"Your Boyfriend" Screening Trick



"Your Boyfriend" Screening Trick

Postby Hue » Fri Jun 07, 2019 2:19 pm

Let's say you're in a set with a girl.

You decided not to use the very direct opener of, "are you single?".

This is passed that - you've been a few minutes into conversation and she seems interested, but you can't tell if she has a partner, or if that partner is in the proximity.

You have no reason to think one way or the other, but before you continue to invest, you think you ought to screen for her availability.


"So, you just sitting here waiting on your boyfriend or..?"


This assumes she's taken. If the vibe is good between you two then she won't want you thinking this.

Nearly every time I've used this I get back, "I don't have a boyfriend".

Which clears you to pinch into conversation, "oh, well good for us... we're both single (= ".


Now she knows you're interested, you know she's single, and depending on how she responded, you'll know how interested she is.


If it was a neutral, "I don't have one", you've probably got some more work to do in attracting her to you.

If she has a big smile and excitedly answers the question, you know she's probably liking what she's seeing.

A nervous smile and a more hushed delivery is also a good sign, but you may have some attainability factors to work on with her.

Or, a sexy, "don't have one", with an amused look on her face indicates experience. It's an "I see what you did there" kinda vibe.


She also might not be interested, and shut down at the question. "I don't have one" with a serious tone is either a rejection or a really good shit test. Either way I would simply continue talking to her, perhaps in a more platonic direction.

Other times she'll have one, but will be flattered to some degree and continue to enjoy the convo with you. I've had boyfriends show up seconds after I ask this.

If she has that big smile and excitedly answers that yes, she does, chances are you could probably cuck him if that suites your interests (though that could also just be her loving the attention and potential for two guys fighting over her).


This works best for social circle and/or any time you're trying to be slightly more subtle or under the radar in your screening, to match my experience.

I've also used it on girls who I know have had boyfriends and it's ambiguous now to whether they're together or not, for example.

For a known boyfriend / ex-boyfriend, it's totally reasonable to just ask "hey so how is [ex]?".

Or if she's just been talking with another guy that night, simply "assume" they are together. "So how long you and Jeff been dating?", is one of the most subtle ways to do it, since she might just think you're joking. I love using this with a lower value guy in the social circle, because they almost always giggle with an "oh my gosh Jeff and I are NOT dating".


You can use any variation of it, like "so, where is your boyfriend", or a more arousal spiking one, "is your boyfriend going to get pissed I'm talking with you?".



Imagine if a hot girl asked you where your girlfriend was after just meeting you.

Most times, the opposite party usually knows exactly what the other is doing. It's a compliment, end of the day.

Same shit, different genitalia.


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Re: "Your Boyfriend" Screening Trick

Postby DarkKnight » Tue Jun 11, 2019 7:50 am

You know what, I think I will try this out. Maybe vary on it a little, because tons of times I have girls flirting with me while they have boyfriends and I learn it later on. But Hue, is this not asking for resistance? Isn't it better to not mention any boyfriend because you place your self in the boyfriend zone this way?
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Re: "Your Boyfriend" Screening Trick

Postby Hue » Tue Jun 11, 2019 12:13 pm

That's a great point man!

Like most tactics, techniques, and "methods", it all depends on context.

Alotta times, it's completely irrelevant if the girl has a boyfriend and you're right, this might do nothing but trigger ASD if she does have one.


That said, this is most valuable as a gauging tool.


You're doing this to slide in your interest in a clear but subtle way, while simultaneously gauging her reaction, and screening for what you're about to encounter in the set.

You'll know more on how much she likes her potential boyfriend / if she's down to cheat when you ask this.

Not that you need to do this, it's just an option among many in gauging interest (along with touch, innuendo, body language, etc.). This fits my style pretty well, and I've used it enough times to know it works for me. (=


It's versatile, so it depends on how subtle you're trying to communicate.

Amongst social circle, where being under the radar is very important, it leans more towards screening (it's a pretty bad look to overtly go for girls with known boyfriends).

In cold approach it definitely leans more towards slyly showing interest (more of a "your boyfriend won't be a problem, right?" without saying that).

In both cases, so long as you're still communicating loverish qualities and focusing on the purpose of the technique, the boyfriend box is still avoidable. Just because you are discovering if she has one doesn't mean you're putting your ballot in the hat for becoming one.
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Re: "Your Boyfriend" Screening Trick

Postby DarkKnight » Wed Jun 12, 2019 8:57 am

Okay I will try to use this, because more than once when I was on the street and I see a girl waiting, apparently they are waiting for boyfriends or prospective boyfriends. This makes me screen faster at the very least. Also their reactions is a good gauging system. Let's do it :)
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