Met a very attractive young girl online.
After a month or more of occasional banter, got it to go to text, she contacted me cold on a Saturday night at 9pm to meet up.
(I'm thinking—it's on!)
Met up, had a drink or two with other friends, but couldn't escalate/couldn't make a connection.
HERE'S WHAT I DID....
—light, fun, humorous conversation
—teasing, light negging,
—light kino...touching on the hand, arm
—asked her how spontaneous/adventuous/curious she is (she claims to be an "11" on a scale of 1-10!)
—1 routine (psychic game)
—deep diving about her family, career, past boyfriends, current situation (she was very willing to share)
—lead the evening...ordered drinks for her before she arrived, decided where we are going, etc
HER REACTION...
friendly and fun, but very stand-offish
did not feel like she was adventurous/open AT ALL.
called me (and my wing) on our bullshit CONSTANTLY
Got NO sense of sexual connection; didn't even try to kiss her goodnight.
BUT—I definitely think I have something to give this woman at her life
And my intuition is that she WANTS to loosen up, WANTS to have a man lead her, add value to her life, etc. but feels like she has to hold back
BACKGROUND:
She is a mature 22, I am 42
She is new in town (2 months) I am new back in town (6 months)
Just quit the job she came to town for...somewhat at loose ends
Her biological Father disappeared when she was 18
My feeling is that she has a high BS meter, and feels the need to be a strong, sensible woman because she missed out on some proper parenting.
She likes the fact that I am older and have some security and wisdom to offer, but needs to feel it's ok to let her guard down.
Any suggestions, gents?
After a month or more of occasional banter, got it to go to text, she contacted me cold on a Saturday night at 9pm to meet up.
(I'm thinking—it's on!)
Met up, had a drink or two with other friends, but couldn't escalate/couldn't make a connection.
HERE'S WHAT I DID....
—light, fun, humorous conversation
—teasing, light negging,
—light kino...touching on the hand, arm
—asked her how spontaneous/adventuous/curious she is (she claims to be an "11" on a scale of 1-10!)
—1 routine (psychic game)
—deep diving about her family, career, past boyfriends, current situation (she was very willing to share)
—lead the evening...ordered drinks for her before she arrived, decided where we are going, etc
HER REACTION...
friendly and fun, but very stand-offish
did not feel like she was adventurous/open AT ALL.
called me (and my wing) on our bullshit CONSTANTLY
Got NO sense of sexual connection; didn't even try to kiss her goodnight.
BUT—I definitely think I have something to give this woman at her life
And my intuition is that she WANTS to loosen up, WANTS to have a man lead her, add value to her life, etc. but feels like she has to hold back
BACKGROUND:
She is a mature 22, I am 42
She is new in town (2 months) I am new back in town (6 months)
Just quit the job she came to town for...somewhat at loose ends
Her biological Father disappeared when she was 18
My feeling is that she has a high BS meter, and feels the need to be a strong, sensible woman because she missed out on some proper parenting.
She likes the fact that I am older and have some security and wisdom to offer, but needs to feel it's ok to let her guard down.
Any suggestions, gents?