeway and then there were no more diners en route.
We spent the rest of this ride talking about blatantly sexual stuff. HT just finished a class to become a certified Tantric Sex coach, and she started sharing her stories and journey with HB, who was very excited to hear all of this. I also openly shared quite a few things from my own sexual experiences, open relationships and stuff, and we spent the whole ride talking about sex. HB was listening very excitedly.
With no more diners on the way, I told the girls an idea and gave them a choice - that we can either go to a diner nearby and grab food, or that they can both come over to my place and we can try having food there instead. After some slight deliberation they were both open to either idea, so I proposed that we go to mine and order food, and they happily agreed.
Tasking the Girls at Home, the Flogger and Electrocuter
We parked outside my apartment. HB left her stuff in my car to pick up later.
I brought the girls inside my apartment. HT was standing and walking around, while HB got comfortable on the couch.
I pulled out my flogger from the cupboard by my bed (I have this out for easy access when I need it) told HT to bend over on the wall, and I started flogging her up against the wall while HB watched. She was smiling and laughing, while my HT told me I was doing it all wrong, then took it from me and started to flog me instead. HB laughed and watched intently.
After this went down, I told the girls I had another toy. I pulled out my electrocuter, and started to demonstrate it on HB. This gave me the opportunity to touch her back and arms, while HT watched. They were loving it. I then had to clarify one thing with HB:
I then gave the girls assignments: HB was going to order us food and prepare drinks for the three of us, HT was going to roll a joint, and I was going to set up a hookah on my balcony. This took about fifteen or twenty minutes. Everyone finished at the same time, and we celebrated by getting on my balcony to drink, smoke a J, smoke the hookah, and chat!
Sitting Outside on the Balcony
While sitting outside HT was right next to me, while HB was facing me. We started talking about non-sexual stuff. I kissed HT a couple of times and put my arm around her.
At some point HB said something, and I kissed her on the lips in front of HT. She complied, was totally down.
Threesome is definitely happening.
I then went back to giving HT the bulk of my physical attention.
The food arrived and I went to grab it. We ate it on the balcony while continuing to talk about other non-sexual stuff. I went back in at some point and poured the girls a second drink. The balcony lasted about 45 minutes or so, until everything was finished.
Talking Boundaries on the Bed
With weed, hookah, food and drinks done, I told the girls that we should go inside. They complied instantly. I then pushed HT onto the bed, and verbally told HB to come on as well.
I then asked the girls what their boundaries are.
HT, who likes me quite a bit and also is extremely prone to jealousy (I’ve known from past experience, I’ve been seeing her for three years now), was anxious that a new girl was treading on her turf. She gave a pretty exhaustive list of boundaries that I took mental note of. I then asked HB - she had no boundaries. HB was the more free spirited of the two, while HT aspires to be so but still harbors sexual anxiety. I then told both the girls that this was my first time in an FMF threesome, that I’ve already had a couple of MFM threesomes, and that I’m here only to please the girls and show them a good time. They nodded and agreed. Then, it was on!
Sex into the Night and Morning
We spent the next hour or so playing with each other. I gave HT 60% of my attention and HB 40% of my attention. I also commanded the girls to do whatever I wanted them to do. I told HT to kiss HB while I went down on HT. I told HB to go down on HT while I went down on her. I told HT to go down on me while I went down on HB. Basically, I was in complete control of these two girls doing things in front of me. I gave HT a few orgasms and gave HB a few too. It went on and on from there. The key thing here was to make sure that HT felt more appreciated and satisfied than HB.
My favorite was when I was hitting HT from the back to orgasm while she was going down on HB bringing her to orgasm. Watching HB’s face as this happened was amazing!
At some point we added my electrocuter into the mix. I started playing with the girls as they played with each other and shocked the shit out of them while we were naked and playing! Super fun!
Girls love this BDSM stuff.
We fell asleep together around 2:30am or so - the girls on either side of me cuddling up on my bed. This was fucking awesome! I felt like a King. I could kiss HT, then HB, then HT, then play with HT’s pussy while touching HB’s tits. It was great. However, both the girls had work the next morning. I had to prioritize sleep.
The next morning around 6:00am, I started to escalate on HT and went down on her while HB continued to sleep. However, I couldn’t get hard enough to fuck her. In that moment, what I really wanted to do was fuck HB, who was pretending to sleep while listening/watching us.
This was difficult for me - I wanted to fuck HB but I couldn’t do so without first fucking HT, whom I couldn’t get erect for.
I then messed up something big in this whole process. HT went to go use the bathroom for about ten minutes. She left me alone with HB, and suddenly I was extremely turned on and hard - I decided to go for it and I entered HB and started fucking her. She was loving it and started to contort her body and pussy in a way that would get her off. I started to fuck her harder.
I knew in this moment that if HT came out of the bathroom, she’d get extremely jealous and possessive. However, at this point I was listening to my cock and not my own logic - I kept going. Lo and behold, HT came out of the bathroom and found me balls deep inside HB, and started to watch.
Shit. Jealousy enters the picture.
I immediately got out of HB, smiled at HT and pulled HT onto the bed. I now had to give HT my full undivided attention, and she wanted to get fucked well, but I was personally now stressed knowing she was jealous and that I would have to manage it. I couldn’t get hard for her again that morning. I played with her and went down on her best I could, to orgasm again while HB watched.
Eventually we all chilled out and cuddled up again. However, the time was approaching 7:30am - HB had to head to work.
Parting Ways with New Girl, Parting Ways with the FB
HB went to the bathroom. I took this opportunity to tell HT that I wanted to see HB again, either together or alone. HT wasn’t in alignment, but I had a different agenda in my mind. HB got on her clothes and kissed both of us goodbye. She left her bag in the car, so I walked down with her
HT and I spent the next hour or so connecting over the experience. She felt a lot of anxiety that I showed more attraction for HB than for her, and tried hard to escalate on me to fuck her. I still couldn’t get into the right headspace.
I walked out HT around 9:30, she also had to head to work. I went home and slept a few more hours, exhausted from this experience.
Mismanagement and Some Fallout
The Queen Card violation was a huge error on my part. I reached out to HB again by text to meet her alone, who wanted to hang out but our schedules didn’t align. I then met up with HT a few days later, who expressed her jealousy about my attraction to HB. She said she was going to hang out with HB for drinks again, and I (mistakenly) told HT that I wanted to see HB. This didn’t sit well with her - Queen violation #2. I had to manage this over the next couple of days - not an easy experience, but overall HT’s attraction to me went up, and she seemed open to another threesome with HB although it's unlikely, while also stipulating that she needs more attention from me. The door to seeing HB independently is likely now closed unless I got explicit permission from HT.
Lessons:
- 60/40 attention split between HT and HB was the right play.
- I handled the process perfectly up until the very end. Clearing my intentions with HT, creating the right atmosphere for the girls, being fun, sexualizing the entire encounter, commanding them while giving space for everyone, and talking boundaries. During sex, I commanded and dominated them, while making the experience almost exclusively about their pleasure.
- I violated the Queen card at the very end, by making it seem like I liked HB more than HT. This was a good and bad move, mostly bad - I violated HT’s trust, but I also raised my attraction/value in her eyes.
Hope you guys enjoyed this one!
Meeting FB after her event
I went to meet an FB (whom shall be referred to as “HT”) after a weekend event of hers - a workshop/conference in a hotel that she took part in all weekend long. The event ended and there was a social hour afterwards. Since I knew some other folks there, after connecting with her I went and socialized with the people I knew.
In addition, I met and did smalltalk with a couple of other women casually, including “HB,” as she will now be referred. She was by the door and I casually chatted with her as I waited for HT to do her social rounds.
We did some small talk after that and I made a very loose connection with HB, then she went off to go talk to some other people before everyone was going to leave the event. I was chill, then met HT who also wanted to socialize some more. I let her do her thing, she made her rounds while I stood and chilled, keeping mostly to myself.
Grabbing Drinks Across the Street
HT told me about a proposed plan for some of the folks to grab drinks across the street. She was down, and since I was hanging out with her I was obviously down. We went outside to wait for some of the other folks and see if they were down. In the end, it was just two other girls who wanted to come out, including HB.
HB and her other friend, another girl who was married, went to the bar first. I stayed back with HT and we joined them later.
The two girls were already sitting at the bar, HB to the far right. HT and I sat on the far left of both of them, myself on the outer side.
HT and I got a drink and started chatting. At some point in the conversation, one of the other girls turned to us and asked us what we were. HT and I looked at each other, and it went something like this:
Negative points for me for being such a “guy.” I forgot I have to frame this in the right way for women’s social acceptance. HT clarified this with the other girls and framed it nicely, and then turned to me - we had a solid twenty minute discussion about “what we are” and how to tell this to other people. In the end I just agreed that she can call it whatever she wants and I’ll agree with her. We came up with “intimacy partners.”
At some point in our conversion, HB leaned over into the bar while talking to other girl and checked me out while smiling. It lasted about five or ten seconds. I noticed this happening, and looked at her across the bar, and mirrored her pose and smiled. Once she went back to talking to the other girl, I then went back to talking to HT.
It then dawned on me that a threesome might be at play here.
Before we got to have drinks, HB had expressed that she was going to take a train back to her home in the city (we were far out in the suburbs), she wanted to have alone time, according to her. However, suddenly she asked HT and I if we were still driving back. HT said I was driving, and offered her a ride with us to the subway station by my house, where she could get home from. I asked HB if she still wanted alone time on the train home. Her response was something like:
Sweet, so I’m giving this girl a ride home and she seems attracted to me. Now I just need to clear this with HT…
Proposing to Go Home; Discussion with HT
HB and the other girl went back to the hotel to pick up their luggage. I told HB that we’d pick her up there.
HT and I finished our drink, then started to walk to the car. HT and I have talked about a threesome before, and I thought this could be an opportunity. Walking out the door with HT, I decided that I should try for this setup:
HT and I got in my car and drove a block to pick up HB.
The Ride, Proposed Diner Visit, Heading Home
We pick up HB, she puts her luggage in the car and we’re off!
I completely forgot that I was running out of gas in my car, and realized this when I got onto the freeway. I told them all this, and this began another adventure - the exit I took to get gas had zero open gas stations (at this point it was 10:30 at night in the suburbs of NYC). I gave the girls the assignment to find an open gas station - it took us about fifteen minutes and trying out five or six different gas stations before we found one open, almost right where we started. However, this experience was quite exhilarating - almost being out of gas and stranded, I think it elevated everyone’s excitement and emotion. I discovered that HB seems like a super adventurous girl - she wasn’t the least bit bothered, and was laughing/excited the whole time.
After grabbing gas we stopped at a diner briefly for HT to use the bathroom. I used this time to connect a bit more with HB. By the time HT got back in the car and we were on the road again, we all realized we wanted to keep hanging out more and grab some food. We agreed to stop at the next diner we ran across.
Fortunately, I got on the freeway and then there were no more diners en route.
We spent the rest of this ride talking about blatantly sexual stuff. HT just finished a class to become a certified Tantric Sex coach, and she started sharing her stories and journey with HB, who was very excited to hear all of this. I also openly shared quite a few things from my own sexual experiences, open relationships and stuff, and we spent the whole ride talking about sex. HB was listening very excitedly.
With no more diners on the way, I told the girls an idea and gave them a choice - that we can either go to a diner nearby and grab food, or that they can both come over to my place and we can try having food there instead. After some slight deliberation they were both open to either idea, so I proposed that we go to mine and order food, and they happily agreed.
Tasking the Girls at Home, the Flogger and Electrocuter
We parked outside my apartment. HB left her stuff in my car to pick up later.
I brought the girls inside my apartment. HT was standing and walking around, while HB got comfortable on the couch.
I pulled out my flogger from the cupboard by my bed (I have this out for easy access when I need it) told HT to bend over on the wall, and I started flogging her up against the wall while HB watched. She was smiling and laughing, while my HT told me I was doing it all wrong, then took it from me and started to flog me instead. HB laughed and watched intently.
After this went down, I told the girls I had another toy. I pulled out my electrocuter, and started to demonstrate it on HB. This gave me the opportunity to touch her back and arms, while HT watched. They were loving it. I then had to clarify one thing with HB:
I then gave the girls assignments: HB was going to order us food and prepare drinks for the three of us, HT was going to roll a joint, and I was going to set up a hookah on my balcony. This took about fifteen or twenty minutes. Everyone finished at the same time, and we celebrated by getting on my balcony to drink, smoke a J, smoke the hookah, and chat!
Sitting Outside on the Balcony
While sitting outside HT was right next to me, while HB was facing me. We started talking about non-sexual stuff. I kissed HT a couple of times and put my arm around her.
At some point HB said something, and I kissed her on the lips in front of HT. She complied, was totally down.
Threesome is definitely happening.
I then went back to giving HT the bulk of my physical attention.
The food arrived and I went to grab it. We ate it on the balcony while continuing to talk about other non-sexual stuff. I went back in at some point and poured the girls a second drink. The balcony lasted about 45 minutes or so, until everything was finished.
Talking Boundaries on the Bed
With weed, hookah, food and drinks done, I told the girls that we should go inside. They complied instantly. I then pushed HT onto the bed, and verbally told HB to come on as well.
I then asked the girls what their boundaries are.
HT, who likes me quite a bit and also is extremely prone to jealousy (I’ve known from past experience, I’ve been seeing her for three years now), was anxious that a new girl was treading on her turf. She gave a pretty exhaustive list of boundaries that I took mental note of. I then asked HB - she had no boundaries. HB was the more free spirited of the two, while HT aspires to be so but still harbors sexual anxiety. I then told both the girls that this was my first time in an FMF threesome, that I’ve already had a couple of MFM threesomes, and that I’m here only to please the girls and show them a good time. They nodded and agreed. Then, it was on!
Sex into the Night and Morning
We spent the next hour or so playing with each other. I gave HT 60% of my attention and HB 40% of my attention. I also commanded the girls to do whatever I wanted them to do. I told HT to kiss HB while I went down on HT. I told HB to go down on HT while I went down on her. I told HT to go down on me while I went down on HB. Basically, I was in complete control of these two girls doing things in front of me. I gave HT a few orgasms and gave HB a few too. It went on and on from there. The key thing here was to make sure that HT felt more appreciated and satisfied than HB.
My favorite was when I was hitting HT from the back to orgasm while she was going down on HB bringing her to orgasm. Watching HB’s face as this happened was amazing!
At some point we added my electrocuter into the mix. I started playing with the girls as they played with each other and shocked the shit out of them while we were naked and playing! Super fun!
Girls love this BDSM stuff.
We fell asleep together around 2:30am or so - the girls on either side of me cuddling up on my bed. This was fucking awesome! I felt like a King. I could kiss HT, then HB, then HT, then play with HT’s pussy while touching HB’s tits. It was great. However, both the girls had work the next morning. I had to prioritize sleep.
The next morning around 6:00am, I started to escalate on HT and went down on her while HB continued to sleep. However, I couldn’t get hard enough to fuck her. In that moment, what I really wanted to do was fuck HB, who was pretending to sleep while listening/watching us.
This was difficult for me - I wanted to fuck HB but I couldn’t do so without first fucking HT, whom I couldn’t get erect for.
I then messed up something big in this whole process. HT went to go use the bathroom for about ten minutes. She left me alone with HB, and suddenly I was extremely turned on and hard - I decided to go for it and I entered HB and started fucking her. She was loving it and started to contort her body and pussy in a way that would get her off. I started to fuck her harder.
I knew in this moment that if HT came out of the bathroom, she’d get extremely jealous and possessive. However, at this point I was listening to my cock and not my own logic - I kept going. Lo and behold, HT came out of the bathroom and found me balls deep inside HB, and started to watch.
Shit. Jealousy enters the picture.
I immediately got out of HB, smiled at HT and pulled HT onto the bed. I now had to give HT my full undivided attention, and she wanted to get fucked well, but I was personally now stressed knowing she was jealous and that I would have to manage it. I couldn’t get hard for her again that morning. I played with her and went down on her best I could, to orgasm again while HB watched.
Eventually we all chilled out and cuddled up again. However, the time was approaching 7:30am - HB had to head to work.
Parting Ways with New Girl, Parting Ways with the FB
HB went to the bathroom. I took this opportunity to tell HT that I wanted to see HB again, either together or alone. HT wasn’t in alignment, but I had a different agenda in my mind. HB got on her clothes and kissed both of us goodbye. She left her bag in the car, so I walked down with her
HT and I spent the next hour or so connecting over the experience. She felt a lot of anxiety that I showed more attraction for HB than for her, and tried hard to escalate on me to fuck her. I still couldn’t get into the right headspace.
I walked out HT around 9:30, she also had to head to work. I went home and slept a few more hours, exhausted from this experience.
Mismanagement and Some Fallout
The Queen Card violation was a huge error on my part. I reached out to HB again by text to meet her alone, who wanted to hang out but our schedules didn’t align. I then met up with HT a few days later, who expressed her jealousy about my attraction to HB. She said she was going to hang out with HB for drinks again, and I (mistakenly) told HT that I wanted to see HB. This didn’t sit well with her - Queen violation #2. I had to manage this over the next couple of days - not an easy experience, but overall HT’s attraction to me went up, and she seemed open to another threesome with HB although it's unlikely, while also stipulating that she needs more attention from me. The door to seeing HB independently is likely now closed unless I got explicit permission from HT.
Lessons:
- 60/40 attention split between HT and HB was the right play.
- I handled the process perfectly up until the very end. Clearing my intentions with HT, creating the right atmosphere for the girls, being fun, sexualizing the entire encounter, commanding them while giving space for everyone, and talking boundaries. During sex, I commanded and dominated them, while making the experience almost exclusively about their pleasure.
- I violated the Queen card at the very end, by making it seem like I liked HB more than HT. This was a good and bad move, mostly bad - I violated HT’s trust, but I also raised my attraction/value in her eyes.
Hope you guys enjoyed this one!
