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Hello boys,
I have a problem that's really boggling me.
One of the things that I am proud of is being a man in as one could say the "macro" scale. I got my walk, my mannerisms, my purpose in life, my calmness, fashion, various skills etc. down. Everything that can be taught really.
But, coming from a house with a father who does the exact opposite of what a man should do behavior-wise, I find it really hard to carry myself effectively as a man in social situations, the "micro" scale , the everyday life. The things that are only taught through imitation during a young age.
The way you respond to everyday things, the way you make everyday simple decisions(like where to suggest a place to eat with your group, or playing a game of pool or darts or what have you), the way you are fun to be around without having a stick up your ass nor be a joker and a fool ....
Any advice on that? Sometimes reading girlschase, and other material, I get the feeling that some things should be known by men, yet I was never shown or taught what these things are or how they should look like.
Lack of male role models in my life and a nose deep in books made it even worse.
Like, I'll be strong and a man in hard situations where skill is required (and i have proven that many times), but in simple everyday life I dont look like quite the man.
I am not struggling with women as much, in fact I'd say I am above average, because that's a skill I developed, and still developing. But the things a father teaches you, I never got.
My concern is how to be a man around men, not women
Hoping my point is getting across effectively, since even I struggle to put it into words.
I have a problem that's really boggling me.
One of the things that I am proud of is being a man in as one could say the "macro" scale. I got my walk, my mannerisms, my purpose in life, my calmness, fashion, various skills etc. down. Everything that can be taught really.
But, coming from a house with a father who does the exact opposite of what a man should do behavior-wise, I find it really hard to carry myself effectively as a man in social situations, the "micro" scale , the everyday life. The things that are only taught through imitation during a young age.
The way you respond to everyday things, the way you make everyday simple decisions(like where to suggest a place to eat with your group, or playing a game of pool or darts or what have you), the way you are fun to be around without having a stick up your ass nor be a joker and a fool ....
Any advice on that? Sometimes reading girlschase, and other material, I get the feeling that some things should be known by men, yet I was never shown or taught what these things are or how they should look like.
Lack of male role models in my life and a nose deep in books made it even worse.
Like, I'll be strong and a man in hard situations where skill is required (and i have proven that many times), but in simple everyday life I dont look like quite the man.
I am not struggling with women as much, in fact I'd say I am above average, because that's a skill I developed, and still developing. But the things a father teaches you, I never got.
My concern is how to be a man around men, not women
Hoping my point is getting across effectively, since even I struggle to put it into words.