while approaching women is important, I really think, a lot of guys make approaches that have zero chance of ever working. Getting over AA is one thing, but getting blown out publicly is not going to help that one bit. I think it is best to recognize when women already are attracted. Those are much higher percentage approaches, especially if you are not the one opening, but she is.
I think if we are going to be well rounded in our lives, we are going to put ourselves in situations where we exhibit our attractive traits, and invite women to approach us.
The degree of control women have to start a conversation and offer an approach invitation through social circle has risen exponentially over the last 20 years.
Through social media, calling, texting, and even in person. Women have the ability to engage us as men without appearing aggressive. It usually is disguised as an approach invitation.
Compliments: "Nice hat" I've gotten variations of that a number of times over the years. Always with laser eye contact. Pouring beers at a festival, In an airport gate (got her number and she tried to meet up with me at our destination but it didn't work), Even had a MUUUUCH younger girl say "I like your hat" while walking down a fair concourse. It has become my personal trademark.
But also women have come right out and opened me,
Commenting on photos on Social media. Self explanatory. Not likes. Positive Comments. They require thought and effort. I noticed when I was "Confirmed Single" the female comments on my page jumped, as did friend requests from women. As a note as I brought one woman into my life who became more visible, at first the single women commented more on pictures of us as a couple, but after awhile they faded away as they gave up.
The "Boob Brush" while walking by: Yeah she meant to do that. She is trying to get your attention. Are you in a conversation where she feels insecure approaching you? Don't drop what you are doing to engage her but when your convo has a lull, make eye contact and say hello. Have some small talk ready to go.
Eye contact and rapt attention. Don't get so wrapped up in what you are doing as you "spit game" (gawd I hate that term) that you miss this signal. I was trying to wing my slightly awkward buddy with a hot redheaded chick who was into me. My buddy hosted an impromptu mid week after work party and I got her to go, hoping he could convert. She spent the party bending over showing off her thong and then asked me to walk her out. Fuck she was a homewrecker....I was clueless. She ended up auto rejecting when I didn't follow up.
I think if we are going to be well rounded in our lives, we are going to put ourselves in situations where we exhibit our attractive traits, and invite women to approach us.
The degree of control women have to start a conversation and offer an approach invitation through social circle has risen exponentially over the last 20 years.
Through social media, calling, texting, and even in person. Women have the ability to engage us as men without appearing aggressive. It usually is disguised as an approach invitation.
Compliments: "Nice hat" I've gotten variations of that a number of times over the years. Always with laser eye contact. Pouring beers at a festival, In an airport gate (got her number and she tried to meet up with me at our destination but it didn't work), Even had a MUUUUCH younger girl say "I like your hat" while walking down a fair concourse. It has become my personal trademark.
But also women have come right out and opened me,
Commenting on photos on Social media. Self explanatory. Not likes. Positive Comments. They require thought and effort. I noticed when I was "Confirmed Single" the female comments on my page jumped, as did friend requests from women. As a note as I brought one woman into my life who became more visible, at first the single women commented more on pictures of us as a couple, but after awhile they faded away as they gave up.
The "Boob Brush" while walking by: Yeah she meant to do that. She is trying to get your attention. Are you in a conversation where she feels insecure approaching you? Don't drop what you are doing to engage her but when your convo has a lull, make eye contact and say hello. Have some small talk ready to go.
Eye contact and rapt attention. Don't get so wrapped up in what you are doing as you "spit game" (gawd I hate that term) that you miss this signal. I was trying to wing my slightly awkward buddy with a hot redheaded chick who was into me. My buddy hosted an impromptu mid week after work party and I got her to go, hoping he could convert. She spent the party bending over showing off her thong and then asked me to walk her out. Fuck she was a homewrecker....I was clueless. She ended up auto rejecting when I didn't follow up.